Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!

I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.

I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.

She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.

We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!

It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.

So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.

This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.

To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.

I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.

After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.

I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.

This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..

Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.

I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!


sorry for any typing errors.

She's 20 for God sake!! Why not sit her down, talk to her in a more calm and convincing tone? Make her understand certain things about life but if she chose to do the opposite, She'll have to deal with the consequences of her actions.

She is an adult and you invaded her privacy. You are not going to marry her. She is old enough to have a boyfriend. You can only advice her to stop having premarital sex and its consequences. At the end, its her decision to make.

Ahmed0336:
She's 20 for God sake!! Why not sit her down, talk to her in a more calm and convincing tone? Make her understand certain things about life but if she chose to do the opposite, She'll have to deal with the consequences of her actions.

I let my emotions get over me!but she is supposed to know that having a B.F,isn't the priority for her now, I do tell her this when ever we discussed one on one"there would be time for everything" but now you have to build ur self up now morally,academic, mentally and career wise In all ways before any thing.

edoman2016:
She is an adult and you invaded her privacy. You are not going to marry her. She is old enough to have a boyfriend. You can only advice her to stop having premarital sex and its consequences. At the end, its her decision to make.

how did I invade her privacy?I saw a WhatsApp message popping up I decided to check it out meaning I invaded her privacy.

Am I not supposed to look after her wellbeing if my our parent aren't no more In the nearest future!

Mode5:
I let my emotions get over me!but she is supposed to know that having a B.F,isn't the priority for her now, I do tell her this when ever we discussed one on one"there would be time for everything" but now you have to build ur self up now morally,academic, mentally and career wise In all ways before any thing.

This is one stage most girls her age undergo and she ll need proper guidance at this stage. You're a good brother, just keep doing what you're doing but don't let your emotions get the most of you. Keep an eye on her friends and environment most especially at school. if possible, always pay her surprise visit. I wish you all the best.

Ahmed0336:

This is one stage most girls her age undergo and she ll need proper guidance at this stage. You're a good brother, just keep doing what you're doing but don't let your emotions get the most of you. Keep an eye on her friends and environment most especially at school. if possible, always pay her surpriste visit. I wish you all the best.

thank you for the advice, I appreciate

Stay away from your sister's phone, imagine if the tables were turned? Can you convince yourself, not us ooo, yourself that she's looking out for your well-being?

Stop invading people's privacy in the name of looking out for them.

Secondly, You have shown signs of a woman beater, better go for therapy and stop all that IMMEDIATELY? Now one can conclude that you're not a man, because no sane man ever raises his hand on a woman.

Administration1:
Stay away from your sister's phone, imagine if the tables were turned? Can you convince yourself, not us ooo, yourself that she's looking out for your well-being?

Stop invading people's privacy in the name of looking out for them.

Secondly, You have shown signs of a woman beater, better go for therapy and stop all that IMMEDIATELY? Now one can conclude that you're not a man, because no sane man ever raises his hand on a woman.

for the record am not a woman beater but you are entitle to your opinion

Why should I even be going through my 20 year old daughter's phone?

I don't even want to imagine what I'll happen upon.

Anything wey I see na me sabi.

I can't do jack other than to advice her.

Mode5:
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
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So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.

This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
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After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.

I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.

This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..

Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now..

You owe her an apology for invading her privacy and for slapping her. She is not your child, and she is old enough to have a life of her own without having her sibling hanging as if a monitoring spirit over her.

Whatever shape her love life is in is none of your business. You could maybe try to get closer to her so she can maybe become more open with you about such things but seriously, she owes you no explainations whatsoever and has a right to live as she chooses regardless of your claimed upbringing.

Mode5:
I let my emotions get over me!but she is supposed to know that having a B.F,isn't the priority for her now, I do tell her this when ever we discussed one on one"there would be time for everything" but now you have to build ur self up now morally,academic, mentally and career wise In all ways before any thing.

Who are you to decide what her priorities should or should not be at her age?

She is an adult, and so shouldn't even be on anyone's life schedule except hers.

Mode5:
how did I invade her privacy? I saw a WhatsApp message popping up I decided to check it out meaning I invaded her privacy.

Am I not supposed to look after her wellbeing if my our parent aren't no more In the nearest future!

You had not right to check her messages. And even if your parents are no more, you can never take their place so why should looking after her wellbeing translate to snooping on her whatsapp messages? She is an adult for crying out loud....have some respect for her.

Mode5:
for the record am not a woman beater but you are entitle to your opinion

You slapped her....that na sign #1.

Kobojunkie:
You had not right to check her messages. And even if your parents are no more, you can never take their place so why should looking after her wellbeing translate to snooping on her whatsapp messages? She is an adult for crying out loud....have some respect for her.

this my first time of going through her chat,I even coincidentally stumble upon the chat..as I stated earlier.

A 20yeara old girl that is about leaving the university is what you're worried about. You don't have what to worry seriously. She has her own life to live. Because she was brought up in a strong religious home doesn't mean that she can have sex and explore it the way and manner sher likes.

Because of her religious background make she no Bleep at her age?

