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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 4:08pm On Mar 01, 2022

Barrister026:
The little money I earn can't satisfy her or her needs, she keeps on comparing me with other men.

We have 2 kids together, have thought about divorcing her several times, but the mental effects this has gotten on me is painful.

The insults you think you have crafted for me won't have any effects, because am seen worst from neighbors who knew about this my situation. Advice on what to do will be much appreciated

So if you do not want to divorce or separate from your abuser, what do you intend on doing at this point in the history of your abuse? undecided

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 4:27pm On Mar 01, 2022

Spherical77:
Please endure your marriage for the sake of your children. Pray fervently for a change of heart. May God restore your marriage

Endure wetin? What does the child gain from being raised in an abusive relationship? undecided

Pray fervently for God to do what? The OP mentioned God as his reason for anything, so why drag God into this? undecided

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by curiousmind11: 4:28pm On Mar 01, 2022

Barrister026:
I know This will come of but am tired and frustrated, am not a weakling but my greatest mistake was to marry someone who is huge and bigger in size and strength than me. am a lanky dude edging towards my 40s, any small quarrels we had at home she use her strength to overpower me.. flogging me with my belt I used on my trousers and pressing me to the ground...I have tried several times to make her cry when the altercation leads to fight..but I can't she always overpowers me..all the people in the community nw is aware of it.
I might hit her once, she hit me twice.
Just a little words, she start cursing me out loud.

She even boast out loud to neighbors that she will wound me nothing I will do. I feel suicidal because of this, my families are ashamed of me, mediating in our affairs. The way she disrespect me in front of everyone is alarming.
I Know this will lead to several abuses here online, no worries but I really need help on how to curtain this situation.

The little money I earn can't satisfy her or her needs, she keeps on comparing me with other men.

We have 2 kids together, have thought about divorcing her several times, but the mental effects this has gotten on me is painful.

The insults you think you have crafted for me won't have any effects, because am seen worst from neighbors who knew about this my situation. Advice on what to do will be much appreciated

Guy, you are in a loveless marriage. No respect, no love, no loyalty. She is there only for what she can get, and answer MRS.
Accept your fate, start couching yourself to accept divorce as an option. Find materials on "Radical Acceptance " and read/watch.
In the meantime, play safe. Don't have any verbal or physical confrontation with her. Just focus on your divorce strategy.
It is not going to get better. Even with a marriage counselor. They never change.
I am going through a loveless, disrespectful disloyal union too. But mine is without physical violence. It will only get worse! Work on your mental health and make move for divorce before she kills you and start flaunting herself as a widow to seek sympathy.

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Spherical77(m): 5:01pm On Mar 01, 2022

Kobojunkie:
Endure wetin? What does the child gain from being raised in an abusive relationship?
Pray fervently for God to do what? The OP mentioned God as his reason for anything, so why drag God into this?

if it was a woman, it's the same advice all these nairaland boys will give. They'd be asking what did you do to him to warrant hitting you? If you don't offend him he wouldn't hit you, maybe you nag too much bla bla bla. They give baseless excuse to justify the monster (the Man)

I was even considerate on my own view

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by oilmane(m): 5:01pm On Mar 01, 2022

Barrister026:
I know This will come of but am tired and frustrated, am not a weakling but my greatest mistake was to marry someone who is huge and bigger in size and strength than me. am a lanky dude edging towards my 40s, any small quarrels we had at home she use her strength to overpower me.. flogging me with my belt I used on my trousers and pressing me to the ground...I have tried several times to make her cry when the altercation leads to fight..but I can't she always overpowers me..all the people in the community nw is aware of it.
I might hit her once, she hit me twice.
Just a little words, she start cursing me out loud.

She even boast out loud to neighbors that she will wound me nothing I will do. I feel suicidal because of this, my families are ashamed of me, mediating in our affairs. The way she disrespect me in front of everyone is alarming.
I Know this will lead to several abuses here online, no worries but I really need help on how to curtain this situation.

The little money I earn can't satisfy her or her needs, she keeps on comparing me with other men.

We have 2 kids together, have thought about divorcing her several times, but the mental effects this has gotten on me is painful.

The insults you think you have crafted for me won't have any effects, because am seen worst from neighbors who knew about this my situation. Advice on what to do will be much appreciated

Go rent 5 ashawo for hotel, buy many water cane for them, make them pretend to be your siblings come browse her for house, make them flog the hell outta her, she go package, na to day remind her of your sisters anytime she won misbehave.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 5:05pm On Mar 01, 2022

Spherical77:
if it was a woman, it's the same advice all these nairaland boys will give. They'd be asking what did you do to him to warrant hitting you? If you don't offend him he wouldn't hit you, maybe you nag too much bla bla bla. They give baseless excuse to justify the monster (the Man)

I was even considerate on my own view

Please, let's not debate ourselves to the level of those twats abeg! These are possibly real lives at stake here - assuming this is not a fake story. undecided

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Mariangeles(f): 5:08pm On Mar 01, 2022

oilmane:

Go rent 5 ashawo for hotel, buy many water cane for them, make them pretend to be your siblings come browse her for house, make them flog the hell outta her, she go package, na to day remind her of your sisters anytime she won misbehave.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Karleb(m): 5:36pm On Mar 01, 2022

Woman wey you go target, give correct uppercut.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Missionaire: 5:52pm On Mar 01, 2022

Reminds of a couple in my community. The wife would always beat up the husband whenever they had an alteceration and when neighbours start coming around, she would go down on the floor and start rolling on the ground crying that the man wants to kill her.
Neighbors would insult the man and the man won't be able to tell the truth out of shame.

