Go and marry…go and marry. Shebi una dey see am now?

Focusmind:


My brother, I don't know o.

My father has been down with the usual old men sickness like prostate, mild memory loss, HBP. But my mum has been steadfast with painstaking love, feeding him, changing his clothes and dressing the bed for him. I have insisted on getting an assistant for her but she said no because of the negative news about house girls that connives with outsiders to murder the old people they are living with.

She stayed with him in the hospital for a complete year, bathing and dressing him. Our prayers is that we should all be there together for our partners - the man or the wife. Nobody knows tomorrow

your grew up in a time when love mattered. Is not that anymore.

micflo28:
When you attract a woman with money, when the moneys exhausts, the love goes.

all women are attracted to money. Anyone that tells you no is satan herself.

Focusmind:


My brother, I don't know o.

My father has been down with the usual old men sickness like prostate, mild memory loss, HBP. But my mum has been steadfast with painstaking love, feeding him, changing his clothes and dressing the bed for him. I have insisted on getting an assistant for her but she said no because of the negative news about house girls that connives with outsiders to murder the old people they are living with.

She stayed with him in the hospital for a complete year, bathing and dressing him. Our prayers is that we should all be there together for our partners - the man or the wife. Nobody knows tomorrow

How old were your parents when this happened ?

Let me guess. Old age. Meaning they spent significant part of their lives together


How does it seem to you that one enters a marriage and after four years the partner becomes incapacitated with no recovery in sight. Does this scenario appear the same with your parents whose significant lives they spent together?

Let's always be completely honest in our ways.

DoctorOlasDesk:



Can you stand with a spouse who remains persistently sick without any hope for recovery as a woman, that's sick for 7-10 years at a stretch without improvements?

Before we all judge, let's be careful o. The burden of a sick person is not a small one o


Abi I lie ? Uyailcomparabl

oga which kind of question is this? Is she not your wife? Is he not your husband? what happened to for sickness and in health. so you are in essence saying any spouse who is seriously sick should be left to his or her fate?

Quiny32323:
Reason why I can't blame people that choose to be bby mama and bby father because we all lack the endurance our parents had.

In this case ,do you think a baby mama will even visit him in the hospital?


Wife commot ,na baby mama go stay?

Snowx:
If you re a man reading this may the good Lord give you a woman that will endure with you if the bad days finally comes..

Am 36 getting to 37 but still not have any girl in mind to settle down with..girls have beenseing have their lives rule by social media and pressure group..me getting married is by miracle from above..and I believe I wld find someone that understand me and someone I will also torrelate.

dont put yourself under pressure. One lady can set you backwards a million years.

greypencils:
That is why you should marry a woman who meets you and loves you while you are still struggling.

those women are not our usual spec.

damondbabe:


oga which kind of question is this? Is she not your wife? Is he not your husband? what happened to for sickness and in health. so you are in essence saying any spouse who is seriously sick should be left to his or her fate?

It is easy to judge. You don't know her condition neither did I judge Julius or the lady. When sensational issues like this kind arises, I've learnt to always be cautious and patient as time revealth all


I am saying. This. I tell my Maker daily. I don't want to be too sick that my other half will carry me for a decade. I pray never to meet such temptation. Rather than be in suffering for a decade and more. I will free the other half to go and my kids continue the legacy. Simple.

bigjosh88:
I don't think its because of financial challenge that made the wife to part ways with him,because I know very well that Julius agwu investment in Choba alone can sustain the family for life time if properly managed..my opinion

he was sick. I dont think is investment. Maybe his sickness has reduced him to the point the wife no longer find him attractive. Remember he is no longer making money as he used to.

When the guy was well and had money and you were enjoying his money.. you did not Japa... because he had health problems and financial issues you have to japa to abroad with his. children and abandone your husband....is that true love.....hard to see wife materials nowadays...

Breakfast don't know old cargoes, it's can be served morning, afternoon or even night...


Wahala be like wetin again??


Smh

DoctorOlasDesk:



How old were your parents when this happens ?

Let me guess. Old age. Meaning they spent significant part of their lives together


How does it seem to you that one enters a marriage and after four years the partner becomes incapacitated with no recovery in sight. Does this scenario appear the same with your parents whose significant lives they spent together?

Let's always be completely honest in our ways.

My father is 77 while my mum is 67. She's still doing the nursing of the old man. The prostate started in 2015.

They were 70 and 60, respectively when he did the surgery.

ufotunang:
When the guy was well and had money and you were enjoying his money.. you did not Japa... because he had health problems and financial issues you have to japa to abroad with his. children and abandone your husband....is that true love

Four years. You make am sound like forever. She stayed ten years. That one no be loyalty abi?

Una dey always reason like pikin

Kai, but this bros don lean oo. May God help us.

Focusmind:


My father is 77 while my mum is 67. She's still doing the nursing of the old man. The prostate started in 2015.

They were 70 and 60, respectively when he did the surgery.

Oh oh. Meaning they enjoyed 50 years of relationship when it was good if they met in 20s. Is it fair to make the comparism with a marriage that was 4-5 years and then sickness sets in?


You're not honest in your earlier statement abeg

salesbloo:


https://punchng.com/controversy-surrounds-alleged-crash-of-julius-agwus-14-year-marriage/

After God fear Eve.....

diplomat058:
Nobody has got you. Stop believing people's fake promises and commitments. Only God will never forsakẹ you if you follow his ways. Amen Lord Jesus

Even that your Jesus will still disappoint you but the problem is that when He does, you still say He knows best or it's not yet his appointed time.

