StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

wisdom dictates you call your woman's people and have dialogue with them. As harsh as the custom sounds, it doesnt mean so much, just a normal tradition that wont hurt you. Just do the needful and get over and done with them. Its as simple as doing the burial. Just fix the two same day and get ur son. Thatz all

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Felimax:


Yes, undertaker! Na you create yourself! Mysterious stroke nor va nack you, by the time you nor fit touch your keypad again your eyes go clear.

You dey here dey shine teeth, take the issue to your family and let them talk sense into your dum skull.

He can't take the issue to his family because he was warned before hand by his mother but he blatantly refused and went ahead with the relationship

Oga I very necessary..go and do the needful..and stop blabbing. You hardly see a tribe that doesn't do that.

May the soul o your wife rest in peace.

You didn't marry, so the child is not yours. You were just a sperm donor. Give them the child contribute small in the burial and move on with your life. A word is enough for the wise

Kriss216:

What advice are you seeking? Were you thinking of going to the girl's family and dump the corpse or you wanted to bury people's daughter in your house?

Is she responsible for her death

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

This shows you never really loved her, most times the tradition could be to ascertain if you love their daughter. The makers of those tradition were not stupid. If you go, you can sort it out,pay money for some things and somethings will be forgone. It's just like a bargain to show them their daughter was really worth it.

Yes it happen in my tried too, you have to marry the corpse, if you need to take your son. That's if she die in your house and care ooo.
But if u guys where not staying together, bros just no answer them.

reason1man:
You didn't marry, so the child is not yours. You were just a sperm donor. Give them the child contribute small in the burial and move on with your life. A word is enough for the wise

k

What makes a child belong to a man or a woman? So you mean Davido baby Mama's children are bastard they didn't belong to davido

StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?

You are too harsh . if you tell him the tribe him may tell you what to do .

Oga go and pay her bride price OK. That is the marriage they are talking about. U have no business with that boy if u haven't paid her bride price. It's more like u impregnating someone and living with her. Things u take for granted are not taken for granted here. I know your late wife to be is Igbo because it is a strong tradition in Igbo land. You see yul edochie story if he didn't pay her Bride price he won't access to that boy that is the main reason he took a second wife, his son. So go and pay her bride price, yes she is dead but it doesn't end there do as the told u

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

Let's understand something here, are you planning to bury somebody's daughter, mother, Sister which you defiled for that long without consulting, negotiating and coming to amicable arrangement. Guy, watch this PRIDE in you before it destroys you.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

No I won't

Then what advice do you seek? You have made up your mind already don't disturb our weekend. Just an addition - you are not marrying her corpse.you are only paying a bride price (symbolic marriage). It is the norm in most cultures.

OP you want a free Son? Make I just laugh you, omo go and do the right thing. Pay her bride price simple else await karma.

My advice is carrying the child and jakpa.. change location and start a new life.. although tradition is tradition, u can't buycot it.. if out all u buycot it, the consequence awaits u in the near future.. u see me so eeh, wetin I fear pass na karma..

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Initial gra gra bah? Come and force me

If dem born you and any of your family members well and you truly no dey fear anyone as you said on this thread, MAKE UNA CARRY THAT DEAD BODY ENTER THE GIRL VILLAGE.


No be to make noise online, just make you and your fearless family waka enter that village.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

It varies with tribe and culture

In my place since he is a male child, you take your automatically

If it were a female child, you would be asked to buy the child

As per marrying the copse, we don't practise that

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

It's not that you will marry the corpse and take pics with it, you will only do the marriage rites like settling the bride price in which if you do not her family will take the child and he will bear their name instead of yours. Some cultures do that.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

If by any means they don't want you to take custody of the child, leave the child with them, when he grows up he will look for his father, Afterall if you were the one that died, they would have trained the child themselves.

This OP na MUMU Man,you definitely don't know the value of Life.

People advise you to go and pay her bride price. You refused. Yet you said you are here for advice. What if part of the burial arrangement is to pay her bride price and the poor woman will be laid to rest peacefully.
Or you think you can runaway with your son? Even if you can, what story will you tell him about his mum when he grow up ?
Oga go and do needful.

ibechris:



Then what is your reason for bringing it up when u have decided before coming here.

An uncle of mine did it and today he has remarried and continued his life.

your uncle marry corpse?? tueh!!!!
what kind of tradition is that...??
to what aim.??

Cpossibility:
Which tribe is that?

Maybe cross river or Akwa ibom

I don't advise stubborn fools.

Bro you yaf enters.


There's about 5 different tribe that practice this in Nigeria.

Ibaji, Igala

Delta People

Specific groups of Igbo's etccc

If your girlfriend is from the Ibaji Igala then you have to run quickly to get her engaged and marry her immediately because if she gets buried without you doing the necessary things.

You're good as gone as her spirit will never leave you behind to enjoy the Son she gave birth for you because you don't honor Her.

I mean, she will kill you simple.

Give caezer what belongs to Her even my Pastor said that too.

I am saying first hand experience


While she was staying with you, you thought that you have dodge paying bride price

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Ranting up and down online won't save you o. The main show is offline and television will soon be on for you. Get ready to watch it. You should have considered all this before delving in to start a family without marriage. Chai bros who do you this?

When the real dance begins, you will feel it. Your stubbornness is baseless. People stubborn pass you o. Where your stubbornness ends is where another's begins.


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African Proverbs

The child that dances surugede does not know that surugede is the dance of the spirits.

The fly that does not listen, follows the corpse to the grave.

When the ear refuses to listen to instructions, if the head is cut, the same ear must follow it.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I can't borrow money to marry her corpse, never
The debts I borrowed from her treatment up to a millionaire is still in my neck, haven't even paid dine from it.

when they give u advise u won't listen,marrying from another tribe is a recipe for disaster cos u don't know much about their culture n if anything goes wrong u won't know how to handle it.

Had it been u married from your tribe now n issues like this happen u won't have issues.

There are many of u out there who form woke to many things they don't understand only to get burnt later.

Guy u have to do as they want or else that hardship will b upgraded for u,u are saying u don't believe in curses......i pity u

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

Burial arrangements,as per say you be who to them?
She died in your custody and you haven't told them how their daughter died,and what you were doing with her..
And yet you want to go and arrange for her funeral?
Guy,everything no be by gragra..
Don't let those people swear for you..

Calm down and handle this with wisdom, talk to your parents, seek their counsel, get someone from her place that can guide you. Don't create unnecessary problem for yourself.

Bros u don't have money and u don't have manners join. Oga , u HV already committed a taboo by cohabiting with someone's daughter without their approval. Its deeper than ur shallow mind can fathom. A poor man at least will imbibe humility. By the time the repercussions will start, u will even beg to marry her 100 times. Calm down first and allow elders in ur family guide u and stop being unfortunate. If d girl be my family, u for don't reach zone 5 Ibadan and every negotiations will be done while u are behind counter.

U killed someone's daughter and u are here prouding. Receive sense before its too late.

thorpido:
You don't have a choice except you want to keep running.
Your mom warned you but you wouldn't listen.You went further to knock her up.
You have to do the rights else they will make life hell for you.

Forget about her mother, even if they were same tribe, no family will accept that you take their daughter, imoregnate her, kept her in your home and only come back with her corpse. It is beyond trube, ut is sacrelege.