toujurs:
You are very right, that's her plan. She knows she is getting old, her emotional senses has been infected.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I don't pretend. All my good and otherwise traits, he knows them. If there's anything you can call me, it's not selfish. But, don't be too concerned about my money. Big turn off. So, just mind your business, abeg.

SenecaTheYonger:


You’re like all those Twitter people that want to argue over nothing out of boredom. The man said, “I don’t want a leech”, simple. Did he ever say he won’t be a provider?

“I don’t want a leech” doesn’t mean “I won’t be a provider”.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Abeg, shift make I see road.

pansophist:


You are right but I'm not excluding that. For example, a man that earns a million monthly can date a woman that earns 500k without any issues, because most convenience of life targets the majority, so woman earning half as a man can more or less, affords what he can give her. You won't feel like you are been leached upon because she can buy whatever you'll give her even if it will take her some time. That's my point.

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

bibianna:
When you flaunt wealth, you may attract the wrong set of women. Even if you date someone of your level, there's the possibility she might be an Oliver Olivia twist.

Why not try something different. There're still many responsible ladies out there. You'll be fine!

Carcholce:





“Please I need money to buy sanitary pad”

BigBashiru:
A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

pansophist:


You are right but I'm not excluding that. For example, a man that earns a million monthly can date a woman that earns 500k without any issues, because most convenience of life targets the majority, so woman earning half as a man can more or less, affords what he can give her. You won't feel like you are been leached upon because she can buy whatever you'll give her even if it will take her some time. That's my point.

Kaymicheal852:


Naija woman that eans 500k will see men earning 1m as not in there level lol �

They'll prefer a multi millionaire alhaji or rich CEO , musician, Footballer or at least you must be earning like 4-5 m monthly


Naija girls walks around with inflated hypergamy

BigBashiru:
A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

UyaiIncomparabl:


I have always survived before he was there. Stop asking me questions to run from your natural order.

bigpicture001:


You are so so correct on ur idealogy...

Women are all about money... That is why a man that doesn't cheat in marriage is a fool.

Don't be deceived by love of even a wife.. they are all after money..

BigBashiru:


So why can't you survive now that he is there. May God punish all the females like you who twist the bible for their personal benefit. The natural order is if you want moni u work for it whether or not a man is there...

UyaiIncomparabl:


Oga, abeg shift. Akagum.

pansophist:
This just came to my mind now. This idea of men should being the sole provider is a reason why lots of Nigerian women in the west are single. In a country when men and women earns equally, and lots of women earning more than men, only a stupid man will subscribe to slavery masked under relationship. Go to Nigerian churches, you'll see them, praying for husband, but their attitude is so disgusting, and they can't see it.

I wrote it here about three years ago ( can't find the comment) how a Nigerian girl was dumped by her Dutch boyfriend because when she started working, she couldn't contribute to their living expenses. Leaving her in the mercy of immigration for deportation. This guy paid all the bills with the hope that when she statted earning, it would be shared. Her greed shot her in the foot.

This was a girl that was able to convert her temporary student visa to a permanent one through the guy, a luck most students here wish they had. Imagine how heartless one have to be to keep her salary to herself, while expecting a young man to pay for everything. Basically she wants the man to be a 19th century man, while she is a 21st century woman.

I'll always be consistent with the notion that men should ONLY be in an equal relationship. The terrain has evolved, and you must evolved with it. In a case of divorce, there is no fear because you'll share your stuff equally. It is only men that married women with the poverty mindset of "men being the sole provider" that worries about sharing property after divorce. Nothing as suicidal to experience a woman you polished, to now be dragging your property and money you've built your entire life. Men evolve o. I come in peace.

