I have no comment.

Hollandaise:
this is a girl I have monitored her WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook chats for over 6 months from my device bro, na me even tire, e reach one time, I stopped cos I have not seen anything like she going out or having affairs with any guy

People change bro! They do, just within splits second.. Always be conscious and never trust 100%

Jack005:
People change bro! They do, just within splits second.. Always be conscious and never trust 100%

Thanks man

Nonexisting:
I have no comment.

OK ooo

Bro,I cannot deduce if she kissed him or not.But mark my words she will sleep with him soon.Mark my words.i speak from experience

Aaaaarghmed:
Bro,I cannot deduce if she kissed him or not.But mark my words she will sleep with him soon.Mark my words.i speak from experience

hmmm we already have misunderstanding over the situation cos I accused her of not setting boundaries

Your girl is young, you probably deflowered her , what she is having is guilty conscience, so she is trying to ease her mind by telling you half truths... I'm 95percent certain they kissed and did some touching.

And she likes the guy too, if she didn't like him she wouldn't bother bringing him up much less telling you she thinks he likes her.

You guys probably talk everyday, so you are slowly becoming her gist partner or her girlfriend, slowly loosing your sex appeal.

czarr:
Your girl is young, you probably deflowered her , what she is having is guilty conscience, so she is trying to ease her mind by telling you half truths... I'm 95percent certain they kissed and did some touching.

And she likes the guy too, if she didn't like him she wouldn't bother bringing him up much less telling you she thinks he likes her.

You guys probably talk everyday, so you are slowly becoming her gist partner or her girlfriend, slowly loosing your sex appeal.

omoooooo u are right, I deflowered her, and yes we talk everyday, and we are in a serious relationship but why did u say I am loosing my sex appeal and also how did u know we talk everyday .. [/b]Just curious because she swore with her whole life and her business when I confronted her that I know they kissed[b]

Also she told me that, she tied a towel around her waist and wore a top while she layed in bed, when the guy came to sit beside her in her own room , she said if she wanted to have something with him, she would have done it and said but she did not..

Hollandaise:
ok so are u saying they actually kissed? Just asking because I have monitored her chat for months from another device and she barely text this guy

Even if they never kissed or had any form of Romance, as long as she and the guy are always close and the guy happens to be her physical closest companion for now, I can bet my balls that sooner than u thinks she is gonna get laid by the guy, what do u expect from a guy with such romantic intentions towards ur gf... Know this and know peace, ladies are very emotional being, they act on the moment and regret afterwards. Just imagine the ungodly hour the guy was just leaving her room (1am ), even attempt kissing her, and she even has the guts to tell u she thinks the guy likes her ... Deep down, she fancy's the guy that's why she is telling u she thinks the guy likes her and hence, the attention they give each other. She opened up to you because nothing actually happened, but trust me, it will, and Wen the real deal happens, u won't here from her. I have once been in this perfect picture, and close friends have also been victims of this same narrative, so am speaking completely from experience. If u don't act now to fracture that intending bond, I'm 100% sure of ur premium tears cos it's loading already...

Wise up...

Hollandaise:
omoooooo u are right, I deflowered her, and yes we talk everyday, and we are in a serious relationship but why did u say I am loosing my sex appeal and also how did u know we talk everyday .. [/b]Just curious because she swore with her whole life and her business when I confronted her that I know they kissed[b]

Also she told me that, she tied a towel around her waist and wore a top while she layed in bed, when the guy came to sit beside her in her own room , she said if she wanted to have something with him, she would have done it and said but she did not..

maybe she didn't sleep with him, doesn't mean other stuff didn't happen.

I know because I've been in similar situations and I know how it would play out. I'll advice you start to emotionally detach yourself, and keep in mind that anything can happen, it's just your turn.

Don't talk every day with her, let her miss you, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Does she record your conversations in her phone, and listen to your voice ?

