akeem0706514:

You're saying this because you have the wisdom to...my dear, it is not always easy to take a stroll..there is a saying that the moment anger come in wisdom will depart..infact, it is very easy to type "take a stroll when you're are angry" but the truth is " take a stroll when a woman or a man is angry is one of the most difficult task to accomplish when anger is in possession.

i am able to type it because I do it often. I sometimes play phone games, go grocery shopping etc it might not work for all.

However, As an individual that knows himself to be quick to anger or give wild reactions to anger,it is a necessity to know how to tame your inner beast. It is an individual race to tame the beast inside of us, we all have that beastie side but it's only a matter of how we have trained it. And if you can't train your beast by yourself, simply get help from those that can.

faithfull18:
Some women need to start standing up for themselves.

Never let anyone talk down on you or go physical on you.

God abeg don't let anyone I know fall into the hands of this kind of man.

There isn't Smoke without fire...

Kobojunkie:
Abeg stop shifting blame on the nonsensical! Na religion kick her chest in?,

Be calming down na.

TenQ:

True, God hates divorce!
But Separation (until the source/cause of abuse is permanently resolved) is allowed in case of physical abuse.

God hates divorce but after man fell, God cursed married and made divorce an option for man. God never said divorce is sin... instead men fees you such lies.

Caleycashh:
Its only a foolish man that walks away from his home, don't mind all these manipulative leeches!

Lol, you harsh bros

BluntTheApostle:
Be calming down na.

The woman was obviously not an imbe-cile so why blame religion for choices she made of her own volition?

Leave, leave, leave

If you don't leave the toxic relationship, you may leave the world...

Another abusive relationship below

https://www.nairaland.com/7078728/man-bathes-wife-hot-water

Yewandequeen:
i dont support the curse but the dude uttered total rubbish. No amount of flaw the woman has must make a man to hit her. What happened to him walking away? Some men are just animals pls.

Modified for those Quoting me: And by walking away doesn't mean leaving the marriage always, it only meant you leave the premises(taking a stroll out, drive out, go to the room) till both parties are calm and you both sit down to talk about it and work on lasting solution. And it is not in all cases that the woman is razor mouth! Pls
Beast in Men form beats their wife's for saying no to sex when tired/not in mood, even when their meal come out late! Etc Does the aforemention deserve hitting. No SANE human being should ever think of hitting the spouse just because they are provoked.

If your spouse's misconducts cannot be contained, corrected nor controlled and you think the next action is to turn a boxer into Then simply leave the marriage.

The fact remains No To Violence from both gender... Period.

All of us can’t have the same opinion , we have a right to our opinion. If you think that he’s opinion is off the point then engage with him politely like a civilised person. There was no need to insult him and curse him on top. Gosh!!

True enough.

derecho:
Pre-nup is seldom done because of the passion and the make believe that there's trust.Men by nature, are risk takers and often not as calculative as women.Despite that weakness, he will deal with a matter howsoever he wishes when confronted with one.That's why an unregenerated man is deadlier than what all these ladies think about them.Only a godfearing man would easily let go.

akeem0706514:
Oga na mumu talk be this.

Thank you so much

Yewandequeen:
i am able to type it because I do it often. I sometimes play phone games, go shopping etc

It might not work for all. However, it is an individual race to tame the beast inside of us, we all have that beastie side but it's only a matter of how we have trained it. And if you can't train your beast by yourself, simply get help from those that can.

That's Good...but what happens to a man or woman who doesn't have a phone or have money for shopping....na party scatter be that o...the query go strong pass fight o...
Don't mind this response actually I find it funny...hope you find it funny...may God give each an everyone of us the wisdom, patient, and understanding to do things in life.

Kobojunkie:
The woman was obviously not an imbe-cile so why blame religion for choices she made of her own volition?

Religion is to blame!!!

Religion makes it difficult for people to leave abusive marriages.

For better for worse, my foot!!!

Tufiakwa!!!

Even these pastors who have assigned themselves as God's mouthpiece have worst homes. But the wives are usually the ones who have to endure, especially when you have philanderers like Biodun Fatoyinbo and Johnson Suleiman as husbands.

All this women wey their husbands dey beat them don't they have grown siblings

I remember when one of my sister's husband was messing up Hmmmm we went to his house gave him a serious warning after he saw how mean we were he quickly repented because we told him that for a every hand he lays on our sister he will receive double of it

akeem0706514:

That's Good...but what happens to a man or woman who doesn't have a phone or have money for shopping....na party scatter be that o...the query go strong pass fight o...
Don't mind this response actually I find it funny...hope you find it funny...may God give each an everyone of us the wisdom, patient, and understanding to do things in life.

