So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up

if only SIMPle men boys out there can have abundance mentality you will know girls ain't shit


This is the same thing those pussyyy people do whenever they are in sexrelationship, even before they break up with you they already have handful of 'toaster' on their DMs



What else do you offer in the sexrelationship even with his usual spending than your rotten punanl


cheer up girl, the dlck ain't yours it just your turn

Mtcheww

Maybe him wan change soup...

Confront him then leave,maybe the love has faded nothing like Mental Issues.

Maybe he truly has mental problems.

But come to think of it though! You guys weren't together or technically dating when he had a fling.

So, maybe you should reconsider your thought pattern.

He bleeped the other girl and figured out that you were a better fucker so he ran back to u.....enjoy your relationship

But you broke up na.... It's not cheating if you broke up with him.

Which one is You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything

What exactly have you done for that young man in that relationship? What exactly have you offered him in the relationship other than your pussy? Do you think we're kids here? You better stop this your Jezebelic manipulations.

Ocholu:
Maybe he truly has mental problems.

But come to think of it though! You guys weren't together or technically dating when he had a fling.

So, maybe you should reconsider your thought pattern.

So you think it was okay for him to be trying to make things work with me and also sleeping with a stranger he met, twice! Not like I wasn't responding positively.

GooodHardDick:
Which one is You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything

What exactly have you done for that young man in that relationship? What exactly have you offered him in the relationship other than your pussy? Do you think we're kids here? You better stop this your Jezebelic manipulations.

Oh shut up your stupid mouth! You think every girl has nothing to offer, you have no idea at all.

czarr:
But you broke up na.... It's not cheating if you broke up with him.

It feels wrong...why am I this hurt?

missimelda01:
So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

He doesn’t have mental problems...he just lacks sexual discipline...a lot of men are like that....95% actually... the remaining 5% were like that too but later changed....
While he may love you for real, it’s a red flag you should not ignore, because marriage will not automatically change him...

it takes a while for men to realize all they want and need is in the woman they already have..
.sometimes, they never realize it...many end up with babies outside marriage and even bring disease home in worst cases...

sadly the next guy you are going to is probably same....I wish you luck..

missimelda01:

It feels wrong...why am I this hurt?

you are an emotional wreck. You are asking him to cater to your emotions in a way that would make him not be himself....there is nothing wrong with him, you are just an emotional cry baby.

missimelda01:
So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

He is not your husband yet, stop fighting for yeye rights.

advanceDNA:


He doesn’t have mental problems...he just lacks sexual discipline...a lot of men are like that....95% actually... the remaining 5% were like that too but later changed....
While he may love you for real, it’s a red flag you should not ignore, because marriage will not automatically change him...

it takes a while for men to realize all they want and need is in the woman they already have..
.sometimes, they never realize it...many end up with babies outside marriage and even bring disease home in worst cases...

sadly the next guy you are going to is probably same....I wish you luck..

don't forget you are also included in the 95% estimation

una go just open mouth WAaaaaaa!

LIGHTHEARTED0:


don't forget you are also included in the 95% estimation

una go just open mouth WAaaaaaa!

Its not an insult....na truth
Lack of disciple is mostly why people cheat...
both men and women... it’s not lack of love..we are just used to changing channel up and down but know where our heart belong..

Maybe you don't give it to him good enough,abi aren't you the type that just lye down like log,no action no anything, , madam get better at your game shedi it's only sex not Asif he's dating the girl.

Shout to all the redpiller in the house.


Like if you agree with the pix attached

What is confusing you??

Leaving him or leaving his money?

Damnnnn!!!! LoL
You’re so funny. Fr!!! U really mean he has mental problems Lmao

He doesn't have mental problem. But you shouldn't be this alarmed since the fling happened the week you guys broke up. He didn't cheat on you, you guys broke up and he had a fling. You guys are back now and he is ignoring the girl and that's why the girl is consistent with the messages.

You should understand that he did it when you guys were no longer together.

missimelda01:

So you think it was okay for him to be trying to make things work with me and also sleeping with a stranger he met, twice! Not like I wasn't responding positively.

