faithfull18:
Done giving unnecessary advice, stop fornicating, you people won't hear.

If you had done the proper thing, you won't be here asking for advice.

our virgin sister

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back
then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

Sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in Peace.
I want you to listen/read with an open mind.

Look at this from a different perspective.

You won't be marrying a corpse if you paid the bride price. Instead you will be paying a debt you owe her people. They won't bring the corpse there. You can also get your family to do it for you.

In life you must think win-win and not just my way or nothing. See things from the family perspective. They can't burry her if her bride price has not been paid. No matter state of the economy, if you make up your mind, you can negotiate a settlement for the bride price.

Lastly, you will be doing this to honor your wife even I her death. Also, to keep a key relationship for you and importantly, for you son.

Let the peace of God guide your heart.

jokinexcel:
Something like happened in my community, the family of the girl asked the guy to come and pay the bride price he refused, so the girl's family changed the case to kidnap and murder case , that they have been looking for their daughter for years , only for the guy who they claimed that they have never seen or know to inform them of their daughter's death . So they claimed that the guy kidnap and murder their daughter.

That is a dead case bro. They can't use that against an average man. There is autopsy, you can claim to be looking for somebody for such a long time and only your family will know.

Just a dead case to threatening the guy

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

These are some of the things that happen when you take the Red Demon Pill lesson too far.

I feel your pain bro.
You will overcome.

Question
Was she living in your house?
If not or yes, why would you marry a corpse?
They are already calling her your wife.

Continue being mentally strong.
You need the covering of CHRIST JESUS.

My only advice is you go to the police station and make a statement of exactly what happened. That way, if they falsely accuse you in the future, you have evidence, a record of exactly what happened.

GOD's way gives peace and adds no sorrow.

You want a child without marriage, but you forget the bigger picture, families are involved.
Red demon pill will not teach you these lessons, because they really do not care about you.
All they are interested in is that you rebel against GOD's command.

Oga op, u get luck say no be my sister, u still get mind answer ur girl friend, s brother no. That family is supposed to have taken u to court because u kidnapped their daughter and killed her, idiot. U dey Bleep but u no sabi marry

Ilaje1:


Who is this odetic mumu.

Who is this wereycious dog barking about.

You people are wicked sha. U don’t want to listen to tje young man . Person tell una say e don Dey inside debt due to the deceased illness, una still dey tell him to keep on accumulating debts all in the name of stupid culture and simping for woman . if he had the money , he would not have done the needful from the start??


Most of you kon Dey say if it was his sister , see let me tell you , if my sister is so dumb to get married to a man who never paid her dowry then she should chop the wahala herself . Rubbish

You better do d needful, cos you knew And they warned you before.

Your wedding invitation will read:
Stillma2born cordially invites all nairalanders to his wedding with his sweet corpse... You for borrow money marry the girl jejely!!!

Wannabenz:
Poverty na bastard see matter wey uncle don go buy

You must marry that girl Oo. U don go deceive her,she leave her papa house now she's dead and you wan leave the son for them because of poverty

Bro the marriage no go dey expensive like other marriage. Go and marry her corpse. Wether you want the child or not.


Dem tell una make una dey avoid love until una make am but una no dey hear,u no even afford better hospital for her. U don go use poverty kill her. Wait till she start tormenting you, foolish boy.

can you read what you typed? bloody illiterate

Keda25:

First of all I want to ask you where do you intend to bury her?

She not your wife, Agreed

the child remains the right of her family, Crappy shit. Cohabitation is recognized in Nigeria constitution so far she's not a minor. A birth certificate where the Op duly signed off as the biological father of the child and a DNA test will have the court rule in his favour.

He doesn't needs to be legally married to have claim to the child. You guys don't understand the Op can actually sue the girl's family for extortion and other shit if he's got those calls with the girl's elder brother recorded.

But my verdict on this is that the @Op should show some respect to the dead and his first child ever. Just give to ceaser what belongs to ceaser. Let him beg them for time to raise funds and get the shit done. When next his Mom advises him, he won't think twice before obeying.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Let them bring it on.
I said I won't, I can't marry a corpse

why can't you marry her when she not corpse?

dobnina:

OP, pls try and raise some money and pay her bride price. This life is very deep. A lot of thins are happening that we can't even explain. Don't jeopardize your future.
This lady bore you a son. Pls respect her and pay the bride price.
Something like this has happened before and the guy died mysteriously.
This life is very deep.

Hmmm

thorpido:
I'll just advise you go and settle with the family.
Even if you are a General Overseer, it's going to be a tough battle for you.

