It hurts me that in Africa especially Nigeria, parents are never wrong, when you end up with abusive parents who made every day of your life a living hell you're expected to keep mum and take everything like a donkey, you're not expected to defend yourself, they're always right, you shouldn't speak up against injustice too Incase your kids do the same to you, I will speak for myself.

I have the most terrible parents in the world, my dad is a selfish deadbeat, who has no idea whats going on in my life, my best memories of him were the countless times he returned home drunk to beat and abuse everybody infact I lost count of how many times he did that, he would be drunk and jolly until he push the gate open and enter the yard, his face will change and he will become violent and devilish, he will curse everyone and beat anyone who dare to talk back, I remember one time he beat my mum until she became motionless, she lay there like she's dead and all my 9yr old self could do was watch from afar because I'm too feeble to interfere, he will beat me too and curse me, in as much as I try to avoid the curses by being a weakling I still end up getting over 100 of it as I grow up from one issue to another, one time he was cursing my sister for taking 30# egg from his poultry and all I said was I rebuke it in Jesus name, I paid dearly for this mistake, he didn't talk to me for more than a year, he didn't pay my school fee, he didn't even know I exist, whenever anything good is coming our way, he will make sure he destroy it, he will stop others from helping me and my siblings and we are his children, he has disowned me several times, currently we're not even talking to each other rn, my dad is the devil, he has other kids before me and my siblings, he prefers them to us, he always call us( me and my siblings) bastards.

And my mum is not a saint either, she's not even fit to be a mother, she doesn't curse much but she's the most violent and foul woman I have ever known, recently I have been good to her, footing her bills and buying clothes, phones and giving her feeding money from the little I make online, something happened between her and my kid sis and she attacked her to the point of getting her naked in front of us, this girl is in ss2, I intervene and told her it's not good then she turned the violence towards me, insulted me to stupor, saying I should have died when I was small and sickly, that she won't be grateful for anything I did for her that I owe her and everything I ever did for her is a fraction of the debt I owe her, she called me a thief and yahoo boy, that I don't work and I have money, that from now henceforth she won't collect my stolen money anymore, she removed her sim from the phone I bought her and threw it at me, I started crying, I am 24 and I am crying for a woman, I am not a weakling, I am crying because I was deeply hurt due to her words, I have hot temper and whenever someone is doing stuff to me and I can't do it back to that person I feel like crying, I can easily beat her up but I restraint myself, ran to my room and locked myself, she came to my window and continued insulting me till 11pm when she got tired, she started around 8pm, yes that's how violent she is.

The next day she called every relative she can and told them I collected everything I bought for her back, I then called her a liar, she ran to where I was sitting and started slapping me, she slapped me like four times and I still sat and did nothing because parents are never wrong in Africa, that day suicide was the only thing going on in my mind, if I decide to talk about my parents I won't end it in a decade, they're the worst set of parents anyone can get, my mom is the symbol of parental favoritism, she prefers her firstborn over everyone else, she overlooks everything this spoilt fool at forty does, he is not under pressure, I am old enough to leave my parents house but my older brother isn't, she still feeds him when I starve to death, I would get sick to the point of death and she won't even ask anyone if they have seen me that day, but my older brother would get a headache and she won't mind selling herself to take him to a hospital, my heart is heavy I can't continue like this, the only good side about my ordeal is, the love I didn't get from my parents I will transfer them to my future kids, the hate and suffering I got from my parents have made me an independent person, I became someone that is wired to believe no one owes me anything in life, not even love, I became someone who hates association, I have few friends even though I'm quite popular, I have so much compassion in me that I find it hard to say no to people who are suffering, yes that's what their hate has made me, my kids and future wife won't experience what I experienced, infact if you know me in person you will doubt that I came from a dysfunctional family, I am stronger because of what they did to me.


Parent can be wrong too, even though that's not true in Africa, any parent that is unjust to you, stand up for yourself, let them keep cursing, sorry for the long read.

You are not alone bro sometimes i feel like commiting suicide but am here still alive, healthy and strong.

Honestly, it's best you leave that house, and focus on the people that matter(ur sister). I didn't really have a good relationship with my mum. The story plenty sha. But now, me and her Neva jam since 2018, the day of my sister wedding. We never talk for like two years. Let it remain that way. I really don't care what people say cos wen I was suffering they were no where to be found. The kind emotional torture wey I face made me have a different mindset about marriage.

Pls leave that house and ghost them. Whether they come looking for u or not, shld not bother you. Though I know we humans see things differently.

sorextee:
Honestly, it's best you leave that house, and focus on the people that matter(ur sister). I didn't really have a good relationship with my mum. The story plenty sha. But now, me and her Neva jam since 2018, the day of my sister wedding. We never talk for like two years. Let it remain that way. I really don't care what people say cos wen I was suffering they were no where to be found. The kind emotional torture wey I face made me have a different mindset about marriage.

Pls leave that house and ghost them. Whether they come looking for u or not, shld not bother you. Though I know we humans see things differently.

I am saving up for an apartment now seriously I can't wait to go faraway and change my phone number, I'll only reach my sister via social media and forget about them, if they can at least show me an ounce of love, even if it's one day, it'll go a long way in healing my heart, but no, they are as cold as stone, maybe I'm paying for something wrong I did, I just can't place why God let me go through such, I'm loosing my belief in God gradually I might become an atheist.

Ebakere:
You are not alone bro sometimes i feel like commiting suicide but am here still alive, healthy and strong.

Comforting to know I'm not the only one.

And some of you will have Great parents who were there for you and catered for your every needs and you repay them with evil or take thier presence in your life for granted, see what others are going through, if you have good parents please cherish them, as for you Op, life isn't a bed of roses, some are orphans praying to have any parent even if they're devilish and violent, life no balance, learn from it and make sure it dies with you, don't project your experience to others, you can end up miserable only if you allow it, move on with your life, from the look of things you don't really need them. Lalasticlala this is fp worthy.

Manofsteelx:
I am saving up for an apartment now seriously I can't wait to go faraway and change my phone number, I'll only reach my sister via social media and forget about them, if they can at least show me an ounce of love, even if it's one day, it'll go a long way in healing my heart, but no, they are as cold as stone, maybe I'm paying for something wrong I did, I just can't place why God let me go through such, I'm loosing my belief in God gradually I might become an atheist.

Never stop believing your creator