brokenheart1234:
So, I have been able to save some money from my little business and I'm thinking of getting an accommodation for myself.
The present accommodation is not conducive and I can't keep living like this, especially with my husband who doesn't understand all the sacrifice I'm making for him.
His salary, can provide us more beautiful life but it's not possible because he's into sport betting. Family members have advised him, he claimed, he's a change person, but he's not.
I don't want to keep living like this. It's obvious that his gambling lifestyle is difficult to stop and it's not healthy for me right now.
He always come back to appologies after he's done wasting all his salaries. Because he will need to put his feeding and transportation expenses on me.

In few weeks, I'll put to birth. I'm really scared, not happy and nothing is giving me strength here.
I just want to successfully give birth and talk about divorce later.
What would you advise?
I want to move to a nice appartment without him.
What do you think about what I want to do?

this your biz you are beating your chest for actually was sponsored by the said gambler.

you eat his food and abide in the shelter the gambler provided and now prosper in your biz that makes you to realize that you are the best and you can now dump him for a freezone where your authority holds.

In addition to the above, you harvested the sperm of the gambler and now think there is no other good thing left in his life at that point you come here looking for who will santify your foly thoughts.

If this same gambler has a brother home or abroad whom you can be manipulating for monetary gain, you will want to stay with him more.

please leave the gambler and go your way, he will be alright when you leave.

The expenses you inflated in his life is more than gambling. please leave him let him be left with -1 (minus one) problem.

All what you need in man is money and sperm.

brokenheart1234:
So, I have been able to save some money from my little business and I'm thinking of getting an accommodation for myself.
The present accommodation is not conducive and I can't keep living like this, especially with my husband who doesn't understand all the sacrifice I'm making for him.
His salary, can provide us more beautiful life but it's not possible because he's into sport betting. Family members have advised him, he claimed, he's a change person, but he's not.
I don't want to keep living like this. It's obvious that his gambling lifestyle is difficult to stop and it's not healthy for me right now.
He always come back to appologies after he's done wasting all his salaries. Because he will need to put his feeding and transportation expenses on me.

In few weeks, I'll put to birth. I'm really scared, not happy and nothing is giving me strength here.
I just want to successfully give birth and talk about divorce later.
What would you advise?
I want to move to a nice appartment without him.
What do you think about what I want to do?

Be patient mama, na just only 3 correct scores go change una life.

Your husband is on his way to win N40million

Nawa see the way people are supporting chronic gambling.

It is well.

What happened to "for better, for worse"?

Most men are either smokers, alcoholics, womanisers or gamblers. It comes with the package.

Your husband just need to improve his risk management skill. Moderation is key

Mindlog:


How do children benefit from a father who is a pathological gambler, please do share.

yes I don't support men gambling but I put it to that leaving him can't solve your problem. What of if a man leave u when u have one bad character,what will u tell d world? For your information,50% men gamble. And they gamble because they don't have better option to make money.though gambling is not an option. He is not in this because of himself but in order to win money to cater for his family. I believe as u plan to leave him today, if by chance he won 5m today through bet,u will not leave him again. If u leave him I know u mean business. If is your brother wife or your son wife that is planning to leave,will u take it like this? I can only agree with u blaming him if he has money and not bother to care about u and d children or he's lazy to work.
I will tell u no man is happy not be able to run his home financially. Instead to help him spiritually with prayers now u want to add to his problem. U are happy doing this because u already have what u wanted from him. That's d children. You want to replace your husband with your children. Don't do to him what u don't want another woman to do to your son.

The purpose of marriage is for companionship and to support each other strength and weaknesses and not to abadon one another at the time of trials. Your husband need you at this critical time,he's confused and you are in the right position to help him,if you abadon him and rent your own apartment,then,you have multiply his problem, what you will do is,look for someone older than him and respects and lay the complain before him/her,maybe he will listen,exhaust all avenues before thinking of moving,that should be the last resort

enumerica:


this your biz you are beating your chest for actually was sponsored by the said gambler.

you eat his food and abide in the shelter the gambler provided and now prosper in your biz that makes you to realize that you are the best and you can now dump him for a freezone where your authority holds.

In addition to the above, you harvested the sperm of the gambler and now think there is no other good thing left in his life at that point you come here looking for who will santify your foly thoughts.

If this same gambler has a brother home or abroad whom you can be manipulating for monetary gain, you will want to stay with him more.

please leave the gambler and go your way, he will be alright when you leave.

The expenses you inflated in his life is more than gambling. please leave him let him be left with -1 (minus one) problem.

All what you need in man is money and sperm.

How do you know my business was sponsored by him? You sound as if you're a gambler as well. Why are you so pain? You come up with write up you know nothing about. For those of you gambling and inflating emotional pain on good women who are effortlessly supporting your success and your greed wouldn't let you successful, may God judge you and give you more pain unless you stop that habits.

