JONNYSPUTE:
.... I saw it earlier that's why I overlooked her emotional tantrums. Besides. What do you expect? When a thief is exposed,he or she tries to use emotional blackmail to cover up.

This thread is an eye opener for those who still doesn't understand what's happening.

Real eye opener. Tonight, I am going to write the landlord a letter and subsequently issue a stern warning to my neighbours concerning the way their kids leave their apartments and converge in front of mine all day, making a noise and ruining the whole place. Those kids and their stupid parents have no regard for other people's privacy.
As a crowd pleaser, I have learnt to tolerate this nonsense for far too long , but it ends tonight!
Don't care if anyone thinks I hate their kids. These are desperate times.

simpleseyi:
Too bad.

You should have dragged everybody to the shrine. When the little witch sees the gods, she will start peeing on her self. Maybe Fulani herdsmen have finally raped her to death as she wished several years back or she might have aborted a pregnancy for one of her Sugar daddies and end up in the grave.

you're heartless dude

Aystarz:


Real eye opener. Tonight, I am going to write the landlord a letter and subsequently issue a stern warning to my neighbours concerning the way their kids leave their apartments and converge in front of mine all day, making a noise and ruining the whole place. Those kids and their stupid parents have no regard for other people's privacy.
As a crowd pleaser, I have leant to tolerate this nonsense hitherto, but it ends tonight!
Don't care if anyone thinks I hate their kids. These are desperate times.

.... Better for you bro. Like I used to say. Trust everybody but never trust the devil inside them. Meaning. Always becareful,wise and smart.

LUAN1:
omo, one small boy of about 4yr, my neighbors son saw labs of a female neighbor of about 30yrs,... This boy gone crazy, went and start romancing labs,..the girl push him away,. The next day he went to kiss the girl,. The boy was doing this to all the female tenant in the compound,..those female warn him not to enter their room again

What the Bleep is a lab?

Aystarz:


Real eye opener. Tonight, I am going to write the landlord a letter and subsequently issue a stern warning to my neighbours concerning the way their kids leave their apartments and converge in front of mine all day, making a noise and ruining the whole place. Those kids and their stupid parents have no regard for other people's privacy.
As a crowd pleaser, I have leant to tolerate this nonsense hitherto, but it ends tonight!
Don't care if anyone thinks I hate their kids. These are desperate times.

.... Better for you bro. Like I used to say. Trust everybody but never trust the devil inside them. Meaning. Always becareful,wise and smart. Desperate times needs desperate measures and don't give a damn about what people say provided you are on the right track.

olamakinde:
you're heartless dude

.... Lol. But the hearty op has lost his wife.
So which is better?

Stanweezy:


Baba u know all those psychological statement that children comes to ppl who plays with them.

When I was small, my mum friend took my younger sister to leave with them after a year the wife conceive.

Mind you she married almost same time with my mum but it took her 20yrs to conceive

I understand that good fortune might come to those that do good.

Mavinsoladele:


I wept while reading your first story. At this rate, I don't even want to have anything to do with ladies or female children.

Bro this life is terrible and many things happens on daily basis.
Any time I remember this particular event I always get devastated.

lindseykibler:
This matter of rape should always be investigated thoroughly. Mine was 2015. This particular girl was my neighbor. Normally, I never liked talking with female neighbors but this girl made us started exchanging greetings and sometime we seat together in the compound and discus cos we should be of age limit. One morning, a neighbor of mine (man) that recently got married, woke me up with a knock on door to help him delete a chat on messenger which I tried but he didn’t have data. I told him to get data cos I didn’t want to use my data to delete the message for him after I found out it was a chat between him and this particular girl. Through the chat both of them are seeing each other but the man wants to wipe off the messages so his wife doesn’t get to see it.

Actually, it wasn’t my business. The man said I shouldn’t worry that when he comes back from work in the night that he will buy data so I can help him delete it. So later in the evening, I started receiving calls from this particular girl that I should come back from work. I asked her what the problem was, she said it’s something important. I ignored her at first until she kept calling which I picked like 3times which she kept repeating if I don’t come back that moment that I will regret it that my life was at risk. I had to close my shop and go home by 6:30pm with my cousins that came to be with us then. Before I could get home, it was already after 7pm.

