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Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 8:45am On Mar 13, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20: This really means that you are not different from his son. What kind of generation are we raising. Don't worry, you'll also be selfish and raise selfish children and both of you will live together till old age. You don't even have respect for elders. Social media pallava 8 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Mariangeles(f): 9:11am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Munzy14: The bolded should've been the main point. I think that is where the problem lies. How can you say the money is not there, when he works? No matter how little he earns, at the end of every month, he should be able to say nna m, jide nke a. That is being a responsible adult. 2 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Munzy14(m): 9:26am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Richy4:Like you said, a son that has a liberal mindset to give...Unfortunately he isn't. And I still maintained, the money is not there.. Lastly, parents should find a way to teach their children how to be responsible from that tender age.. For example, there are little little things you could pay outsiders to do for you, You simply let them do it amd and you pay them..Then ask your wife to monitor how they spend their earnings. Parenting is a serious job..How you train them is how they will grow. Growing up, I and my siblings were taught to hustle from teenage..We revolt when my parents try to get labourers do some jobs..We rather do it with our friends collect the money and share. By the time we became adults, there are quite a handful of things we can do in addition to education..Now, my parents are relaxed knowing they have done their parenting to best of their ability... If you don't your kids training well, you will grow old to keep struggling when you are meant to relax no matter how small. There is no way you can force a 29year old man to do anything aside sitting him down to have a man to man discussions. 2 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by BENCHOKCONSULT: 9:53am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi: I left home after after my university education infact, since 2018, I haven't spent good 2 months in my parents house because I am also thinking of my own future, they have tried persuading me to relocate back home but I have refused, I have been fending for myself by the Grace of God. I think the only solution is to eject your son forcefully from the house. 29 years isn't a childs play. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Munzy14(m): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Teaching o wu oru oge ugbua Just to pass time..Okwa nke akwu ga some 13000naira...ego data Hapu, i gahu aghota ije nwoke. I know for a reason, when a child see money, he or she will want to impress the parents...This is a must. He should sit him down and talk to him...The problem we assume as humans a lot...Some believe you must ask before it will be given. I have come to accept a principle, if I need anything from anyone, I won't assume he/she knows...I must ask for it...Bible see kuo aka, a ga emehere gi...Seek and you shall find. He should go talk to his son like a man. 2 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 10:51am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Golan007:So many graduates are moving about with this same idealogy eventually they get frustrated and run into yahoo n rituals...... infact 60% of people just to them fend for themselves and become independent most are into yahoo, runz and illegal stuff 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by shawante(m): 11:06am On Mar 13, 2022 |
AdenolaBlessing: If I have the means I'll do that with all joy.. Afterall the joy of every parent is to see that their children are comfortable |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by NeoWanZaeed(m): 11:25am On Mar 13, 2022 |
29 years He's not your son!!!! 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Golan007: 11:30am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Senomii: None of my siblings returned home after graduation - all 5 of us. None went into crime and all ended up the better. Of course, there are many who are unequipped for their future so they end up falling into a life of crime. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Richy4(m): 11:41am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Munzy14: When you said that the money is not there, I just kind of wonder how much should be available before someone can decide to take responsibility... If his father is not leaving with him, <<< Won't he pay rent... Won't he eat or will he go to the shop owner and tell them to give him their products but that the money is not there that they should bear with him? <<< If he stays on his own, electricity bill will be paid with the money that is not there right? <<< I will not blame the man for anything because even if he instilled good values on his kids... Some will still turned out to be what they wanted to be... Some turned out to be selfish, some liberal minded...I wished that he should go with tough love on him.... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 11:45am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Tina001:Onyeoma |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 11:46am On Mar 13, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy:You be teacher right ? I hope you don't measure your yams with a tape ruler |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Solsix(m): 11:50am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Beremx:That does not mean he should not assist. That is having a sense of responsibility. I am currently in that situation but I make monthly contribution to support the family. It's not easy for anybody |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 1:28pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
shawante:You are talking about comfort when you are still spoon feeding a 29year old man, who is suppose to have gotten married and have his own life, it's not as if he doesn't have a means of livelihood. He doesn't even care if the father have enough or not and he doesn't contribute a dime to anything in the house. You better don't wish for negativity in your life. If your son of 29years old is still depending on you after you have stress yourself to sponsor him till University level. It's not a good thing to wish for at all. If you want comfort for your children, give them good education and train them on how they can be independent afterward. Teach them how to be responsible, not to still be depending on you after graduation 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Jamesbiodun(m): 1:41pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
As Nigeria no better before I was born, I stopped collecting feeding money when I was 17 years, no be say I get money but I can't be a burden to my parents... He is just a liability to you... Though it is how you train him that is really hitting you hard now 2 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Xcelinteriors(f): 2:26pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
May almighty God not give us useless children |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kingcalls: 2:27pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Golan007: To whr?? A world of crime?? |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by MajorOvakporaye(f): 2:30pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Mooh247: SHUT UP!!! SOLMUSDESIGN, YOUR DUMB PRESIDENT AND THE IRAGBIJI BULLION VAN CRIMINAL ARE BIG CONTRIBUTORS TO THIS FAILED ECONOMY |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by toujurs: 2:30pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
JONNYSPUTE:stop this, Davido was given everything but yet he made a way for him self and earned himself an income and fame too. Even if the 29 year old was provided everything at his will, it doesn't matter. Who is wise is already wise. Its unfortunate his 29yr old child is lazy. 2 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by jiz: 2:30pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Ask him to learn a skill. Pay for the skill and help him to get clients |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by sgtponzihater1(m): 2:30pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Ask him to leave your house in 3-6months. At least you know you are taking care of yourself and your dependent. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Mooh247: 2:31pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
MajorOvakporaye: Go back and work in a bakery for ₦5000 and stop blaming Buhari for your misfortune Nonsense and ingredients . |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by TheWolfen(m): 2:31pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
He needs to go get his own apartment. That is the only way he can be serious with his life. Read him the riot act. Tell him he will need to sit up and pay his subsequent rent fee. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Okeytus(m): 2:32pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:I think you should sit him down and discuss about his future with him, show him you want to be of help so he can be successful and you are willing to support in any way you can. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Henry22(m): 2:32pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi: Give him conditions that if you have to continue feeding him then all the house chores are on him.... |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Mariangeles(f): 2:33pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
sgtponzihater1: Can you as a father put your son out? |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by okomile(f): 2:34pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Simply ignore him. Don't cook. Go and eat in mama put. Buy 2 extra pure water to drink. Don't buy food stuffs again. No need to argue or talk. If he sees there is nothing in the house, he will go and eat himself. Same issues when u make them comfortable in their growing years. They want to be a liability, no way! Wish u luck 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by tctrills: 2:35pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:Is he working? Please assist him as much as you can until he gets a job. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by khalids: 2:35pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:Perhaps you can start by asking him ...why he does not want to leave the comfort of your house and go into the world to be his own man... I believe with your years of wisdom you will be able to guide him appropriately and ease whatever notions/fears he has and reassure him that you have his back and he should walk boldly into the world Our children are our pride and it's our hearts desire to see them stand on their own feet and have successful lives |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by chatinent: 2:36pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Lori iro |
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