Good day everyone and happy new week!

Please kindly pardon my grammatical errors, it will be kind of long note but please kindly read it thanks!


There is a good friend of mine we grew up together on the street of Mainland, we are best of friends so it happens that he rented two bedroom apartment on the Island (unto island way) while I choose to base at the mainland but I normally go to the island to spend time with him since I work from home so I can be anywhere and be doing my work, I do spend like 3 weeks or a month before going back to the mainland.

Note: he doesn’t disturb me whenever I come over, well lemme put it this way. Each time I want to go back to the mainland he will be begging me to stay back that what are my going back to do that I can’t do here? But based on who I be I don’t like overstaying my welcome because I like my privacy of which he knows.

Even sometimes he will drive down to the mainland to spend time with me because he likes mainland vibes sometimes, fast forward to last year when I went there I discovered that he impregnated a lil girl of which the both are having serious issues concerning the pregnancy because he asked the girl to abort the baby of which the girl told him that it’s already late because he didn’t give her funds for the pills and the girl has nowhere to stay.

The girl later came to me and explained everything that happened of which I do believe the girl because I know the kind of person my guy is, well I advised the girl not to abort the baby then talked senses into her brain and I did the same to my guy which they finally agreed to leave the pregnancy.

I was there like a month before going back to the mainland, (I can still remember the day I’m leaving the girl was crying begging me to stay more but I promised her that I will be back soon which I never did) finally she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and the baby is her father’s lookalike. Now my Nigga is damn happy calling himself a father and posting the pictures of his baby online lol I’m so happy for him.

now my guy has been calling me to come over like I used to do but I keep telling him that I can’t because you are now a father so I can’t be free there anymore but he keep saying that nothing has changed that the baby mama is now in Abuja with the baby and I asked him why? He said that’s where they will be staying for now that I should come but I keep posting him for months not until this past Saturday I decided to come over, guess what?

I get here and discovered that the baby mama is still here lol I kept my cool then later that night I asked him how come? He said yes nah they traveled to Abuja and came back I said that’s good because for me I want them to be together at least due to their baby girl, the baby mama is just a little girl who don’t know much. I was aware that he got a shop and stock it very well, so he told me that he opened the shop for the girl and I was so happy about the new development.


He set up a massive cosmetic shop for the baby mama and the girl is doing pretty good, now my problem is that I don’t like how my guy behave towards the new born baby, I forgot to add that he invited a friend of his from a different state so the both, the baby mama and the new born has been living since last year that I left.

Now my concern is they smoke in the house knowing full well that a new born baby is there with them, they smoke everywhere, in the kitchen, parlor, rooms toilets. I talked to him last night concerning how him and his Nigga has been smoking inside the apartment instead of going downstairs to smoke and our discussion really got him well but guess what? Just midnight he started smoking because he was having issues with his guy lol I was the one that calmed them down last night due to the neighbors

Now I told him that I don’t feel comfortable staying here so I need to go back to mainland by Wednesday but he don’t want me to go, this is where I need advice because I have made up my mind to go back but he keep begging me. One thing about him is that he’s rugged and never listen to anyone.

I want to know if I made the right decision because i can’t be here with them, I want the baby mama to enjoy her stay here honestly.

Note that I live very very comfortable at the mainland as a single guy, i live alone and I don’t lack anything as a young guy.

Sorry for the long note and pardon my grammatical errors thank y’all

When someone is addicted to a certain lifestyle, it very difficult to change..
If he like make e born prophet for house, he still won't change.
He wasn't prepared mentally and psychologically to be a father, whole thing took him unawares so he can't just switch to a good daddy lifestyle.
And the baby mama is just naive and gullible. She can't change him,
He would rather be the one changing her and the baby to chronic smokers and it will b a rugged family. .
Just remember them in ur Ernest prayers, may God help us,Amen

Iwould have said MIND YOUR BUSINESS


inshort mind your business
Your friend is not a kid Iam sure he got other ladies
Ijust pity the girl and her kid
Ihope she got sense to save for her kid and establish herself


Would have told you to advice the girl since your friend won't listen

But please mind your business

I THOUGHT YOU WHERE IN OWO

Candidlady:

DEAR YOUNG MAN,YOUR FRIEND LEARNS FROM YOU ALOT HENCE WHY HE BEGS YOU TO STAY,HE FINDS PEACE AND CALMNESS AROUND YOU?PLEASE WHAT DOES HE DO FOR A LIVING THAT HIS INDOORS AS YOU ARE?WEEK IN AND OUT?