I called the girl I was home and she walked into the sitting room, luckily I was sitting with my cousins. Then she said, she will like to see me private. Then I suggested we see outside the balcony, she refused cos the balcony is a joint balcony with this my male neighbor that wants his messages deleted. It was then she suggested if we can use my room that it was an important conversation which I agreed cos I wasn’t having any thing in mind. I was waiting for her to tell me why she called me home, it was then she brought out the man phone that I should help the man delete the message. I tried to delete the message but it wasn’t working. I was surprised the man still haven’t bought data yet.

I told this girl I can’t delete the chat without network and I was eager to hear what she have to tell me for making me come back home so early with threats to my life. then she started saying I must delete the message first before she will tell me what she called me for. I insisted I won’t use my network to delete the message for the man until he buys the data. Omo, it was at this point this girl started threatening me that if I don’t delete the message that she will scream so other neighbors will think I’m raping her. my world shattered at that moment cos i felt used by this girl for making me close my shop on time just to come hear such nonsense from. I tried to push her out of my room but she started shouting. I had to push her out with a dirty slap cos I didn’t see all that coming. Out of anger, I left the house to police station cos rape case on my head is something I never want to attach in my life. Police station wasn’t far from my house. Just like 4 houses away. When I got to the police station, I laid the complaint and the first thing the lady in charge of the case said was, You are a very lucky boy for reporting the case first that if it was the girl that reported the case first that they will be happy and they will drag me and make money out of it. My cousins were all shocked over this issues cause they were all with me at the shop when the girl kept calling me and also with me at home when this was happening. Before I could come back from the police station, boys have already raided my house that I tried raping the girl. I couldn’t sleep at home that night until the next day cos I was running for my life for something I never committed. Luckily for me, the next day my second neighbor that is a jehovah witness summoned everyone in the compound and narrated everything cos the man and his wife said they overheard our conversation and also when the girl threatened me with a rape. It was the man and his wife that gave me a breathing air that period cos even my senior brother never believed me and everyone else was already seeing me as a rapist. What got me more upset then, this other stup*d neighbor that recently got married then was busy trying to save his marriage by begging me to take the case off from police cos he didn’t want to get involved cos anything that makes him get involved, his wife will find out that he’s been sleeping with this girl in the compound. See me wey no like trouble na so this girl wan take drag me with rape that period. Ever Since then I fear women and mostly whenever I hear rape case, the first thing that comes to mind is that the man accused might be innocent. People should investigate rape case properly before taking any actions. Most of all these girls are liars and can destroy a man life with a rape case.

Your stubbornness nearly cost your freedom. What prevented you from using your data to delete the msg and save yourself from all this brouhaha.

Stubborn fly flows corpse to grave.

May be she lied against some one as well, she would have land so many in trouble.....just thank God .

A cousin of mine was almost going to kirikiri because of this as a bachelor children in their yard(bariga Lagos) will come to his room and he sends them msg he's also a pastor now Gbam he was accused of molesting the kids before we knew it they're in the court the next sitting he will be taken to kirikiri haaa! He said he was innocent, we believed him but his accusers said he did it okay we were pleading let's settle nooooo!!! He said he gives this kids money he took them like his own kids. Thank God took control even then he was born again. Not as if it does not happen but look at Op with his bad experience. Before we knew it final judgment day if we don't bring so so amount they were taking my cousin to kirikiri mmm we were able to just get the money he was released. Bachelor don't allow kids buy things for you and coming into your room even boys the will say you're a homosexual.

okoroemeka:
come on man,that cannot possibly be true,how can you remember what happened when you are 3 years old or press boobs of a primary 2 child,it is not possible,how can a 5-6 year old in primary 2 have a pressable boobs,I have not seen that,maybe in your place

I remember things from that age range too: kindergarten to pry1... That's about 27 years ago...

tarantino1:




I hate children in general, whether they're related to me or not. Ever since I was 12, if person wan gimme pikin carry, e dey irritate my soul.

Antyxx

Connected1:

I have been trying to learn how to forgive people but I still can't oh, I heard marriage is all about having a forgiven heart but if someone offends me very badly I can't forgive them no matter how hard I try.

Friends, you'll keep hurting yourself more. I was stuck with that for years... It was so bad that my friend nicknamed me using the word malice to form it.