Amen

Lol. True

But then it's all about finding something not damaging to one's self to ease the anger. I sometimes work out too when angered. That's zero cost o bughi yah? �

As you have said, may God help us ALL

Lightorder:
you are right . But if any woman hits you , just hit back and move on. Every life matters

She's not right !
Please,you people should learn to tell this women the truth .
You can't control people's reaction,and it's advisable you don't go around infuriating people and ,always expect them to always walk away or put up with such bad behaviours because you're a woman,or you have been misled to shout "men should always walk away no matter what " in the internet.

The reality out there is that some day you're going to get your ass kicked real good if you go around infuriating people or causing troubles.
People won't always walk away or continue to put up with your bs because you think that's what they should be doing because you're a woman and they are men.

BluntTheApostle:
Religion is to blame!!!
Religion makes it difficult for people to leave abusive marriages.
For better for worse, my foot!!!
Tufiakwa!!!

Even these pastors who have assigned themselves as God's mouthpiece have worst homes. But the wives are usually the ones who have to endure, especially when you have philanderers like Biodun Fatoyinbo and Johnson Suleiman as husbands.

Religion and traditions both have their place in this problem but we are taking here of a grown up woman who was raising 4 children. Where was her sense of responsibility both as an individual and as a mother?

We are talking here, not of a mousy woman but a breadwinner type woman so why didn't she stand up for herself in all of this? Why did she chose to sell her right to life away to lies fed her by mere men?

BluntTheApostle:




There was another on YouTube when one woman was provoked by a shop manager in a shop. The next thing, she went out to her car, and returned with a baseball bat. Manager and cashier ran for their lives. Customers too turned to Usain Bolt. The woman smashed everything she could smash.

Someone had called the police. The caller obviously warned the police that the woman was armed. So the police sent an officer who came in through the backdoor. He snuck up on the woman, grabbed her from behind and slammed her to the floor. The woman calm down, and was like "I am a woman. You have no rights to put your hands on me. I will report you. Bla bla bla". The officer was unperturbed at first. But then, he said, "You want to behave like a man, then I am going to treat you like a man."

Imagine the nonsense. Is there anything womanly in her behaviour?

Verbal assault especially within marriages should be made a punishable crime just like physical assault.

That the woman is permitted to call the husband a "good for nothing son of a wh*re" while the man should "walk away" is such a laughably facile, one-sided way of addressing a very complex iisue.

Any form of inflicting injury - psychological, mental, physical - is totally unacceptable in any union.

Bottom line, NO partner, male or female, husband or wife, should have to condole any abusive relationship.

michael77777:
Kill em'all


...

Haha

Jeon:
Hmmm..

anything relationship will be the last thing on earth in my presence.
because I don't have time to shout out.. I DO ACTION.

Lies from the pit of the Hell

Excober08:
All the women in these pictures are dead! All within a space of 5 months.

They were all victims of domestic abuse and they all suffered extreme physical violence in the hands of their husbands up until their deaths.

Growing up, I was told the reason many women stay in abusive marriages is because they don’t have their own money and they can’t run back to their fathers house….

Let me shock you!!!

All the women in these pictures were the breadwinners; they were all independently and financially well to do. They all had their own money and they were all richer than their husbands. They were all equally educated and relatively exposed; everything you know about domestic violence, they knew much more!
But yet! Yet! Their lives were ended by the dead-beat men they chose to love!

Dear Women,
If he hits you once, he will definitely do it again and again and again. And if you make excuses for him the first time, you will see yourself making excuses for him, over and over and over again.
Maybe one day he will change, but until then, leave! Because he won’t change if keeps seeing you to punch. He can only change when you leave him! So, leave now! Carry you bag and go. Just go! And don’t come back!

Under the flyover is better than a inside the casket.

We can blame society, we can blame religion, we can blame the church! But the truth is, you always have a choice and the choice is always yours to make.

Religion cannot go, tradition cannot go, society cannot go… only you can go!

If you love yourself, leave! If you love your children, leave! If you love your friends, leave! If you love your partner, leave!

The rate at which women are dying in the hands of their partners these days is alarming. It’s seems like the right question to ask is….Who Is Next?

If only the women will hear

Stop spreading hate, you talk as if all the women in the world are going to die today.
There are women who are still living happily in their homes with fulfilled lives.
Carry your hate activism elsewhere, no real woman abandons her children.

From your speech you experienced a happy live, nor had children, all that's in you is hatred and frustration.

You will definitely got beaten in your marriage at last that is if and only if you are even married self!!
Abeg shut that ur stupid mouth!!! Nonsense if u dont want ur wife to control u den don't marry an already made woman, go and marry the one u will control. Can u imagine the trash u are spewing with your mouth so u are supporting those voilent beasts that call themselves men?? May your sister's and future daughters marry the likes of osinachies husband in Jesus name. Amen!!!!![/quote]

Prettygirl200:
Abeg shut that ur stupid mouth!!! Nonsense if u dont want ur wife to control u den don't marry an already made woman, go and marry the one u will control. Can u imagine the trash u are spewing with your mouth so u are supporting those voilent beasts that call themselves men?? May your sister's and future daughters marry the likes of osinachies husband in Jesus name. Amen!!!!!

