My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

Some guys are just heartless. Haba d Lord is ur strength.
For those of you quoting me, i have this to say, i dont knw what she might have done to the guy in the past, but atleast forgiveness is divine. If he was not able to forgive he should have let her go a long time ago instead of wasting her time like dat. A child of 5yrs should b in primary 1 i think.
Time wait 4 no one, a time lost is irredeemable, time is priceless, i will never encourage a guy of female 2 waste someones time, hence my stance.
FTC dedicated to my loving family

Look up to God and draw strength from him. I pray he sends right man to you.

Hmmm...nawa ooo.

Holly Gram I COMPRISUN ur CAPRISUN!


So SORRY MAN!


U have to hold tight and be strong..


E fit be sey God de TRY save u from something!


BETTER days ahead bro...


D PESIN u want might NOT really be for U!


I believe God is trying to SAVE u from something!


I have dat STRONG BELIEVE!


We humans don't really UNDERSTAND de ways of God or d wayz of d SPIRITUAL!


make I no too CAPRISUN MUCH..


just take HEART and be strong.. MAN wey deserve U, go JAZZ in ur Life..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Habaaaa, this is too much for a heart to bear.

The truth is, thats not your man.

Your man will come and he won't break your heart.

Sorry about your efforts.

Your day will come.

Good girls no deserve this kind setup o.

That boy must be a member of APC BMC

You should be happy you weren’t entangled with the CEO OF LIZARDBBQGRILL, by now e for done grill and barbecue you finish



Don’t worry a good guy like Pastor Righteousness is on his way

Ht happens

Op kpele oooo...but na so una women dey do some guys na....he sets u up and equip u sacrifice his all and heart....yet some of una go still follow another man....may ur broken heart be mended.... meanwhile u sound desperate for marriage... always mentioning your age....

So sorry to read this
But as a lady dating a guy for 5 years, you should know his level of commitment even in the first year of ur relationship. A serious guy take u entirely into his live within this period.
However, I bliv that's not your man as God just save you from imminent disaster in marriage. You husband will locate and marry you without you stressing yourself dear.

This is really so painful . Real definition of betrayal.

My heart goes out to you sis. Just hang in there okay. It's only time it'll take but you'll surely heal.

He doesn't deserve you at all. And he'll get served in greater measures.

I am really sorry dear.
That man is pure wickedness, if he isn't interested in the relationship anymore why not tell you than doing this to you and to think the relationship lasted for 5 years
It's will take time but I know you will be fine, just find something to distract yourself

Well you just have to take heart and move on. He really did you bad stuff but you could've also done same to him in near future, who knows. Sorry you hear. He will surely come back with apologies someday, they all do, and when that time comes, refer him to the priest and tell him to go fucck himself.

People come and complain of heart breaks, saying they are amazing human beings, did everything right and don’t deserve to be treated bad...yeah, aren’t we all good people??

But the truth is we ignore a lot, and we assume we are doing everything right just becos the next person is smiling and the sex is great....

we allow little excitement impair our judgement, making us ignore red flags, and the things that truly matter.... when the bomb is now dropped on us we start to assume we were treated badly....

did we really do everything right?
were we really perfect for that person that left of for someone else??

Yeah some people can be mean...It still doesn’t change the fact that we ignore a lot of things that allow other to be mean to the us..

.at the end of the day, what they did my be hurtful, but they are just doing what’s best for them......everyone is entitled to that.

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram I COMPRISUN ur CAPRISUN!


So SORRY MAN!


U have to hold tight and be strong..


E fit be sey God de TRY save u from something!


BETTER days ahead bro...


D PESIN u want might NOT really be for U!


I believe God is trying to SAVE u from something!


I have dat STRONG BELIEVE!


We humans don't really UNDERSTAND de ways of God or d wayz of d SPIRITUAL!


make I no too CAPRISUN MUCH..


just take HEART and be strong.. MAN wey deserve U, go JAZZ in ur Life..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

So you be normal human being with feelings? No ashawo house banny with standing boobs?

Jmarjr:
Some guys are just heartless. Haba d Lord is ur strength

woman never do you something

Lol!
The guy is a real niggar!

Send me location and date of the wedding make i go present am with very chilled red wine.

Am sure you did worse to guys when "time" was still on your side. Now you dey find emotional support for nairaland at your old age.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

When you knew he's a member of APC, you should have known they're like that.

Like Buhari like your previous guy. All of then are the same.

The guy left you because you're supporting Tinubu for President.

What am I saying self?

Comfort yourself with Odogwu bitters and you'll be alright.

Hmmm

That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

only God knows the guys you played and insulted/rejected for this your man, one of them would have been serious, next time pray to God for the power to make a good choice.

DryMouth:
woman never do you something

guy I don see hell 4 women hand, but i b sum1 wit conscience dats all. Ppl are always bound 2 hurt u. Is part of life

Aswear with my life, I never cheated on him. As a matter of fact I tell him whenever any guy asked me out. If it's based on cheating then I am practically innocent

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

That minor issue we had you decided to bring it here.

Let me use this opportunity to advice girls in general, but before I start, sorry for what he put you through.

You must know that any guy who isn't geninuely born again and is in a sexual relationship with you, definitely has other girls he's keeping.

As the time for him to settle down draws closer, he'll begin to narrow down his long list of girls until there's about 2 or 3 of you girls left.

Now he'll begin to check the characters of the 3 of you, he'll check the most generous, the one who doesn't get angry and forgives easily, the one who listens to him, the one who understands him better...etc..

If you're the type that's always quarreling with him him every now and then, or he suspects you are having contact with your ex, or agressive, or dominating, or stingy and demanding...you will be edited out of the list until it remains the last girl standing. Which will end up as his wife.

After marriage, he'll begin to contact you runners up one after the other, you'll become his auldtery partner while his wife will be his trophy.

This is the life cycle of the average worldly Nigerian male.

I see him contacting you before the end of this week to apologise and requesting to see you so as to make you his auldtery partner.

This I have seen.

FalseProphet1:

what do you see? Prophet of doom.

In a short cousins are now lovers where my cousins
Sorry Heartbreak na national cake
You will get over it in no time.

Omo so sad!!
This guy work on you badly oooo....
Just Move On

czarr:
So you be normal human being with feelings? No ashawo house banny with standing boobs?

Holly Gram


MY Gee.. Na woman born me NAA..


I be human being wey turn Ganja Planter!



WTF MAN!

Graceihotu:
Aswear with my life, I never cheated on him. As a matter of fact I tell him whenever any guy asked me out. If it's based on cheating then I am practically innocent

How is your relationship with his family? Does his mom like you, are you friends with his siblings?

His Mum is late but I am extremely close to his only Brother

czarr:
How is your relationship with his family? Does his mom like you, are you friends with his siblings?

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

Exactly bro. My own cheated on me and broke up with me. Bow she is back to me and hoping i would marry her. I will graciously waste her time cos am obviously not in love with her anymore and marry another person.