Iyaebe:
You have traits of a misogynist(no pun intended),you just haven't realised it yet. I hope you will maintain this your equality principle when it's been applied on domestic issues expected to be strictly taken care of by women,same women that still work and earn.Be asking men to evolve but if women decide to evolve that's where una condemnation go rise and tagging women with all sorts of demonic names.Let us all evolve ooo.A man should be a major provider while his woman assist when the need arises,this is how it is in the African setting.Marriage began loosing it's true value when your likes started bringing the westernized ideas into it and hence the reason the 21st century marriages does not stand the tests of times.

pansophist:


I know that trick. If you can't refute them, you yab them but wait o, why the selective application of "African culture"? Its also cultural to marry more than one wife, should be uphold to it as sacrosanct? And oh, mental pads and tampons ain't African, so use tree branches and clothes stuffed inside your pant instead. And don't use this phone, hire a town Cryer. Culture lol, getat

pansophist:


I know that trick. If you can't refute them, you yab them but wait o, why the selective application of "African culture"? Its also cultural to marry more than one wife, should be uphold to it as sacrosanct? And oh, mental pads and tampons ain't African, so use tree branches and clothes stuffed inside your pant instead. Culture lol, getat.

Until you and your fellow women go back and reverse all the stupid laws that favour women and punish men, a man should evolve. Better stay Nigeria, don't ever leave that country. Ne there men wey meet your standards full. But if you ever cross overseas without marriage, you go single ni. Na fact be that.

Raalsalghul:


You will soon make a lot of enemies on this forum. Hope you are ready sha?

Iyaebe:
It is also western to have an open marriage, we will be having a lot of things to uphold.You are loosing your masculinity unknown to you.

Iyaebe:
Don't mind him and what he writes here, na him type dy spend pass.

pansophist:


Exactly, now you are getting me. I de spend gan, but not to a woman with your mindset. Never. Because na money you find come, you no fit love genuinely.

pansophist:
This just came to my mind now. This idea of men should being the sole provider is a reason why lots of Nigerian women in the west are single. In a country when men and women earns equally, and lots of women earning more than men, only a stupid man will subscribe to slavery masked under relationship. Go to Nigerian churches, you'll see them, praying for husband, but their attitude is so disgusting, and they can't see it.

I wrote it here about three years ago ( can't find the comment) how a Nigerian girl was dumped by her Dutch boyfriend because when she started working, she couldn't contribute to their living expenses. Leaving her in the mercy of immigration for deportation. This guy paid all the bills with the hope that when she statted earning, it would be shared. Her greed shot her in the foot.

This was a girl that was able to convert her temporary student visa to a permanent one through the guy, a luck most students here wish they had. Imagine how heartless one have to be to keep her salary to herself, while expecting a young man to pay for everything. Basically she wants the man to be a 19th century man, while she is a 21st century woman.

I'll always be consistent with the notion that men should ONLY be in an equal relationship. The terrain has evolved, and you must evolved with it. In a case of divorce, there is no fear because you'll share your stuff equally. It is only men that married women with the poverty mindset of "men being the sole provider" that worries about sharing property after divorce. Nothing as suicidal to experience a woman you polished, to now be dragging your property and money you've built your entire life. Men evolve o. I come in peace.

UyaiIncomparabl:


What's selfish about my comments? That I want a provider man? Aren't you supposed to provide for your woman and family? Come, I don't engage men with your dark mindset in a discussion. Thankfully, God gave me a man who knows how to provide. Your opinion don't matter.

Youngpo413:
Audio man.

UyaiIncomparabl:

K

pansophist:


I know that trick. If you can't refute them, you yab them but wait o, why the selective application of "African culture"? Its also cultural to marry more than one wife, should be uphold it as sacrosanct? And oh, mental pads and tampons ain't African, so use tree branches and clothes stuffed inside your pant instead. And use a town cryyer to talk to me not phone, make i send location? Culture lol, getat.

White wedding is not African as well, and if your husband die, them bury you with am. Until you and your fellow women go back and reverse all the stupid laws that favour women and punish men, a man should evolve. Better stay Nigeria, don't ever leave that country. Ne there men wey meet your standards full. But if you ever cross overseas without marriage, you go single like pringle. Na fact be that.