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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by CSTRR: 3:09pm On Mar 15, 2022
Watch this video from traversy and never give up.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XW1aGkzyjQg&t=6s

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by iamwhat: 3:18pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

Send me an email, I will like to employee you as a junior frontend dev

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by benjijosh(m): 3:20pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

Hey man, don’t feel bad.
Some will go wrong, some will go just fine. It’s all part of the game.

7years ago when I was just a newbie trying to get my bearings too, I felt this way if not worse but today, the case is different. Very different I must say.

Keep pushing.

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by ezewealth(m): 3:20pm On Mar 15, 2022
Every legit hustler has this phrase. It will pass n u will look back n say" how did I do it?".
At a point in ma life I tot I will be very useless, I cried every night, depression was craving in,
But today, although I am not yet made, but I moving towards it.
In this life bro, just keep ur hand clean, and push ur hustle, no matter what it is, God of the universe go see ur sweat n bless u.
As for woman leave that one, unless the woman understands your struggle and decide to stick with you. If konji hold u to stupor, carry condom meet ashi and cool off, n keep straight head to ur hustle.
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Curry30: 3:20pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:

I am open to trying anyother skill that can fetch me money while I practice. I've written before but I am still very much a novice, I am using a dell pc.

My brother, feeling under qualified or not good enough is normal. Every body at one point or the other feels the same way.

It's ok. Imposter syndrome is real. I feel the same thing everyday.

So here's candid advice. Keep doing what you're doing. Don't compare yourself with other people. At 30 you're not too old, you're just a few steps away from your destination. Keep working hard.

God will see you through.

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Jsaviour(f): 3:21pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

The secret is repetition repetition repetition
All experts were once amartuers. They only became experts with consistent practice and free services for trial.

Don't go for a real paid job when you know you haven't prepared to smash the goal. It will deflate your ego and self worth in a snap.

You also need to be sure that tech is your thing. People shout tech up and down but believe me, it's not for everyone.

Some are meant to function better in sales and marketing and other things even offline skills like driving.

But if you are sure you have the love and believe that tech is your thing then you need the discipline to be committed.

The root of fear and incompetence is always ignorance/lack of preparation.

You also need to work on your thought, mindset, belief, self talk and affirmation.

Do you focus on what is not working or what didn't work or do you focus on the possibilities ahead.
When you talk with and to yourself, what do you say, do you tell yourself that you are a failure or you tell yourself that you have the capacity to achieve better even in the face of obstacle?

What do you focus your thoughts on?

Do you believe you can and will succeed because the potential for success is in you or do you allow the present reality determine what you believe?

What are your affirmations? Your words are powerful e.g I am capable of achieving greatness, I am blessed, I am a success etc just to brainwash yourself until your subconscious believe you can actually succeed.

The world is a difficult place to live in so you have to equip yourself with the right information, people and skills that will turn you into the strong and resilient few.

There is no shortcut to success or expertise. It requires work. Sit your ass down and practice your craft until you can confidently execute your job.

Work on yourself until you begin to see the light. Cut off friends who will only encourage you to wallow in self pity like them. Avoid hiding away from people, join entrepreneurs groups, tech groups, coding groups, interact and read good books.

I wish you grace and help!!

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Bbbw: 3:36pm On Mar 15, 2022
Really
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by princeraymi: 3:36pm On Mar 15, 2022
Every master was once a disaster
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Goldbw122(m): 3:55pm On Mar 15, 2022
emmykk:


How can you be writing like this and be a cement offloaded seems you don't know you worth and can't think properly.

You can't say that, don't, that is a foundation for him are you helping him financially, No, that cement that he is offloading is like a foundation of source of income that he is sustaining him, to live that is a big hope for him.. so don't discourage him... He is just finding a way to get out of poverty... And I can see that he will make it...
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Error401: 4:00pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:


At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.
you are a very brilliant writer!!! May God help us all... Pls don't give up
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by jackyraw09: 4:14pm On Mar 15, 2022
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Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

Bro web design is art. You need a calm mind to create art.

My advise.

1. No matter what, don’t try to work when ur stressed out from your job. When u return home, always shower, eat and go to bed and work when u wake up, your creativity is at its highest when u just get out of bed, go figure how to harness that.

2. Switch to backend, that can be done whether your stressed or not albeit there will definitely be blunders when u code under stress but that can be debugged later and won’t show much on the front end

3. Don’t you dare fold! Getting a gig means your doing something right. Just keep at it; pressure makes diamonds and I am a living testimony wink

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by returncole: 4:20pm On Mar 15, 2022
This OP has just successfully rehearsed and scripted my story. My life @30 is taking twists and turns flavoured with confusion and hopelessness.

