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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by ariesbull: 10:53am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w:this is not a thing of lawyer... You must marry her corpse.. That is the standard practice Sorry for your loss... Get ready and do this for the sake of your sanity, and your son 2 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by emperor863(m): 10:53am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Cpossibility: You ought to know na. Which tribe would hold fast to such primitive and senseless culture? The cannibals, you say? Well, you're dammed right, I say. |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Alexgeneration(m): 10:53am On Apr 30, 2022 |
oluwaseyi0:Google the meaning of bastard. In Igboland, if you didn't marry the girl, the children don't belong to you. 5 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Reality3080: 10:54am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w:if u don't put yourself into deep shit, one small boy here won't b insulting u. Guy u never start ooo cos d offline insults are still waiting for u 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by CORRECTMAN78(m): 10:54am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: Where are you going to bury her? Your home or their own home? 3 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by seyoops4u: 10:54am On Apr 30, 2022 |
They will let you be.... Reason with them, they will tell you to pay the bride price and you will now go ahead to do the buried. Sorry about your loss.... StilmaVsBorn2w: |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Chidi2022: 10:54am On Apr 30, 2022 |
callmetoniaa:You should be more concerned if he will be hail and hearty to train the child he jakpaed with.... you no dey fear juju? 2 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by bakar007: 10:55am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: You lost her last night Na you get strength for keypad , you won't find help here. Rather than looking for general opinion ,reach out to your religious leader or family elders, then her family to see how best you can solve the issues. 2 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by zinaunreal(m): 10:55am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Dude just pay dowry and be done. Don't get involved in any stinking rituals |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Chidi2022: 10:56am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Alexgeneration:why you dey tell am ..... 1 Like |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by seniormallam(m): 10:56am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Try this with idoma people and see fire, they won't even disturb you, but you will come running and begging............what a useless man you are, she deserved every honor in death, I don't think you'll spend up to #10k for the bride price self and you are disrespecting the dead this much? Just to honor the dead thats all, @OP na for heaven God go judge, but they will deal with you spiritually ehnn, even pastors dey collect if he pass him boundary. 12 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Acidosis(m): 10:56am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Thank God you were only told to pay her dowry. Some families will hold you responsible for her death. Before you invite the law, also get ready for the repercussions as you may be accused of things you did not do. Forget all the "love" you received from her family until her death. Only marriage gives an absolute right. That being said, your concerns are valid. I can never get married to a corpse under any condition. But what can you do? You can't win the battle. Sorry. 5 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by emzynuel1: 10:56am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Chaii No try am ooo
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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Makanaki127: 10:57am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Sorry to ask why are they demanding you marry her,is it because she bore you a son,or what ? Okay what about if you 2 were just living together as boyfriend and girlfriend with no child,before this incident happen,will they still force you to come and do the necessary thing ? 4 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by bonnyhope: 10:57am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Felimax: ![]() ![]() Is like this guy na Jazzz man 1 Like |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Kpengla(m): 10:57am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Cpossibility: Na south-south dem dey do dat kind thing....Edo/Delta/Akwa/Cross Instead of OP to state exactly where so he can get proper advice from natives on here, he is talking tribal nonsense. Of course it's tribal, if it wasn't he wouldn't be in the mess he's currently in. Nigeria is a tribal society, whether or not we admit it. 4 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Validated: 10:58am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w:Who killed her would be the next question. You have a long rope young man. They can abandone that corpse and you dare nit bury her yourself. 3 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Asianjollof007: 10:58am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Another cooked up story, alaye get out. |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by eedimo(m): 10:58am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Cpossibility:Akwa ibom |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Timekeeper452: 10:58am On Apr 30, 2022 |