I heard that anger or unforgiving attitudes are possibly linked to some ulcers and health issues.

Strange right? When we get angry certain hormones are released and when it's get too much in your system it's trouble. Also nervous disorders and bad dreams.

It was when I got converted to Jesus that I learnt to Forgive even before they ask for forgiveness: many don't even ask, might just use smiles and jokes to make up.

Today, by God's grace it seems people get frustrated trying to get me offended.

No! I still love you even if you Hate me! For peace, I may avoid you, but deep down I'm willing to help if I have the slightest opportunity. Hence, I Love even my enemies.

God bless

[quote author=kanmie post=112225233]I've read various stories, comments sharing their bitter ordeals and experiences. I must confess some situations are rather unfortunate while others are self inflicting injuries.
If wall did not open anyhow lizard won't just entered.
The moral lesson behind this shows we should all keep to SELF DISCIPLINE.
Building strong character that devoid any form of bad atrocities.
Yoruba proverb says... Ilésanmí dùn joyè lọ. / To have a peaceful home (or life) is better than being honoured with (possibly stressful) titles.
And “Oruko rere san ju Wura ati Fadaka lo” (A good name is better than silver and gold)
In the area (Abeokuta) I hail from, we emphatically trains child on self discipline in order to build on strong character than anything else.
It's very difficult for any negative influence to override the training and teachings we grown up to.
So, it's baffles me, when falsed allegations is faced at a MAN.. what comes to my mind is... what kind of person is the accused person??

I'm not claiming a saint or perfect guy but it's would be very hard for anyone to lay wrong or false accuse at me because over my 30 something years on earth I've been extremely careful and maintain a very disciplined lifestyle.

I understand quiet well spiritual problems or deliberage attack can put someone into serious shit but if you remain steadfast with God and shown good character overtime.. you will surely overcome no matter what.

It's a time of reflection on we MEN as a whole because its high time we stick to moral values.

If you're playboy in your area forming 007 that can knack anything in skirt then try and stop because it's would be easy for people to accused you of rape.

If you're someone who believe In "survival for the fittest," "no paddy for jungle" or generally indulge the ideal of making money at all cost. It would be very easy for people to accused you of cheat, scams, fraud or sort of bad names.

Sexuall harassment is a serious case in every part of the world because female gender are vulnerable, No doubt Men tends to express the animalistic nature we possed but with strong self discipline we can overcome/curtail it.

I remembered vividly sometimes last year a lady (21years) frolicking around me. This very lady usually visit my igbo girlfriend who stayed with me for 7months back then in 2017. So, when my babe left me, this babe won't stop visiting and I never bothered I see her as sister cos she's young even though she's extremely pretty. Fair in complexion and possessed a great body size.
She will visit me often, spend great time at my place and throw herself at unnecessary but I would be like Mariam I can't date you.. you're my sister!
One faithful day last year.. she visited me and expressed how much she loved my kind of person would want us to date and eventually marry, I was dumbfounded and told her point blank NO.
She started crying saying.. i did not appreciate her constant visitation to my place .. haba!
I pacify her and tell I will think about it..
For several weeks I avoided her but one faithful day she visited me around 7pm when I was lest expecting her. I was shocked cos I knew her mission but put myself together then allow her into my apartment.
I was like Mariam it's late ...let see tomorow but she refuted confessing how much she loved me.
After much persuasion to her to leave she requested we should have sex ... haaaa
Sex bawo... ??
She promised to leave me for good if we can just have sexual romp... my heart japa into a deep thought!

At this point I was confused cos she already pull off her clothes except panties.. which kin temptation be this.
I summons courage and beg her to dress up.. she was begging me to do just once as she can't just bear knowing me for 4years without having a sexual encounter with her from there i knew she had a plan.
Meanwhile.. my neighbours has started to suspect us as some can hear our voices like murmured.
I eventually lamba her some skirmish stories and she give in... then she left around 11:15pm.
I was sweating profusely cos at that point she scared the hell out of me.. what if she scream and shout that I want to raped nko?

