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should i come by Hopemanfx: 6:31am On May 22, 2022
yes

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Re: should i come by MrSensor(m): 6:39am On May 22, 2022
Oga relax
Re: should i come by Cerebellum: 6:44am On May 22, 2022
You're a man.

Do what's best for you.

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Re: should i come by Equal2DeTask(m): 6:46am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice


undecided
Re: should i come by Boogyman557: 6:55am On May 22, 2022
Holly Gram cool get a baby MAMA and chilax..


As I de here So!


I no like disturbance ooo..


All and all, Na PIKIN u de FIND!


Hardly to see a real and SIMPLE girl who's loyal dis days..


A man was complaining to me about his wife, that all she does now is Tiktok app from morning till night. A married woman ooo..


this one na people wey just marry newly Las year..


U see that 300 to 400k wey u de get..


If u get married to the wrong woman, that money go become 300 naira and 400 naira.. U will not only invest in the woman, u will also invest in her family!



the weather is Cold MAN!


LITE UP my precious WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

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Re: should i come by TMTR: 6:56am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice

Get a baby mama, age is not on your side, as you dey fear marriage, your mind no carry am , then forget about it
Re: should i come by emmanuelbrown26: 6:59am On May 22, 2022
TMTR:


Get a baby mama, age is not on your side, as you dey fear marriage, your mind no carry am , then forget about it
According to statistics and things wey man eyes dun see, 3 out of d 5 above listed would occur. That's just d fact bro.
So at this juncture, I concur with this comment, baby mama is d best for people like u to avoid had I known

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Re: should i come by Jennyclay(f): 7:12am On May 22, 2022
It's normal, but I think it's time you get over it, try getting so acquainted to a good and loving lady and watch her take away your fears. Love supersedes all!!

BTW, why are you so focused about your career?? what you listed above shows you're more concerned about your career (1-4). undecided

You better don't create boring environment for your wife if you eventually get married. Because she would definitely get the attention you aren't giving her outside. (I know what I'm saying).

Who said you can't achieve your goals when you're married??

Listen to me carefully.. There are blessings attached to marriage that makes one have access to the good things nature have to offer in life.

Infact proverbs 18:22 "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favor of God"

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Re: should i come by Hopemanfx: 7:16am On May 22, 2022
MrSensor:
Oga relax
I don relax grin
Re: should i come by Hopemanfx: 7:17am On May 22, 2022
Jennyclay:
It's normal, but I think it's time you get over it, try getting so acquainted to a good and loving lady and watch take away your fears.
Love supersedes all.
I have try my best to get over it but still am afraid of anything called marriage
Re: should i come by Breadandpeppers(f): 7:17am On May 22, 2022
You better remain single before you marry and start suffering somebody's daughter because of your insecurities

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Re: should i come by Goldbw122(m): 7:19am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice
Find a woman that you know loves you and marry her, don't be afraid you are mature enough to marry, and my father use to say "if one woman give you pepper marry another one that is why women many" you know what he mean by that, I'd you are unlucky, he said you should try again and again at least you are not busy, so you have time to go for a relationship unlike me that is very busy, you have the time so marry don't be afraid of these factors it won't help you change your mindset...

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Re: should i come by Nobody: 7:21am On May 22, 2022
Boogyman557:
Holly Gram cool get a baby MAMA and chilax..


As I de here So!


I no like disturbance ooo..


All and all, Na PIKIN u de FIND!


Hardly to see a real and SIMPLE girl who's loyal dis days..


A man was complaining to me about his wife, that all she does now is Tiktok app from morning till night. A married woman ooo..


this one na people wey just marry newly Las year..


U see that 300 to 400k wey u de get..


If u get married to the wrong woman, that money go become 300 naira and 400 naira.. U will not only invest in the woman, u will also invest in her family!



the weather is Cold MAN!


LITE UP my precious WEED in peace


WTF MAN!
Couldn't agree with you more meehn.. this weed is truly inspirational. smiley

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Re: should i come by advanceDNA: 7:37am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
I have try my best to get over it but still am afraid of anything called marriage

Oga...stay your lane..no add trouble to your life if you feel you cant manage marriage....
You have every reason to be afraid..marriage is extra pressure....

to make it worse ...

The young men and women outside today dont understand marriage ....no love, no team spirit, no healthy/disciplined sex life

just entitlement mentality behaving like they did you a favour for marrying you .....

I pity men and women marryimg partners with several body counts and lack of team spirit....

With the current trend of the world...u have a higher chances of regret if you marry than of stay your lane......make your decision wisely

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Re: should i come by AfroKnight: 7:43am On May 22, 2022
Here for the comments.

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Re: should i come by sajmark(m): 7:53am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice
Marriage has nothing to add to your life bro. And with all this phobias you listed, you will have to study and vet any girl you want to marry like your life depends on it... Because it does cheesy.
Davido, Wizkid and millions of men are NOT married but have children... Good luck.

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Re: should i come by tensazangetsu20(m): 8:10am On May 22, 2022
Honestly 300k is too small to marry in Nigeria. It might look big to you but once a child is in, it will become equivalent to 50k then school fees feeding and all of that expenses and you aren't even sure of the 300k. It will also lose its value and purchasing power overtime. You are a man you can marry anytime you want. Present NBA chairman just got married at 47 and that was his first marriage. The president of the Nigerian stock exchange got married at 52 and that was his first. You can even marry at 90 if you so wish. Just get your money up.