Mr.man she just told you that the guy try kissing her to ease herself of the guilty conscience

Omo me carry a girl matter for head now as Nigeria dey hot,I no fit


Remember this bitches ain't loyal

OscarJaden:
Mr.man she just told you that the guy try kissing her to ease herself of the guilty conscience

Omo me carry a girl matter for head now as Nigeria dey hot,I no fit


Remember this bitches ain't loyal

hmmm

if she isn't totally honest about the kiss she had better spill the truth o. I once cheated by kissing another guy in school, I told my distant boyfriend abt it and he forgave me. but the next day we kissed again and again...lol. she should honestly pick who she wants to be with.

czarr:
maybe she didn't sleep with him, doesn't mean other stuff didn't happen.

I know because I've been in similar situations and I know how it would play out. I'll advice you start to emotionally detach yourself, and keep in mind that anything can happen, it's just your turn.

Don't talk every day with her, let her miss you, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Does she record your conversations in her phone, and listen to your voice ?

u are valid bro..

mirexxx:
if she isn't totally honest about the kiss she had better spill the truth o. I once cheated by kissing another guy in school, I told my distant boyfriend abt it and he forgave me. but the next day we kissed again and again...lol. she should honestly pick who she wants to be with.

first time I am seeing a lady admit she cheated in a relationship . kudos ma'am

mirexxx:
if she isn't totally honest about the kiss she had better spill the truth o. I once cheated by kissing another guy in school, I told my distant boyfriend abt it and he forgave me. but the next day we kissed again and again...lol. she should honestly pick who she wants to be with.

did u tell your boyfriend that u kissed exactly or u only told him, a guy tried kissing u..

And also did the kisses later led to the main intimacy?

she swore on her life and business that they never kissed, and also we stay in the same area, not like we are distant and that guy comes to stay with them maybe twice in a week.. and she often lends money from the guy sometimes

Chamakh93:

first time I am seeing a lady admit she cheated in a relationship . kudos ma'am

I really commend her for the honesty

The painful part for me, is this your monitoring habit. Are u a monitoring spirit? Can't u see that you're insecure? There's no place in your write up where u talked about her monitoring u, you are d only one doing the monitoring. U dont deserve that girl! You Don't deserve any girl cos you're too small to date one! Grow up ,man. Stop looking for what isn't there. The girl sef is too loyal. She told u everything that went down and you're still looking for trouble where there's none. I can tell las las you'd loose d girl cos u Don't deserve her from d begining. Na your type suppose dey date ashana..

Hollandaise:
this is a girl I have monitored her WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook chats for over 6 months from my device bro, na me even tire, e reach one time, I stopped cos I have not seen anything like she going out or having affairs with any guy

Hollandaise:
did u tell your boyfriend that u kissed exactly or u only told him, a guy tried kissing u..

And also did the kisses later led to the main intimacy?

she swore on her life and business that they never kissed, and also we stay in the same area, not like we are distant and that guy comes to stay with them maybe twice in a week.. and she often lends money from the guy sometimes

i told him we kissed. it never led to anything.
I know u wanna believe her so badly at the same time u don't wanna be lied to. I wish you all the best.

mirexxx:
i told him we kissed. it never led to anything.
I know u wanna believe her so badly at the same time u don't wanna be lied to. I wish you all the best.

Well I just want to remove my mind and be man enough to let go, because since she swore with her business and on her life that she never kissed the guy, she have ignored my other text concerning the issue and we have not been in talking terms .. today makes it the 2nd day we stopped talking ..

Dont know if I should just call her and settle it out or wait for her to call and settle things out, I don't just want to appear like a weak guy befoee her eyes if I should call

Hollandaise:
Well I just want to remove my mind and be man enough to let go, because since she swore with her business and on her life that she never kissed the guy, she have ignored my other text concerning the issue and we have not been in talking terms .. today makes it the 2nd day we stopped talking ..

Dont know if I should just call her and settle it out or wait for her to call and settle things out, I don't just want to appear like a weak guy befoee her eyes if I should call

I understand she feels sad that u don't trust her because of the questions but the truth is if she didn't actually do anything with him your relationship shouldn't have any problem right now. Her refusal to reply texts and u guys not communicating tells alot tho. if she's not guilty why all that? isn't it your right to ask her for the truth? well I dunno how u want to appear again cos u only did what was right by asking her 4 d truth.

