https://www.nairaland.com/6978190/mum-against-relationship

Sequel to my initial thread, I finally brought my boyfriend home to meet my parents but they outrightly rejected his marriage proposal saying that their daughter is not ready for marriage now. They said we can continue our relationship but they can’t approve the marriage, when he left they gave me the reasons for rejection:

1. He is not my class
2. They want me to build my career
3. I am rushing into marriage(at 26 years)
4. They want me to see other guys because he is the only person I have been with since our university days

I find these excuses very silly because I don’t think it’s right for one to pursue career and forget about marriage. It’s not like the guy in question is jobless, he currently has a business that is doing very well

I also don’t see myself double dating when I’m in a serious relationship with someone. We both love and understand each other but my parents are making things difficult for me.

Your parents are evil dooers

Your father may end up pregnanting you

You are not their biological daughter

Your parents are desperately wicked

Hmm.. Funny. Guess they didn't have any reason at all. If you're ok with the guy then get pregnant for him. And your parents will accept him by force. You're no more a child, wise up!

Machinegun91:
Your parents are evil dooers
Your father may end up pregnanting you
You are not their biological daughter
Your parents are desperately wicked

May God have mercy on you. No sentence in the post necessitates or justifies any of your claims against her parents.

I must say your parents' reasons are not cogent. But if they (your parents) have been good to you, then their action towards your fiance is out of ignorance, not out of a devilish mindset. Ignorance is different from wickedness. If this is the case, do not quarrel or disobey them now. Give them some time.

But if they have been bad parents to you even before meeting your fiance, you need to go against their wishes in some areas. Do so with carefulness and prayer.

But let me say something important. Going into a marriage that lacks approval from both the bride's parents and the groom's parents is the highest marital risk. Less than 5% of those who do it end up happy in the marriage. You may claim you can fight and die for love. But within a short time, the love will wither because of heat from the parents. The maltreatment from the parents will, in the long run, affect the couple psychologically and gradually turn the couples against each other. Only a few end up gaining the parents' approval and love later in the marriage. This does not mean that every marriage approved by the parents from both sides is perfect. Some marriages that have full parental approval turn bitter but just a few happen like this.

Some people underrate the spiritual powers parents have over children. A curse from a parent is more destructive than a curse from a bishop or daddy GO. A good prayer from a parent is more effective than fasting by a bishop or daddy GO. Let me use the Bible because I do not know what is in the Quran. In the Bible, God empowers parents to either bless or curse their children. pastors are not biblically empowered to do so. But misguided people disobey their parents and worship pastors. Even some fake or ignorant pastors wed couples without approval from the parents of the couples.

Hmmm

Machinegun91:
Your parents are evil dooers

Your father may end up pregnanting you

You are not their biological daughter

Your parents are desperately wicked

Stupid comment...

Because of an ordinary man, you're insulting her parents... Do you even reason?

You make it seem as though marriage is something of great value... So she can even disrespect her parents...

Cause you're so certain the man would never cheat, he would never abuse her, their journey together as husband and wife would be a never ending honeymoon...

Even though her parents hare wrong, to an extent... They are still a million times better than the Op's man... They raised her to be the woman he now wants...

If you believe your father is a pervert... Or that you're adopted... Or you're parents are wicked... Fine, but not everyone is you...

Hmmm
Sorry to say this but I think your parents are been selfish,and also see you as an investment and not arter your happiness..
Since the man is not jobless and irresponsible I don't see any other reason here...

Kate999:
https://www.nairaland.com/6978190/mum-against-relationship

Sequel to my initial thread, I finally brought my boyfriend home to meet my parents but they outrightly rejected his marriage proposal saying that their daughter is not ready for marriage now. They said we can continue our relationship but they can’t approve the marriage, when he left they gave me the reasons for rejection:

1. He is not my class
2. They want me to build my career
3. I am rushing into marriage(at 26 years)
4. They want me to see other guys because he is the only person I have been with since our university days

I find these excuses very silly because I don’t think it’s right for one to pursue career and forget about marriage. It’s not like the guy in question is jobless, he currently has a business that is doing very well

I also don’t see myself double dating when I’m in a serious relationship with someone. We both love and understand each other but my parents are making things difficult for me.

1. Your parents say he's not good enough for you... How? He's not as wealthy? Or?

2. The worse mistake you would make is to not build your career... It doesn't mean you shouldn't get married to him... But for now, focus on your career... Love isn't the only thing a marriage needs... Respect is equally important... After a few years, his love for you would cool down... When he's more comfortable than inlove with you, he would appreciate your relevance in the relationship more than anything else... Bring something to the table... It's for your own good... You would be safer than a woman who's dependent...

3. You're not rushing... But remember that if he loves you, then you both can get married whenever it's convenient... There's no perfect the to do it... What's would be the difference between your relationship with him now and your relationship with him after you're both married? Only vows and wedding rings...