Them don carry the man go community town hall plenty times. One day sha, the man give the woman better uppercut. Three teeth fly commot. That was the end.

Baba, Just start the process of divorcing or being divorced. If you die because of children, these children will live on and still celebrate mothers day every month of March.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by tayo60(f): 6:00pm On Mar 01, 2022

If you don't want to die untimely, divorce that devil you called wife. U can also move out of the house to somewhere else to finalise your divorce. Send upkeep to her to for your children. This thing is so common among the Igbo women.

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by baby124: 6:59pm On Mar 01, 2022

You mean this fat, strong and violent Yokozuna is not even working to gather the strength she is using to fight

. My brother you better leave that crazy woman alone. You are also wrong for beating her. Once things become violent, you have lost your power as the man especially if it’s you that started the beating or you participate. Please and please, leave this woman.

I know you may think it’s impossible right now, but you will look back and be glad you did. Try to go to your parents home and leave the house for her and your kids if you are renting. I wish you all the best and before getting into another relationship, try to get some counseling.

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by curiousmind11: 7:00pm On Mar 01, 2022

tayo60:
If you don't want to die untimely, divorce that devil you called wife. U can also move out of the house to somewhere else to finalise your divorce. Send upkeep to her to for your children. This thing is so common among the Igbo women.

For someone emotionally attached to the children, divorce is not that easy. It needs a lot of emotional and mental work. I can tell you that the OP feels stuck. I am on same path, and I know it 1st hand.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Richy4(m): 7:52pm On Mar 01, 2022

curiousmind11:

For someone emotionally attached to the children, divorce is not that easy. It needs a lot of emotional and mental work. I can tell you that the OP feels stuck. I am on same path, and I know it 1st hand.

If he dies in the hands of an abusive wife, They will not put the children with him in the grave... within 5 years, they will adjust...Life goes on... Highest thing, the wife will mourn him for a year full stop...

The last thing I will do nowadays is to advise a man to leave his loving and caring family... If the relationship is really unpleasant, he knows what to do... E never begin pain am.. when e start, I believe my brother will know what to do...

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by curiousmind11: 8:01pm On Mar 01, 2022

Richy4:

If he dies in the hands of an abusive wife, They will not put the children with him in the grave... within 5 years, they will adjust...Life goes on... Highest thing, the wife will mourn him for a year full stop...

The last thing I will do nowadays is to advise a man to leave his loving and caring family... If the relationship is really unpleasant, he knows what to do... E never begin pain am.. when e start, I believe my brother will know what to do...

If you read my 1st response, I strongly support him leaving. But my suggestion is that he works on himself mentally to be able to detach without having a mental or emotional breakdown. For most people divorce decision is not made within a day or hours. He needs the mental strength to do it. And he needs to build that mental strength 1st.

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 8:35pm On Mar 01, 2022

curiousmind11:
For someone emotionally attached to the children, divorce is not that easy. It needs a lot of emotional and mental work. I can tell you that the OP feels stuck. I am on same path, and I know it 1st hand.

Which kain emotional attachment to the children will cause you to hesitate when it comes to saving the same children from what is a harmful environment both mentally and physically? undecided

I daresay you may be using the children here as an excuse of some sort. undecided

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 8:38pm On Mar 01, 2022

curiousmind11:
If you read my 1st response, I strongly support him leaving. But my suggestion is that he works on himself mentally to be able to detach without having a mental or emotional breakdown. For most people divorce decision is not made within a day or hours. He needs the mental strength to do it. And he needs to build that mental strength 1st.

Change is not always easy, but what has to be done, has got to be or else one continues to wallow or suffer needlessly. undecided

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Nobody: 8:46pm On Mar 01, 2022

My advice is when she tries to beat you, run and scream very loud, hopefully somebody would come to your rescue.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by 9JAFULLBREED(m): 12:04am On Mar 02, 2022

Orishi-Rishi

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Kobojunkie: 12:10am On Mar 02, 2022

GenBuhari:
My advice is when she tries to beat you, run and scream very loud, hopefully somebody would come to your rescue.

You are kidding, right? undecided

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Nobody: 12:16am On Mar 02, 2022

Yes. I cannot understand what he wants us to advise him. It's he either learns to defend himself or he leaves the marriage.

Kobojunkie:
You are kidding, right?

