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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Acidosis(m): 10:05pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
creepsyme: My instinct, when I read that post, was that you spent a lot training your siblings/family. This is why I agree with the idea of self discovery. I think you have invested a significant part of your life making people happy at the expense of your personal fulfilment. It's very evident from your narration. Not only did you sponsor 4 of your siblings' education, but you also go as far as patronising people who are out to scam you. Maybe it's a personality issue, maybe you don't know how to say no, I wouldn't know but one thing is certain, it is not too late to fix things. In your path to self discovery, deliverance may be necessary. I don't have a personal experience of how deliverance changed my finance or relationship but I'm convinced beyond doubts that prayers work. You have seen a pattern of late marriage. That's a good pointer. Many of our ancestors committed grave crimes. Some sacrificed human beings, some raped women, etc. Sadly, someone must pay for these crimes. Many victims had no access to a justice system so curses and spells were the only available tools. Some families were cursed and still cursed till date. Some forefathers worshipped idols so much that they dedicated their unborn generations to stup!d vindictive gods. If you have access to aged people in your village, approach them and get real life and terrifying stories. When people compare us with the west, it usually don't make sense. At the time the US and Britain already had laws in place to checkmate crimes, our forefathers were still killing albinos and twins for "Oro" and new yam festivals. It took the intervention of a few missionaries to address some of these issues. Bottom line, I'm totally for and not against deliverance to delist yourself from any known and unknown covenant. How to go about it, however, is the challenge. Too many doom and fake pastors out there. This might sound senseless but your chances of getting delivered in a 21st century AC fitted church is slim. Bible school pastors can't help either. Ministry for many pastors today is just a means of survival (an avenue to gain followers, money, and fame). 6 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f): 1:29am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Klass99: I did not want to quote the whole post but for the advice you have given the lady, all I can say is, may you live long. Your response is the most balanced and practical. You're Catholic I presume? I'm usually short of words sometimes on matters such as the one the OP is dealing with because many times, I take a very different approach to things and they mostly work for me, but I wouldn't know whether my advice would be helpful or damaging to their situation. I tend to do stuff others would consider bold and unusual. Normally I find it easy to make peace with certain situations, especially if I can't change it. Were I to be in the OP's shoes I'd have made peace with the situation a long time ago. Wouldn't even put up any fight at all. But that's me. I hate being controlled by anxiety. It's the devil's weapon. I realised one thing a long time ago. The more fearful you are of an eventuality, the higher the likelihood of it happening. Job 3:25 - "For the thing which I greatly feared has come upon me, and that which I dreaded has befallen me." Job was a witness. People have a way of sensing what you fear, and this phenomenon is very common with the "logical" gender. They can sense when a woman fears to be abandoned, a woman who fears the stigma of spinsterhood, a woman who fears I'd advise the OP to disconnect herself from the fear of 'stigma' or loneliness and surround herself with positive mammals. What will be, will be. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f): 1:48am On Mar 25, 2022 |
creepsyme: Do you have any passion? Interests? 2 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by azammi(m): 3:21am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Anybody that mind kobo must be new to nairaland or just confused. Ishilove: |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by socialmediaman: 3:26am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Ishilove: Why does this apply mostly to countries like Nigeria? Is life supposed to work out the same for everyone, even if they didn't play by the rules that apply to getting what they want? When I look closer at her narrative, she came from a poor family like many Nigerians whose parents cannot sponsor their higher education. She sacrificed her life to train her younger ones, if not, they probably would’ve had no university education. I think men would've seen the weight she carried on her shoulder and chosen to not be a part of it, probably she wasn't in a hurry to get married either, and stayed too long in relationships that didn't eventually work out. Maybe she started realizing time wasn't on her side after she finished training them and saw how they've moved on. It could be compared to a single mother who spends and dedicates her life training her children and before she knows what's happening, they're getting married and moving on. It's sad to see your children moving on though it's the best outcome for them, and some of these mothers begin to feel left alone and imagine they also would've loved to live their own lives that they put on hold to raise their children. This is a familiar story that I've seen happen to other people. There may be a pattern of her cousins also not getting married, but she also admits that her siblings are ALL married. What extra magic did they do that she hasn't done? Life probably just happened for them, I think the issue of her cousins is just a coincidence that she has decided to hold on to, to justify a spiritual perspective. People always need some justification. Rather than go to prayer houses looking for some phantom evil that doesn't exist, this lady should invite all her family members to celebrate a lifetime achievement of breaking the cycle of poverty in her family. She broke a potential generational curse of poverty in her family and she and her family should celebrate. It's a choice she made, and it sometimes comes with a price As for moving forward with her life, well I think she should be hopeful that perhaps life smiles at her someday. I think life may smile at her if she discards the negative outlook and picks her life back up with a more positive outlook. People will notice her when she radiates positive energy. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by azammi(m): 3:26am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Mountain of Fire Is a great church for deliverance. Acidosis: |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by CountVersailles(f): 3:27am On Mar 25, 2022 |