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Re: should i come by Emma2Seconds: 8:13am On May 22, 2022
OGA ever body must not marry ok but remember that you Will not continue to be young , old age will teach you life lessons if fail to get marry now!!! Don't say I did not inform you be warned!!!
Re: should i come by Karleb(m): 8:18am On May 22, 2022
Emma2Seconds:
OGA ever body must not marry ok but remember that you Will not continue to be young , old age will teach you life lessons if fail to get marry now!!! Don't say I did not inform you be warned!!!

What life lessons are you talking about, I'm asking honestly here.
Re: should i come by ukaface(f): 8:25am On May 22, 2022
Then don't marry Na.

How is your problem so difficult to solve

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Re: should i come by yomi007k(m): 9:26am On May 22, 2022
The fear in marriage is the beginning of wisdom.


There is no law complling you to get married.

Stop stressing your mind.

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Re: should i come by DBestDoc(f): 9:36am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice

Focus on building your life then and forget about marriage. You have so much reservations about it, so don’t risk it.

When you become ready to marry, you’ll know.

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Re: should i come by DBestDoc(f): 9:51am On May 22, 2022
tensazangetsu20:
Honestly 300k is too small to marry in Nigeria. It might look big to you but once a child is in, it will become equivalent to 50k then school fees feeding and all of that expenses and you aren't even sure of the 300k. It will also lose its value and purchasing power overtime. You are a man you can marry anytime you want. Present NBA chairman just got married at 47 and that was his first marriage. The president of the Nigerian stock exchange got married at 52 and that was his first. You can even marry at 90 if you so wish. Just get your money up.


I’m very sure you’re not married. If you were, you’d know that there are lots of families doing decently ok with less than 300k monthly pay per partner.

How many people in their 30s earn up to 400k monthly? Just look around you and count the number of people in their mid 30s and below who earn up to 400k per month. You’re using high profile men who married late as examples, if you ask those same men, I don’t think they’ll advise him to follow in their footsteps.

Bottom line is, marriage doesn’t restrict a man from achieving his goals and reaching his desired height. What stunts their growth is poor planning, breeding indiscriminately, lack of decency and unsuitable partners .

Fact is, marriage slows down the growth of women and not men for obvious reasons

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Re: should i come by Hopemanfx: 9:55am On May 22, 2022
DBestDoc:


Focus on building your life then and forget about marriage. You have so much reservations about it, so don’t risk it.

When you become ready to marry, you’ll know.
at my age 37yrs.
Re: should i come by DBestDoc(f): 10:10am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
at my age 37yrs.

Yes oo
Old age isn’t equal to readiness na.
Since women are bad and marriage will stall your progress, better to steer clear till you change your mindset about it.
Or better still, get a baby Mama, problem solved.

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Re: should i come by JERRY1925(m): 10:21am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice



Seriously, be scared.
It's really not an easy adventure.
My marriage is three month now..mehn, ill say marriage is meant for the brave.
U have a lot of things to learn.
Another fact is, u will no longer put urself first.

Seriously, be scared.

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Re: should i come by Innobee99(m): 10:23am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice
I experienced all these fears but am happily married now



It's a bold step u must take

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Re: should i come by Hopemanfx: 10:32am On May 22, 2022
DBestDoc:



I’m very sure you’re not married. If you were, you’d know that there are lots of families doing decently ok with less than 300k monthly pay per partner.

How many people in their 30s earn up to 400k monthly? Just look around you and count the number of people in their mid 30s and below who earn up to 400k per month. You’re using high profile men who married late as examples, if you ask those same men, I don’t think they’ll advise him to follow in their footsteps.

Bottom line is, marriage doesn’t restrict a man from achieving his goals and reaching his desired height. What stunts their growth is poor planning, breeding indiscriminately, lack of decency and unsuitable partners .

Fact is, marriage slows down the growth of women and not men for obvious reasons




Thanks.. looking forward to ur advice on the main issue..
Re: should i come by Hopemanfx: 10:34am On May 22, 2022
DBestDoc:


Yes oo
Old age isn’t equal to readiness na.
Since women are bad and marriage will stall your progress, better to steer clear till you change your mindset about it.
Or better still, get a baby Mama, problem solved.
appreciate
Re: should i come by Marcco: 10:44am On May 22, 2022
Ignore all these people telling you to go and get married. If you get fûcked inside it you will carry your cross on your own. This is 2022 it's OK to not get married. It's even OK to not want kids. Men are the only ones still thinking like this. A female in your position would have already convinced herself that she does not need a man and embrace independence with her full chest.

Na man go dey this kind position dey reason woman matter. It's all societal conditioning, you will do well to break free. wink

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Re: should i come by IyaTola: 10:50am On May 22, 2022
Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice
BabyMama things then
Re: should i come by Pascopele: 10:51am On May 22, 2022
cheesy
Your fears are genuine.

Many people are not interested in marriage but because of society they get married and be become miserable, however, life is not so difficult we humans make it difficult.

If you get married now, by the time you are 49yrs your child would be 10yrs and you hit 60yrs you first child would be probably 20yrs, you will have the energy to fend again.

I for example have 34 baby mamas
8 girlfriend and I have been able to achieve the things I want to achieve.

The choice is yours.

Join SafeHavenJoint on telegram if you interested in getting a baby mama.

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