My passion ever since childhood is to become digitally enhanced and financially free. Recently, a company in Lagos called me for an interview after submitting my CV through their HR. Few days after the interview, the company notified me that they took interest in me due to the interview session they had with me asking how soon can I resume work.

Obviously, I jailbreaked information overnight through various resourceful hubs to get all what is needed to pass the interview but deep inside of me I knew I will need to engage in a more intense rigourous individual scholarship to keep up with job's requirements if ever I was considered because this is the first and not any type of job that I have ever done in a big company as this or in a structured official way as this ever in my life.

We discussed several other things over the phone including salary, job's requirements etc. GBAM! I was excited at this new call and job offer. However, shortly after this short lived joy, an instruction came from the CEO that I need to draft him a professional proposal that states how I wish or intend to deliver my duties.

Tragedy struck! I was dumbfounded, perplexed and had my thoughts scattered here and there like a thunderstorm. Well, just like I prepared for the interview and all, I summoned courage, gathered all the fragments, bits, and pieces of myself with combination of online resources I was able to put up a proposal within the 3 - days deadline.

To cut the long story short, I did not hear from the company anymore after days of submitting the proposal, I put a call through to the HR and she babbled and giggled on the phone, all her responses were incoherent and only pointing me to the fact that the CEO said they will still need a month more to decide if they will work with my proposal... Immediately I smelt things had went wrong. Was it that my proposal was bad? Is there anything I could correct? Any recommendation? Was my proposal rejected or accepted? All these questions got no definite answer from the HR.

I eventually assumed that possibly my inadequacies to handle this job had been filtered out from my proposal or perhaps, the company collected that proposals from me as a theft of my own intellectual property.

The worst side of this story was that I already informed my parents and necessary concerned person that I now secured a job due to the first call. I relocated to Lagos only because this company called me that they are willing to work with me, I have been devastated ever since then, marooned in Lagos since the beginning of this month; March 2022 till now still finding my bearing up.

I was able to draw strength from OP's write up and other benefiting comments and my prayer for OP and everyone of us going through alot of shits as this with no support or help will one day look back at this thread and give all the glory back to God Almighty.

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Goldbw122(m): 4:20pm On Mar 15, 2022
This is a nice advice for me, this just left my spirit.. wow.. thanks
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by pinkygurl(f): 4:26pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.
Practice makes perfect grin
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by TheGift: 4:35pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

Many have gone through similar and came out better on the other side. Your case does not have to be different.

First things first, you need to work on your mindset.

Move from dwelling on negativity and think of the positive possibilities

Move from complaining to being grateful. You can be grateful that you had this challenge at this stage rather than for a much bigger job.

Move from dwelling on the past it will only cause you to feel guilt and/or regret. Don’t think too far into the future, it will only cause you anxiety. Move to being in the present, focusing on now and the possibilities that can come from it, it will lead you closer to peace.

Stop second guessing yourself. Stop assuming what people may be thinking about you. Stop beating yourself up. You are special. You are not useless.

It’s a no-Brainer why you didn’t deliver. You were not adequately prepared. You bit off more than you can chew.

Three things ought to align if you must succeed at anything

1. Talent: You need to have the talent and necessary skill level for whatever job you take on and/or the talent to learn quickly.

2. Market: There needs to be a market and significant level of demand for your talent. Sometimes you can create the market demand for your talent (product, service or solution)

Passion: Are you into IT development because that is the trending career or because you actually have a passion for it? Passion is critical, because it is what will keep you going even when you face challenges whether technical or financial. It is what helps you learn perseverance , which is critical to succeed.

