Sergio104:


Omo some people dey try oh.

A virgin because of career path Sha.

But the urge is too much here.

One thing is certain....."i don't think I can maintain virginity till marriage"

I'm also contemplating whether to defile my virginity with an 18yr old girl who is a virgin.I'm still giving it a deep thought.

Also it is an obligation for me to take up this advocacy mantle which has been handed over by all the men and women GOD used to lighten my path in this quest. So many people came preaching chastity, STDs alias ‘chanka-chanka’ to us right from SCM in boarding school, FECA etc. That’s healthy association. There is this track I archived I don’t know if it is from Gbile Akani some where he said “If sex was LOVE, then the prostitution would be the greatest Lover on earth”. All those motivations kept resounding and spurring me on Glory to GOD!

EmGeee I struggled to understand your points.I'm just rooting for you.Your husband will be one of the luckiest men.A more personal question:I currently have two ladies who are known to be virgins, but the older one,19, always don't want us to discuss virginity and anytime I bring up issues about virginity she seems to be upset.As an experienced mature lady(virgin), what can you say about that?

It’s not been easy but I’m not fvcking until I marry wumi2017

jawalis:
It’s not been easy but I’m not fvcking until I marry wumi2017

Are you also a virgin?

VictorUSA:
EmGeee I struggled to understand your points.I'm just rooting for you.Your husband will be one of the luckiest men.A more personal question:I currently have two ladies who are known to be virgins, but the older one,19, always don't want us to discuss virginity and anytime I bring up issues about virginity she seems to be upset.As an experienced mature lady(virgin), what can you say about that?

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Like I said earlier I don’t in anyway hint that am virgin, as a matter of fact I twist it when asked cos I don’t want people to start assessing me unnecessarily cos only my husband is entitled to know so even if am in relationship with someone I can only reveal it in the long-run else you wouldn’t even know what the person actually want from you. So in this case, if you both revealed your status she shouldn’t have issues discussing it as it would help you both to chart the right course for building your relationship while upholding chastity. Two cannot walk together except they agree. Your problem is that you are looking for a virgin only GOD can help you with that and don’t go defiling anyone and seering your conscience it will mar you in the end cos you reap what you sow!

VictorUSA:
Are you also a virgin?

Yes.

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jawalis:

Yes.

That's nice.Can you help tell/explaine what motivated you so we can all learn?

VictorUSA:
That's nice.Can you help tell/explaine what motivated you so we can all learn?

It’s just a personal choice. And moreover, I don’t love anyone at present. That just it. I see no need to engage in such when I’m not ready to father a child.

jawalis:

It’s just a personal choice. And moreover, I don’t love anyone at present. That just it. I see no need to engage in such when I’m not ready to father a child.

Valid point.A more personal question:I don't watch porn, but I always masturbate.Do you masturbate or watch porn to satisfy your sexual feeling?

VictorUSA:
Valid point.A more personal question:I don't watch porn, but I always masturbate.Do you masturbate or watch porn to satisfy your sexual feeling?

I don’t masturbate but I watch porn.

jawalis:

I don’t masturbate but I watch porn.

Jawalis, I'm learning from u too just as I'm learning from EmGeee.Have you ever tried to stop watching porn? And do you think that watching porn stabilizes your drive for sex?

VictorUSA:
Jawalis, I'm learning from u too just as I'm learning from EmGeee.Have you ever tried to stop watching porn? And do you think that watching porn stabilizes your drive for sex?

I’m not addicted to porn. I can boldly say it. But I couldn’t say no when you asked if I watch porn. Sometimes I go two weeks without even thinking about sex or porn. So it’s not as if I’m adducted to it. I watch porn just to gather experience and sometime out of boredom. I can stop it, Yes. I’m sure. But other times it stabilizes my drive for sex like you said. I forget sexual urges after watching it.

EmGeee I so much appreciate your time and effort to contribute vehemently in this topic, indeed it's not easy.But some more questions so that the young ladies in this forum will also learn alot.

Q:you said you don't Xpressly announce/tell you are a virgin, what motivated that? Was there any form of redicule by the public?

Shalom

jawalis:

I’m not addicted to porn. I can boldly say it. But I couldn’t say no when you asked if I watch porn. Sometimes I go two weeks without even thinking about sex or porn. So it’s not as if I’m adducted to it. I watch porn just to gather experience and sometime out of boredom. I can stop it, Yes. I’m sure. But other times it stabilizes my drive for sex like you said. I forget sexual urges after watching it.

