FlowerGirl040:
I learnt tailoring for some weeks when I traveled home some years back, he promised my parents I will surely continue when we get back,my dear till date nothing,he keep saying he will buy machine and won't let me go out to learn,till now nothing. I don talk tire,cry tire. Wetin I go do na. He deceived me. I am actually good at baking,fry chinchin but I dare not use it to make money,dey no born me well to try it. And I am one calm and selfless lady,he is using all this to his advantage. The only way I can earn money is not been physical about it,I mean like online while I get my pay into my account direct but I see no online earnings yet.

Sorry bout all you are going through sis... Please focus on being good for yourself and your kids while you continue to pray for him, this too shall pass

nancyij:
i am doing fine, no show yet, i am 40weeks gone, no sign of labor, mummys in the house what will i take for labor to come, i am already tired, now i have completed my hospital things, my girl refuse to come out

Don't worry, she'll come out and your delivery shall be as the Hebrew women.. What's your doctor saying about it since you are 40 full weeks?

FlowerGirl040:
I lost him same year I lost my beloved mother,and same day my eldest child added a year +. After his death,I will carry all the baby things,both the one he used and not yet used,sniff them and cry silently,when my other kids aren't around. After 4 months I took in again,and I was happy,at least it will help alot to ease my heart. But what happened? I fell sick,hubby refused me to go to hospital,he said he will call his nurse instead,he bought drugs,my sickness still persisted and he wasn't happy I was down,he came home one night with another set of drugs saying this one is strong and will make me better,my instinct was rejecting it,I told him these ones are too strong for me,I will call my doctor,this man started nagging that so I am calling him senseless and don't know what is good for his own wife? Last last he forced me to take it in his presence,big big drugs o. The next morning I carry phone to check Google and what I saw shocked me. I started panicking. I can't go out to see a doctor,where is the money? He made me a full house wife,wetin I go carry use?

I told him what I found out,he started nagging again and forced me to take it,what Happened next? I started bleeding when he was not at home,before I knew it,the little festus there was out,it has already form sef,tiny hands,legs but no hair or sex yet. I was so traumatized,oya let me go to the hospital to do scan,he said ok. He keeps delaying till blood flow stopped.
After a week blood started flowing again,mind you I was still spitting and vomiting all this while. I started getting weak,see heavy clots of blood,my sister you go fear,I fainted more than twice, that was when I was rushed to the hospital and it was confirm there is a little product left and placenta,my dear I went through another horrible evacuation. That was how I lost my twins baby again. I shared this here, because I know other Mamas will learn one or two things.

I don't know if I should share what also lead to my one month old babys death. Hmmm.

twins??!!! Did i just c twins??!!! Oluwa oooo ... Pls did ur hubby apologise to u? Twins 4 dt matter, on God i go bite am, fight am wit all my might... Ha!!! My hubby too alwz use d "do u tink i an senseless" statement wen e want me to do wat i knw very well dt it is,wrong... I dnt listen to him ooo... Yes, i am married to u but wen it comes to life threatening decision, i do thorough investigatn b4 makin decision... Even thou d decision is against his. Mama... U tried, ha u ve faced alot. Tnk God u r a strong person. U r wat dey call super woman.

Sassy256:

O God so sorry for what you've been through.
It's well. A lot to say but thank God for your life and sanity, some people will enter deep depression after going through this.
What about doing something from home? Even if it's sewing or baking, is there anyway you can? Because having your own little money for yourself is very important.

You can share the bolded if it will help you feel better❤️

yesso... I swear

Omakraid:

Haaaaaaa, the kind of slap I will put on your back and bad eye I will give you when you wake up ehn...
Please don't try that option ooo.

This your comment made me laugh.
Kokaiye, do the little you can do and rest. Just try to share the work on different days that way you can do them conveniently.
For example, cook for a week or 2 on Monday and stock the freezer with it
Wash clothes on Tuesday etc
It's not easy nursing a baby without help. The day you can't do anything, don't do and attend to yourself and your baby
Try to rest so you don't break down mentally and physically. A friend of mine will say them no dey give medal for strongest woman especially one way just born.
Flowergirl4040. You're a strong woman.
Look for someone you can do drop shipping for that way you can earn your money online without his knowledge. May God see you through.

Mummytoo:


We learn everyday
But y are some men like this na
Yours is better, u don't work
I work, but the money is his not mine

I felt angry and cold while reading

ehn!!! God4bide ooo!!! Me dt is stil fighting hubby 4 practicing 50/50 wit me... I can nva tolerate any man collecting my hard ehn money. No way

kokaiye:
twins??!!! Did i just c twins??!!! Oluwa oooo ... Pls did ur hubby apologise to u? Twins 4 dt matter, on God i go bite am, fight am wit all my might... Ha!!! My hubby too alwz use d "do u tink i an senseless" statement wen e want me to do wat i knw very well dt it is,wrong... I dnt listen to him ooo... Yes, i am married to u but wen it comes to life threatening decision, i do thorough investigatn b4 makin decision... Even thou d decision is against his. Mama... U tried, ha u ve faced alot. Tnk God u r a strong person. U r wat dey call super woman.

