I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Leave! Them tie your placenta there.

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Pascopele:
Leave! Them tie your placenta there.

its hard. I love her.

#3 is your main problem. That aspect of begging her all the time, pleading with her to talk to you or even love you, is your problem. Fix it.

Take the mantle of leadership in your home and put her in her rightful place -- a wife.

echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

Till death do us apart

To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

Leave if you can't put up with her anymore, I can't live with a besetting partner.

Don't die young because of someone's altitude

echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

Love and leadership are two different things. A man needs both. If you lack one aspect, you will ruin your life and home.

echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

LOVE is just a word used by two fools to deceive themselves.

She doesn't talk to you only to ask money for food and you give her

That's where your problem lies. Learn to fight fire with fire or leave the marriage. No woman is worth your peace of mind.

Her low sex drive and her inability to apologized when she's at fault can be seen as issue here, but her being over jealous is not an issue, every loving wife will do the same including me.

If she will agree to take Spanish fly so to improve her sex life, I advise you get her the drugs but make sure that your dick is good enough to withstand whatever will be coming and also look carefully if her clit is still intact or it was cut off.

Acidosis:



#3 is your main problem. That aspect of begging her all the time, pleading with her to talk to you or even love you, is your problem. Fix it.

Take the mantle of leadership in your home and put her in her rightful place -- a wife.

how do i go about that?

Fake ass story... Mchew.

Echomanji, create regular romantic times between you and your wife, no be only when you won gbensh you go dey do lovey lovey!

The issue of anger can be handled by you, giving up is not an option, except you wan make another man raise your daughter.

Her jealousy could be as a result of the way you dey relate with her when you wan go hangout.
Tell her where you dey go and who you dey with, e no dey hurt.

But no be everything about your dealings you go tell your wife to avoid see finish.

Lastly, if she no get job, find her one.

Peace

I can't option divorce for you
But for me if you can't come and increase the reason for my happiness don't come and decrease it

My brother. I will advise you to leave her before you hurt her or yourself.

Pls look for an elderly person she respects alot like her Parents or Pastor or mentor and explain things to them . Let them know how much you love her and u want your marriage to be peaceful without any form of malice, rancor , or incessant disagreement. Don't let it look like you came to report her, but rather for them to help you talk to her to forgive u if there's anything you have done in the past that is still hurtful to her that is making her to behave the way she's doing at the moment. I believe she'll listen to them .
Concerning her low sex drive, assist her with house chores when u can. Women don't respond well to sex when they are stressed with house chores and taking care of the baby. What are the things that makes her happy that u have stopped doing. ?? Look inward and make amend. Also don't just dive into sex. pre-intimacy is very essential. When I got married, my wife had to tell me that I should take it easy. So I had to learn pre-intimacy to prepare both of us for enjoyable love making and not one person enjoying the act. So bro, she needs pre-intimacy .
As long as there's no form of any physical assault, I believe things can be amended and your home will be peaceful and joyous again.

echomanji:
how do i go about that?

How do you go about what?

Don't cheat on her but marry another woman, she will behave normally.
If you divorce her, you are adding to world problems

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

This is having a negative effect on singles, male and female.
Thank God, the number of Nigerians on nairaland aren't many, or there will be fewer marriages.

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

make sure you're ready to Stomach any Bullshit that appears from them

echomanji:
make sure you're ready to Stomach any Bullshit that appears from them

Bros.... I don develop serious phobia for marriage abeg

Take a chill pill and answer my questions.
1. Why did you get married?
2. Your Bachelor days and you married life which was better.
3. Did you get married because people are getting married?

Cutehector:
Fake ass story... Mchew.

Yeah. Always seems Fake when it has not happened to you yet. This is something happenin to me presently and you are saying Fake.

gasparpisciotta:
Echomanji, create romantic times between you and your wife, no be only when you won gbensh you go dey do lovey lovey!

The issue is anger can be handled by you, giving up is not an option, except you wan make another man raise your daughter.

Her jealousy could be as a result of the way you dey relate with her when you wan go hangout.
Tell her where you dey go and who you dey with, e no dey hurt.

But no be everything about your dealings you go tell your wife to avoid see finish.

Lastly, if she no get job, find her one.

Peace

thank you so much.

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

If you no put, another person will

CalmElder:








This is having a negative effect on singles, male and female.
Thank God, the number of Nigerians on nairaland aren't many, or there will be fewer marriages.

To think I "stylishly" interviewed some married men on how they are fairing in their marriages....... you will not believe that over 70% of them wish they are single. And the remaining 30% wish they married someone else

echomanji:
make sure you're ready to Stomach any Bullshit that appears from them

And men doesn't exhibit some sort of bullshit behaviors too right?

IbrahimSkiba:





If you no put, another person will

Abeg make they hurry it up.
Gone are the days we cry of heartbreaks when things like this happen. These days we some how give thanks

DavSagacity:
Pls look for an elderly person she respects alot like her Parents or Pastor or mentor and explain things to them . Tell them how you love her and u want your marriage to work out find and her disposition to all your effort. Don't let it look like you came to report her, but rather to help you talk to her to forgive u if there's anything you have done that is still hurtful to her. I believe she'll listen to them .
As long as there's not form of any physical assault, I believe things can be amended and your home will be peaceful and joyous again.

thank you. I was thinking in that angle too there's no physical Assault at all. I've never raised my game to Touch her. And about

This man doesn't even know what God has done for you... It's better for a woman to have low libido because my brother if it's high na you go run even if you are married, imagine coming back tired from work and somebody is already dragging off your boxers...

I thought I like sex until I met Jennifer...That girl nearly send me back to my ancestors because of constant sex, haba Jenny...!! Sex na food ni...!!

She's over jealous means she's only protecting her territory and she loves you, not talking to you means there is something you are not doing right, every man is supposed to know her woman's soft spot that will be used against her in times like this before getting married, perhaps, you both were in a very SERIOUS relationship...

I'm sure when you were dating her you saw that anger as love, find a way to love it and stop making her angry...

I won't advise you leave your marriage because the problem holds no water here, just little counselling and you both will be fine...

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.
1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.
2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff
most especially the female friends.
3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.
I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail. Need advice pls.....

It is an emotional blackmail and the best way to handle it is to find a way to never be slighted by her not giving you the needed attention and regard. To do this, give her a cup of her own pill I.e ignore her too those periods and never show any sign of her attitude getting to you. She will get the message and never try it again.

The question is, would you entertain your wife keeping male friends?