It was during the period you broke up, it isn't cheating.
And besides he loves you and not the one night stand girl. He just needed someone to relief him of his stress, that doesn't change his feelings for you.
You have feeling that you are not good enough.
The truth is, he is not good enough for you. Accept this part of him or leave him or tame the beast inside of him. Choose

missimelda01:
So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

Pls define you guys relationship.
He is your fiance? your boyfriend or your bestie?

If he is your fiance then I think the best decision is move on so to to avoid future heartbeat. But only make this move if y'all stop talking and eventually make up within a short period of time( 2 weeks max)
Otherwise, then i think you both will need to have a face to face conversation about it.

missimelda01:

So you think it was okay for him to be trying to make things work with me and also sleeping with a stranger he met, twice! Not like I wasn't responding positively.

As long as you two weren't together at that time, he didn't cheat on you ...

missimelda01:

It feels wrong...why am I this hurt?

The only reason why you feel hurt is because, he found your replacement almost immediately and as such, your ego took a hit ...

czarr:
you are an emotional wreck. You are asking him to cater to your emotions in a way that would make him not be himself....there is nothing wrong with him, you are just an emotional cry baby.

na this thing about you nairaland men folks wey make me dislike una. Y'all Bloody Hypocrites .
If it was a man who came here with same story about his girlfriend you lot would call him a fool/simp and also judge and slut shame Nigerian women to pieces.
You guys really need to grow up else all the ladies go leave romance section for una.
They are not much here again sef.

Dear Missimelda01,

I usually don't get worked up on relationships issues on Nl but for you, I will try to analyze your situation and give you the best advice I can.

Your boyfriend is obviously a teen in a man's clothing. He has the mind of a teen who wants to explore yet fear losing a good woman (You). You are a rare gem, a scarce jewel he may regret losing for the rest of his life but his testosterone is overshadowing his thinking faculty.
He wants to keep the good girl, while he explore other options as well. He is distracted, sadly at your detriment.
Now, here is the question: What do you want?
You have three choices which are:
1) Be the good, calm , forgiving wife material as allow him have his way. Yes you don't mind sharing him do you? As long as you are number one and earns the ring.
2) Be the good, understanding but strict lady who at this point does not mind losing him if he refuses to change. That's giving him a second chance to change his ways and be committed to you alone. In this case it's a 50-50 thing.
3) Be the dismissive lady and call the whole sh^t off!

Please choose wisely and don't forget to put yourself first here.

Imagine the comments from this hypocritical nairaland boys– Blaming her and exonerating the guy
If reverse was the case and a man came here to wail, una go even create topic in reference to this thread to cuss women. Una too childish abeg.

czarr:
you are an emotional wreck. You are asking him to cater to your emotions in a way that would make him not be himself....there is nothing wrong with him, you are just an emotional cry baby.

This is so insensitive!

Would you have typed this if the poster was a guy?

Descottes:
Imagine the comments from this hypocritical nairaland boys– Blaming her and exonerating the guy
If reverse was the case and a man came here to wail, una go even create topic in reference to this thread to cuss women. Una too childish abeg.

how will u understand when u are still ajebuter they are still feeding

missimelda01:
So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

SMH, Nairaland still have a long way to go. Just listen to the advice being dished out up there, just because it was a guy who cheated. If the reverse was the case. Infact it will be on front page by now because of the traffic. Bunch of biased people and the moderators aren't doing anything about it.

@op, As a lady, you shouldn't have bring your relationship issues here. This platform does not favor women, My advice is that you should open a reddit account and take your relationship issues to that platform.

You will later know the difference between heaven and hell. You gonna be reading mature and first class advice, people there are Angels from heaven while people here are demons from hell.

I take my relationship advice to that platform not here, abi do want me to be a laughing stock? Just take a look at czarr, GooodHardDick, Uzomacharles, Moeman and co advice. SMH.. My dear please, Avoid those Slowpokes up there advice and wait for the wise ones to come. Okay! Because Me, I'm very raw. If I give you my advice about this issue, you will just hate men for life.

Mtchhheeewwww.. Bush!!

HarunaWest:
He is not your husband yet, stop fighting for yeye rights.

And I wonder why there had been countless threads opened by guys here fighting for "yeye rights" when they are not married to the girls yet!

You lots are so despicable !