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Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Nyascobar1414: 5:05pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
CorrectBizWoman: You will have another story to tell.. |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Czario: 5:06pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
sgtponzihater1: Thanks a lot for your write up. You mirror some of my own personal experience... especially the scammers telling you what you're missing, only to run off after the deed is done. I also agree with another poster talking about timing...it's not that we don't have good or great marriages out there, it's just that this generation seems to really suck at good marriages. If your married 60-70 years ago it couldn't have been as bad. 1 Like |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by laiza(m): 5:07pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Dude you deserve an Oscar for this mate!!! What an elaborate idea of a sham called marriage. Dont get me wrong i too will get married but i hope for the right reasons but if it doesn't work out I'm out. odinson1: |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Niceiroko: 5:07pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
sgtponzihater1: |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by dododawa1: 5:08pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Fake storyline,are you doing your responsibility and one side story, marriage is two not one and not by force but CHOICE. |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Sureplug123(m): 5:08pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
LadyRosa:No offence but I find this funny, coming from a woman. |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Nobody: 5:09pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
This thread came at the right time for me.. I can't die unhappy pls 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Okpara10: 5:09pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
No be this same marriage way I dey so abi una own different? Marriage sweet die!! Op, na you Bleep up. You married beauty and career instead of marrying who's sensible. Your cross!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by blank(f): 5:10pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Marry a good person, whether husband or wife. A bad person will make you wish for death. I also support moving in with each other prior to marriage. 6months to 1yr prior at the very least. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Niceiroko: 5:11pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
ibechris: Is your wife like the woman the story has talked about or is it right to act like her |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Iamzik: 5:12pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
ukaface: I think it is because of the religion and African culture. A culture that puts all the stress and responsibilities on the man. A culture that forbids the man from complaining or sees him as weak. A religion that calls the woman a helper (which practically makes it legal for her to contribute little or nothing to the union and get societal approval) whereas the man is the actual helper. A man pays your rent, feeds you, cloth you, pay school fees and every other bill yet the woman is supposed to be the help? Pray tell what is she helping with? My advice to men...don't kill yourself. If your wife works and earn a descent wage, she is not doing you any favour whatsoever by taking up responsibility in the house. Infact marriage should be easier for both because you two, combining your resources and intellect, should be able to easily achieve more than you alone (man/woman) can achieve working alone and faster too ..... Else that Is the value of the marriage? Most men complain because they look at the stress and what they have achieved in marriage and realise they could have achieved far more without the problems of marriage. A man or woman will complain if the partner clearly is a minus 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Arsenate(m): 5:13pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
What are the benefits of marriage to men? Dude on nairaland: you'd be able to buy a property in your wife's name. 15 Likes
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Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by phemmyfour: 5:13pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
odinson1:In marriage, you reach your goals quickly when you marry right e.g If both partners are working and earning well, you do so much with 1m monthly than 500k 2. The best atmosphere to raise children remains in a marriage. Child growing up to see how couple complement each other 3. Loneliness kills, at old age, friends and girlfriends won't be available but your spouse would be there for you in sickness and health. Imagine Olu Jacobs now if he's without a wife or children 1 Like |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by CorrectBizWoman: 5:13pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Nyascobar1414: I don't understand |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Murphyenemuwe: 5:16pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Bros I'm scared what the op just posted is a reality especially to we guys not married yet. I use to have one senior bros around when I just proposed to my ex 2yrs ago. He saw how happy I was then and he said something very profound. He said when u get married have it in mind you'll be wrong at all times and she will be always right. I felt what kind slavery is that? Where I have to admit to all wrongdoings while she's always right. And after taking close observation at my relationship, I realized my girl never admitted to a single wrongdoing for 2 years we were engaged. She effortlessly turns right to left and sometimes you get confused. And I came to a conclusion that there's actually no gain for a man in marriage rather than to be manipulated continuously for years. Check your environment and ask this question. Why is it that out of 10 homes almost 8 husbands/fathers die before the wife? The answer is in the question. Ademat7: 3 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by NapoleonHill: 5:16pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Hathor5:That's an unfair comparison and you know it. Thing with career is you feel responsible for your growth. You might even change job when it's not what you want. It's not the same with marriage. One party might decide to sabotage your efforts completely. You can't walk out of the marriage easily either. It take two understanding individuals to make a marriage work. 1 Like |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Ahmed0336(m): 5:18pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Nyascobar1414: Was that a curse? |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by dettolgel: 5:18pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
ibechris: All the things you mentioned up there can be achieved while single. Technically you have not answered the guy's question. 5 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Murphyenemuwe: 5:20pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Bro you must be kidding me. Does marrying a virgin means she doesn't have the manipulative trait? Does it mean she won't cheat with someone else? Some things are just to private to share online LocalStandard1: |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Jide433: 5:20pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I pity you Man |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Pastorsmile: 5:21pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
