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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Elidrisy20: 5:46am On May 06, 2022 |
You and your phone, na your papa property |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by olugabbie(m): 5:48am On May 06, 2022 |
You may not be lucky next time. So do not return... 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Sholaco: 5:50am On May 06, 2022 |
Well, all i say is that you are old enough to get yourself an apartment, if u can afford iPhone you shouldn't be living with your parents at 27. Please I v no time to read your lengthy story |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Sltp: 5:52am On May 06, 2022 |
What are you doing under your father's roof? Look for a way and leave. It's either you didn't give the whole story or your father is toxic as Bleep.
He doesn't have the right to take your phone. He has absolute no right to do that. He's an asshole |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by KosiGee(m): 5:57am On May 06, 2022 |
Lucasmuyiwaa:
Please forgive me for the so so.
Please my mind is one mind in two options. I need to know your mind too or your advice maybe it will help pls Are you into yahoo? Your smuggling business has been affected by border closure, how do you still ‘pim p your ride’? You booked hotel? For how long will you stay in hotel accommodation? Where’s the money coming from? Lots of us have passed through your route in various ways but staying in an hotel at the moment, wouldn’t that affect your finances, it’s early and there are perilous times and track ahead…don’t you have friends or relatives who’d accommodate you for a while? From the hotel, where would you go to? What are you going to do? Your dad seem like a Naija old school disciplinarian. His heart must be made of stone but then I might be misjudging him…you did the right thing going back to him to give him the phone back…you’ve got some conscience. Big up to you….it’s sad he accused you of stealing his money..,.have you gone to his room in the past to steal his money??….he is a bit aggressive and short-fused, throwing heavy objects at you was dangerous. He also swore at you and your late mum…if I was in your position, I’d forgive him of everything but not about your mum…you are bigger than the ‘curses’. Let that be the motivation that you need to excel. Pray, meditate…..words can hurt but they won’t stop your progress and success. You will succeed. Try and make peace with your family…but it’s time you left the house for good. You need to be a man, you can’t be one living with your dad and step mom. Go back to the house and speak to them but you need to move on. Keep in touch with your sister and step mon. 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Excuzeme: 5:59am On May 06, 2022 |
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.
Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.
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Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.
God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.
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The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.
He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.
After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.
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From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.
He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.
I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.
My sister was there too and all[b] she kept saying was I’m very rude[/b] to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.
He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.
The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.
Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today  ?
I have highlighted few phrases in your post, that drew my attention. You are 27yrs so l wont call you Child. You are Graduate but chose to be a Fuel Smuggler!  Despite that, at 27yrs, a Smuggler, you are still leaving under the Roof of your Parent! You referred to your Father and his friends, as "Uncivilized People", your Son will say and do worse to you, when the time comes, No be Curse, na prayer. You invaded the privacy of your Father and here you are, expecting us to believe you did not steal his Riyadh Currency? Who will believe a Fuel Smuggler that insults his father? Yes, good Children who assimilated the training of their Parents, will never argue, when their Parents are talking, they will give their Parents the "HONOR and RESPECT", by keeping quiet, even if they disagree with what he/she is saying.Later, when our Parents are calm, we will approach them with humility, kneel/prostrate and ask for permission to speak freely.Only then, can you explain yourself. But then, a Child that burgles his Parents bedroom, in his absence, has cursed himself.Your Sister, who is your closest in this world, also said you are disrespectful to your father, is she uncivilized too? See ehn, l pray that your next fuel smuggling mission wont be your last, you will soon find out, why it is good for a child to receive blessings from his Parents.
All these nonsense just because of Iphone!What if he had even tossed the phone in Water or broke it into pieces, l am sure you would have carried came nd flogged him properly...  Omo-ale radarada, about time you go and leave elsewhere, stop being a nuisance to the Old man's life. You are old enough and he has trained you to graduate level, HE OWES YOU NOTHING. BTW: I have only one advise for you: dont start hatching plan to kill the old man o, because you children of nowadays, Satan don enter una too much.  2 Likes |
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by kekakuz(m): 6:09am On May 06, 2022 |
TheLoneCitizen:
Nonsense, when you give advice, do so to upbuild, not to intimidate.
