Abobi nah everywhere ... woman with smartphone nah legion o

echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

op let me give u small tips that will pull her legs. Go to computer center & print a fake divorce letter. Serve her the letter nd form don jazy. She will cry nd beg u if truely she loves you, bt if she shows no remorse leave her for good.

Brother, I was in your shoes. Exactly the same scenario. But I left her before getting married. I can't be spending money on problem.

And thing is, most times they're not that endowed physically.

Golden111:
Just say "your wife is not letting you flirt in peace" which one is she's embarrassing your female friends

I hope she also finds very caring male friends

For all wetin him write ,na only that one you see?

echomanji:
its hard. I love her.

Only if you're aware that she will never think twice before she leave you if she was in your shoes.

Acidosis:



#3 is your main problem. That aspect of begging her all the time, pleading with her to talk to you or even love you, is your problem. Fix it.

Take the mantle of leadership in your home and put her in her rightful place -- a wife.

God bless you...

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Therapy.

There's a communication lapse between you two.

There's probably lack of fulfillment on her part. She's also probably not happy with something in your marriage that she is not talking about.

Don't listen to those telling you to divorce her.

Most are children.

If you want to quit, quit and have peace..

I still don't get why you folks allow your wives harass your female friends to the extent of calling them and warning them.. like what do you people gain from such.
I'm sure OP hasn't even bothered to check her own contacts or chats with male friends which If you check well, she is having an affair outside.
You people sha want to turn this forum to problemland with your simping ways.

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

Don't be a coward bro ...
Put that damn ring on your girlfriend finger before someone else does

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

if u are tired, leave her. By the way, since Osinachi died, women have been going on a mantra #leavetolive

Sexually unsatisfied people are aggressive as well. She prolly had a past trauma eg boyfriend, dad, friends etc. See a counselor before making any serious decision

echomanji:
how do I go about that?

Haven't you heard about iron sharpeneth Iron?

Golden111:
Just say "your wife is not letting you flirt in peace" which one is she's embarrassing your female friends

I hope she also finds very caring male friends

Don't be saying rubbish you've not experienced. It's not about flirting don't you get?

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Give her head

If she snub you snub her even when she asks for food money and then go out and return late like 1:00 am and never explain where you were to her. Make sure you are not cheating though!. That attitude will help and then leave early the next morning even if you don't go to work very early. No talking at that time too until she apologises to you. Then you will take the opportunity to let her know you are tired of her attitude and tell her about the sex issues between you both. But be nice though firm in your voice and look as you do and when done do not apologise for a long time for letting her know that way. Be a man!

ONE DIVORCE TOO MANY. LOOK FOR OTHER ALTERNATIVES

I can feel your sadness from your words. I wish I could proffer a solution to quickly turn things around for you. I can only wish you the best in whatever decision you go with and plead for you to be more tolerant.

For you to bring your marital issues here, it shows how much u wish for a better marriage and a way out of this predicament of yours.

Shalom.

What a man needs in marriage!!!

Good sex that balance between the two spouse.

Good food....not oil and water fighting war of separation inside pot.

Respect....treat him as the Lord of the home and enjoy ur husband.

Peace of mind... don't bother him with issues you know he doesn't have the capability to solve.

A woman he can trust.

A helper (Help mate)

Acidosis:



#3 is your main problem. That aspect of begging her all the time, pleading with her to talk to you or even love you, is your problem. Fix it.

Take the mantle of leadership in your home and put her in her rightful place -- a wife.

How can he fix someone's attitude towards him.

Acidosis:



Love and leadership are two different things. A man needs both. If you lack one aspect, you will ruin your life and home.

You seem not to get it do you.

faithfull18:
Sha don't leave your marriage, these are minor issues.

Minor issues kwa.. Omo!

So what issues are major??

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

Marriage is not a bed of rose, you should expect ups and downs but how you both manage it is the most important thing.

Absorb her shit till death if u love her

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Stop begging all the time. That's what she's using against you

Bro, not yet, hopefully she will bring you joy.

[b] Many times people don't know what they have signed up for when it comes to marriage. I know many people will still ask the annoying question " Didn't you see all these before marrying her?" Life before marriage is 10% of what you will get when you finally marry her and as a matter of fact, most red flags come as what you can actually manage and if you complain at that stage, people will flag you as being unserious. Brother, there is one piece of advice I will give you. Try to be nicer to her even when she doesn't deserve it, appreciate her, and run to her aid more often. Let her see you doing things even before she asks. I know you might be saying "Yes I play my role as a man" Nah it is far beyond that. Sometimes in marriages, a man is the problem and in another it's the woman. Be honest with yourself and see what you are actually doing wrong too. in the market of Marriage, force don't buy and force doesn't sell but only compromise. A man that wants to enjoy his marriage will always lose an argument and stay happy. New age woke rules cannot and will never earn you happiness. Finally, every time she misbehaves look at her and see christ. Talk to her often and make her your best friend.[/b]

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially the female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....

Brethren! don't always be in an hurry to conclude everyone is a kid like you.

What's the essence of keeping female friends when his wife is not comfortable with it?

And will he be comfortable with his wife keeping male friends?

Tundellinium:


Don't be saying rubbish you've not experienced. It's not about flirting don't you get?

There are times people get frustrated in marriage I'm reading a book right now
Things I wish I knew before we for married by gray Chapman. Some times you may need counseling if it gets to a point that you both can't stand each other. And the libido thing get her to a doctor or read up on ways in which to increase it. By the way your wife is probably insecure and always busy with the child, as a new mother myself I know how much I crave oga attention as most times it all just overwhelmes you. so try and read the book and try counseling and trying to figure things out. No marriage perfect you learn on the go

This is the exact description of my wife of three years. But we’re gradually learning to live together.

[Some of u will come here, type sentimental rubbish just to get people to believe ur story. My dear I'll tell u that u are a cheat, hmm! what do u mean @#2? Because u flirt around, u began to see ur wife having a low sex drive today. Again, u always hurt her so badly that will warrant @#3. So if ur tired because u want something new just do so and stop coming here to mislead ur fellow men into believing that women are so terrible,......I mean there is no smoke without �. And for those of u whom will judge men/women base on people's opinions on Nairaland, I PITY U. Mquote author=echomanji post=112049429]I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.

1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.

2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff, most especially theen like u are everywhere female friends.

3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.

I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail.

Need advice pls.....[/quote]

Don't destroy your family because of low s*x drive of your wife. You will end up regretting it for the rest of your life those that are tiger in bed and then it will be too late. Communicate with your wife more go out on dates, spice up your marriage.

You might be killing your happiness by not putting that ring on her finger. If she is right for you, pls go for it. You are not other people, and thier respective situations aren't yours either

DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness