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I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband / My Husband Is Too Jealous / I Will Make My Children To Marry At 16 If They Start Misbehaving - Lady (2) (3) (4)
. by Nobody: 3:57pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
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Re: . by Zonefree(m): 4:00pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Sometimes, I feel like telling my ex everything I'm going through and ask for help, because he keep asking me if I'm enjoying my marriageWhat sort of Ex keep asking if you're enjoying your marriage ![]() What's his plan if you're not enjoying the marriage? I just don't want to talk ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 4:01pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
You're still there asking what to do about an unrepentant gambler until he gambles with your life or uses you to stake a bet. I wonder how people put up with such for even one day. I don't think it's really affecting you yet otherwise you won't need any body to tell you what to do. No be my mouth you go hear say, "leave your husband". 1 Like |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 4:14pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:Just listen to urself. The loan i didn't know what he used it for. He can't explain. We took the loan for a business but he squander it. |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 4:41pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:I know wetin dey ur mind, tell her. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Nobody: 4:43pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Truvelisback: She knows what to do. Let her do it! 2 Likes |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 4:46pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:Lol, make it plain to her. Anyway, I understand sha. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 4:54pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:Let me be blunt here. My advice might be very hurtful but it would be helpful to u. Do u know what? 1. Give him some space. Take ur son, leave his house and stay with ur parents until he comes back to his senses. 2. Refer the person he is owing to his own house. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:28pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 5:31pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:It's really affecting me. Just that I don't know the right thing to do. |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:36pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: My dear, since you've tried everything to make him Change but he refused, just separate from him for a while and see if he gets his acts together. If he really cares about you the way you do, he'll quit for your sake. If not, move on. Your happiness and fulfillment over a boring and draining Marriage. You come this life only once. Anything that will deprive you of your joy, cut off! 1 Like |
Re: . by Bobloco: 5:37pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: Woman, I don't really have an advice to give you but, I have a problem with the bolded Why is your ex asking you whether you are enjoying your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: . by Bounceboune7: 5:50pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:didn't u see d signs when u were dating? Did he start betting today? Didn't u see bet slips with him during courtship? Why did u ignore those sign? What people don't understand is that if person never marry u n u are seeing obvious red flags,it will only get worse. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:53pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
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Re: . by Acidosis(m): 5:53pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
What's your husband's monthly salary? I think you guys can work out something. However, you must be willing to keep talking or get his family involved. |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:56pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:Noted. Thanks 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 5:59pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:U can but it's not good and adviceable for a lady to live alone. |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:04pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 6:05pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Truvelisback:Not alone, but with my son |
Re: . by Mariangeles(f): 6:05pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: Was your husband already into betting before you married him? Why is your ex good enough to pour out your heart to now? Why is he asking you if you’re enjoying your marriage? Are you sure he wishes you well? I think he’s a busybody/monitoring spirit. What if he wants to take advantage of your vulnerability? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:05pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: You're welcome. |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:09pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mariangeles:Yes. He was. He admitted during one of his many apologies that he was introduced to betting by his friend back then in school, but it's hard to discover he do all that. My ex, is not a problem here. |
Re: . by Truvelisback(m): 6:09pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:If u are still young and marriageable, it is not good. If u are a man, that's a diffent thing. |
Re: . by Acidosis(m): 6:24pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: Please go ahead and tell his mother. His parents should come through at this point. I don't think he would ever be able to pay the loan from his salary unless the lender agrees to a paltry monthly payment. 1 Like |
Re: . by Mariangeles(f): 6:26pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: You didn’t know? You should’ve married your ex then. |
Re: . by ibechris(m): 7:23pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Gamblers don't change seriously... Any man that cannot pay up his loan must be heartless. Madam,watch ur husband very well before he would sell something most precious to the family for gambling. I know of a man who sold his late father's house for less than a million naira just for gambling. 4 Likes |
Re: . by ChoCho54(f): 10:47pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234:I believe he is going through a stage. Aside his bad reputation with money, does he treat you well? Does he love his son and cares for him? If yes, please tarry some more. Pay off this debt if you have the means to be paying small small. Don't do anything together like business with him that involves money. If God is blessing the work of your hands and you are making money, calmly keep supporting the family but don't give him your cash cos he'd gamble it away. This is a phase, it will pass. 1 Like |
Re: . by ChoCho54(f): 10:53pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:We are talking about marriage not mere relationship. If the husband treats her good and cares for the family, she should be patient He will come around. There's a reason some men hand over their salaries to their wives to disburse, it's because they acknowledge they are not good money managers. If he doesn't abuse her physically and emotionally, I don't see why she has to go. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:07pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
ChoCho54: O...kaaay.... Until he goes and brings a deadly disease home with his Randy lifestyle and infects her? All because it's Marriage? Smh.. now I know why married men don't regard their wives because they know the women can't do without them and would rather leave in death than alive. So, because it's Marriage, the woman should sit and watch her life being risked on a daily basis, in pain and agony every day? Look, whether mere relationship or Marriage, its same same because someone's sanity is at stake here. Even the Bible does not support a cheating spouse. Na wa o. Abokoku plenty for this life o. Ndi married, ngwa, over to you guys. |
Re: . by Stevenbright(m): 11:08pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
brokenheart1234: Yes! Tell his mother and any other person in his family that cares to listen about his betting addiction and the unpaid loan. They might be able to push him to stop the betting and also help in repaying the loan. |
Re: . by ChoCho54(f): 11:10pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
Mercychen:My dear, marriage is for adults not kids because there's more to it than meets the eyes. |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:20pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
ChoCho54: What is that thing that is more than meet the eyes with a man that clearly slowly killing you emotionally? I'm sure the women that died in their Marriage were of this same opinion or probably told this same lies until the man finally ended their lifes. I'm sure, Mrs osifo was of the same opinion and kept covering him until his shameful death in the hands of a small girl. Now, who's living with the shame? Abegiii... Any toxic relationship, be it Marriage or courtship is not worth keeping. That man is a ticking time bomb and he won't rest until he's carried out his fantasies with those girls. |
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