Hails!!! Thats very great.Would mind telling us ur age range? sorry i don't mean to upset? I'm in my very early twenties.

VictorUSA:
Hails!!! Thats very great.Would mind telling us ur age range? sorry i don't mean to upset? I'm in my very early twenties.

It’s no problem. You are free to ask me questions but with boundaries. I’ll be 27 by June.

jawalis:

It’s no problem. You are free to ask me questions but with boundaries. I’ll be 27 by June.

Wow! That's great.Now there's this popular perception that a virgin man must marry a virgin lady/craves to marry a virgin lady.Do you crave to marry a virgin as the consquence of your virginity? What do you have to say about that perception?

Shalom

VictorUSA:
Wow! That's great.Now there's this popular perception that a virgin man must marry a virgin lady/craves to marry a virgin lady.Do you crave to marry a virgin as the consquence of your virginity? What do you have to say about that perception?

Shalom

Frankly, I’ll be very happy if I can end up with a virgin, it’ll be a thing of joy to me and in fact, I’ll almost worship her feet because I know it’s not been a easy journey to achieve but however, I don’t crave for virgin. It’s not a thing to consider for relationship as far as I’m concerned. Reason I don’t discriminate is that, I celibate not because anyone is forcing me or I don’t have the chance. In fact, I’ve been by myself since 18yrs old so I have all the opportunities to explore and do whatever but for some reasons; I’m abstaining. so I’m not going to criticize/discriminate against anyone who’s not a virgin

jawalis:

Frankly, I’ll be very happy if I can end up with a virgin, it’ll be a thing of joy to me and in fact, I’ll almost worship her feet because I know it’s not been a easy journey to achieve but however, I don’t crave for virgin. It’s not a thing to consider for relationship as far as I’m concerned. Reason I don’t discriminate is that, I celibate not because anyone is forcing me or I don’t have the chance. In fact, I’ve been by myself since 18yrs old so I have all the opportunities to explore and do whatever but for some reasons; I’m abstaining. so I’m not going to criticize/discriminate against anyone who’s not a virgin

Thats a v good opinion.I'll be 20 on the 15th of May,I pray God give me the grace.What advise will u give young virgins guys like us?

VictorUSA:
Thats a v good opinion.I'll be 20 on the 15th of May,I pray God give me the grace.What advise will u give young virgins guys like us?

It’s just determination. You must be able to resist pleasure, don’t have too many friends and get some things you really love to do that will always occupy your heart and time.

jawalis:

Frankly, I’ll be very happy if I can end up with a virgin, it’ll be a thing of joy to me and in fact, I’ll almost worship her feet because I know it’s not been a easy journey to achieve but however, I don’t crave for virgin. It’s not a thing to consider for relationship as far as I’m concerned. Reason I don’t discriminate is that, I celibate not because anyone is forcing me or I don’t have the chance. In fact, I’ve been by myself since 18yrs old so I have all the opportunities to explore and do whatever but for some reasons; I’m abstaining. so I’m not going to criticize/discriminate against anyone who’s not a virgin

Good to read your stories dear, keep it up. Self-discipline and control is a great virtue. David and Solomon were victims of lack of self discipline. You see it’s gonna save you a lot. People are yet to realize that there is much more to sex, I believe that hence I wouldn’t just do it anyhow or with just anybody. I will prefer to do it appropriately as ordained. I don’t know how it’s related to breast but on two occasions now I was undressing with some ladies and they be like Na wa o your breast is still standing, I just answer ‘really? My dear I don’t herald it for security purpose. Rape etc. Plus it seems guys crave for it so if a guy hears it he may be bent on doing anything just for virginity sake so it is purely my business with my husband. He will find out at appropriate time. I derive joy and fulfillment from self development and progress, so I channel my energy mainly to building myself up. You have to be ready to resist temptations, watching porn drained me last year then I started have even feeling of someone sexing me when am sleeping it took deliverance to save me from that predicament cos it caused me great set back I lost so much financially, socially, spiritually so I am very intentional about this peace of mind business and I have been seeing the goodness of GOD. I hear ladies do so many stuff on their own, to me it is degrading and disgusting, I avoid every porn stuff, if I mistakenly see one I close it immediately. All these sex tapes they have been releasing I didn’t bother myself with wetin no concern me Na my own agenda be my priority.

Victor you are just going to 20 my dear you have a long way to go, at least 5yrs to go so my dear work on your future. Plan your future and get to work if you really mean business. Don’t follow the trend, you can stand out and set the pace.

jawalis:

It’s just determination. You must be able to resist pleasure, don’t have too many friends and get some things you really love to do that will always occupy your heart and time.