The advises on this thread are just weird, he should go ahead to marry a corpse because the family of the corpse wants it. Bro involve a lawyer. 4 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Nobody: 10:58am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Your medulla of ablongata is not correct u better do what there say before thunder go strike u, but your mom don warm you, u no hear go to goat zoo you will see your brain key 3 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by ChuksHills(m): 10:59am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: Both of you have been living together and she has a son for you before she died. What do you think before? Traditionally you will marry her because you brought it upon yourself. All this new generation people that doesn't know anything about life will just be living a reckless life 5 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Jeriga2so(m): 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
I don't knw wat 2 kall u bt u r nt matured enof, u r hia seeking 4 advise. Wat advise do u wnt 4rm us, go n do d needful u tink u can jst bury her lyk dat witout payin 4 her bride price. Ur son is nt important 2 u cos if his important u sharpaly pay 4 her bride price or lose him 2 her family |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by West2019(m): 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w:Fufu dey your brain you fear no man buh you are fear to die oga go and do the right thing if you said you a man . you are a type beating woman 1 Like |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by elcee1: 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: You make me laugh bro, spiritual things differs from the physical. Respect your woman and go and do the needful if you want to enjoy your future marriage else she'll strike d incoming wives with death or barrenness before coming for your head. Everything no be muscle na wisdom. 3 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by IDERAWOLE(m): 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: So, felimax and the OP know each other? Anyway, my brother, all you need do is cool down and face reality, you have a tough case in your hand. Apart from the legal implications of your relationship with the girl, the serious one is the traditional/spiritual aspect of the matter. Save yourself all the headaches by following some of the advices here. I'm not too sure your concern is just the monetary aspect of marrying the corpse but the sense in it, but that's the problem of tradition, particularly in Africa. Like somebody said above here, take some cool headed family relations, probably including your mum to go see the girls family and iron out the amount they will collect for the dowry which you should've paid since in the first instance. That's the marriage they're talking about, nothing more. Plead for their understanding that you're still the person that will foot the burial ceremony, no matter how simple it will be. Look out for one of the elders in her family and start from there. Let him or her be your intermediary in the resolution of the matter, you'll be surprised how this matter will end in a jiffy. Go with a gift acceptable in that community to that proposed intermediary I mentioned and explain things. Thereafter, a bigger meeting will now be called to sort the matter out. The real peace you're looking for is in this wisdom to calm down. Finally, that son of yours that you're so eager to keep with you may not be happy upon being told when he grows up that this is the way you handled this matter. So, bury the matter by this simple way. God will help you in this, and this is a lesson for the future. If you don't have money to pay dowry on any lady don't go into intimacy with her. God disallows it, true traditions also disallow it. 8 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by XpMan: 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
There's nothing bad in you paying for her bride price. Remember, she bore you a son and his the reason your brought it here. Get your people to take you to her family to settle them, if not for anything, let it be for the sake of your son and the love you shared with her while she was alive. 2 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Acidosis(m): 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Makanaki127: Good question 1 Like |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by emperor863(m): 11:00am On Apr 30, 2022 |
calmness0: If most tribes are like that, mine isn't. For keeping the lady with him without performing the requisite rites is bad enough but it is not the end of the world. There are more sophisticated ways of addressing the issue apart from marrying a corpse. The op is talking about money to Mary the corpse not knowing that he has not heard the worst. The worst part of the unfolding scenario is that after the 'marriage', they would tell him to have sex with the corpse to consummate the marriage. What savagery. 2 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Jeezuzpick(m): 11:01am On Apr 30, 2022 |
StilmaVsBorn2w: Yeah, I get you. However, if your younger Bro starts dating a girl fr the same tribe, what would you tell him? Nothing, right? Maybe the tribe needs to be known, not because of a tribal war, but so people may know what they're in for if dating females from there. Besides, this answer of yours has told us everything. We know the people always fighting tribal war on Nairaland. ![]() |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Alexgeneration(m): 11:01am On Apr 30, 2022 |
TyroneP:You're speaking English. Let him,his family and lawyer take the corpse to the girl's village and speak this English and watch their lives evaporate like boiling water ![]() If he is really a fearless man that knows the law, let him take the corpse to the girl's village and see things for himself. Dem no dey tell person ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Belleful: 11:02am On Apr 30, 2022 |
From my humble opinion, the girls family were too quick to inform u to get ready to marry her course. They should have invited you to know d course of her dead before reaching a decision. From what I know, u can only pay her bride price if u have a hand in his dead. Eg like beating her or through child birth delivery. But if she died of sickness as u claim, u don't have to pay her bride price. Call ur family to go see her people and settle it amicable. It is well with you and your son 1 Like 1 Share |
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