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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by SocialJustice: 12:01pm On Apr 30, 2022
Soulmender:


Put yourself in the family’s shoes. You expect them to be happy that someone took their daughter for years without performing any marriage rite . Police or court won’t do anything for him because this is customary issue and customary court will rule against him .
I have no intention of paying bride price for any girl I'm with even after kids and I won't be selling my daughters to anyone. Women are not items to be bought with money.

Are you a lawyer or customary court president that you know they can't help?
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by EzePaschal(m): 12:01pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.


You want to leave their daughter's corpse in the morgue for them to come and carry after living with her for over 3 years and having a son with her? Hehehehe e be like say you no wise. If you know the the problem ahead of you my brother you won't be this stubborn. The family have been waiting for you before her death. They know you are stubborn and they are ready for you. You go pay lawyers tire in the next 5 years and may spend it in jail. No go find money pay her bride price and bury her. This battle will last for years

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Qatar2022: 12:02pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

No I won't
You never see anything, wait for the problem that will follow

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by ThePlugg(m): 12:02pm On Apr 30, 2022
Oga u gats pay her dowry,then bring part of the cash Dem go use bury ur wife.....simple,just borrow again

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by blairlady(f): 12:02pm On Apr 30, 2022
Jeon:
I KNOW SAY NAH DELTA, ESAN OR IGBO...
THEM NO DY TAKE THEIR DAUGHTERS PLAY, ESPECIALLY IF YOU NO PAY THE NECESSARY PAYMENTS FOR HER [DAUGHTERS ] HEAD.



Even in Akwa Ibom State

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by mechanics(m): 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
Maybe it's her culture, I only know of that in Akwa Ibom, that's why we should be careful and do the needful before putting one in the family way, you can reach a compromise with them.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by SocialJustice: 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
sweerychick:
you are ? Let me hold my peace
Express yourself freely. Holding your opinion in does no good to anyone.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by poiZon: 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
Jeon:
I KNOW SAY NAH DELTA, ESAN OR IGBO...
THEM NO DY TAKE THEIR DAUGHTERS PLAY, ESPECIALLY IF YOU NO PAY THE NECESSARY PAYMENTS FOR HER [DAUGHTERS ] HEAD.
No be only delta, akwaibom dey do am.
If u court a girl without marrying her, if she dies in ur house, u must marry her corpse.

Unless the family no sabi u.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by efficiencie(m): 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

No I won't

You got a lady pregnant before wedding her and paying her bride price. That in itself is just plain dumb and you have opened yourself to supernatural attacks. Yes, you will could win in a court but you will not win in the supernatural. The bride price they are requiring you to pay is in arrears. You should have paid the bride price before getting the lady pregnant. Charm does not know judiciary ohh...by the time the relatives of that girl are through with you, you will last last go and pay the bride price as required.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Qatar2022: 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

Let them bring it on.
I said I won't, I can't marry a corpse
Get ready , you will do it wheather you like it or not you don't have a choice

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by blairlady(f): 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
Jeon:
I KNOW SAY NAH DELTA, ESAN OR IGBO...
THEM NO DY TAKE THEIR DAUGHTERS PLAY, ESPECIALLY IF YOU NO PAY THE NECESSARY PAYMENTS FOR HER [DAUGHTERS ] HEAD.



Even in Akwa Ibom State, they don't play or joke with their daughters.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Ilaje1: 12:03pm On Apr 30, 2022
Qatar2022:

Believe it or not you will marry her corpse, you will pay her pride price and do traditional marriage before burial

I guess they want their daughter's body to rot in mortuary. Let the authority (through a lawyer) be aware, bury the girl (after a reasonable notification given to the family) out of respect for her. Or take the highway like her family by leaving the corpse in the mortuary, since family won't allow him to bury her, and move on with his son. Nothing will happen to him. It is their loss.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by fredodo007(m): 12:04pm On Apr 30, 2022
With want I can deduce from the OP, Certainly he is stubborn and don't deserve any advice. You held a woman for years without doing the necessary thing, now it happened, u wan escape. If they lay a curse on you, my brother life will be hell for you. Don't believe in curses but it works, ask your pastor or any traditionalist u believe in. G am

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Miracle2022: 12:04pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?
why bringing it to the public if you want to hide the tribe?
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by zobby234: 12:04pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by NdakoIb(m): 12:04pm On Apr 30, 2022
You have already made up ur mind. You don't need any advice then
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Nobody: 12:05pm On Apr 30, 2022
Timekeeper452:
empty threats, that’s the only thing majority of Nigerians are good at. Stop living in your illusion.
Man e no de hard ,is quite simple,am sure u re a very small boy with little or nothing upstairs,u never meet life,go and carry person daughter ,no even impregnate am ,let she die in ur custody,u think say na every person wey carry prick be man,u not even
acknowledging the obvious makes u a bigger baby..walahi,if na my family,u re a goner..just forget urself ..if u like run go ukraine,am begging u ,please try it ,if u come out alive,the way i de see u and ur block head ,if u come out ,make i know why

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Ilaje1: 12:06pm On Apr 30, 2022
EzePaschal:



You want to leave their daughter's corpse in the morgue for them to come and carry after living with her for over 3 years and having a son with her? Hehehehe e be like say you no wise. If you know the the problem ahead of you my brother you won't be this stubborn. The family have been waiting for you before her death. They know you are stubborn and they are ready for you. You go pay lawyers tire in the next 5 years and may spend it in jail. No go find money pay her bride price and bury her. This battle will last for years

Can you list the problems ahead of him? What is the basis of paying lawyers for 5 years?
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Qatar2022: 12:06pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony
Where will you bury this girl, in your house or her father's house? How can you bury a girl you never pay her pride price in your house?