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Omakraid:

Oh my God a one month old and twins? Hmmmmnnn.. It is well mama, if you feel relieved enough to share, It will help lift a lot of the inner burden off you... Ehugs mama...
Also Permit me to say I don't think your hubby wants another baby, I may be wrong though..

Lol no. Na me no wan turn to baby factory

FlowerGirl040:
I learnt tailoring for some weeks when I traveled home some years back, he promised my parents I will surely continue when we get back,my dear till date nothing,he keep saying he will buy machine and won't let me go out to learn,till now nothing. I don talk tire,cry tire. Wetin I go do na. He deceived me. I am actually good at baking,fry chinchin but I dare not use it to make money,dey no born me well to try it. And I am one calm and selfless lady,he is using all this to his advantage. The only way I can earn money is not been physical about it,I mean like online while I get my pay into my account direct but I see no online earnings yet.

oh i c now... Men sha!!! Smh

Omakraid:

That's a typical yoruba man you got there... Hubby and I were gisting sometimes back and I told him plainly I wouldn't have married him if I noticed he's not domesticated at all oo, he was surprised... I remember when we just got married, we would both go to work and go to church, then getting back home I would enter the kitchen straight though very tired and he would lie down on the couch pressing his phone..... I don't have a problem with that, my own is I need the strength of your mouth to keep me going so when I talk to you, reply me only for him to tell me he can't talk as his mouth is heavy cos of hunger.... Yeee, I left the food oo so that our mouth can be heavy together in the parlour, who is not tired? By the time I washed my heavy mouth on him in that parlour (God have mercy on me ), na guy man finish the cooking,, energy to talk and energy to cook which one small pass....

Please just manage and don't do more than you can do..

u badt ooo

kokaiye:
u badt ooo

I thank God for bringing me to where I am right now o... I was the black sheep of the family while growing as no little thing passes under my nose without getting the proper action or reaction from me, no word passes by me without getting the proper response whoever you are young or old,rich or poor... I never thought I would be able to get married as I wouldn't want to be cheated by anybody.. Maybe na my mama prayer con dey cut my winchie winchie small small.. I remember after telling them I wanted getting married, the first thing my elder brother said was that I should think about it very well cos I won't come back to that house again except for visits, I bet they never expected I could last even a month because of my twisted personality. But God has taken control shaa , the ajegunle side only comes out when I need to defend myself

Omakraid:

Haaaaaaa, the kind of slap I will put on your back and bad eye I will give you when you wake up ehn...
Please don't try that option ooo. God is with you, continue to be strong ma... Hope your baby's big bro doesn't disturb much cos coping with both of them is not small work ooo

eh God... U nid to c d stinky eyes i gave him eh.... Tnk God big bro is wit mom, else i 4 enter depression frm wrk overload.

Omakraid:

Oh my God a one month old and twins? Hmmmmnnn.. It is well mama, if you feel relieved enough to share, It will help lift a lot of the inner burden off you... Ehugs mama...
Also Permit me to say I don't think your hubby wants another baby, I may be wrong though..

omakraid... I was afraid to say dis cs how cn a drug b so strong it evacuated an already formed twins... D worst any inappropriate medicatn 4 preggy women can do is deform baby but aborting??!!! Smtin smell fishy.... Dt e was even forcin her to tk d drug... Smtin aint right.

kokaiye:
eh God... U nid to c d stinky eyes i gave him eh.... Tnk God big bro is wit mom, else i 4 enter depression frm wrk overload.

Haa, that's better oo. Please always ensure you rest well and as mama Lemonadewifey said, anyday you can't do anything, take care of yourself and baby. My people would always say, housework doesn't finish for people with children

Omakraid:

Haaa, may God help us with our men ooo.. Stay cool mama

Asin ehn... Me dt dnt joke wit my money lol ... I b konk ijebu woman mk one man come talk say e wan collect my moni... Hmmn dt nan go try. I can spend on my children n mysef n not ask u of kobo but dnt carry ur own bukata can my side biko bcs i dnt stress u, so dnt stress me.

kokaiye:
omakraid... I was afraid to say dis cs how cn a drug b so strong it evacuated an already formed twins... D worst any inappropriate medicatn 4 preggy women can do is deform baby but aborting??!!! Smtin smell fishy.... Dt e was even forcin her to tk d drug... Smtin aint right.

That was why I said I don't think he wanted a baby, even if he did, maybe not at that moment

Lemonadewifey:

This your comment made me laugh.
Kokaiye, do the little you can do and rest. Just try to share the work on different days that way you can do them conveniently.
For example, cook for a week or 2 on Monday and stock the freezer with it
Wash clothes on Tuesday etc
It's not easy nursing a baby without help. The day you can't do anything, don't do and attend to yourself and your baby
Try to rest so you don't break down mentally and physically. A friend of mine will say them no dey give medal for strongest woman especially one way just born.
Flowergirl4040. You're a strong woman.
Look for someone you can do drop shipping for that way you can earn your money online without his knowledge. May God see you through.

tnk u 4 d advice my sister.

