Tired of marital problems on Nairaland.
Walks out of thread, just go to this SIMPle man here for advice on how to be a Dorling

Any wife who's disrespectful has cheated or will cheat.

That's a final stage. Shows she's not emotionally committed.

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

If you cannot be one ........ DIVORCE HER .......

I'm tired of all this news, time and time again, you find the same issues men complain about women, I have no advise to give but if you are interested I can send you a book about women. If you read it you will understand more about women and stop all this stress you are giving yourself because of a woman, much more naija woman. Or just type Ubunja on nairaland search you will learn more.

Your inner peace matters a lot and from the look of things she care less about your concern neither does she have regard for her own family. Pls your peace of mind matters a lot

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

Una go just see anyhow girl run marry her without observing her more closely ..abeg carry your cross yourself.

gasparpisciotta:
If she says she doesn’t love you anymore and wants to leave, let her go.

Na Wahala commot for your life so!!!!

No be everybody get divorce as back up plan ooo

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

do you have side chicks?

Family meetings won't make your wife love you again. Your actions have to remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place. May God not let us remain in a loveless marriage

once in a month is good for longevity

Newyorkitis:
No be everybody get divorce as back up plan ooo

Divorce as backup plan?

gasparpisciotta:
If she says she doesn’t love you anymore and wants to leave, let her go.

Na Wahala commot for your life so!!!!

100% correct!

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

This man!

If you die for road now or plane crash...she will fxxk another man that same day.

Continue to dey travel up andan...becos of woman way clearly no love u and never will.

Marriage na scam. How many times wey we go yarn una make una hear. Chai, see wetin vagina creature dey make my brother man go through.

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

Have you not heard of the word called divorce?

Dey there make pant dey wear you.

GooodHardDick:
Oga, do you need a prophet tell you that your wife has another guy banging her pussy?

Haven't you heard Nigeria girls are so useless, All of them? With her behaviours, you don't need anyone to tell you that your wife secretly and codedly has another dick banging and servicing her pussy. My brother Your wife Na Olosho, just as most Nigeria girls are. your wife is looking for a way to end that marriage and be with her new lover. That meeting definitely won't stop her from hoeing around.

Oga, You better divorce that girl for your complete peace of mind. Stop killing yourself, forget her and move on

E sure me die say your sisters dey do Olosho too like most Nigerian girls, so make we hear word.

ibechris:




Marriage is not easy and stop saying what u don't know.
How can u say this to our women? if u are normal and come from a respectable family u won't say all this trash.

U can only say all this nonsense because u are a textbook example of a prodigal child who does not see anything good about women

Allow those who are married to talk and render responsible advice and not be talking nonsense just because u feel like.

Oga there is nothing responsible about a nagging wife and a wrong marriage.

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

Do what Yul did and move on. Make sure the new one is younger with better oil for body.

haven't heard men with more than one legal wife come up with such complain.
most domestic violence committed is usually between a man and single wife.
the earlier you all accept that polygamy is a solution to some marital problem,the better.
but when done the right way.
say no to ADULTERY AND FORNICATION!!

MARRY THEM LEGALLY!!

Now I am understanding the meaning of that word Simp commonly used here

Sir I will advice u to go for the meeting and also involve your family cus,has marriage is concern it involves the two families when there is issues like this. Put your family in prayers cus there is nothing God can not do. I believe there is something that you where doing before that you have stop doing and probably your wife has told you but you ignored may God restore your family.

Chairman , please give yourself pride as a man ,...let her go ,...besides it's takes a lot for a lady to behave that way ,....life is too short , ..let her go

Some people are bleeping her psy, that's a sign

Bros is spiritual and the mum is not telling you something about her daughter lifestyles while growing up.
Please meet your mother inlaw to tell you the true about her daughter.
If you are not getting any feedback please I will not ask you to let her go but anything that will give you peace of mind do it.
Trust me have been married for 16 years today am 40 years with 3 kids marriage is not easy don't let anyone decisive you telling you to send your wife packing her may be spiritual and I think she need your help.

As long as she has told them she have lost love for you, bro! Plz don't force her. I would have suggest that you try rekindle what you both had that lead to you both getting married but then, her heart is else where, if she wants a divorce grant it plz or better still if she will let you get a second wife then it's cool.

Hnmmm

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

So nairaland is your family with all the urchins in here?

Just tell me your name is Joke419

Bros is spiritual and the mum is not telling you something about her daughter lifestyles while growing up.
Please meet your mother inlaw to tell you the true about her daughter.
If you are not getting any feedback please I will not ask you to let her go but anything that will give you peace of mind do it.
Trust me have been married for 16 years today am 40 years with 3 kids marriage is not easy don't let anyone decisive you telling you to send your wife packing her case may be spiritual and I think she need your help.

Kobojunkie:
1. What are examples of these "things to be done decently and in order in my family" that your wife seems vehemently opposed to?

2. What exactly is this grudge your wife holds against you? You haven't exactly told us anything about what really happened so I am not certain how you intend for you to rationally opine in this matter of yours.

3. You reported your wife, a grown woman, to her folks, didn't you? And you have been granted an even wider audience by her folks to air your grievances against your wife, so why back out now?,

'Those things' are really difficult to spell out in a marriage. In my experience I later realized that it is 'respect', 'mutual respect', and defining those things is often difficult to third parties.

I am assuming people who are married just understands what the op was trying to say.

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

Provided you haven't chosen violence and you want to make things work, then you have to be available always for peace talks.

rickleye:


Dude Let her leave !
What will her father say that will change her mind. If she thinks the grass is greener on the other side. Give her N100,000k and thank her for the unmemorable time spent together.
If she has confessed that the love is lost and doesn’t want to work on the marriage then you deserve to be happy and not live in a loveless union.

Give her 100k for what exactly?