Thanks alot.I'd like to ask you questions when I get them or faced with difficulty.Thanks.

EmGeee:


Good to read your stories dear, keep it up. Self-discipline and control is a great virtue. David and Solomon were victims of lack of self discipline. You see it’s gonna save you a lot. People are yet to realize that there is much more to sex, I believe that hence I wouldn’t just do it anyhow or with just anybody. I will prefer to do it appropriately as ordained. I don’t know how it’s related to breast but on two occasions now I was undressing with some ladies and they be like Na wa o your breast is still standing, I just answer ‘really? I derive joy and fulfillment from self development and progress, so I channel my energy mainly to building myself up. You have to be ready to resist temptations, watching porn drained me last year then I started have even feeling of someone sexing me when am sleeping it took deliverance to save me from that predicament cos it caused me great set back I lost so much financially, socially, spiritually so I am very intentional about this peace of mind business and I have been seeing the goodness of GOD. I hear ladies do so many stuff on their own, to me it is degrading and disgusting, I avoid every porn stuff, if I mistakenly see one I close it immediately. All these sex tapes they have been releasing I didn’t bother myself with wetin no concern me Na my own agenda be my priority.

Victor you are just going to 20 my dear you have a long way to go, at least 5yrs to go so my dear work on your future. Plan your future and get to work if you really mean business. Don’t follow the trend, you can stand out and set the pace.

Wow, I never noticed you here on Nairaland. But it’s nice to meet you today. I believe as well that there are more to sex than the physical or biological pleasure people got from the act. I can’t even imagine myself with a woman I’m not married to. I’m not SU (a fanatics) but I’m always guided when it comes to issues like this. I’ll graduate from the university in less than 5 months times. It’s always a challenging task truly in my five years in the university but all it takes is self determination and control. I once asked one of my friends who is sexually active that what advantage has sex given him over me and he’s not been able to say something tangible than pleasure pleasure and pleasure. So I find my pleasure in other task.

VictorUSA:
Thanks alot.I'd like to ask you questions when I get them or faced with difficulty.Thanks.

You can quote me anytime

jawalis:


Wow, I never noticed you here on Nairaland. But it’s nice to meet you today. I believe as well that there are more to sex than the physical or biological pleasure people got from the act. I can’t even imagine myself with a woman I’m not married to. I’m not SU (a fanatics) but I’m always guided when it comes to issues like this. I’ll graduate from the university in less than 5 months times. It’s always a challenging task truly in my five years in the university but all it takes is self determination and control. I once asked one of my friends who is sexually active that what advantage has sex given him over me and he’s not been able to say something tangible than pleasure pleasure and pleasure. So I find my pleasure in other task.

My dear I have been registered for long but don’t frequent as I never master this platform. You are definitely on the right path, anyone with conscience would always regret the act when that momentary pleasure douses cos I experience it with watching porn, after that comes regret when you realize it’s a total waste of energy except their conscience have been seered they would then want to drag others to their level but I always have to stand out tall especially when am convinced am on the right path. My dear you are a real man, it’s a special kind of grace that has to be nurtured but people don’t realize it. I just can say it all on this space I just pray more grace and favor to you �

Ladies and gentlemdn, pls welcome another wonderful guest in this thread.He have alot for us so we can learn.He is Demigod22.

I learned that you don't date, can you tell us what is the motivating factor?

shalom

EmGeee you didn't answer my last question.I just hope you weren't fed up with my questions.

jawalis:
It’s not been easy but I’m not fvcking until I marry wumi2017

I was 19 this year and still a virgin, but I rarely have feelings for women, is there any biological disorder in me or you also feel thesame?

VictorUSA:
EmGeee you didn't answer my last question.I just hope you weren't fed up with my questions.

It is in my penultimate reply to Jawalis

EmGeee:


My dear I have been registered for long but don’t frequent as I never master this platform. You are definitely on the right path, anyone with conscience would always regret the act when that momentary pleasure douses cos I experience it with watching porn, after that comes regret when you realize it’s a total waste of energy except their conscience have been seered they would then want to drag others to their level but I always have to stand out tall especially when am convinced am on the right path. My dear you are a real man, it’s a special kind of grace that has to be nurtured but people don’t realize it. I just can say it all on this space I just pray more grace and favor to you �

I appreciate this. Thanks so much

Ladies and gentlemen join me in welcoming another great fellow, Benwallt, he have alot for us to learn.

Q:I learnt that you are a virgin guy, can you tell us what the motivating factor is?