FlowerGirl040:
Apologize ke! Till date he said nothing wrong with the drugs and it's a pharmacist that gave him and he told him it's for his pregnant wife,so he knows it won't harm me. I just dey look am. I later sent the name of those drugs to my doctor and she said I shouldn't have used it. Wetin I go do? When I was forced to take it in his presence. Forget that apologize,you see that apologize stuff,he doesn't apologize to his wife,that's just him,no matter what. He will NEVER. Na those type of people that has the mindset of I am always right o.

my sister... I knw those kinda men... VERY WELL!!!!!!!!!

Lemonadewifey:

This your comment made me laugh.

Mama no mind me, na d kain person wey I be.. I don't joke with other people's children, why should my dh joke with mine?

zaynie:


Hi mama.
I'm right here.
You can send me a whatsapp message on 080. 247. 40159

Thanks mama, will do dat nw

Omakraid:

I thank God for bringing me to where I am right now o... I was the black sheep of the family while growing as no little thing passes under my nose without getting the proper action or reaction from me, no word passes by me without getting the proper response whoever you are young or old,rich or poor... I never thought I would be able to get married as I wouldn't want to be cheated by anybody.. Maybe na my mama prayer con dey cut my winchie winchie small small.. I remember after telling them I wanted getting married, the first thing my elder brother said was that I should think about it very well cos I won't come back to that house again except for visits, I bet they never expected I could last even a month because of my twisted personality. But God has taken control shaa , the ajegunle side only comes out when I need to defend myself

u c ur broda ehn... E is a comedian

Omakraid:

Haa, that's better oo. Please always ensure you rest well and as mama Lemonadewifey said, anyday you can't do anything, take care of yourself and baby. My people would always say, housework doesn't finish for people with children

trust me... Right now... I am takin my rest o

FlowerGirl040:
Apologize ke! Till date he said nothing wrong with the drugs and it's a pharmacist that gave him and he told him it's for his pregnant wife,so he knows it won't harm me. I just dey look am. I later sent the name of those drugs to my doctor and she said I shouldn't have used it. Wetin I go do? When I was forced to take it in his presence. Forget that apologize,you see that apologize stuff,he doesn't apologize to his wife,that's just him,no matter what. He will NEVER. Na those type of people that has the mindset of I am always right o.

Sis, he simply wasn't ready for that baby in my own opinion. I stand to be corrected though..

I'm happy you've gotten yourself back.. Try and put the incidence behind you like the strong woman you are and focus on your God-given joy.. Love you plenty mama and I wish I was there to give you a big HUG

FlowerGirl040:
Lol that time when you shower with hot water,then drink hot water join,the kind sweat ehn, especially during heat.

Thanks. I am not fully over it yet though,not after another terrible miscarriage @14weeks. But we move Who are we to question God

I love your faith ma'am... Keep the fire burning.....God has done it

kokaiye:
u c ur broda ehn... E is a comedian

I tell you, not only him but all of them..

I'm a little bit calm now and if anyone has a recipe for gentility, I will like it because to be honest if not that my dh knows that my head touches a little and laughs things off, e for no easy oo..

YummySuits:


Cappo easy na!! This is my first but I'm looking at 2 years jare. Indian03 how far?

Toooor....two years kehhhh .
My sister it's well jare.

busybeei5:

Cappo be calming down ooo, I follow join for the sabbatical o, lol

Abiiiiii...thank you teamie.
Sabbatical after two is good for me too

FlowerGirl040:
Apologize ke! Till date he said nothing wrong with the drugs and it's a pharmacist that gave him and he told him it's for his pregnant wife,so he knows it won't harm me. I just dey look am. I later sent the name of those drugs to my doctor and she said I shouldn't have used it. Wetin I go do? When I was forced to take it in his presence. Forget that apologize,you see that apologize stuff,he doesn't apologize to his wife,that's just him,no matter what. He will NEVER. Na those type of people that has the mindset of I am always right o.

Hmmmmm.... I feel for you... You're really calm... God will touch his heart for good.

Omakraid:

Don't worry, she'll come out and your delivery shall be as the Hebrew women.. What's your doctor saying about it since you are 40 full weeks?

amen ma, i am using redeemed maternity, the midwife is not saying anything

Omakraid:

Mama no mind me, na d kain person wey I be.. I don't joke with other people's children, why should my dh joke with mine?

Na so o. Later they'll be the ones doing video and taking pictures of the baby plenty . God will see us through

kokaiye:
tnk u 4 d advice my sister.

E-hugs sis. Sending love and light your way

MomoAdura:
Congratulations to all the latest moms in da house. Easy peasy delivery to all waddling moms.

Special shout outs to my May 2021 teamies...how una dey?
Anybody back? I know some people don collect sharp sharp.
Una Cappo still dey on sabbatical leave till further notice. So help me God!

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Please Cappo, be calming down lol... we're preparing for their first birthday.

How una dey my people. I miss una well o