If I knew what I know now,no human being,brothers, sisters, or any other would have convinced me to go get married. Listen, it'll be a of heaven if you can just raise one or two kids out. Nothing in this life can take the place of being free without woman wahala. Those who are full of pretence may go on to tell us that their marriages are bliss, that I personally know is all lies. Intact,God would have allowed a man to stay on his own and maybe pay a woman each time he needs her service. This whole idea of marriage isn't bliss. In my next world, if there will be any, I will go for baby mama. Women are insatiable. You can't please them. If you like kill yourself and that is the only time they will leave you alone. What a mistake!! 8 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by driand(m): 5:21pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
odinson1:oil dey your head, take 1 bottle of Orijin, its on me... |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Oyiboman69: 5:21pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
LordIsaac:. 1 Like
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Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Nyascobar1414: 5:21pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
As y'all keep wifing up these damaged wom*n, I'll gladly be happy for you all to get burnt... Why do you all gladly like to suffer for another girl you took from the street all in the name of marriage... All women being poison, you have to choose your poison well... But dont trust your wife or else you will get burnt... If you need kids,adopt or go 4 surrogacy... Enjoy your life, dont suffer for another human(especially a female) or else you will gladly get burnt.... Learn to stay with yourself; love yourself... Put yourself first above anyother human... If you wanna be having things with females, be narcissistic, or else you will learn.... Its a two way stuff... 1.Do you want to marry(you save the society and get burnt).. 2.You dont want to marry(you save yourself and let the society get burnt).. For me, I'll rather save myself and let the society get burnt... Jesus already got burnt for the society,still the society was still cruel... With these few points, marriage is a saving grace to women(they have a man who will bear their burdens).. Marriage does not and will not benefit men(you will be a beast of burden(donkey) till you leave planet earth).. If you wanna marry, set standards for the woman,(she must be a virgin),. No Hymen, no Ring... Commitment is so precious to females, b4 she get the commitment, get the hymen... To all men that want to bear the burdens of women(real men).y'all will gladly get burnt and all you will have to doe is to cry social media a river... Men, if you wanna deal with females, stay selfish, self centered, if not you will get burnt.. My peace I leave you! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by ultraviolet27(f): 5:23pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
This Man is really going through a lot O and if this is true I feel for Him Why not Divorce Her Op?forget about Her getting half of Your money it is when One is alive that you Can make Money and even enjoy it. I Read you Write Up and I Shed Tears.Look you will Bounce Back When you leave Her as People have advised You Convert your money into Crypto,If You Can Process U.S Visa and ticket maybe You Should Relocate.Their is no how alimony Can Prevail on You of you are not in the Same Continent with Her. You are being emotionally Financially and Physically Abused to be Frank with You.Your Kids may grow not to Respect and Value if you are still with their Mum When they grow up,Seeing You being treated Like a Trash.Please Salvage what is Left of ur Pride and Place a Value on your Self for ur mental Health Sake if not that ur Baby won't even Value You How Can you Let urself be treated like a Slave? Look for ways to Separate frm that Woman. Their is a case of a Nigerian Singer who died this Month of Cancer She was alleged being Abused Physically and emotionally by Her Husband I Read Her Children also Hit Her of which was instigated by their Dad Why would they have done that?if they never witnessed their Dad Debasing Her too?Same with another Case of a Nigerian Man Whom His Wife Supports His grown Up Kids to Beat Him Up.This is a Man that Provides all His Kids Needs(Emotionally, Physically,Financially),Food,Shelter and Clothing even being inclusive,sent them to the Best Of Schools Yet d Kids wouldn't Run Errand for Him even His Boys Wouldn't wake Up to Wash His Cars they will leave Him to do it. Any attempt by the Man to Wake His Boys Up or Scold them will be Rebuffed by the Wife Imagine Kids wey I Suffer to train O Hadn't been the Man has Stopped that when the Union Was still Fresh it wouldn't have accumulated to that.As Lady Rosa has Said them never born the Woman wey go try that with my Brother whether Younger or Elder Sha.Mr Op Marriage is not by Force and it Is to be enjoyed not endured Please leav that Marriage ASAP She Rides You Because You gave Her a Soft Landing if She Jam another Man wey go Change am for am She go mellow Straight. Better to be Single and Living a Comfortable Life than being enslaved in the name of Marriage their was a Man who Committed Suicide by Hanging Last Year in ekiti State of Nigeria here When the frustration Became too much Ever Since He got married till His 1st Child even grew to 16 Yrs of age His Wife would never make Breakfast for Him even Lunch Most times this Man Goes about buying Tofu or Sausage Roll every morning And His Wife who was even a Nurse Will have all the Time to make Up Her Face and Kit Up but to Cook for the Man no way.in fact this Woman was also a Deacon in One of the Parishes of the Church I attend Which I won't mention the name,hadn't been this Man has Spoken Up,not taken the Bullshit and Driven the Woman to Her Parents House all that for no Happen. See Marriage Should be a 50/50 and a Reciprocal Relationship thing How Can only One Party be Investing in it Financially, Emotionally Even doing all the House chores?Yet the Other Party no send? that is Like Parasitism now Like a Slave and Master Relationship.Op don't See Shege for this Life Sha. 1 Like |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Tranquility2345: 5:23pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
phemmyfour: This….but what if you don’t have any rapport with the wife? You might as well be a single old man with a housemaid. Also, nothing says you can’t have a girlfriend at old age 2 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Jide433: 5:24pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Hathor5:when you are ready to work for it and and your partner is not ready nko? The truth is that marriage is overrated in Africa, especially Nigeria. |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Nyascobar1414: 5:25pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
phemmyfour: society keep telling men, if you dont marry you will be lonely at your old age.. But they wont tell you that If you marry you will not be old, stress in keeping a family kills faster like a snakes poison.. BTW, not everyone will be old. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Cutehector(m): 5:25pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
ibechris:a well manipulated man. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by cerpvad(m): 5:26pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Never marry a lady who you can't control 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by Nyascobar1414: 5:26pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
CorrectBizWoman:All I'm trying to say is that a woman will make you tell another story... Seems it will be of anguish |
Re: Is Modern Marriage A Scam? My Own Story by omotola90(m): 5:27pm On Apr 17, 2022 |
Victerica:so,you want him to disclose his wife's virginity in public?I don't really get |
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