The following day, some of my neighbours started hailing me ... haaa! Iru owo wo niyen. I debuked it that nothing happen joor.
Few months later she visited me with her huge belly ... then my neighbours challenged her.. "Mariam how come", she told everyone i Bleep up as she actually want to settle down with me but I refused her sex. Despite the fact she has been telling everyone we're dating .. mofo big time.
90% of my neighbours started seeing differently and concluded am a man of my words.

Even in court of law.. when someone is wrongly or falsely accused, at the point judgement. The judge will summons for an independent investigation on the person's character.
So, it's borne on us to build on strong character and self discipline

May God help us all� [/quote SORRY to say in my case i have absolutely no interaction with my accuser in the 1st instance my parents just moved into the area newly ,i don't know the girl where she lives or her name yet i was accused. so it doesn't actually matter if you know the person or an interacted with them before. Plus you would actually be lucky if the case gets to court and you can afford a good lawyer, this is African , a man was killed in Kenya because of a rape allegation the so called victim confessed she lied after her uncle committed murder. the girl in question went Scott free without any consequence while the uncle was sent to jail and the victim is in the grave.

Reading your story, there is a girl I use to teach when she was back in primary school (home lesson) but I stopped when she proceeded to JS1.

Her mum noticed her child was dwindling academically, so she begged me to continue the house lessons. Most times we were alone in the sitting room, there were people in the house though. I noticed the girl had changed from the good and bright girl she use to be, her notebooks were tattered but back then she was so neat and brilliant. Her replies to my questions "I don't know" I was getting frustrated me when suppose dey one oil and gas company na because Nigeria non pure, this small girl just dey use me dey do yeye.

Suddenly, the mother told me to stop. The girl mentioned to me that I'm going to stop on that particular day and I won't come anymore. I knew she never wanted the lesson. After reading you story, I feel she probably told lies about me but the mom respected me enough to discharge me quietly.

Nikkganc08:
Mine was a sad tale but a bit different

My parents had 5 kids ( four boys and a girl)

The sad tale happened around when I was in primary 1.


My Grandma heard a story of how a child put his fingers in her sisters genital. The first thing that came to her mind was to rush down to my mums house to break d news. She just believed that we've been doing same.

Somehow, she came and convinced my mum that we all ( the four of us) have been putting our finger in our sisters anus.

As at then, our eldest brother was still in either primary 4 or 5 (I'm the third child).

My Grandma and mum brought us all out in d parlour and gave us all serious flogging without telling us what was wrong.

After d first batch of torture, we were all crying already. That was when she announced that we have been putting our fingers in her anus.

Pls before u judge me, note that at such age, I had ZERO IDEA of what putting hands in someone's anus meant.

My sister was called to confess.
She shouldn't be more than 2 years then.

They asked her...

Did xxxx put his hand in ur bum bum?
She'll Nod her head in affirmation.

Did yyyy put his hand in ur bum bum?
She'll Nod again.

Will u eat human head? She'll nod
Will u drink urine? She'll Nod

Anything u say, She'll nod.

Mum didn't care about her foolish nodding. They just wanted her to confirm that we all put fingers there.

Well..., after several hours or torture , the eldest two insisted that they've never done such before (because they were a bit matured and knowledgeable then). They were spared.

I tried same but more beating was added.

Mum stripped me and d last son naked and flogged us more .

She said, 'tell me d truth, I'll leave u'

We both said we r innocent.

More slaps, flogging and hours of kneeling down where served to us.

Frog jumping and 'no food' threats were added.
Followed by no more school fees.
And finally, that they'd come to our school and make sure we'll be called out and flogged in front of everyone during morning assembly.

She kept on saying " tell me d truth and I'd leave u".

Finally , we had to admit to d story so that mum would spare us.

Lol....!!!


That was when d real beating started. Its a long story though.

She told all our relatives about how we've been putting our fingers in our little sisters anus.

She won't let our sister play or stay with us.
She'd just shout 'remove her from there before xxxx and yyyy (name withheld) would start fingering her.

She bought more pants for her (the BIG ones) plus some stuffs that is blackish and looks like boxers (don't know d name but women wear it alot). She must were pant, that black boxers, and a hose at same time before putting on her blouse.

Followed by tutorials for her to shout and report us to mum any day we touch her pant again. Lol...!!!

Whenever mum is bored, she'll just call d both of us, strip us naked, kneel us down , then flog us as much as she wanted.