I wish you the very best in all your endeavors
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by olioxx(m): 4:41pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy life itself is unfair, and so when disappointments comes you have to restrategize, plan, get up and keep moving.
Never Ever Pity Yourself.
I just want to let you know that failure is inevitable, but once you fail get up.
In addition to what other people might have told you I will like to share practical tips and advice with you.
My first advice is to FOCUS. Second, don't be too HARD on yourself. Third, always look at the big picture then narrow your view.
Now let me show you the way by means of these tips.
Tip1: If you want to be good at front end development, please please go to FreeCodeCamp. They have a very good curriculum you can learn with, infact you can use it as a reference. https://freecodecamp.org
Tip2: Try to complete those projects to earn a certificate, you can add those to your portfolio.
Tip3: Once you are done with the Responsive Web Development track, try to give yourself a day or two to assimilate what you learned.
Tip4: Learn JavaScript and the Algorithm and Data Structures, all these are in FreeCodeCamp curriculum, at these point if it seems hard, please relax. Take it a step at a time. Once again complete the project, build the palindrome, the cisear cipher, the word mixers all of them, if you have issues I'll share the code with you.
Tip5: Move to learning bootstrap, sass, react and redux, once again these are in freecodecamp curriculum, at these point complete the project, the projects want to test your understanding of UseState and UseEffect hooks.
Tip6: At these point relax and assimilate all what you have learned.
Tip7: Study Material UI, the goal of Material UI is to simplify your development experience, so study it. Look at all the various components.
Tip8: Try to replicate some open source projects from Material UI, of particular mention is RMUIF. You see this project has a lot of things to teach you, you will learn how to structure your code base, how to properly name variables, how to use your import and export, useContext hook, learn how to integrate firebase into your project, learn how to securely store your environment variables, learn how to authenticate users through firebase. At these point when you host on Netlify, you will research how to attach your environment variables.
All these looks buggy, but the only learning resources
are FreeCodeCamp and Material UI, then relax, don't say you will complete these in 1 week, because it is not possible, take your time and learn at your pace. And if frustration begins to kick in, guy man play music or better still find one strong gin drink, you no kill person.

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by brimdans(m): 4:49pm On Mar 15, 2022
Brother, it seems we're in the same pot. I'm also 30. Working for an organization who pushed me out without pay, a good Samaritan helped me with a link to apply a job. It seems I didn't pass the interview, and I felt worthless. But we'll continue trying untill we succeed.

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by lebienconnu: 4:52pm On Mar 15, 2022
I actually read this, did not comment and left the thread. On second thought I discovered I did not do well. So I am back here to right a wrong. " Always correct your mistake". A wise man once told me.

Guy, there is only one solution to your problem. Knowledge. That is it.
Try as much as possible to learn the Front End Engineering you have delved into very well, Don't take other opportunities that come along until you know it very well. Then enter market when you are stuffed up and the rest will be history.

To fight that depression just keep your eyes on the trophy. Just imagine yourself chilling out at a beach with your babe while playing with your latest version MacBook and smile away your sorrow.

You are fighting a battle right now. The outcome , a win or a loss, absolutely depends on you and you alone. Let out a loud roar and say confidently and convincingly that " I am winning this battle".

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by brimdans(m): 4:54pm On Mar 15, 2022
returncole:
This OP has just successfully rehearsed and scripted my story. My life @30 is taking twists and turns flavoured with confusion and hopelessness.

My passion ever since childhood is to become digitally enhanced and financially free. Recently, a company in Lagos called me for an interview after submitting my CV through their HR. Few days after the interview, the company notified me that they took interest in me due to the interview session they had with me asking how soon can I resume work.

Obviously, I jailbreaked information overnight through various resourceful hubs to get all what is needed to pass the interview but deep inside of me I knew I will need to engage in a more intense rigourous individual scholarship to keep up with job's requirements if ever I was considered because this is the first and not any type of job that I have never done in a big company as this or in a structured official way as this ever in my life.

We discussed several other things over the phone including salary, job's requirements etc. GBAM! I was excited at this new call and job offer. However, shortly after this short lived joy, an instruction came from the CEO that I need to draft him a professional proposal that states how I wish or intend to deliver my duties.

Tragedy struck! I was dumbfounded, perplexed and had my thoughts scattered here and there like a thunderstorm. Well, just like I prepared for the interview and all, I summoned courage, gathered all the fragments, bits, and pieces of myself with combination of online resources I was able to put up a proposal within the 3 - days deadline.

To cut the long story short, I did not hear from the company anymore after days of submitting the proposal, I put a call through to the HR and she babbled and giggled on the phone, all her responses were incoherent and only pointing me to the fact that the CEO said they will still need a month more to decide if they will work with my proposal... Immediately I smelt things had went wrong. Was it that my proposal is bad? Is there anything I could correct? Any recommendation? Was my proposal rejected or accepted? All these questions got no definite answer from the HR.

I eventually assumed that possibly my inadequacies to handle this job had be filtered out from my proposal or perhaps, the company collected that proposals from me as a theft if my own intellectual property.

The worst side of this story was that I already informed my parents and necessary concerned person that I now secured a job due to the first call. I relocated to Lagos only because this company called me that they are willing to work with me, I have been devastated ever since then, marooned in Lagos since the beginning of this month; March 2022 till now still finding my bearing up.

