Zonefree:
So, what help do you need now?

Zonefree:
So, what help do you need now?

iRepNaija1:
OP, there are a lot of details missing in this story that strangers on the internet cannot help you parse through. The only person who can give you the answers you seek is your partner/mother of your child. You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with her. Address your concerns but avoid making baseless accusations (because all I've read are suspicions and not confirmations).

She doesn't want to be reasoned with,she even blocked me on WhatsApp,this same Lady has insulted my full family

Keep your questions open-ended and your voice neutral so it does not seem like you're coming from a judgmental place. Tell her that honesty is the foundation of any relationship, that's all you're seeking, and she should be open with you about her life, especially since you both are permanently tied to each other because of your child. Good luck.

Zonefree:
So, what help do you need now?

killmods:
You get liver to dey do Rawlins with girl u just met, steady digging and pouring yet u knew practically nothing about her. Even now u no even know anything about ur baby mama? I np dey insult u oo but u be real big fool. Na veteran okpo u add join ur life so.. old Tele Tele. Ur problems never even start yet. Na only the type of life u introduce that innocent child enter just dey pain me inside. Goat head

DOWN2HeartLoved:


I know it sounds too good to be true,but this lady is saying am not man enough for marriage,I need to go get money for her?,all the money we have been spending is enough to start businesses,yet she collects money baselessly,If am asked to trace her I can't self,I met her in a bedsitter then we moved to Warri, right now people are seeing me as crazy and she as the good person

WatchYourSix:
Did u say u have to leave your house??


What i dont get is how people get this weak

abiolamitodun:
Ur story is kinda funny

iRepNaija1:
OP, there are a lot of details missing in this story that strangers on the internet cannot help you parse through. The only person who can give you the answers you seek is your partner/mother of your child. You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with her. Address your concerns but avoid making baseless accusations (because all I've read are suspicions and not confirmations).


Bro even if I do that right now, she doesn't want to give a listening ear
Keep your questions open-ended and your voice neutral so it does not seem like you're coming from a judgmental place. Tell her that honesty is the foundation of any relationship, that's all you're seeking, and she should be open with you about her life, especially since you both are permanently tied to each other because of your child. Good luck.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


She threatened me with Vigilante in the GRA area am living that am frustrating her,what do I do?,I left everything I worked so hard for in the house����

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro I can take care of my child,I know am a fool basically because I didn't dated enough or was too focused on my studies, I'm just asking myself how did I get here

DOWN2HeartLoved:


She threatened me with Vigilante in the GRA area am living that am frustrating her,what do I do?,I left everything I worked so hard for in the house����

DOWN2HeartLoved:




The rent is expiring this month,and she's telling me to get 2 separate bedsitters that is close to 230K is that not throwing more money into the drain?

DOWN2HeartLoved:
I usually come to nairaland to get advice on business or any other related stuffs am affected with

Currently am in a tight spot,have been dating a lady I met during a trip, after a month,we started chatting and I went to visit her, things were smooth until we have a child,now she's different

The thing am surprised about her is I don't know her family background,only believed what she told me, she's from Auchi and Orogun and the mother lives in Ondo,we have issues I had to move out of my own house for her,the problem is I'm thinking she has children outside, she's always 28 every year,am thinking she's close to 40,why lie about age and many more.

Reasons am baffled,her mother isn't showing any concern

She has lots of brothers

She always calls me a small boy

She doesn't even care now,even if I die

Problems:-i have invested on this relationship emotionally, physically and even more,

Is she from Benin?,she lied too,she has turned my people against me,right now no one reason me seriously again, because everyone is telling me she's a club girl and I need to leave her,she just laughs and blocks anytime I called her, people are telling me she might have built a house with my money elsewhere

Am shocked this is happening to me

Toktee:
You are in relationship with Olosho...

why do u have to move out of your house for her?

Did you people married legally ?

why do you have to run when she threatens with vigilante?
Is she responsible for your success?


Why don't you eject her?

Are you sure she's not the one paying bills?


Eject her nothing will happen to you.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro she hears and speaks Yoruba too,her ex did her father's burial, bought her a car,still yet this girl moved with his properties,and didn't look back,am suspecting that's what is going to happen to me too

What do I do?,the child is just 8 months old

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro she hears and speaks Yoruba too,her ex did her father's burial, bought her a car,still yet this girl moved with his properties,and didn't look back,am suspecting that's what is going to happen to me too

What do I do?,the child is just 8 months old

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro I can take care of my child,I know am a fool basically because I didn't dated enough or was too focused on my studies, I'm just asking myself how did I get here

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro she hears and speaks Yoruba too,her ex did her father's burial, bought her a car,still yet this girl moved with his properties,and didn't look back,am suspecting that's what is going to happen to me too

What do I do?,the child is just 8 months old

WatchYourSix:



Oga..dont let anyone tell you what to do...just do what is reasonable for your family....u said she don born for you...that means she has you by the balls...u have to be responsible foe your kid.....

But marriage is not by force ooooo ..... make nobody go kill you or give u hypertension..from your rightup you seem very frustrated....just calm down....stayimg away for your source of frustration is not a bad idea...

How ever u must let her know u are not being manipulated...no need to fight...if she demand for unreasonable things...do what you feel is reasonable and leave the rest....

U can only afford one bedroom..rent am if she no want make she go her papa house..

Ovulo:


You may have probably been hypnotised by the lady....thank your stars for you are free now.

killmods:

You better get up and pull urself out with ur child from that girl. U shouldn't even be entangled with her at all.. I hope the child is even urs. U should have done ur home work. Don't be surprised that girl has families for different men in different cities. Some of them na their way. I wish u goodluck