Hollandaise:
Well this is my gf , i am not asking for a friend or anyone.. This is a girl that tells me the password of her phone without stress, gone through her Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp and Snapchat.. na me dey tire sef to check , all I do is drop her phone anytime she is asleep because, I no dey see anything like she going out with someone ..

She currently has an accommodation issue here in Abuja, so she went to stay in her friends house. The parents of her friends are oversea but they have a male cousin who stays in one of the rooms in their duplex because job brought him to Abuja and he has been with them for months now pending the time he gets on his feet and gets his own place..

Me and my gf has a misunderstanding last week Saturday , so we did not talk except in the morning, in the afternoon she apologised for her wrongs , which was not something too serious and it wasn't related to infidelity.. although she called to tell me sorry and also sent 2 texts which I forgot to reply cos I was too stressed from work and fell asleep early when I got home.

I woke up around 1am on Sunday morning and realised I did not respond to her messages where she pleaded sorry, I decided to text her up on whatsapp, immediately my text delivered, not up to 2 mins , she replied and the next thing she said was that her friend cousin just left her room, then I asked what is he looking for , although I know he is used to checking up on her anytime she is back from her own work.. then she told me her friend cousin just came to check on her as usual and that she needed someone to talk to but since i wasn't in a good mood with her , she just wanted to gist with someone.. so I said its OK, and we settled the whole misunderstanding..

Later she told me and said she thinks the guy likes her, that he tried to kiss her while she was laying in bed and he sat beside her.. she said the guy moved his lips closer to her and asked her if she knows what he wants to do, and she replied yes that he should not try it.. then she said the guy apologised for trying to kiss her lips and then he left ..

My guts have been having different feelings since that Sunday because she said , she was on a top and just tied towel around her waist when she was laying down and he was beside her.. I tried teasing her to be honest but she said nothing of such happened and that the guy apologised.. she told me not to tell her friend what the guy tried to do , so it won't affect her stay in the house cause it will cause issues.

This is a girl that I have monitored her WhatsApp instagram, and facebook chats for over 6 months and never see her going out or dating someone else.. even she barely text this guy on whatsapp .

[/b]I'm just having mixed feelings tho , Why don't she want me to tell her friend, and could it be they actually kissed and had little romance and I have been wondering why she actually keeps saying she thinks the guy likes her[b] ..

Self Acclaimed alfa males, U can bash as usual, but I just need to hear different opinions

Monitoring spirit. Does she have access to your own phone? You will just have to take her word or outrightly ask her. If you insist on telling the friend then get ready to rent a place for her. You clearly have trust issues.

mirexxx:
I understand she feels sad that u don't trust her because of the questions but the truth is if she didn't actually do anything with him your relationship shouldn't have any problem right now. Her refusal to reply texts and u guys not communicating tells alot tho. if she's not guilty why all that? isn't it your right to ask her for the truth? well I dunno how u want to appear again cos u only did what was right by asking her 4 d truth.

Well I guess maybe because of the words I used in the text, like telling her that the guy sees her as a cheap girl, that's why he could make such move and other words like saying she is loosed for not setting boundaries and all.. but we learn everyday shaa..

This morning I found out that she have actually asked the guy to lend her some money cos I have her WhatsApp log in here ..

And I feel, sometimes when she needs funds and I ask her to chill, she often ask the guy and the guy use to lend her, so it's part of why I needed to know the truth , and I have been feeling like, maybe because of the money the guy use to lend her , that's why she use to say she feels the guy likes her.. I even confronted her that don't she feel , this guy just want to use her for flings, she said No, that the guy likes her truly.

So u see why I have been curious

Hollandaise:
Well I guess maybe because of the words I used in the text, like telling her that the guy sees her as a cheap girl, that's why he could make such move and other words like saying she is loosed for not setting boundaries and all.. but we learn everyday shaa..

This morning I found out that she have actually asked the guy to lend her some money cos I have her WhatsApp log in here ..