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Berankis: 12:07pm On Apr 30, 2022
duro4chang:
The reasonable advice your mama give you no take am shey na our own you go take?
He is just one stubborn and unfortunate fellow.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by sweetjohn(m): 12:07pm On Apr 30, 2022
Ilaje1:


And some fools will just take someone's son, got pregnant for him without knowing his family.
Oga, Africa women don't toast men. No woman take any woman son without paying her bride price and got pregnant for him. rather it's the foolish men that deceived the woman with unquantified lies of love, got them pregnant without paying their bride price.

You should know that woman unlike men are love machine. They have the heart of love and as such are vulnerable to scammers men. Don't blame them much for following their heart out of pure love. Rather it's the stupid man that should be blame bc he took advantage of her innocency. In case like this, if the law got involved, it's the man that will be guilty. That's criminal to take someone daughter without the knowledge of the family
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by dc23(m): 12:07pm On Apr 30, 2022
Nigeria isn't ruled by tribal laws. There is clear laws on paternity and child custody. If the womans family wants the child the right path is to sue u in a family court for custody. I don't suppose they plan to storm your house and kidnap the kid after overpowering you.

In the meantime, you may want to confirm the paternity of the boy just to be on the safe side.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Qatar2022: 12:08pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man
Hahaha it's well , we are waiting for you here
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by udumosam23(m): 12:08pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

I can't borrow money to marry her corpse, never
The debts I borrowed from her treatment up to a millionaire is still in my neck, haven't even paid dine from it.


My friend, accept responsibilities, go to her family and explain you are in debt because of her sickness, you can't afford to fulfil all marital obligations. They're humans, if they understand, you'll be asked to pay a token for her bride price and other minor traditional rites too.


Don't attract unnecessary problems to yourself over what you can simply handle with diplomacy. Even though you don't believe in curses, you should be responsible for your child and do whatever it takes to be sure he is in safe hands.

The way you're going, they'll end up taking the child from you (you have no legal right to him) and transfering their aggression on the poor child.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Timekeeper452: 12:08pm On Apr 30, 2022
Obinna666:

Man e no de hard ,is quite simple,am sure u re a very small boy with little or nothing upstairs,u never meet life,go and carry person daughter ,no even impregnate am ,let she die in ur custody,u think say na every person wey carry prick be man,u not even
acknowledging the obvious makes u a bigger baby..walahi,if na my family,u re a goner..just forget urself ..if u like run go ukraine,am begging u ,please try it ,if u come out alive,the way i de see u and ur block head ,if u come out ,make i know why
you that have met life and have all experience , all your experience ended up leading you to an argument on Nairaland?
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by samuelson06(m): 12:08pm On Apr 30, 2022
lekoni2:
Akwa-ibom written all over this. But what do i now? ��‍♂️

You may be right. Those guys have some serious useless and strange traditions.
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Zealag(m): 12:09pm On Apr 30, 2022
Bro you are a big fool,you don't have money but you kept a woman in your house and you continue fvcking her until she bore you a male son.you never deem it right to go pay her dowry.
You know where to borrow money to keep her corpse In the morgue but when she was alive,you can't borrow same money to atleast do introduction.bro I think nemesis caught up with you.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Daughterboard(m): 12:09pm On Apr 30, 2022
Omoluabi16:
Stone age barbaric tradition. That's why I do not subscribe to live in marriage especially with certain tribes. As horrible as it is, it is their culture.On no account should you marry a corpse.

And they will claim they are Christians
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Nobody: 12:10pm On Apr 30, 2022
Ilaje1:


Can you list the problems ahead of him? What is the basis of paying lawyers for 5 years?
Just a typical example of someone i know it happened to,this one self acknowledged the fact and knew he was gonna do it but cash no de,the lady's corpse stayed in the mortuary for one year ,the guys business turned upside down,by the time friends contributed for him ,it was twice what the Payment should have been initially,cos he paid for mortuary fee for a duration of one year,no discount,ask ngige of anambra state what Happened to him when a lady died in his custody,them no de do levels to this one

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by nesgeeek(m): 12:10pm On Apr 30, 2022
it's normal for u to pay her dowry before making any arrangements for burial. it happen to my friend also and his inlaws told the same thing despite they were from the same tribe. According to my tribe, once u fail to do the needful ( paying of dowry) at the right time, u are at ur own risk. If it was you, will u allow a man to bury ur daughter or sister without proper payment of bride price? Or do u intend to her her dowry after her burial? u are even lucky that u have a son from ur late wife. My colleague who have the same issue didn't have any child from his Late wife, yet he paid her dowry before buryi his late wife. That's why I advice young men to always pay their wife bride price first. Take heart bro.

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Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by olaolaking: 12:11pm On Apr 30, 2022
dawnomike:
Since you refused to do the needful when she was alive; You've got to go and pay her dowry or leave the boy as their daughter's son as she was never your wife... It is the right thing to do in the igbo culture
Stop talking nonsense. We are talking of national issue and you are talking of your culture. Everyone has a culture and no one can force his culture in the other.

The constitution settles it not your culture.
Re: They Want Me To Marry Her Corpse, I refused by Kpofaya: 12:11pm On Apr 30, 2022
StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony


Go and bury her then. You're just grandstanding, your head go later calm down. Start to dey find money o, plenty expenses dey your head so.

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