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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 1:06pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1:If after reading through d cited example and u couldn't comprehend how DV is being caused by women, we'll I am not shock at all bcs women are same in different packages 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by luminouz(m): 1:06pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1: I am one but I don't hate women. So your claim is ridiculous. That dude gave you an example but you didn't analyse it, rather you deflected it and said he is not logical? Why not analyse the example and come back at him with your results? That dude has not been abusive for far. That and the OP have my respect so far, on being logical. DV is not just about physical assault. There is emotional,mental and psychological aspects and that's where women rule. Tackle all forms of DV and you will have my support. N.B: I had an experience with a wild horse. A girl who grabs a knife any time we have a disagreement about her drinking habits. One day, she rose up as usual and came at me with it, I defended myself and gave her three hot slaps, yanked the knife from her hand and held it to her throat. She started crying blah blah blah and went to sleep straight and even snored. If I hadn't defended myself and she stabbed me, she would have said I raped her or some shiit. I tossed her out the next day. She still sees me as an OG till this day. The respect never dwindled. It was two weeks later that I learned she actually stabbed her last ex (she told me a different story). 5 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 1:10pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Daradared2:Either parents failed to train their male children well or male childreb decided to be sgupid by being too weak and simpling about |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by kingyakos: 1:10pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
TONYE001: It's still not gonna change anything, 70% of America prison inmate is as a result of domestic violence and domestic violence is still on the high in America. Even is the penalty is death sentence,it still not gonna change anything. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Kobojunkie: 1:11pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
cocolacec:If more people will take to calling on the Nigerian police in cases of DV, I am certain the organization will be forced to begin doing something about the problem. Right now not enough people report cases of abuse because the general opinion is it is family matters, which it really isn't since neighbors and those around these individuals are impacted by the violence. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by luminouz(m): 1:12pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
TONYE001:I like your mature replies but I still disagree with your analysis. My dad didn't beat my mum and most of the families around me don't have DV as physical assault but I have seen men mentally and psychologically fuqed up by women and the only avenue for release is by lashing out. I have never laid a hand on a woman except in self defense. With what I have seen, I won't be one of those who say 'no matter what she does, I will NEVER raise my hand on a woman' because I will definitely raise my hand on any woman to protect myself. I don't condone physical assault from any and everyone 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by luminouz(m): 1:20pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:I think they all see DV from physical assault aspect alone, being the physically weak gender. They don't see mental, emotional and psychological manipulations as DV. That's where women rule. Yet if a man talks, he gets laughed at and scorned because apparently, he is supposed to 'suck it in and take it like a man' but forgetting that man or not, he is human and has limits of tolerance. When he loses his shiit and bursts out, people blame him and castigate him, yet no one wants to understand just how much mental strain he has gone through to suddenly snap like that. Unless the man is clinically insane or with malignant tumors in his head, it makes no sense to beat a woman you love and who bore you kids. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by rickleye: 1:22pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: It is not that DV is rampart in this generation. It’s actually lesser. Back then it started from bf beating up on gf which they carried into their marriage. The difference is that with social media we are hearing more of it than before - just in the newspaper when it ended in death. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 1:27pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
cocolacec: I agree too. Corporal punishment should be tossed away. It has a way of teaching the children violence. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by bukatyne(f): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
truthsayer009: I was wondering if we are in the same world. DV more rampant ke? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
michael1508: Thank you very much for your kind words. I may not have used a perfect analogy there. The point I was driving at was that both genders have very serious faults they must begin to address. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by IRALIFE(f): 1:30pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: You need a whole lot of unlearning and relearning. You're so stuck in your stand without trying to reason out issues reasonably. Try to keep an open heart and reread the article. You'll be better for it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by bukatyne(f): 1:30pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
TONYE001: This is strange. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by YourFavEvangeli: 1:34pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: The best question to ask is: if the sales attendant are men, will you lock them inside? If the sales attendants are men and they say the pharmacist can't go, will he start a fight? So if you marry a woman who is bad and refuses to change, you will beat her to death and face the firing squad right? If the woman who has a bad attitude pulls out a loaded gun, will you still beat sense into her or will you get separated for your dear life? What changed now? You can't beat her up anymore cus she has a gun, you won't beat the attendants or lock them up if they were hefty muscular men but the moment they are pretty women, beating becomes an option. I won't tell you to stop or continue, we all know how it will end. Either you beat them until they divorce you and take away almost everything from you, or, you beat them and they "mistakenly" die and you get jailed for life, or you beat them and they stab you in your sleep. Either way, you get to beat sense into them, mission accomplished. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 1:35pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