The story just sounds so invented. Nobody goes through life and write like that. Try better actress. |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by socialmediaman: 3:29am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Acidosis: Remember the West was involved in slavery? Remember they conquered natives and occupied what was once the land belonging to those natives? Why didn't it go down to haunt their generations in the ways it does to Africans? |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by FarmPickJuice(m): 5:24am On Mar 25, 2022 |
CountVersailles:Can't you see its an old nairaland account registered since 2013? Why will she wait for many years before creating a fake thread. Get sense 2 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 5:49am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Seems funny, until you actually hear someone describe their loneliness. What you expect her to do is hang out with people, but those people go home at night to their families and she is the only one among them who has nothing to go back to. Seen a 65+ year old woman in her situation. What we take for granted and laugh at is something important to others who can't have it. Empathy helps us understand that. If you told me a woman that old would want marriage and children, in the past I would've said it's improbable after that long. Yet there are people who do. So yes, the feeling of motherhood, holding her own child in her hands, feeling it, having it. And sex at her relative convenience without the fear of being murdered by her bed partner. Platonic love only goes so far. Humans have urges etc. The reason she can't have those things you think she can easily get is because she values being a good Christian. If she could become a baby mama at a point, don't you think she would've? Why do you think she's using Hannah and Sarah as her references? I think we can at least respect her choice to be a Christian of such standards. 4 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Acidosis(m): 6:51am On Mar 25, 2022 |
socialmediaman: "Slavery on invitation" by an insignificant British population, not vindictive idol worship that degenerated to blood money and rituals in 2022. |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by bigjackass: 6:59am On Mar 25, 2022 |
also get ready to resign to your fate so that you don't develop hypertension |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by socialmediaman: 7:21am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Acidosis: Both buyers and sellers were guilty. The point here being that there were lots of unthinkable atrocities that happened at the time. Remember the holocaust? Are we overthinking this in Nigeria? |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Acidosis(m): 7:40am On Mar 25, 2022 |
socialmediaman: I get your point. We are probably overthinking things. I don't like to tie Nigeria's backwardness to the past. I believe the present leaders are solely responsible and you should be held accountable. However, this issue right here is somewhat different. It is an individual thing. And mind you, people of the West, Nazi and the rest of the world are not immune to the consequence of idol worship. We don't think that they're going through a lot because we focus on national GDP and other economic indices. We have seen families in the west where depression, aggression, and loneliness run deep. Terrible things happen in some families. They only don't make the news on CNN or BBC. Some generations have never enjoyed marriage for years. They might mask the pain with new and daily hashtag like #single_rocks, #lonely_but_rocking... Etc. but these things exist. Idols don't respect hashtags, they gonna do what they've got to do, but it's left to you to respond how you want. The west may turn to sodomy and create new laws everyday to mask these issues, but consequences can never be outlawed. Those who are religious among them also seek spiritual means, by the way. 1 Like |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 11:15am On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by socialmediaman: 11:50am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Acidosis: I understand you perfectly, but you could still liken Nigeria's backwardness it to the past. Our problems started with the corrupt founders, their predecessors learnt from them. That's why for example we have few good hospitals and research centers, and treatable illnesses are being diagnosed and treated with prayers in churches and spiritual centers instead of hospitals However, this issue right here is somewhat different. It is an individual thing. And mind you, people of the West, Nazi and the rest of the world are not immune to the consequence of idol worship. We don't think that they're going through a lot because we focus on national GDP and other economic indices. I agree that these issues like not being married also exist in developed countries, but they tend not to blame their ancestors, everyone has a unique situation, and dating websites also help. The point being that not everyone who desires marriage will get married and Nigerians are not an exception. In her case I think that a woman who should celebrate her lifetime achievements is slowly fading in depression. She did something remarkable, end a potential generational curse in her family by giving her siblings a higher education at the expense of moving on with her life. Imagine what could possibly happen to her family’s next generation if her siblings couldn’t go to school. Like I said in a post earlier, not many men like to marry women with so much family weight on their shoulders. She would’ve needed a very financially stable man to take care of her and the education of her siblings before she could focus on her own family. It gets worse if she only dated few men for long, meaning she probably wasn’t in a hurry to get married while she carried so much financial responsibilities We have seen families in the west where depression, aggression, and loneliness run deep. Terrible things happen in some families. They only don't make the news on CNN or BBC. Some generations have never enjoyed marriage for years. They might mask the pain with new and daily hashtag like #single_rocks, #lonely_but_rocking... Etc. but these things exist. Very true, 100%. In fact you just admitted that this is a global thing, not peculiar to Nigeria or Idol worship of ancestors. Unfortunately not many people in Nigeria like telling their stories, we would’ve realized her case is not isolated. Idols don't respect hashtags, they gonna do what they've got to do, but it's left to you to respond how you want. The west may turn to sodomy and create new laws everyday to mask these issues, but consequences can never be outlawed. Those who are religious among them also seek spiritual means, by the way. I see no evil here. ALL her siblings are happily married like she stated, I don’t think they may have done something different. Her cousins are likely a coincidence that she’s holding on for justification. If we start looking into these cases critically, it won’t be long before we start seeing the obvious choices that led to those situations. I’ve seen families where parents discourage younger ones from getting married before their older ones, or the siblings willingly delay themselves due to respect or familiarity, till they lose their suitors 1 Like |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 1:41pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by socialmediaman: 1:50pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Klass99: Thanks. I appreciate your compliments |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by madprophet(m): 3:20pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