Gainman:
yes I don't support men gambling but I put it to that leaving him can't solve your problem. What of if a man leave u when u have one bad character,what will u tell d world? For your information,50% men gamble. And they gamble because they don't have better option to make money.though gambling is not an option. He is not in this because of himself but in order to win money to cater for his family. I believe as u plan to leave him today, if by chance he won 5m today through bet,u will not leave him again. If u leave him I know u mean business. If is your brother wife or your son wife that is planning to leave,will u take it like this? I can only agree with u blaming him if he has money and not bother to care about u and d children or he's lazy to work.
I will tell u no man is happy not be able to run his home financially. Instead to help him spiritually with prayers now u want to add to his problem. U are happy doing this because u already have what u wanted from him. That's d children. You want to replace your husband with your children. Don't do to him what u don't want another woman to do to your son.

Don't mistake me for the creator of this thread.

Being a pathological gambler is way beyond "bad character' but a mental health disorder!

Please do send me links to researchs that reached the conclusion that 50% of men, gamble.

You think it is only men who are financially struggling, that gambles? You certainly need to read wide and be more observant!

"If by chance" is the anthem of gambling addicts when they zoom into their
daydreaming zone .

How many gambling addicts around you have achieved sustainable means of livelihood to cater for their families through gambling?

If the OP's husband wins N5m today, he would "re-invest"at least N4m back into gambling. Read up on neurotransmitters in relation to gambling.

Zonefree:
As long as domestic violence is not involved, there's no need for divorce here.

If married men begin divorce their broke wife that is not providing anything for the family, it means 98.584% of married women will automatically turn to divorced single mothers with bittered heart.


OP, if you like take advice from frustrated and depressed evening newspapers here, that's your business.

THE BEST POSITIVE INPUT SO FAR.

OP IF YOU LIKE LISTEN TO OLD CARGOS WHO ARE UNMARRIED BECAUSE OF THEIR TOXIC NATURE.

brokenheart1234:
So, I have been able to save some money from my little business and I'm thinking of getting an accommodation for myself.
The present accommodation is not conducive and I can't keep living like this, especially with my husband who doesn't understand all the sacrifice I'm making for him.
His salary, can provide us more beautiful life but it's not possible because he's into sport betting. Family members have advised him, he claimed, he's a change person, but he's not.
I don't want to keep living like this. It's obvious that his gambling lifestyle is difficult to stop and it's not healthy for me right now.
He always come back to appologies after he's done wasting all his salaries. Because he will need to put his feeding and transportation expenses on me.

In few weeks, I'll put to birth. I'm really scared, not happy and nothing is giving me strength here.
I just want to successfully give birth and talk about divorce later.
What would you advise?
I want to move to a nice appartment without him.
What do you think about what I want to do?

when you are truly fed up, you'll know what to do

Don't go and stay single. Sooner or later you'd start feeling abandoned. You are just trying to make way for another woman.

brokenheart1234:
How do you know my business was sponsored by him? You sound as if you're a gambler as well. Why are you so pain? You come up with write up you know nothing about. For those of you gambling and inflating emotional pain on good women who are effortlessly supporting your success and your greed wouldn't let you successful, may God judge you and give you more pain unless you stop that habits.

How will women claim they support men when you actually destabilize men.

You married gambler and came here to cry.

Didn't you know he's a gambler while you were about to commit yourself?

You brought your family issues to nairaland and I advised you to move away from the gambler so he can know that the only problem he now has is gambling.

Your presence in the gambler's life is another problem that is more than gambling.

Let the gambler be while you have your life too after you have feed fat on his money and havested the gambler's sperms.

enumerica:


How will women claim they support men when you actually destabilize men.

You married gambler and came here to cry.

Didn't you know he's a gambler while you were about to commit yourself?

You brought your family issues to nairaland and I advised you to move away from the gambler so he can know that the only problem he now has is gambling.

Your presence in the gambler's life is another problem that is more than gambling.

Let the gambler be while you have your life too after you have feed fat on his money and havested the gambler's sperms.

Oga, bringing my family issue to nairaland is not a crime. There are so many well informed, experienced and well knowledgeable people on this forum.
Why is your comment so negative? If you have personal problem with women, go deal with it first before you come back here to give me advice on an issue that's beyond you. Not every post you see, you jump into with baseless advise. Thank you

Oluwabucci:
Don't go and stay single. Sooner or later you'd start feeling abandoned. You are just trying to make way for another woman.

My dear, it's better to stay single than with someone who gives high blood pressure.

The thought of living in poverty and see my children suffer due to a bad habit, scare me to death.

Mindlog:


Don't mistake me for the creator of this thread.

Being a pathological gambler is way beyond "bad character' but a mental health disorder!

Please do send me links to researchs that reached the conclusion that 50% of men, gamble.

You think it is only men who are financially struggling, that gambles? You certainly need to read wide and be more observant!

"If by chance" is the anthem of gambling addicts when they zoom into their
daydreaming zone .

How many gambling addicts around you have achieved sustainable means of livelihood to cater for their families through gambling?