Followed by questions like, "when was d last time u put fingers in ur sisters bum bum? ".
"Is it yesterday? Last week? today? "

If u don't pick anyone, She'll pick one for u.
Maybe, she'd say d last time u did it was yesterday.

Whenever grandma feels bored , she'd come to our house, strip us naked and start her own flogging.


I'm almost 30 years now.
I'm a non-virgin.
I might have done stuffs with my female friends.

But d truth remains this...
As kids, we were tortured for what we knew nothing about.

Something I had no idea of what it meant.

Someday, maybe this week, I'd call my sister and mum together, she has to confess whether she was fingered or not.

And mum MUST apologize for d unnecessary torture.
Grandma is dead. So, let's allow her to rest in peace


If my sister decides to accuse me , then we MUST get a native doctor to fish out d truth.

I won't let such heavy accusation slide again without repercussions

This � me, it's well. I'm sorry for this horrible experience of yours. Pls don't let it slide. Challenge your mother for it, let her know how deeply you were hurt and even till now.

Connected1:

I have been trying to learn how to forgive people but I still can't oh, I heard marriage is all about having a forgiven heart but if someone offends me very badly I can't forgive them no matter how hard I try.

This is me in you, I only forgive when I've retaliate or say horrible words to you to your face, you must be hurt like you intend doing to me. Forgiveness my foot!

iamehmakute:


I tell you bro, but that just how it plays out, we all expected a radio apology from the parent but nothing of such happened, next thing we knew was that gbemi has been flown out of the country and there she has been since then. She chatted me up on Facebook several years back it was during that period I got to know she was a resident nurse and was married and even expecting a baby.
Mr A's issue was a very painful one, very vibrant teacher, tall,exceptionally intelligent he made quantitative reasoning very interesting for us. with his baritone voice ,We always looked forward to when he would be leading the assembly.
"Home my home
o my home
when shall I see my home
when shall I see my native land
I will never forget my home" - that was his favorite assembly song.

Not sure if he's still alive but, Mr Ayinde you were a good man. May the universe bless your seeds and make them exceptionally great.

Very sad

So when the foolish girl chatted you up hope you weren't nice to her? Because i would have cursed her and extended it to her lineage on behalf of Mr Ayinde, very terrible human, and I hope she knows she will never go unpunished,

Like people that accuse others falsely how do they sleep well at night? How do they function well knowing someone is being punished for a crime they didn't commit? SMH.

anu3:
Antyxx


Friends, you'll keep hurting yourself more. I was stuck with that for years... It was so bad that my friend nicknamed me using the word malice to form it.

I heard that anger or unforgiving attitudes are possibly linked to some ulcers and health issues.

Strange right? When we get angry certain hormones are released and when it's get too much in your system it's trouble. Also nervous disorders and bad dreams.

It was when I got converted to Jesus that I learnt to Forgive even before they ask for forgiveness: many don't even ask, might just use smiles and jokes to make up.

Today, by God's grace it seems people get frustrated trying to get me offended.

No! I still love you even if you Hate me! For peace, I may avoid you, but deep down I'm willing to help if I have the slightest opportunity. Hence, I Love even my enemies.

God bless

It's good to love everyone, but I can't love everyone, I hate people who hate me, that's just the truth, the anger doesn't hurt me in anyway except I take actions against that person, that I will begin to have guilt in my conscience because the person or people involved would be facing extreme pains and I imagine myself in their shoes, but if I hear that God uses someone else to punish then I feel a special kind of happiness.

It's not my fault, I have forgiven people too much when I was much younger and everytime they just find a way to put me in pains and I still forgive them and they never stop, suddenly I changed after I drew back from reading the bible and people became wary of me and learnt how to behave around me.

At the moment I don't let anyone take advantage of me unless I allow it, I don't feel any friend or person is too special to let go.

Biglittlelois:



Very sad

So when the foolish girl chatted you up hope you weren't nice to her? Because i would have cursed her and extended it to her lineage on behalf of Mr Ayinde, very terrible human, and I hope she knows will never go unpunished,

Like people that accuse others falsely how do they sleep well at night? How do they function well knowing someone is being punished for a crime they didn't commit? SMH.

They're psycho, they won't stop being miserable eventhough they just finished eating their dream food or they're with their family. Real happiness is always far from them.

