I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

Work towards it n be sincere....make her the only woman in your life n focus to attain greatness

Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

Go and get a job before you think about marrying and pray to God to help u.

valentineuwakwe:
Work towards it n be sincere....make her the only woman in your life n focus to attain greatness

Thanks Nwanne mmadu.

Normal scope. A typical businessman will tell you that there are many people waiting to pay for the product you're pricing and it's first come first serve. That shouldn't stop you from looking well before you leap.

Damnnnn!!!!! Shit can be ruff but it won’t be ruff for long My bro!!

I wish u the very best Bro.

thesicilian:
Normal scope. A typical businessman will tell you that there are many people waiting to pay for the product you're pricing and it's first come first serve. That shouldn't stop you from looking well before you leap.
A word is enough for the wise.

Smiles.... You are right but the girl is so nice though nobody is perfect. I think what the mum said is true.

Don't put yourself under any pressure to get married. If you love her and she can wait till you are on your feet,fine and good but if otherwise then you let her go.

Iyaebe:
Don't put yourself under any pressure to get married. If you love her and she can wait till you are on your feet,fine and good but if otherwise then you let her go.

Thanks bro.

Romance doesn't work well without finance. Since you know you are struggling financially, let one of the other men that are currently capable settle down with her.

In due time, when you are finally financially stable, you will find your wife.

Don't hold on to her now, denying her the opportunity to marry now and abandon her later, because things refused to be stable.

Don't marry her now when there's no financial plan or backup. Just let her go jeje. You'll be doing yourself plenty of good.




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HopeNeverDies:
Damnnnn!!!!! Shit can be ruff but it won’t be ruff for long My bro!!

I wish u the very best Bro.

Shit can't be ruff for long.... Thanks baba.

deekseen:
Romance doesn't work well without finance. Since you know you are struggling financially, let one of the other men that are currently capable settle down with her.

In due time, when you are finally financially stable, you will find your wife.

Don't hold on to her now, denying her the opportunity to marry now and abandon her later, because things refused to be stable.

Don't marry her now when there's no financial plan or backup. Just let her go jeje. You'll be doing yourself plenty of good.

Thanks.

Candidlady:
Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

impressed never will i believe ur this smart, anyway this ur comment just turn me on oh! like u have this kinda sense in yo

Candidlady:
Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

Mehn the third paragraph though..... I no understand.

Don't worry it's possible she might dump you, women tend to think about their life seriously than men, just keep focusing on work. No man is exempted from dissappointments

ndukwechinasa:
Mehn the third paragraph though..... I no understand.

In case of pregnancy, also sex fit distract person from hustling.

ndukwechinasa:
Mehn the third paragraph though..... I no understand.

Someone with no money should not think of sex talk-less of having it


Kada ku hankalta ba?

Candidlady:



Someone with no money should not think of sex talk-less of having it


Kada ku hankalta ba?

Okay Sir

She should pray for things to get in order for you, like seriously Oga you never serious at all

Don't take advice from any nairaland biitch

toujurs:
She should pray for things to get in order for you, like seriously Oga you never serious at all

Why am I not serious bro?

as i always say:"if a babe tries to use "other suitors BS" as an excuse to rush you into doing what you are not ready/willing/able to do...then drop that inconsiderate babe asap!"

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

Allow her to marry someone else if she wants to. Work on urself and meet someone else. There are lots of ladies out there. The major reason we men get marry is for sex and reproduction. So, no woman is too special for u to keep or to lose except she isn't a liability and she is financially independent. Because las las, na u go still carry all the bills for ur head.

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

Let her go bro, becous even you yourself ain't sure of marrying her when you make money. No use it in spoil another man piking.

Let the lady go for the suitor(s) that are ready because age is not on her side and fertility + beauty decreases as she ages.

Downside: If you've already made sexual + emotional impressions on her, it will take a strong will for her not to retract towards your direction occasionally. But she can still survive in her new relationship since women can easily erase the past + her new suitor is better than the former.

Advice for the op: Don't commit until you're able to cater 100% for yourself and able to live the life you love with or without women. Getting married this time + feminine shenanigans + third world nation + your current economic situation + children = monumental disaster! (When fvcking make sure your contraceptive is of high quality in order to avoid unwanted pregnancy/shot gun marriage).

Let her go! You still got time on your side, when you become more buoyant you can get women more better than her.

Right now, focus on your purpose. And have fun with other women.

Thanks.

If I were in your shoes I will tell her...
"Mummy I want to spend the rest of my life with your daughter, but I don't have the financial resource to take care of her, though I'm working hard towards that, but it may take some time.... I know you wouldn't want her to end up with a man who can't take care of her.... So if she feels she can't wait till I put things in place, then she should go ahead and accept other suitors, though I wouldn't like that, but I also won't allow myself to be pressured into something I'm not ready for"

Send this as a text to her by 12 ...

Normally na mumsy format be that
Anyway double your hustle, cause her mother
Wants to know ya intentions towards bae

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

Tell her exactly what you told us now. You may leave out the part where you said you initially wanted to just chop and clean mouth. If the mother isn't money crazed, she'd pray for you to make it in life quickly and encourage her daughter to be patient.

My mum did exactly that for me. She told me not to lose faith in my bf then (now hubby) that the fact that he didn't have then doesn't mean he'd be like that forever. Today, my husband worships my mum, you'd think she gave birth to him and there's nothing he can't do for her too. I envy them.

Get your acts together, work hard and work smart, you'll be fine. The girl seems like a good girl, don't lose her.

placeofallure:


Tell her exactly what you told us now. You may leave out the part where you said you initially wanted to just chop and clean mouth. If the mother isn't money crazed, she'd pray for you to make it in life quickly and encourage her daughter to be patient.

My mum did exactly that for me. She told me not to lose faith in my bf then (now hubby) that the fact that he didn't have then doesn't mean he'd be like that forever. Today, my husband worships my mum, you'd think she gave birth to him and there's nothing he can't do for her too. I envy them.

Get your acts together, work hard and work smart, you'll be fine. The girl seems like a good girl, don't lose her.

I humbly appreciate.

Favfables1:
If I were in your shoes I will tell her...
"Mummy I want to spend the rest of my life with your daughter, but I don't have the financial resource to take care of her, though I'm working hard towards that, but it may take some time.... I know you wouldn't want her to end up with a man who can't take care of her.... So if she feels she can't wait till I put things in place, then she should go ahead and accept other suitors, though I wouldn't like that, but I also won't allow myself to be pressured into something I'm not ready for"

Send this as a text to her by 12 ...

You get vibes.

Let me wait for the elders.