Him nor dey hear word. No need to advise him.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

Don't be delusional...curses works when u attract it. If u have figured it all out why r u then here to seek advice.....see where ur stubbornes landed u...pikin na free? What makes that boy ur son? Can u say?..marrying her corpse is just doing d cultural things that would legalise u as d father of d boy...those r d rites u would done if u had married her before her death. Ur approach to them wil count a lot in ur favour...it can be negotiated base on good understanding but if u keep running ur mouth for them as u r doing here...I sorry for u. If na family wey stubborn like u....a long walk for u

T0T0fucker:

Simp assz licking niggas.

Op, nor mind this fool!

Nothing him and his family fit do you...nor go borrow money marry death body o.
Infact leave his sister for the mortuary, make you travel out live your life.

When them ready they go carry the dead body

By the time they use Olopa carry you go luck up, to explained what happened to her, by that time you will be the one be begging to do the needful.

calmness0:
Op, most tribes act like that, you did not pay bride price and you have been with another persons daughter for years, banging morning afternoon night without paying bride price, you never knew death can knock early right? if it were your sister nko, op go and settle her family.

To be clear , the southwest doesn't practice such an archaic bullshits.

calmness0:
Op, most tribes act like that, you did not pay bride price and you have been with another persons daughter for years, banging morning afternoon night without paying bride price, you never knew death can knock early right? if it were your sister nko, op go and settle her family.

Wrong. Not most tribes. Just say the Igbo tribe, simple.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
would really appreciate

Maybe you should change the topic to financial assistance because of your son oo

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

Bro you are saying rubbish
The lady in question didn't you plan to marry her before

Not like you are going to kiss or have sex with the corpse, just pay the dowry and honour your late wife
You have spent years living as couples and she gave birth to a son.

When your son turns 25, you should tell him you refused to pay his mother dowry because she doesn't worth abi?

You people just create unnecessary future problems.

Why call God when trouble comes, when you cannot obey him in the first place.

Are you doing a burial arrangement as what? Boyfriend or husband?

Just pay her bride price. Respect that woman.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

Funkybabee:


Maybe you should change the topic to financial assistance because of your son oo

anything from you will be appreciated thank you

Am very sure that lady is either from Akwa ibom state or Cross river state.
@op if you know what is really good for you, You better do as they said if not, be ready to dance to their tune.
Continue running your mouth like a tap, remember we won't be there

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Let them bring it on.
I said I won't, I can't marry a corpse

You are joking, you are going to marry it watch my words. So you knack somebody's dota for years and you don't want her to depart in dignity? You will understand

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Let them bring it on.
I said I won't, I can't marry a corpse

When they say marry her corpse. It's not literally marrying. What it means is paying her Dowry which you ought to have done while she was alive and even before getting her pregnant. You have no claims on the son until you do the needful. Everything is not gragra.

davit:

Mumu. This is not about being tribalistic. It is pure fact. Such tradition ought to have been jettisoned by the Easterners years ago.

when you generalise a thing it shows you have zero Idea about the people in question, how that not tribalism. Learn to give answers with facts and figures, do not generalise it shows because your level of exposure.

blairlady:




Even in Akwa Ibom State, they don't play or joke with their daughters.

well I respect them for that.

poiZon:

No be only delta, akwaibom dey do am.
If u court a girl without marrying her, if she dies in ur house, u must marry her corpse.

Unless the family no sabi u.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?

op I am igbo and I know she's igbo. This is where our tradition didn't favour the men.
She bore you a child and you're living with her without paying her bride price now you want to Bury her like an ordinary person.
Traditionally in the igbo culture your situation demands you do her marriage rights before her burial rights

duro4chang:
The reasonable advice your mama give you no take am shey na our own you go take?

Brutal honesty. He is a vagabond

You are the hard type that refuses to learn from ur mother,am not surprised the way you drag issues with people that came to advise you here anyway. You won't still learn. But bear in mind say you don marry her finish. You don't have option here.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

She is dead now, you now refer to her as It. Even claiming its their daughter as if you have nothing to do with her anymore. They can accuse you of killing their daughter. Better tow the line of peace, you seem very stubborn and arrogant. Better drop that act cause it'll take you nowhere. You never had their consent and you put their daughter in the family way. Keep up with the raised shoulders you'll see what you're looking for.

NickD:

When they say marry her corpse. It's not literally marrying. What it means is paying her Dowry which you ought to have done while she was alive and even before getting her pregnant. You have no claims on the son until you do the needful. Everything is not gragra.

in my culture, any child born out of wedlock belongs to the girls father unless the man responsible comes to pay her dowry only then can he come out and claim the child