What kind of legal job gets a car in 4 months. Do you want to push him to steal? Your question should be how long ago was this and what type of car. Anyway I already had what I was doing when I was with him |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by alhajiwada(m): 6:12am On May 06, 2022 |
At 27 you don't know you are a fully grown ass MAN Why are you still living at home? And why do you call smuggling 'exportation of petrol'? You are an economic saboteur if you don't know. Gutless too. Shift abeg! quote author=Lucasmuyiwaa post=112554291]What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO. Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son. I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access. After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon. I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone. Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow. God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it. I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up. I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me. I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff. Some people told me to return it and never do that again. when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time. I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day. I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late. The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it. He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself. After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it. I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad. I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there. He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later. Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother. From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing. He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road. So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access. I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day. I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see. Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money. At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it. I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape. On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me ) But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me. My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking. After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him. He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now. He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out. So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags. The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine. I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today. I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk. I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today. She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen. I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me. Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me . Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ? [/quote] 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by AMGBoss(m): 6:12am On May 06, 2022 |
See as you justified his "uncivilized" father's actions. You know it is foolishness to be one sided in this issue. Excuzeme:
I have highlighted few phrases in your post, that drew my attention.
You are 27yrs so l wont call you Child.
You are Graduate but chose to be a Fuel Smuggler!
Despite that, at 27yrs, a Smuggler, you are still leaving under the Roof of your Parent!
You referred to your Father and his friends, as "Uncivilized People", your Son will say and do worse to you, when the time comes, No be Curse, na prayer.
You invaded the privacy of your Father and here you are, expecting us to believe you did not steal his Riyadh Currency?
Who will believe a Fuel Smuggler that insults his father?
Yes, good Children who assimilated the training of their Parents, will never argue, when their Parents are talking, they will give their Parents the "HONOR and RESPECT", by keeping quiet, even if they disagree with what he/she is saying.
Later, when our Parents are calm, we will approach them with humility, kneel/prostrate and ask for permission to speak freely.
Only then, can you explain yourself.
But then, a Child that burgles his Parents bedroom, in his absence, has cursed himself.
Your Sister, who is your closest in this world, also said you are disrespectful to your father, is she uncivilized too?
See ehn, l pray that your next fuel smuggling mission wont be your last, you will soon find out, why it is good for a child to receive blessings from his Parents.
All these nonsense just because of Iphone!
What if he had even tossed the phone in Water or broke it into pieces, l am sure you would have carried came nd flogged him properly...
Omo-ale radarada, about time you go and leave elsewhere, stop being a nuisance to the Old man's life.
You are old enough and he has trained you to graduate level, HE OWES YOU NOTHING.
BTW: I have only one advise for you: dont start hatching plan to kill the old man o, because you children of nowadays, Satan don enter una too much.
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by alhajiwada(m): 6:12am On May 06, 2022 |
At 27 you don't know you are a fully grown ass MAN Why are you still living at home? And why do you call smuggling 'exportation of petrol'? You are an economic saboteur if you don't know. Gutless too. Shift abeg! Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.
Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.
I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.
After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.
I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.
Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.
God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.
I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.
I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.
I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.
Some people told me to return it and never do that again.
when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.
I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.
I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.
The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.
He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.
After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.
I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.
I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.
He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.
Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.
From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.
He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.
So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.
I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.
I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.
Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.
At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.
I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.
On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )
But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.
My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.
After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.
He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.
He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.
So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.
The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.
I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.
I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.
I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.
She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.
I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.
Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .
Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by pargelenis(m): 6:15am On May 06, 2022 |
A 27 year old child is being controlled by his parents like this? This is a proper man child |
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by pargelenis(m): 6:18am On May 06, 2022 |
alhajiwada:
At 27 you don't know you are a fully grown ass MAN Why are you still living at home? And why do you call smuggling 'exportation of petrol'? You are an economic saboteur if you don't know. Gutless too. Shift abeg! Wow, I didn’t even go that far with the man child’s story … once I saw 27 years old i stoped. |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by West2019(m): 6:22am On May 06, 2022 |
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.
Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.
I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.
After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.
I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.
Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.
God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.
I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.
I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.
I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.
Some people told me to return it and never do that again.
when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.
I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.
I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.
The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.
He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.
After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.
I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.
I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.
He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.
Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.
From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.
He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.
So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.
I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.
I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.
Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.
At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.
I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.
On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )
But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.
My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.
After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.
He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.
He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.
So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.
The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.
I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.
I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.
I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.
She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.
I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.
Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .
Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?
Sorry about the insult and the curse .go and met your stepmother and hear what she will said. after this matter go out and look for something to do. believe me it will surely be well wit you
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by franchasofficia: 6:23am On May 06, 2022 |
Cc: Lucasmuyiwaa
First, I must admit the fact that your dad went too far, his behavior is completely wrong and out of order. I am putting myself in your dad's shoe, I can't treat my own son that way no matter what, God will never allow such behavior or situation to even arise in my home.
Secondly, I am sorry to say that you seem to be a stubborn child, you really need to work on yourself.
How or why are you completely unemployed at 27yrs? For someone that have a capable father that can afford a house in the city? It either means your dad didn't equip you properly for future challenges or you failed to take advantage of the trainings he gave to you while growing up which is how bad children come about.
If you were a good child, at 17 you are done with secondary school, at worst at 25 you are done with higher institution considering the worst educational situation in Nigeria.
With the little I can deduce from your write up, your dad is kinda well to do in his own time, so what happened that you are still struggling to stand on your own at 27? Please reflect on this. The stuff you said you were doing before border closure by Buhari is completely illegal, you were a smuggler and you can be killed by the customs at any time, so that stuff isn't even a job or business to mention, don't even bring it up again please.
You are supposed to be working or doing legitimate business or engaged in a meaningful trade like fashion designing, welding, electrical works, plumbing, etc to earn a legitimate income. You are far better than millions of Nigerians, you have a roof over your head in the city which is what millions of youths are looking for to start a life. Many young people like you came from remote villages to that same city you are living comfortably under your father's comfy house without hope of where to put their head and they toiled legitimately and changed their life and that of their poor parents in the village. But here you and many other fortunate youths with free house in the city are wasting your time plotting foolishly how to hammer money overnight through illegitimate dealings. You better wake up, crime doesn't pay. How did you get money to lodge in a hotel when you have no job? Why was hotel your first abi second option, where did you get the money? Did you even graduate from school your dad sent you?
But here you are with a free house in the city and still cant make something out of your life but went ahead to buy an expensive phone.
Why didn't you use the money to startup a business online or offline? As someone without a stable source of income, you don't need an expensive phone. With my heavy income which can afford me any brand of phone I desire, I am using an average Samsung phone. I have friends who are Naira billionaires also using same phone I am using or lesser one, but most of you Nigerian youths will use your last kobo to acquire expensive phone just to belong or just to deceive your mates that all is well with you.
I have discovered that most children born into middle income families in Nigeria that have access to good life in the city hardly end up successful unlike those of us that came from near poor and poor families, and even those that came from remote villages to the city.
This thread should be a wake up call to all Nigerian parents to please do more work of preparing your children for life challeneges before they even become teenagers. Don't over pamper them. Don't just allow them to be living stupid life as they please and be keeping foolish friends.
Op your dad is seeing the danger ahead, you are planning to join bad gangs or you have joined already. With the little I can read from your write up, I know your type, you will either join Yahoo boys and when you do, your type might end up the ritualists they call Yahoo plus guys or you may end up in one dangerous illegal business. You dont have a stable income and you want to be using an expensive phone for what?
Take this as a challenge to change your ways. It is time to be a man, you need to start fending for yourself by getting a job or learning a craft or selling that phone to start a business or by going to any big market around you to go start market hustling to raise capital to start your own business, that's how Igbo boys raise their business capital when they don't have a helper or a big daddy like you and later most of you will be calling them ritualists or drug traffickers without knowing the pains they passed through to get to where they were.
