StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

dawnomike:
Since you refused to do the needful when she was alive; You've got to go and pay her dowry or leave the boy as their daughter's son as she was never your wife... It is the right thing to do in the igbo culture

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Let them bring it on.
I said I won't, I can't marry a corpse

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

joseph,how can you claim I killed her when she's been back to the village twice this period when she was sick with several tradition medicine you all gave her still it had no effect. I had to borrow money to take to several hospitals for test and different expensive drug's, while you all were just sitting there with no monetary assistance.
I said am tired.
I can't marry your sister dead body, am expecting the worst from you

tommy589:


Don't you fear oracle? You remind me of what happened to my late friend when they went for the girl's burial. My friend's brother guaranteed her family they would come back for the marriage rites,the girl's family accepted with warning that the guarantor must not attend any burial until the needful is done. But he failed to heed, he became the first to die mysteriously followed by others in the family. My late friend was the last to die in agony after facing different health challenges that defies treatment for years.

I used not to believe in God or voodoo,up till date I am not religious,but I have encountered things that shakes my belief. Marriage can be done in your absence when their is money. I pray you become blessed soon to do their requirements

dobnina:

OP, pls try and raise some money and pay her bride price. This life is very deep. A lot of thins are happening that we can't even explain. Don't jeopardize your future.
This lady bore you a son. Pls respect her and pay the bride price.
Something like this has happened before and the guy died mysteriously.
This life is very deep.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?

HUSTLER001:
You seem to be an arrogant person with the way you are responding to people. You impregnated someone's daughter out of wedlock and for years you kept her under your custody without doing the formal rite.You better pay the bride price. If you have sense,tell them to send account number for you to pay. Don't go to the her village now that the tension is still high. Also,I'd advice you to act mature when dealing with such a sensitive issue. Heed to the council of the elders here. There's one thing I assure you,there are quite a whole lot of intelligent dudes on this platform. Sorry for your loss!

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Your just been rude and arrogant, I guess your still a teenager.
No More response to you

T0T0fucker:

Who be this mumu boy, na your sister na die so?

DMerciful:
Why should he send them money, for what? Was he not taking care of the girl? She came to him on her own volition, she got pregnant on her own volition, he didnt kill her so why should he pay?

Ilaje1:


"He took someone's daughter...". Was she kidnapped? Was she forced to move in with him? Was she rapped? And she didn't take someone's son abi? The family should even be happy she left a son behind, a consolation.

frozen70:


You better handle this issue properly and right with them before it starts affecting you

What her family mean to say is that, since you did not do the proper thing while she was alive and you have been living with her and now that she is dead, it has to be done before her burial can be done and before you can be recognized and attend her burial

There is Jo big deal there after all, your sleeping with her hit her pregnant and she gave birth to a child for you

The issue of taking your child is not an issue, even if you go to court, court will still advise you to go and fulfill her marriage rights then come back to court to claim the child, probably through DNA test

Do you have the time and money for all that, if yes then use it and go and settle with her family

Being stubborn over it, will delay her burial and the mortuary cost will still be on you, including the burial cost

But if you feel you can't subject yourself to do what they demand for which is not out of place, you will be hunted by her spirit

If that one will be easy for you to handle the good luck

But don't cine back here to complain about spirit disturbing your life and future, you already know the spirit

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

StilmaVsBorn2w:

This don't scare me, I don't believe a man can harm me this way or my family.
I can't Marry her corpse

HUSTLER001:
He must pay. You don't know the risk involved in co-habiting with a girl. You can be charged for even kidnapping and you won't go scot free. I don't know why some men like to gamble.

Dorwadora:
Such happened to my uncle around 25 years ago... They met at Benin, she's from Delta, died during childbirth. It was hell for the whole family. I was young then.

My grandfather ( May God rest his soul) had to borrow money from Yoruba association at Benin and my biggest uncle hadto sell his car to finance the whole thing. The debt was so hard for the family.

They did normal wedding ceremony, bought clothes for the father and mother, all rites were completed. Then the family carried the cropse to Delta and asked my Uncle to come and bury his wife. Lol... My uncle was in his early 20s then. It was traumatizing for him.

The family had to hire 2 soldiers because there was rumor that they could harm him. They went and buried her and the child that died with her. Said he must sleep with her, that's when our family declined and hell broke loose.

They sha concluded and came back to Benin in one piece. The experience left a scar in my uncle's heart. Didn't marry on time. He's older than my mom and his first child is just 4.

DMerciful:
Once someone dies, that person stays dead.All the people Bubu killed at Lekki, how come he's not disturbed by spirit, too much naija films dey worry you.

The child is his and nothing can be done about it. If the girl's spirit wants to disturb(hypothetically), it would be her family that gave her traditional portion that did not wirk.

Brume001:


If it was my Daughter, I would mourn her and try to console the man who is in a lot of debt past a million. this will only be the case if the man is well known among us, and we have a good relationship with him.

if we don't have a good relationship, I will ignore both the man. and feel extremely sad and bitter that my daughter never followed morals and ethics. I may never talk to the man for life and really not think much about his child.

Now if the guy ignored my daughter and let her die without putting any effort, if he had the means, I will hurt him bad. really bad. It doesn't matter the type of relationship we have with him

It is just me sha. Maybe it is because I am a guy and know what it means to have debts on my neck.

frozen70:


Advice him not to not do the marriage rights and also advice him to go to her family with thugs to collect his child

You can volunteer to help him

DMerciful:
The child is with him already, if the name on the child certificate is his or he is listed as the father then nothing can be done to him legally

frozen70:


He never mentioned that the child is with him as at the time he brought this report

Whatever rocks his boat, that woman must be buried

And whatever he was asked to do, he must fulfil it

DMerciful:
The woman is in the mortuary so whoever comes for her body would pay the mortuary bill.

He should just continue his life and take care of his son.

Again, the son is with him

frozen70:


Talk is cheap

Pray to God to put you into such situations then you can practically do all you are saying

Not hiding behind a key board

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

DMerciful:
I'm not foolish to cohabit with a woman in the first place but if i was in such a situation,
I'd never marry the dead or pay any bride price.

Nothing can be done to the guy, the family of the girl knew she was sick and they were giving her traditional concoction instead of taking her to the hospital

StilmaVsBorn2w:


What will hard, they kill me?

DMerciful:
Kidnapping what? Does she not have friends, pictures and public to testify that she was never kidnapped?

Stop being afraid of shadows, accusing someone of kidnap when it can be proven the person was going to her work normally, going to church etc is preposterous

frozen70:


Am glad you mentioned the word foolish

That has described that it was a foolish act to keep a woman at home without proper marriage rights

So he should deal with it

And you, stop my mention I don't argue with people who doesn't reason properly

Am done with you

nams77:

The guy has not done the first thing he needs to to do, which is, go meet the elders in HIS family for advice.

I pity these young generation guys

Dem think say life na ludo.

Like someone said, it's going to be an uphill battle even if he is a general overseer of a ministry.

He should allow the elders in his family mediate. But of course, this kind of person sees the old people in his family as scum