YoungThug14:
Good day everyone and happy new week!

Please kindly pardon my grammatical errors, it will be kind of long note but please kindly read it thanks!


There is a good friend of mine we grew up together on the street of Mainland, we are best of friends so it happens that he rented two bedroom apartment on the Island (unto island way) while I choose to base at the mainland but I normally go to the island to spend time with him since I work from home so I can be anywhere and be doing my work, I do spend like 3 weeks or a month before going back to the mainland.

Note: he doesn’t disturb me whenever I come over, well lemme put it this way. Each time I want to go back to the mainland he will be begging me to stay back that what are my going back to do that I can’t do here? But based on who I be I don’t like overstaying my welcome because I like my privacy of which he knows.

Even sometimes he will drive down to the mainland to spend time with me because he likes mainland vibes sometimes, fast forward to last year when I went there I discovered that he impregnated a lil girl of which the both are having serious issues concerning the pregnancy because he asked the girl to abort the baby of which the girl told him that it’s already late because he didn’t give her funds for the pills and the girl has nowhere to stay.

The girl later came to me and explained everything that happened of which I do believe the girl because I know the kind of person my guy is, well I advised the girl not to abort the baby then talked senses into her brain and I did the same to my guy which they finally agreed to leave the pregnancy.

I was there like a month before going back to the mainland, (I can still remember the day I’m leaving the girl was crying begging me to stay more but I promised her that I will be back soon which I never did) finally she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and the baby is her father’s lookalike. Now my Nigga is damn happy calling himself a father and posting the pictures of his baby online lol I’m so happy for him.

now my guy has been calling me to come over like I used to do but I keep telling him that I can’t because you are now a father so I can’t be free there anymore but he keep saying that nothing has changed that the baby mama is now in Abuja with the baby and I asked him why? He said that’s where they will be staying for now that I should come but I keep posting him for months not until this past Saturday I decided to come over, guess what?

I get here and discovered that the baby mama is still here lol I kept my cool then later that night I asked him how come? He said yes nah they traveled to Abuja and came back I said that’s good because for me I want them to be together at least due to their baby girl, the baby mama is just a little girl who don’t know much. I was aware that he got a shop and stock it very well, so he told me that he opened the shop for the girl and I was so happy about the new development.


He set up a massive cosmetic shop for the baby mama and the girl is doing pretty good, now my problem is that I don’t like how my guy behave towards the new born baby, I forgot to add that he invited a friend of his from a different state so the both, the baby mama and the new born has been living since last year that I left.

Now my concern is they smoke in the house knowing full well that a new born baby is there with them, they smoke everywhere, in the kitchen, parlor, rooms toilets. I talked to him last night concerning how him and his Nigga has been smoking inside the apartment instead of going downstairs to smoke and our discussion really got him well but guess what? Just midnight he started smoking because he was having issues with his guy lol I was the one that calmed them down last night due to the neighbors

Now I told him that I don’t feel comfortable staying here so I need to go back to mainland by Wednesday but he don’t want me to go, this is where I need advice because I have made up my mind to go back but he keep begging me. One thing about him is that he’s rugged and never listen to anyone.

I want to know if I made the right decision because i can’t be here with them, I want the baby mama to enjoy her stay here honestly.

Note that I live very very comfortable at the mainland as a single guy, i live alone and I don’t lack anything as a young guy.

Sorry for the long note and pardon my grammatical errors thank y’all

Ernesthugo:
I THOUGHT YOU WHERE IN OWO

No uncle, iam not in owo

Op, your guy is a married man so you need to give them space.

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BE SAFE OUT THERE NIGERIA IS GRADUALLY BECOMING SYRIA

Candidlady:



No uncle, iam not in owo

Ur concern should be the baby mama atleast she's established in a way, advise her on d way forward.
But my advise is that u've tried just utilize what is called 'business minding'

What we do is none of your business Mr man.

Your type of friendship is only 100 in Nigeria. You are truly a good friend who has tried his best to change an incorrigible friend. Men are capable of keeping friendship more than women. Upon how wayward your friend is, you still didn’t end the friendship.
You can still be visiting your friend but this time around once in a while. You can always reach out via phone call.