luminouz: 1. I am thankful to your dad for setting a good marriage example for you and others they trained. 2. I also have heard of stories of men that are subjected to all sorts of pains by their wives. I have also heard of stories of women that have been tortured by their husbands. See? It goes both ways. 3. I have nothing against defending yourself against an attacker, whether man or woman. Protecting ourselves is an innate reflex we all have. I'm glad you don't condone physical assault. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by akinade28(f): 1:37pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:No sane woman can just wake up and start provoking her husband without a reasonable cause. Husband should also bring peace as well if you want peace. Bro, two wrongs can never make a right. You don't solve a problem by creating a greater problem. I understand that some wives can be provocative, verbally abusive or might be violent at times. They can cause or look for trouble. But all these can never justify domestic violence, you can conquer evil with evil. Look for better ways of dealing with this kind of women, instead of beating them. Or better still, separate or walk out of the marriage if it has become unbearable. Men are always looking for who to blame for their actions since the time of Adam and Eve. Men should learn to take responsibilities for their actions 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 1:37pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
bukatyne: How, please? |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by azammi(m): 1:42pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
IN this matter I wish most people can shut Up so we can rest . |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 1:47pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
bukatyne:Not strange, that's just d fact |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 1:51pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
akinade28:If a woman want peace she should create d atmosphere for peace to reign, u can't just be giving me headache and expecting peace to come from my angle. If a woman is not happy in her matrimonial home, she should go back to her father's house, is that too much to do? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by ImaIma1(f): 2:07pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
luminouz: Now your ex needed a brain reset obviously. Though some men would have handled the situation without beating her right? In a case of DV against men...women hitting their husbands, would we then say that it is the fault of the man at all times? Since the guy I quoted keeps saying it's the woman's fault. My issue with him is the fact that men can do no wrong but women solely carry the blame. That's a typical case of blame shifting. And being a "Nairaland redpiller" is almost always equals to hatred or prejudice towards women especially on this forum. You can attest to that if you are sincere. You might be one of the exceptions. I only mentioned some hard facts and you had to come to save him because you and him know deep down that what I said was real. Someone that said his head is not correct for women's matters should not be taken seriously in real issues like this that have to do with lives. You sound intelligent and more exposed so I'm sure you understand my point. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by obryns: 2:07pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
This is a topic I think the society hasn't addressed honestly,the society believes that a woman's strength is in her mouth and it is okay to abuse a man verbally while same society expects the man to walk away when provoked or abused by a woman,the society never canvasses for the woman to also walk away when provoked,so the emphasis should be No to any type of abuse,it is not okay to verbally or emotionally abuse a man or a woman,it is as damaging as physical violence,most DV stems from verbal abuses but the society is fine with a woman using her strength (her mouth) while asking the man not to use his own strength (his fists),so it now behoves on how much control the man has over his own anger, people have different temperaments,so we are waiting for the next man that will lose control of his anger to beat a woman instead of teaching and expecting both men and women not to abuse themselves in any way,it is wrong to abuse anyone in anyway whether verbally, emotionally or violence,it is not okay and should not be encouraged or excused 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by ImaIma1(f): 2:07pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: Guy rest. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 2:10pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
YourFavEvangeli:At d bolded, when I was working their, I was at branch A before they transfered me to branch B, branch A had guys while branch B had girls. Then, I used to relieve guys whenever there was an emergency for them to attend to, I was doing it bcs all d guys had one mind and one spirit. When I came to branch B, I first told them to always respect themselves that I don't play. I started seen d signs in them before d issue of locking them inside came. U can't just compare guys and girls, |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 2:10pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
IRALIFE:Which I hv done since yesterday 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by CorperKola: 2:11pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
God will help somebody, the issue is there has to be proper blvetting before you marry somebody, thats prolly the summary of everything I have seen a woman mocking her husband, see your life, see how i am talking to you anyhow, you cant even beat me! You are not a man. I was shocked beyond measure that day! The article is very feminist and modern and logical but practically it doesnt solve any problem Maybe even adds to it. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 2:11pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
obryns: This article, and many others out there, are against all forms of abuse. @ the bolded: I refer you to the concluding paragraph of this article where the writer admonishes ALL victims of DV (M/F) to walk away and take legal action. Thank you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by CorperKola: 2:12pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
God will help somebody, the issue is there has to be proper blvetting before you marry somebody, thats prolly the summary of everything I have seen a woman mocking her husband, see your life, see how i am talking to you anyhow, you cant even beat me! You are not a man. I was shocked beyond measure that day! The article is very feminist and modern and logical but practically it doesnt solve any problem Maybe even adds to it. obryns: |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TheGift: 2:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
This is a very thoughtful, well researched and insightful post. But will the Nairaland youth read it and heed it? I hope so. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by CorperKola: 2:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
obryns:This is accurate AF U have sense! |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 2:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
CorperKola: Thanks for commenting but could you please point at feministic areas of the article? As far as I know, I tried to make a balanced analysis that's not just my opinion but products of research. Glad you noted the submission is logical. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 2:20pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
rickleye:boy friend and girlfriend beeating started more in earlier 2000s, it wasn't like this 1990s |
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