4. I don't see a reason why you should... If you truly love and TRUST him, you mustn't find someone else... You could date a million men and still not find mister perfect...


I think your parents don't like him... Try to find out the true reason...

Maybe they are worried that he can't provide for you... For the many years you both would be together...

I know every parents want the best for their children, But @ 26 you should be able to make decisions for yourself... I mean, these are weak excuses.

1. He is not your class: I don't understand? First of all, which class do you belong to, that attracted him to you at first? Huh? If the guy is independent and he has stable job with good income. Let your parents know about his hustle. Tell your parents you are convinced with his hustle.

What do you do for a living that made your parents believe your fiance does not have class?

2. They want me to build my career: who told you can build your career when you're married?? You can be married and you can still build your career. You and your fiance can discuss that.

3. I am rushing into marriage(at 26 years): Some girls are getting married @24. So my dear @26 you're not rushing into marriage okay. Infact you're over ripe for marriage, you aren't a kid.

4. They want me to see other guys because he is the only person I have been with since our university days: If you truly Love him, you won't have any reason to see another guy.

And how are you sure you're gonna see a perfect guy who's ready to marry??

Madam please you're not a kid. Give your parents reasons why you want to spend the rest of your life with your fiance.

Do you want to get old in your father's house??

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Marriage too early at 26? Flimsy excuses. Well I think they have a suitor in mind for you.

Sha don't allow them make you an evening newspaper, dis one they want you to marry at 30

What an old Man sees sitting down.... A child cannot see even when he is standing on top of a mountain.

I have come to the realization that,if I had listened to my Mom religiously.... I would have been far ahead.
But we always think that they want to control our lives? No.

If my parents say I shouldn't marry someone or wait....I have no option.

1.He is not my class
At the bolded, Your parents rejected him because he's poor!

They want you to explore and search for rich men. While exploring be careful so they don't use u for rituals.

No concrete reason. Ignore them coz ENP is approaching. No well to do guy will choose an ENP over a sweet young blood.
Unless in a case of broke guy to rich ENP Wich is obviously for the financial benefits.

they are expecting a richer guy

Kate999:
https://www.nairaland.com/6978190/mum-against-relationship

Sequel to my initial thread, I finally brought my boyfriend home to meet my parents but they outrightly rejected his marriage proposal saying that their daughter is not ready for marriage now. They said we can continue our relationship but they can’t approve the marriage, when he left they gave me the reasons for rejection:

1. He is not my class
2. They want me to build my career
3. I am rushing into marriage(at 26 years)
4. They want me to see other guys because he is the only person I have been with since our university days

I find these excuses very silly because I don’t think it’s right for one to pursue career and forget about marriage. It’s not like the guy in question is jobless, he currently has a business that is doing very well

I also don’t see myself double dating when I’m in a serious relationship with someone. We both love and understand each other but my parents are making things difficult for me.

If dey don't want to approve it, u should approve it. U aren't a kid any longer neither are u getting younger.

Kate999:
I find these excuses very silly because I don’t think it’s right for one to pursue career and forget about marriage. It’s not like the guy in question is jobless, he currently has a business that is doing very well

I also don’t see myself double dating when I’m in a serious relationship with someone. We both love and understand each other but my parents are making things difficult for me.

How old is the guy and what job/business do you yourself have - your own source of kncome?

Kobojunkie:
How old is the guy and what job/business do you yourself have - your own source of kncome?

I work in a good company and earn over 150k
My boyfriend runs his own business and is also doing well, he is above 30 years

The 3rd and 4th reason is what I don't understand o mostly that last reason about seeing other guys lol, I don't think all this are the reason honestly there must be more to that but whatever the case may be op I advise you try talk things out with your parents let them try and reason things with you (if truly you really love that guy)

Kate999:
I work in a good company and earn over 150k
My boyfriend runs his own business and is also doing well, he is above 30 years

Ok.
Where is your father in the picture?

Super story , just to hit front page


Naija parent often reject marriage base on religion and ethnic difference or spiritual reason

All the one you mentioned , no one is genuine

Which parent will say his daughter is not yet ripe for marriage at 26?

Go back and re write ur script.

Kate999:
https://www.nairaland.com/6978190/mum-against-relationship

Sequel to my initial thread, I finally brought my boyfriend home to meet my parents but they outrightly rejected his marriage proposal saying that their daughter is not ready for marriage now. They said we can continue our relationship but they can’t approve the marriage, when he left they gave me the reasons for rejection:

1. He is not my class
2. They want me to build my career
3. I am rushing into marriage(at 26 years)
4. They want me to see other guys because he is the only person I have been with since our university days

I find these excuses very silly because I don’t think it’s right for one to pursue career and forget about marriage. It’s not like the guy in question is jobless, he currently has a business that is doing very well

I also don’t see myself double dating when I’m in a serious relationship with someone. We both love and understand each other but my parents are making things difficult for me.

Kate Kate give me a trial

Mchew.