If the OP's husband wins N5m today, he would "re-invest"at least N4m back into gambling. Read up on neurotransmitters in relation to gambling.

I am not supporting gambling. Has he started doing that before you married or after. And if is after you married, can u say what might push him into gambling?

brokenheart1234:
Oga, bringing my family issue to nairaland is not a crime. There are so many well informed, experienced and well knowledgeable people on this forum.
Why is your comment so negative? If you have personal problem with women, go deal with it first before you come back here to give me advice on an issue that's beyond you. Not every post you see, you jump into with baseless advise. Thank you

Gambler's wife, put all your efforts on how to rent your fine apartment just now. You need not wait further for your delivery, I wish you safe delivery.

I know your type don't stay in husband's house, you will always find one excuse or the other to leave.

This small time you stayed is because you are ugly and bad mannered that you can't attract men to donate sperm for you in your mother's house that was why you pretended you want marriage. now you have had the number of kids you think is ok for you even the last one donated to you is still inside your womb you have come out in your true colour.

Gainman:
I am not supporting gambling. Has he started doing that before you married or after. And if is after you married, can u say what might push him into gambling?

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Did I create this thread? It seems you are struggling with identifying who the OP is!

A gambler is the only one, who can authentically tell what pushed him/her into gambling, not another.

In rehab, the addict is the one asked how he/she became an addict not the spouse!

Gainman:
I know u will not tell us d truth. If u want better future for your children u better stay with him. Women shaa. If u don't have small money dat is deceiving u,u will not say u will leave your husband or if your husband is rich

Last month a long overdue payment came in. I immediately paid FUTURE BILLS. What would a gambler do? Blow that money immediately. This is the reality the children will see. Can you imagine how soul crushing it will be to watch your dad repeatedly blow the money for food, clothes, school fees?

Watching your dad lie, cheat, borrow, not to give you a good life or even a basic life, but to finance a dangerous habit

Can you imagine having to be drawn into the lies, having to face landlord, creditor, loan shark?

That is the future that awaits those children with that man. Poverty, disappointment, tears.

Wielding a penis makes you a sperm donor. It does not make you a daddy.

Mindlog:
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Did I create this thread? It seems you are struggling with identifying who the OP is!

A gambler is the only one, who can authentically tell what pushed him/her into gambling, not another.

In rehab, the addict is the one asked how he/she became an addict not the spouse!

The fucking bet naija shops are like 711s. There are now three along my daily walk. If you take accident hook, you are done. No way you can avoid them.

GloriousGbola:


The fucking bet naija shops are like 711s. There are now three along my daily walk. If you take accident hook, you are done. No way you can avoid them.

Behavioural addiction like gambling tend to be more difficult to deal with than substance addiction because the gambler tend to rationalize that at least he is not taking substance like the alcoholic etc.

It takes so much willpower not to get yourself into any of those betting shops and like you said once hooked, you are gone!

Worked in rehabs and knew that addiction psychologiy wasn't my calling as I regard it as trying to fill a basket with water, I opted for another specialization.... can't kill me myself!

An end to gambling, is a step towards wisdom.

No joy

silibaba:


Be patient mama, na just only 3 correct scores go change una life.

Your husband is on his way to win N40million

Marley125:
she have to post it it's not an easy decision leaving a boy friend is not easy talk more of husband.

No decision in life is easy because we always have more than one options, and choosing only one is always difficult, that’s why it’s called decision. Let her make up her mind and choose what she feels is best for her. Only she wears the shoes

NoToPile:
Nawa see the way people are supporting chronic gambling.

It is well.

Maybe their fathers gambled away his earnings while their mothers toiled to raise them.

May nature hook them with women who love them but are only addicted to gambling.

pocohantas:


Maybe their fathers gambled away his earnings while their mothers toiled to raise them.

May nature hook them with women who love them but are only addicted to gambling.

@ only gambling.

Gambling that can destroy a life and other lives attached to the individual involved beyond repair. People have amounted to nothing in life because of it. Very terrible addiction.

NoToPile:


@ only gambling.

Gambling that can destroy a life and other lives attached to the individual involved beyond repair. People have amounted to nothing in life because of it. Very terrible addiction.

Na mumu dey worry them. Person call gambling ONLY. That would tell you the level of bias or plain ignorance.

GloriousGbola:



Last month a long overdue payment came in. I immediately paid FUTURE BILLS. What would a gambler do? Blow that money immediately. This is the reality the children will see. Can you imagine how soul crushing it will be to watch your dad repeatedly blow the money for food, clothes, school fees?

Watching your dad lie, cheat, borrow, not to give you a good life or even a basic life, but to finance a dangerous habit

Can you imagine having to be drawn into the lies, having to face landlord, creditor, loan shark?

That is the future that awaits those children with that man. Poverty, disappointment, tears.

Wielding a penis makes you a sperm donor. It does not make you a daddy.

thank your God that u were able to pay it. Even if your husband is not a gambler. Woman will talk as they are d one paying house bills.