creepsyme: God I'd more than able to turn your story around... Don't give up 2 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 3:48pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:1. I don't expect or advise her to "hang out" with people. I actually adviced her to instead find others to live with. See, we humans have this habit of thinking we are all alone in our problems when the truth is instead that there are 100s of thousands, even millions dealing with the exact same thing you are dealing with right now, even loneliness. 2. I have also seen 65+ women who rather than live alone and miserable have taken to have roommates adopting kids or living with other relatives just so they do not continue to stew in loneliness. 3. Christianity does not stop her from adopting kids if she wants kids. Christianity does not stop her from entering into a marriage contract with a man already married or maybe own she pays for sex. Also Christianity has absolutely nothing to do with the choices of Sarah and Hannah. She has her life, but is missing a mate and child,none of these are mandatory to have as far as Christianity is concerned, so she can too live a fulfilled life even without. |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:01pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:06pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Klass99: I love your posts. What are you? A teacher? Lawyer? Beautiful posts on this thread. I hope the OP listens to you. My contributions on that: Praying too much is a sign of disbelief and as such should be avoided. If the OP was looking up to Sarah, she should follow her way from the very start. 2 Likes |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:07pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: What if he's a prophet with all her life solutions in his hands? A running theme in the old testament is meeting angels. Could this dubious sounding guy not be an angel? |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 10:17pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 10:17pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:1. Who? 2. We are not of the Old Covenant which was God's Law specifically for those who have the blood of Jacob running through their veins. That Covenant was meant for the Jews and only for the Jews for living in the land of Canaan - Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20 - meaning God does not with us gentiles according to the Law He gave only to the Jews. We belong in God's New Covenant, Jesus Christ , God's Law for those who are of the Kingdom of God meaning God operates with us according to the teachings of Jesus Christ. God's promise of prophets was to the those of the Old Covenant. Jesus Christ never said anything to us about sending us special prophets or men in His name...The Holy Spirit is the one promised to all those who believe in Him and He is meant as the seal of the New Covenant. |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:25pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Klass99: Your posts are usually well-ordered, suggesting professionalism. It's good to know that you're actually a lawyer. At least it isn't a vulcanizer telling us these things And please, become a teacher. It would benefit so many people. Your advice to the OP is really good. May your curiosity not take us into dangerous waters . I'm a follower of the Light. 1 Like |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 10:26pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:1. Anyone she can reasonably bond with. I remember I used to have roommates of the opposite sex back when I was younger and we bonded as single professionals back then. During the Covid-19 lock down, I did the same with a different group and enjoyed it too before I eventually moved back to my base state. 2. You probably need to begin opening up your horizons abeg. 3. These are simply choices available to her now so she does not live miserable now. If roommates go, she can get herself new ones. If relatives get tired, she can make herself new ones. The point is life doesn't need to be lived according to frigid rules that are of little benefit to one's situation. 4. Jesus Christ, the one who is the Christ in Christianity never excluded such arrangements. He reiterated that marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman - never specifying the details of the agreement to have. He even went as far as to make it known that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 - to show that whatever agreement you enter starts end right here in this world. |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:28pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:32pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 10:32pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 10:37pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Klass99:Not light, Klass. It's Light. I'm sure you know which one I mean. Vulcanizers have lights, right? Well, I can't argue with the law herself. I'll let you deflate my argument on that matter. Lol @witnesses. You have experiences to share. That means you will be able to guide those in the Dark. Teach any way you want to do it. But the witnesses have established it. 1 Like |
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 10:42pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:1. Unlike with the Old Covenant Law of Moses, God never stated that He would send prophets to those of His New Covenant and Jesus Christ never suggested their would be prophets sent to anyone in His New Covenant and Kingdom. 2. Well, if you are asking me whether I have through continuous submission and obedience of the Teachings(and commandments) of Jesus Christ been made free of bondage to sin and transformed into a Son of God, a holy/perfect vessel worthy of the Spirit of God Himself who is only to dwell in vessels - John 8 vs 31 - 32 & John 14 vs 15 - 25 - that are without sin, then my answer is I don't know... If you are however asking me whether I have been born of Spirit aka experience a birth of the Spirit kind - John 3 vs 1 - 8 and Ezekiel 36 vs 25- 26, then my answer to that is yes. And if your question is whether I know the one who is the Spirit of Truth aka the Spirit of Jesus Christ Himself - John 8 vs 31 - 32 - then the answer is also yes. |
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