Go back home and apologize to your father. Then prepare to start your own life and work towards getting your own apartment.
In western world, US for example, you wont be living with your father at 27, even at 20 you must have saved enough from doing vacation jobs while schooling to raise money to rent your own apartment, so at 27, in the western world we are copying you ought to have started your own family.
But in Nigeria, because a man considers himself a big man because he managed to buy 2 tokunbo vehicles and built a house, he sees his children as ajebo and therefore they are not supposed to do menial jobs or vacation jobs while schooling which is why most children from middle income families in Nigeria are damaged and nothing to write home about.
My kids will start doing vacation jobs and start saving after their primary school. either they start doing legitimate online jobs and saving money and also learn to be giving to the less privileged as a way of learning to be compassionate and responsible from the age of 12.
Go back to your father and apologize and go and sell that phone and get an average phone and start something legitimate with your life. Yahoo Yahoo is not a job. You can learn software engineering online via youtube and become a full stack developer that will position you for greatness. stop watching Zazu and Davido and planning how to hammer overnight to surprise your dad. work work work and save and gradually build your way up. Yahoo Yahoo no be work. petrol smuggling no be work. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by ashawopikin(m): 6:24am On May 06, 2022 |
At 27, u suppose don leave that house, I left my dad's house aged 19 |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by friendl: 6:27am On May 06, 2022 |
Your dad ain't happy with you ,... please beg him ,...but he seems to also have a temper ,...you have a great step mum 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by xperiencelove(m): 6:28am On May 06, 2022 |
God will provide you a good job that will make you stand on your own and have your own house.
Concerning exportation of already FG subsidized PMS out of Nigeria through land border, it is an illegal business and peradventure you are caught one day, this your popsy will allow you rot in jail. It is better you learn a good skill that pays very well and your education will help you to package it. 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Ahmed3rdjuly: 6:29am On May 06, 2022 |
You dy use iPhone and you no fit rent your own house? |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Slurity(m): 6:34am On May 06, 2022 |
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.
Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.
I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.
After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.
I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.
Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.
God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.
I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.
I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.
I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.
Some people told me to return it and never do that again.
when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.
I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.
I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.
The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.
He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.
After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.
I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.
I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.
He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.
Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.
From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.
He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.
So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.
I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.
I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.
Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.
At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.
I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.
On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )
But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.
My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.
After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.
He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.
He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.
So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.
The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.
I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.
I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.
I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.
She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.
I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.
Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .
Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?
Thank God Buhari close the border o, now I believe the fact that some evil element are actually transporting Nigeria fuel to cotonou, Did you guys know the implications of this wicked act? This simply means Nigeria government are the one paying for the fuel that country is using. You guys has finished this country since, what act alone is worse than the political thieves. Your father is right about you, eith your stories here, you are surely getting money from illegal means and that is not different from yahoo yahoo. For you to be able to afford iPhone but can not afford to start a small business or your own apartment, You are far from having sense. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Fididiguy(m): 6:36am On May 06, 2022 |
The issue with you and your dad has gotten to heighten side, and those that don't have your experience will never understand you.
The point is this, if you don't stay focus on your future and be hard working and be a good man you lose and your dad win.
But if you do legit things, and stay focus and succeed in life, you win, your father too win, it's a win win for both of you because he actually want you to win in life it's just that philosophy of life got him so wrong.
But never think the relationship with your dad will improve with his current impression of you, your father is a man, man are somehow very complex people and straight forward even tho they are wrong. Women too can have the same feelings of your dad, but will still be diplomatic.
Only you succeeding can solve the problem and your journey succeeding in legit way start now. One important thing to help you succeed in a legit way is to move closer to God, if you are a Christian be born again. Be born again got you to a path of succeeding legit.I hope I have time to explain so long that you need.