Wise up

Wittyduchess:
In this case ,do you think a baby mama will even visit him in the hospital?


Wife commot ,na baby mama go stay?

Much is not expected from a baby mama but much is expected of a wife.

house10s2:
longest time how have u been

Very well, thank you. And you?

Fafoba:
What is happening to our generation?

Look at our fathers. What is their secret?

It has always been like this. My father's friend visited us recently. His parting words to me were that women were not to be wholly trusted, you may just be lucky.

He told the story of how his nephew was sleeping was sleeping with his wife in his own house and how he caught them after neighbours had repeatedly told him to watch out. The woman later abandoned him and their five children.
The man was talking with tears trickling down from the corners of his old eyes. This was something which happened in 1976! He warned: when you see another man getting too close to your wife, something is going on.

So, stop all this talk of "our generation". Nothing new under the sun.

Graxie:
Thread for failures to insult women.

Why don't you give the men your good reason not to Insult ur evil gender because if u read what I also read then u should have buried ur dumb skull in shame cos all u ladies want is a home flowing with milk and honey so whatever insult u see on this thread for u and ur likes is well deserving. If not for ban I for give u reason not to visit nairaland for a while. Gold diggers everywhere.

Women... Chai. Sorry Julius. That woman is evil

DoctorOlasDesk:


She barely was in the marriage for four years when the sickness began. She endured it for ten years. Is she disloyal viewing it from the point of the beginning of the marriage and the duration of the time spent with him.

Four years enjoy

Ten years daily sickness


What says you ?


Will you tolerate your blood relative in such marriage ? Not saying Julius did wrong or anything there are women that stayed with men in thus exact sickness. I know a few. But the burden isn't an easy one

End of discussion @ bolded. The good and loving one's stay, the fickle ones leave. And she had to take his kids, the ones whose presence should be giving him joy. That woman's action is wrong. He needs his family now than ever.

obaaderemi:
End of discussion @ bolded. The good and loving one's stay, the fickle ones leave. And she had to take his kids, the ones whose presence should be giving him joy.

I agree children around sick persons helps improve their conditions and help them recover. It's a scientific fact. However, in a prolonged state, have you considered their psyche? being persistently around the sick and hers? There are conditions that will break us all and humble us. May we not meet temptations

kowalsky:


Lol. That's because she's old too. If your dad came down with any serious illness in his 30s-40s she'd have eventually japa'd or cheated on him.

And I'm not trying to bash women here, even your dad too would've japa'd or gotten himself a mistress if your mom came down with a debillating illness when she was much younger.

Its just how life works. Marriage used to be an institution that sorta held against the trials and tribulations of life - for better, for worse - but that's no longer the case.

See what you're saying about someone's mother.

Why do you assume you know what she'd have done had she been younger?

jesmond3945:
all women are attracted to money. Anyone that tells you no is satan herself.

so na contract marriage Dey for this generation be that. When money go, woman go

Na wa o!

DoctorOlasDesk:



I agree children around sick persons helps improve their conditions and help them recover. It's a scientific fact. However, in a prolonged state, have you considered their psyche? being persistently around the sick and hers? There are conditions that will break us all and humble us. May we not meet temptations

Amen.
But leaving him alone to his fate? How would she even look at herself in the mirror? She should have left when nothing was wrong with him.

It's difficult taking care of sick people. There are times you even wish for their quick passing on. But it's rare to see spouses make up their minds and just up and go with the kids. This woman is wicked and her actions are indefensible. More likely than not, she already has some other man taking care of her. Women don't just leave their home until they've picked interest in someone else.

obaaderemi:
Amen.
But leaving him alone to his fate? How would she even look at herself in the mirror? She should have left when nothing was wrong with him.

It's difficult taking care of sick people. There are times you even wish for their quick passing on. But it's rare to see spouses make up their minds and just up and go with the kids. This woman is wicked and her actions are indefensible. More likely than not, she already has some other man taking care of her. Women don't just leave their home until they've picked interest in someone else.

He has a family. Let me shock you. Have you asked of her mental state?

Trust me, even she now after spending the past ten years glued in sickly condition needs mental health care

My dear, I don't want such from any female. Thats not loyalty but something else. This isn't the yard stick to judge loyalty.

Even in physics, Hooke's law states the condition when a condition becomes unbearable and iit breaks

I've learnt to think and act like the rich even without abundant of resoures. If you have money and you're ill. Hire nurses that will work as help mates. Hire the ones to cook. When about five females are in the home, plus the ones to carry the kids, the environment becomes lively and more homely than a psychiatric ward

This is my own old age strategy i'm sharing. In some climes, they have themselves checked into professional centres so they don't burden the life of their loved ones

My prayer to my Maker remains, I don't want to be a burden. I want to go and don't want to be in prolonged sickness at all

There's a strategy to everything. If we make the load lighter and the atomosphere conducive, the females will " be conditioned " to understand their welfare is also taken seriously. To have an other half in perpetual sick condition ten years and more is too much. If we love the other party, we would understand. I may be wrong, i am open to being corrected, however this is how i see life

tunjijones:
That is typical of a woman.

They stick around when thing are Rosey but let things just change small they run away.

What do you expect when these men go for the prettiest when they become rich?

micflo28:
so na contract marriage Dey for this generation be that. When money go, woman go

This your picture na wah o. That's what most girls want anyway. Some go even leave if you no sabi fvck like porn star. Them go say you no hard.