MadamVanessa:



A 20yeara old girl that is about leaving the university is what you're worried about. You don't have what to worry seriously. She has her own life to live. Because she was brought up in a strong religious home doesn't mean that she can have sex and explore it the way and manner sher likes.

Because of her religious background make she no Bleep at her age?

bleep at her age? how shallow you think!

You are very stupid for slapping a 20 year old mature girl.

Mode5:
this my first time of going through her chat,I even coincidentally stumble upon the chat..as I stated earlier.

It doesn't matter whether it is your first time, the issue is you saw her chat without her permission and that is disrespectful on your part. You should apologize for slapping her and for reading her chat without her permission.

I have siblings of my own and I never dared to monitor their lives right from the moment they each entered high-school because at that point it becomes disrespectful to do so.

franklingud:
You are very stupid for slapping a 20 year old mature girl.

I said i need matured minds not an 18/17 years old boy who doesn't have a direction in life yet.

Mode5:
how did I invade her privacy?I saw a WhatsApp message popping up I decided to check it out meaning I invaded her privacy.

Am I not supposed to look after her wellbeing if my our parent aren't no more In the nearest future!

You could retrive the deleted massage if you wanna press the case futher

Administration1:
Stay away from your sister's phone, imagine if the tables were turned? Can you convince yourself, not us ooo, yourself that she's looking out for your well-being?

Stop invading people's privacy in the name of looking out for them.

Secondly, You have shown signs of a woman beater, better go for therapy and stop all that IMMEDIATELY? Now one can conclude that you're not a man, [s]because no sane man ever raises his hand on a woman[/s]

.

The guy asked for advice but is ready to fight anyone who offers what doesn't please him.

Apparently, he only wants more justification to slap her once again because she raised her voice at him.

Mode5:
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!

I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.

I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.

She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.

We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!

It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.

So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.

This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.

To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.

I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.

After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.

I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.

This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..

Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.

I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!


sorry for any typing errors.

There is nothing u can do rather than advising. Girl wey don fvck dick, dey very difficult to talk to or to stop her. If u beat her up, she will fvck more.

Mode5:
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!

I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart.

I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.

She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.

We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!

It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.

So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.

This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.

To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.

I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.

After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.

I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.

This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..

Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.

I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!


sorry for any typing errors.

You simply handled it the wrong way... First work at making her calm down peacefully and have a heart to heart talk with her.
She is an adult now bro... Dialogue and diplomacy is what you need to get through to her senses not slap!!!

Bro twenty yrs is old enough Na.... what she needs is proper guidance....my younger sister is 24yrs just two yrs difference between us, anytime she cum visiting I do advise her but I don't invade her privacy

Your sis is an adult. Stop treating her like a kid.

What you don't understand is, eventually, she will develop hatred for you and still continue with her ways.

Best you can do is talk to her man to woman, leave scolding to her parents.

It's not your responsibility to tell her whether to have a boyfriend now or when to have one. She is 20 -- two years past the legal age of an adult. On top of that, she's almost done with uni.

Also, you shouldn't beat/fight an adult for any reason unless their behavior is becoming a threat to the safety of other people and their properties.

Plus having a bf doesn't distract her from improving on herself. How do they even correlate?

One last thing: Mind your business

Mode5:
for the record am not a woman beater but you are entitle to your opinion

Mr. Mode5 you are a woman beater, wife basher, and potential murderer.

I never attack people first, but I believe anyone who attacks me should be attacked in return, irrespective of whether they are male or female. But you going out there to slap her puts you on the offensive. What if she slapped you back and you guys ended up in a fight?

What will you even say caused the fight? You went through her phone and saw messages from a guy? The phone of an adult lady in her final year? Get some class man.

Plus the fact that you're even fighting everyone who isn't saying what you want to hear tells a lot. I believe you posted this here hoping to hear people heap praises on you and call you a good brother. You are not. And if you continue this way, she would end up hating you. And really, you deserve it.

Mr man, don't confront, assault, and invade people's privacy under the guise of "looking out for them". The only way you can look out for your sister at this point is to keep yourself out of your business.

Shoodboi:


Mr. Mode5 you are. The fact that you're even fighting everyone who isn't saying what you want to hear tells a lot. I believe you posted this here hoping to hear people hype you and call you a good brother.

Mr man, don't confront, assault, and invade people's privacy under the guise of "looking out for them". The only way you can look out for your sister at this point is to keep yourself out of your business.

lolx..

Let to read well before you jump into conclusion where exactly do you see me fighting anyone who isn't saying what I wanted to hear?

Mode5:
lolx..

Let to read well before you jump into conclusion where exactly do you see me fighting anyone who isn't saying what I wanted to hear?

Was I the one who left the comments below? It's you who should read well before jumping into concusions:

Mode5:
bleep at her age? how shallow you think!

Mode5:
I said i need matured minds not an 18/17 years old boy who doesn't have a direction in life yet.

Your arrogance will destroy you. Your sister will put you in your place very soon.

Hmmn,

all these people that are telling Op to mind his business. E be lyk say una never see sth