I was able to draw strength from OP's write up and other benefiting comments and my prayer to OP and everyone of us going through alot of shits as this with no support or help will one day look back at this thread and give all the glory back to God Almighty.
Bro, this seems like a a coincidence, I'm equally 30, same happened in an organization, thinking I've already secured the job, only at the last minute for everything to change.
I equally informed my parents about it, only to become a wanderer here in Benue. God will see us through

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by odaniel1(m): 4:59pm On Mar 15, 2022
Teettyllayho:
Try writing. You write well. And please stop being too hard on yourself or being negative.
Go to literature section and job section on Nairaland. You should get someone to hire you.

BUT

Read about the basics of writing online before you apply. And use GRAMMARLY to edit your jobs. You can manage that until you're good at programming OR you may fall in love with writing and leave programming..... All the best.

Omo this Grammarly don cast finally.. grin
remember when I had sub editors in my former unit feeling like english professors, not knowing AI blessed their works with a paraphrasing tool. Indeed working smart is diffrt from working hard...

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Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Edipet(m): 5:09pm On Mar 15, 2022
Techguy96:

Honestly frontend is not easy, I nor go lie for you, especially building a responsive website.

U need to take ur time to study responsive design to be good at frontend.

Also using tools like bootstrap or material ui will be alot better than using vanilla css.

I nor even dey bother use vanilla css again. Everything I do now is bootstrap. I'm currently learning react with material ui tho.

Omo nothing in this life is easy, we just have to push to the end.

As long as u have life, u can't give up. I follow a guy on Twitter who went on to study computer science in his 40s, he was already married with kids. Dude still got a job after graduation.

The founder of KFC didn't achieve success till he was around 60yrs. One just have to keep trying as long as u have life.
can you guide me please....I want to change me career to IT
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by bigtt76(f): 5:15pm On Mar 15, 2022
Stop beating yourself, many have done worse and still standing kiss


Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Edipet(m): 5:21pm On Mar 15, 2022
luizpippo:



What online skill will be easier for me to learn.

i already have a HP probook, a samsumg tab, an Ipad mini and a andriod phone. also, have free data from Mondays to fridays but chasing workers on construction site as a civil engineer and also travelling around a bit as a diesel generator engineer takes some of my time.
you are still looking for more after having va great career.
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by iFESTAC680(m): 5:23pm On Mar 15, 2022
You write well and constructive too, have you tried writing as a career it's lucrative and requires little or no startups.

You have to be happy with yourself, plus, consistency is key here
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by Edipet(m): 5:33pm On Mar 15, 2022
funsho75:


firstly bro... your are doing great... and u will still blow more project...

i don tataly delete a website becasue i was throubleshoting it, then i resinstalled, i was till having same problem... then i realized i should have just remove all the plugin and start instailling one one, that solved it but i have to wasted tim...

so u just started srewing up and get use to it, u only failed if u face the same challenge again an u where unable to solve it...

and about coding trying and do one or two project, it could be free for a freind and personal, so as to get busy...

but don liv your job yet, u cant code without eating... but try and reduce how much energy u put in hard labor
which basic programming language would be good for a novice...I mean stack novice that just want to start
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by nerilove(m): 6:00pm On Mar 15, 2022
flames007:
Ever heard of the word consistency?

The problem with this generation is:
1) we've lost the ability to start over when we make mistakes the first few times.
2)The information you can come across is so wide, varied and absolutely ginormous that it drowns; if you don't have laser focus, trust me you'd drown in the sea of information. information that could have easily helped you to build wealth.
3)As a result of No.2, you want to explore every option. Now herein lies the problem: you will only want to dedicate very little time to learning say backend engineering, because you're in a hurry to run off to explore other options -YOU WILL DEPLETE YOUR ENERGY. FOCUS!!

It's true, failure is painful. But if you just focus on the frontend dev you're doing now, i believe you will smile soon.
I love you so much bro for this advice (no homo). This is one of the top 3 advices given to him. You're indeed a mentor
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by micxwell(m): 6:03pm On Mar 15, 2022
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.
You are what you think you are. Work on your mindset bro. I once failed a basic question like this in an interview, cried bitterly back then in 2018. Guess what, I'm occupying a lead position in another organisation with a better pay. Just don't give up and stop using your age to guage your success pls.
Re: My Incompetence Just Cost Me A Job, I Feel Worthless by kokoboy(m): 6:06pm On Mar 15, 2022
I spent about two months of focused learning and solving the problems on FreeCodeCamp, that really improved my algorithm and problem solving skills. I got a job as a developer so I quit my job of five years which had become a comfort zone. A well-structured learning is the best bet.

It hasn't been easy so far, there are always stuffs I don't understand but I know it will surely get better with time. I am very optimistic about the future. I will appreciate anybody with an office workplace in Ikeja where I can drop by and get work done.

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