And I feel, sometimes when she needs funds and I ask her to chill, she often ask the guy and the guy use to lend her, so it's part of why I needed to know the truth , and I have been feeling like, maybe because of the money the guy use to lend her , that's why she use to say she feels the guy likes her.. I even confronted her that don't she feel , this guy just want to use her for flings, she said No, that the guy likes her truly.

So u see why I have been curious

Okay, let's help you out a bit since it seem you really like this girl.

First, careless about the other guy's act... you really have no business with his moves (would paint you insecure with your girl, and most girls detest insecurity).

Second, call your girl and apologise for your wrong choice of words "in the text you sent her" (Keep your apology sincere, but short). I prefer you try to see her possibly.

Thirdly, henceforth grow up man... stop the needless Simping.
Basically, learn to be at peace within yourself (it's most important, and control times that way). Think and act calmly no matter the situation that comes at...(relationship or not)

Confidence is key!!

Hollandaise:
Well I guess maybe because of the words I used in the text, like telling her that the guy sees her as a cheap girl, that's why he could make such move and other words like saying she is loosed for not setting boundaries and all.. but we learn everyday shaa..

This morning I found out that she have actually asked the guy to lend her some money cos I have her WhatsApp log in here ..

And I feel, sometimes when she needs funds and I ask her to chill, she often ask the guy and the guy use to lend her, so it's part of why I needed to know the truth , and I have been feeling like, maybe because of the money the guy use to lend her , that's why she use to say she feels the guy likes her.. I even confronted her that don't she feel , this guy just want to use her for flings, she said No, that the guy likes her truly.

So u see why I have been curious

hmm be careful tho. the girl may cheat fully. You shouldn't have said tho words to her.

ruzell86:

Okay, let's help you out a bit since it seem you really like this girl.

First, careless about the other guy's act... you really have no business with his moves (would paint you insecure with your girl, and most girls detest insecurity).

Second, call your girl and apologise for your wrong choice of words "in the text you sent her" (Keep your apology sincere, but short). I prefer you try to see her possibly.

Thirdly, henceforth grow up man... stop the needless Simping.
Basically, learn to be at peace within yourself (it's most important, and control times that way). Think and act calmly no matter the situation that comes at...(relationship or not)

Confidence is key!!

Bro God bless u.. Make I no lie u, I get 3 other girls who we are having things together, but u see this one, If they ask me today to choose one girl I really love genuinely with everything, it's this girl and even if I dey spend for her, I no dey feel am, e dey even sweet me to do things for her because, she really stood by me for up to 6 months when things were not cool . I no even dey give her money at some point and that was what made her to be borrowing money from that guy.. which I feel is why the guy wants to take advantage of her..

God bless u bro.. I appreciate for your words cos u really read my mind that I genuinely like her

mirexxx:
hmm be careful tho. the girl may cheat fully. You shouldn't have said tho words to her.

pls why do u feel she would cheat fully?

Ur girl have accommodation problem and u couldn't provide her with a space.

Let her go to wherever she finds her comfort.

mirexxx:
hmm be careful tho. the girl may cheat fully. You shouldn't have said tho words to her.

By now that she’s not on talking terms with the op,she has started to do the do with the guy.She puts herself in such vulnerable position with the guy and she’s soft with the guy with her words.Op should be prepared for the worst but he should know that she’ll never admit sleeping or kissing the other guy lol.She should just leave that house

Iyaebe:
By now that she’s not on talking terms with the op,she has started to do the do with the guy.She puts herself in such vulnerable position with the guy and she’s soft with the guy with her words.Op should be prepared for the worst but he should know that she’ll never admit sleeping or kissing the other guy lol.She should just leave that house

my dear that's it o. I don't think she will leave tho

Hollandaise:
pls why do u feel she would cheat fully?

her reactions says it all. she's already loaning money from him..she'll be indebted and feel she should compensate by being romantic to him. if u still want your girl do something fast about it.

mirexxx:
my dear that's it o. I don't think she will leave tho

Its obvious she likes the other guy sef because the kind of rage you’ll dish out to a guy you don’t fancy if he dares attempt anything will reset his brains never to try attempt such again.One thing about this kind of attraction is that it doesn’t last,her eyes will clear after the boy might have successfully had sex with her,some ladies sha