IamGreen1:


This is me in you, I only forgive when I've retaliate or say horrible words to you to your face, you must be hurt like you intend doing to me. Forgiveness my foot!

Lol

I am not verbally expressive, I do more of actions because I don't even like talking sef.

But I prefer the actions to words because my words cause more damage than my actions.

Connected1:

Lol

I am not verbally expressive, I do more of actions because I don't even like talking sef.

But I prefer the actions to words because my words cause more damage than my actions.

@bolded is the reason you must talk. I must damage anyone intend doing that to me more in such a way that after months or years sef she or he go still dey think about it, that's my aim. The person only saving grace is for him or her not to come for me. No word would be left unsaid.

Blessedofchrist:
reading all these stories is giving me goosebumps as I'm a teacher
...make devilish pupils no go lie for my head

Don't worry... Just be strict and cool reasonably. Love them even when you need to dish out some very hot strokes.

Make sure they respect you...

You are the authority; don't be too friendly, cos to start with, you're the teacher not a friend. Even if they get offended, hold your ground. Don't compromise.

blessedofchrist
Modified...

There's this saying that anyone that seems and looked innocent are the most non-innocent of all

TOPCRUISE:
If a girl accuse you of rape nobody will believe you.

And it's completely unfair
Nobody will ever believe u when a girl accuses you rape
Especially ij Nigeria where thorough investigations are done
Lots of innocent people suffer for crimes they never commit

IamGreen1:
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@bolded is the reason you must talk. I must damage anyone intend doing that to me more in such a way that after months or years sef she or he go still dey think about it, that's my aim. The person only saving grace is for him or her not to come for me. No word would be left unsaid.

Wahala Person.



I stopped that when my elder sister fell into depression because of what I told her.

yanabasee:
I would say... how old was this girl?

No little girl will know such a thing to say if it never happened ...

And if she's a little girl of about 10yrs below I believe her....

If she's a little girl of above 14yrs.. then I believe the Op....


I fear women alot... They have that evil thought of accusing anyone of rape.....


I fact, there was a time that any girl I met and wants to get serious with, will always have a story of how she was raped by her uncle or relative or neighbor or a male friend she trusted or even her ex boy friend....


A simple story...

In my estate, there this security guard that would stop one teenage girl from visiting one single lawyer.... The security guard is an old man... He will always embarrassed the girl in front of her school mates when they're returning from school... And will always threatened to report her to her parents...

One day, while she was returning from church with her parents, they stopped and called the police and the security guard was picked...

The case was reported to me and I mediated on it...

Believe me, she accused this man of always asking her out and even showed her pants that he tore on one occasion when she went out to buy something and he stopped her and dragged her.. ..


She humbled the man and he was ridiculed... Truthfully, he never did any of those things... Investigation set in, all the accusations were followed... the days she mentioned, the man wasn't on duty... And the lawyer was arrested and he was the one that told the girl to frame the man up so he'd let her be....

You obviously know nothing about children if you say you would believe the girl if she's 10yr down.
I've thought kids between 8-12 for about 3years and my friend, you need to see what this kids can do.

You may say 5years or below.

jaxxy:


Don't know where u guys get all these,stories ooo. A little tiny girl will accuse u of smtn u never did and u will keep quiet or start crying. when u should 1st shun the the little for saying such rubbish or order her to prove to how and where u molested her infront of her parents. Well I don't blame the manipulative little girls I blame the parents who don't properly get to the bottom of the matter.

Bt to me I think some of u guys including the op play to much with these little girls they grow confidence to talk rubbish. it's probably see finish.

I have thought little kids and never heard such rubbish. I know how and speak with them and relate with them even if I'm playful.

Your statement shows you actually believe in the phrase "bad things don't happen to good people"

lexander:
Your statement shows you actually believe in the phrase "bad things don't happen to good people"

I know it can happen and I know people can put themselves in such situations also by certain actions or activities.

just like the one that said his,daughters lied he,was,sleeping with them to their mother. Very ridiculous statements.

Bt like I said I don't blame the children I blame the adults who don't have sense to know how to get to the bottom of the matter.

coachwilcox:


What the Bleep is a lab?

C'mon brah he meant to say "Laps"