You know experience is a best teacher, this is based on experience oo. Anyone that is in this kind of situation or because of divorce of parent made him staying with his dad should stay focus than ordinarily they should. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by kelmicheal: 6:38am On May 06, 2022 |
Good writer u go Sabi write books though your write up happens everyday is a through life story 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by bluefilm: 6:45am On May 06, 2022 |
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| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by purejustice36: 6:46am On May 06, 2022 |
The only thing you owe your father is respect and not to take anything like disrespect from anyone
No money was missing , that’s bad for him to accuse you of such just bc of a phone
I mean no disrespect but your dad isn’t the type to beg at all bc he ought to know that a 27 years old man is grown enough to own anything, whether a house , car , any accessories as long as he’s not the one paying for it .
Forget all the curses he laid on you, remember he’s not God , it’s only your mom and God that can rain curses on you
Leave tf outta that prison called a house and don’t even regret your decision
Don’t call him at all, hustle hard and ensure you make it big in life and remember to always pray for your mom period 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Yeancahmie007(m): 6:54am On May 06, 2022 |
90% of the people here will side you. But nothing concern me. You say u no get money but you want to stay in an hotel. Are you sure ur father is not right about you?
At this point in time you would think what you are doing is right but you are wrong... Find a way and apologize to Dad. Find a pastor or an Imam or a well respected elder to settle ur fracas. Else if that man curses you again, border go open but you no go gain again o. I don talk my own... From experience sef... Infact I am guilty of some misbehavior but pop c na my pop c, he still forgives. I mean i am the black sheep of the family. So go and plead for your future my guy. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by fairwilliams: 6:54am On May 06, 2022 |
He knew he's dad gonna killed him with the gun he bought for his dad nah about marvin gaye's.
@0P...
TRY TO google "HOW MARVIN GAYE'S" DIED ..
Stay away frm ur dad wife and stepm0m.
Ur step m0m cnt l0ve u the same way she l0ved ur dad..(NEVER).. u dnt even knw what she's teln ur dad whenever she's unclad wit ur dad.. Stay away frm d h0use.. Laslas u ego tough4u but una n0 go die of hunger. |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Shalym: 6:56am On May 06, 2022 |
Your father want to know the real person you are by collecting your iPhone just to know how you are going to manage yourself for some periods of time.
Going into his room without his permission is totally wrong and disrespectful because it shows that you are not trustworthy, unreliable, unbelievable, desperate to do anything, intrusion into someone's property, disrespectful, and so on.. Your father is trying to test you if truly you have nothing doing with the phone such as internet fraud because he believes that majority of iPhone users are into internet fraud. So get in into his room clearly stated that you have missed or missing your target due to the absence of the phone.
Please, I would advise you to go back to the house and apologize to him and respect your stepmother because she is the only person to appeal to your father and listen to him more than other people around.
At 27 years, you should know what is right and what is wrong that is if you decided not to stay with them anymore it shouldn't be by violence but by calling his attention with normal discussion and reasonable reason(s).
May we not receive unending curses from our parents (Amin)
Olorun o wa pelu wa 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by deebrownneymar: 7:00am On May 06, 2022 |
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.
Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.
I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.
After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.
I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.
Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.
God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.
I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.
I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.
I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.
Some people told me to return it and never do that again.
when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.
I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.
I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.
The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.
He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.
After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.
I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.
I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.
He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.
Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.
From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.
He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.
So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.
I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.
I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.
Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.
At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.
I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.
On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )
But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.
My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.
After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.
He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.
He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.
So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.
The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.
I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.
I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.
I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.
She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.
I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.
Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .
Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?
go home bro |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Newton2024: 7:01am On May 06, 2022 |
Your Dad is tired of your dependency. He is fed up. Please rent a room outside, far from his place. 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by Stanleyq: 7:04am On May 06, 2022 |
It doesnt matter having such a big phone, it matters how ur father who will not just hate U for nothing see what the phone is distracting u into because u are almost idle since u stopped ur biz and fathers who always see their sons bend low on phones will think otherwise, 27 and u are still living with them is bad, familiarity breeds contempt, whats important now, go and start doing to him all u know that he likes and on a good day, example, his birthday, give him a good gift, my concern is the curses, persuade him to withdraw that curse, lest it will come to u. QED |