Just at this situation now ....women like u attract abusive men

faithfull18:
Some women need to start standing up for themselves.

Never let anyone talk down on you or go physical on you.

God abeg don't let anyone I know fall into the hands of these kind of men.

The irony is even the so-called spiritual brothers are the worst offenders.

You can't be a Christian n pound Ur wife for whatever reason. If any one so called Christian brother do that to his wife, then he was never a Christian but a bench warmer of the pews. Husband love Ur wife even as Christ love the church - it is a commandment.

I don't know any good God fearing Christian who beat their wife. Except those wolves in sheep clothings. By their fruits ye shall know them.

majority have never been in an abusive relationship b4,thank your God for that..
There is a deeper psychological mindset behind the abused and the abuser, its basically about control,the woman being physically weak always resorts to more insidious ways to punish when slighted,while the man being physically stronger uses more direct ways( fists) to punish,majority of abusive men have very shaky upbringing,( an abusive father or a condescending mother),are usually heavy drinkers or drug users,majority of women who stay after being abused were brought up by overaggressive parents either the father or mother,hence the rationale in their thinking that they deserve the abuse,(i.e i abused him first,i came home late,another man called me..) after all they went through the same treatment as a child ..
Note this is not in anyway supporting abusers but its meant for people to learn either before entering relationships or even when in one already.cos trust me the signs are always there..
An overtly verbally aggressive man especially when drinking or arguing is a clear sign of an hidden abusive nature,a man who has a need to control every social aspect of his woman's life is a potential abuser..
While an abusive woman will be known by snide remarks at her husband, raised voice when in a convo, nagging attitude, and will definitely have issues with other men in which she claims the victim..

almarthins:


You can't be a Christian n pound Ur wife for whatever reason. If any one so called Christian brother do that to his wife, then he was never a Christian but a bench warmer of the pews. Husband love Ur wife even as Christ love the church - it is a commandment.

I don't know any good God fearing Christian who beat their wife. Except those wolves in sheep clothings. By their fruits ye shall know them.

gbam

bjtinz:
Verbal assault especially within marriages should be made a punishable crime just like physical assault.

That the woman is permitted to call the husband a "good for nothing son of a wh*re" while the man should "walk away" is such a laughably facile, one-sided way of addressing a very complex iisue.

Any form of inflicting injury - psychological, mental, physical - is totally unacceptable in any union.

Bottom line, NO partner, male or female, husband or wife, should have to condole any abusive relationship.

As adults, you have to take responsibility for your mental health abeg. Just as we wouldn't want the law rounding up and locking away individuals suspected of mental illness, we certain wouldn't what the law criminalizing verbal and emotional abuse..

Make we begin dey apply commonsense in reasoning these things abeg!

syntekelite:
majority have never been in an abusive relationship b4,thank your God for that..
There is a deeper psychological mindset behind the abused and the abuser, its basically about control,the woman being physically weak always resorts to more insidious ways to punish when slighted,while the man being physically stronger uses more direct ways( fists) to punish,majority of abusive men have very shaky upbringing,( an abusive father or a condescending mother),are usually heavy drinkers or drug users,majority of women who stay after being abused were brought up by overaggressive parents either the father or mother,hence the rationale in their thinking that they deserve the abuse,(i.e i abused him first,i came home late,another man called me..) after all they went through the same treatment as a child ..
Note this is not in anyway supporting abusers but its meant for people to learn either before entering relationships or even when in one already.cos trust me the signs are always there..
An overtly verbally aggressive man especially when drinking or arguing is a clear sign of an hidden abusive nature,a man who has a need to control every social aspect of his woman's life is a potential abuser..
While an abusive woman will be known by snide remarks at her husband, raised voice when in a convo, nagging attitude, and will definitely have issues with other men in which she claims the victim..

100% true

And all these women have given birth.

A woman that born for you, that you said you love.
You turn her to punching bag and beat her till she is dead.

It's bizzare.
Even animals don't beat their mates.

80% Of Nigerian Women Would Rather Die In An Abuses Marriage Than Leave That Marriage, And Believe Me The Reason Is Not Because Of What People Will Say, The Reason Is Because 80% Of Nigerian Women Are Either Jobless, Lazy And Unproductive And Just Solely Depending On The Man For Everything.

Lightorder:
I thought my brother too. He might need it should any woman draws the first blood. Every life is important

Anyone who decides to throw the first punch deserves to get punched. No cap


Damn... nasty... I’m out of here