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by eyinjuege: 1:05am On Mar 02, 2022

Please move out of the house and get another place for yourself.
I would advise you get divorce proceedings rolling as the marriage seems to have broken down.
Have a proper custody arrangement in place for the children.
I wish you the best

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by cococandy(f): 5:04am On Mar 02, 2022

Divorce her.
File for a divorce.
Let go of the marriage before you die in it.

Barrister026:
I know This will come of but am tired and frustrated, am not a weakling but my greatest mistake was to marry someone who is huge and bigger in size and strength than me. am a lanky dude edging towards my 40s, any small quarrels we had at home she use her strength to overpower me.. flogging me with my belt I used on my trousers and pressing me to the ground...I have tried several times to make her cry when the altercation leads to fight..but I can't she always overpowers me..all the people in the community nw is aware of it.
I might hit her once, she hit me twice.
Just a little words, she start cursing me out loud.

She even boast out loud to neighbors that she will wound me nothing I will do. I feel suicidal because of this, my families are ashamed of me, mediating in our affairs. The way she disrespect me in front of everyone is alarming.
I Know this will lead to several abuses here online, no worries but I really need help on how to curtain this situation.

The little money I earn can't satisfy her or her needs, she keeps on comparing me with other men.

We have 2 kids together, have thought about divorcing her several times, but the mental effects this has gotten on me is painful.

The insults you think you have crafted for me won't have any effects, because am seen worst from neighbors who knew about this my situation. Advice on what to do will be much appreciated

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Iykman042(m): 10:36am On Mar 02, 2022

op,are u in enugu,cos i kn one guy in enugu,that told me his wife normally beat him up,each time he misbehaves like over drinking of acohol or beer.And the guy is a womaniser and a drunk.he cant save money,he drinks and smoke weed + drink blackwood bitters. sometimes sleep off at beer parlour,he will always lost his phone.infant he buys phone every 3 months.and he has told me that it is a spiritual problem frm his fathers land,that his dead grand father is a dibia.that maybe the oracle his grandfather served wants him to continued where his grand father stop.if he get drunk,he has a one minute madness. and behaves abnormal.he is a cultis,a guy of 40yrs,he also behaves like a boy,thats why his wife beats him like a house boy.later he will run to his mother and younger sister,he is the first son and first child frm his family.

Op,are u the one im talking about here.

solution,first of all,ur problem might be spiritual,because you keep doing what makes ur wife to go physical at u.

secondly,be responsible for yourself atleast for once in your life.reduce ur acoholic intake and stops smoking weed.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by emmabest2000(m): 9:07pm On May 29, 2022

Barrister026:
I know This will come of but am tired and frustrated, am not a weakling but my greatest mistake was to marry someone who is huge and bigger in size and strength than me. am a lanky dude edging towards my 40s, any small quarrels we had at home she use her strength to overpower me.. flogging me with my belt I used on my trousers and pressing me to the ground...I have tried several times to make her cry when the altercation leads to fight..but I can't she always overpowers me..all the people in the community nw is aware of it.
I might hit her once, she hit me twice.
Just a little words, she start cursing me out loud.

She even boast out loud to neighbors that she will wound me nothing I will do. I feel suicidal because of this, my families are ashamed of me, mediating in our affairs. The way she disrespect me in front of everyone is alarming.
I Know this will lead to several abuses here online, no worries but I really need help on how to curtain this situation.

The little money I earn can't satisfy her or her needs, she keeps on comparing me with other men.

We have 2 kids together, have thought about divorcing her several times, but the mental effects this has gotten on me is painful.

The insults you think you have crafted for me won't have any effects, because am seen worst from neighbors who knew about this my situation. Advice on what to do will be much appreciated

This dude sef
You're edging 40s and your elder brother is in his mid 30s

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Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Emma2Seconds: 9:46pm On May 29, 2022

Upload her picture let's see the size that's beat a whole MAN

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Emma2Seconds: 9:52pm On May 29, 2022

No Mind This Guy, He Too Dey Lie. Make Una check his previous post. Where He Beat His Younger Married Brother ��.

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Emma2Seconds: 9:53pm On May 29, 2022

The guy na complete Liar[quote author=Emma2Seconds post=113295011]Upload her picture let's see the size that's beat a whole MAN[/quote]

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Emma2Seconds: 9:57pm On May 29, 2022

https://www.nairaland.com/7150170/fight-married-younger-brother-refused. Check the Liar with the link above. cheesy

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Nobody: 2:38am On May 30, 2022

Mumu liar

In one story you don't have kids but this one you have two.

In one story you are in early 30s but in this one 40s

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by Nobody: 4:30am On May 30, 2022

Are you not the mumu that beat up your younger brother and would not apologize.?

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by backnbeta(f): 6:01am On May 30, 2022

Your kid bro had a kid and you are single on the other thread, you are married to a woman who beats you on this thread...when did you get married that you are being beaten? Your threads are therefore null and void henceforth

Re: Help! My Wife Beats Me At Home, at any provocation by James289(f): 9:00pm On Oct 06, 2022

" what God has joined together,let no man pull apart"
I encourage you my brother to further endure, surely you shall not be beaten in vain.
The good Lord will see you through

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