Islandlady:
I have always wanted to write on this particular article about the lack of enough gap or spacing of children by most Nigerian parents!

Few months back I was driving along that Abuja-suleja road and decided to stop by to buy some roasted plantain (boli) from a woman by the roadside! But I couldn't help notice her two baby boys crying profusely, she was holding onto one while the other was on the floor, initially I thought they were twins but after looking well, I noticed that the boy on the floor was a bit older! So I offered to help her console the older child because she was obviously frustrated and so that she can be faster with my plantain so I can hit the road back!

I carried the boy to console him and I was surprised by the way the boy clinged to me and immediately stopped crying, he was still a baby who needs his mother's attention and cuddling but all was cut short becos he now has a baby brother! I asked the women for their ages and she said the older was 2years old and his brother was 1year old! I was not really suprised but angry at the poor spacing between children by most of our Nigerian parents!

I mean if she has given them atleast a 3 to 4years age gap, the older brother will be old enough to console and play with his younger brother, while she will be able do her work without getting fraustrated and depriving the older baby of the care, attention and also stopping his breastfeeding at that early stage! This lack of child spacing harbits is very common among our parents!

I just want to urge our upcoming parents, new couples and singles hoping to get married someday and give birth to please practice a good child spacing of atleast 2-4years age gap, it has a lot of benefits and also give you time to take care of the child properly and also allowing the mothers body rest and become stronger in preparation for another child
Thanks for reading!

abobote:
Nice thread. Unfortunately, there's little or nothing we can do about it, provided there's still poverty and illiteracy in the land.
While rich and average people are busy with their business and numerous side chick, the poor man have only his wife to bang as the only source of his pleasure, and doesn't understand a shit about family planning

Stanleyq:
have u married

akmath:
Nice piece op.

This is what I used to know NL FORUM for. Educative post.

Slynation:
Interesting piece I must confess because I'm also very frustrated with those who jam-packed childs without gapping and be begging for money on the road to feed them...

You see, when I tell you to leave politics section and come to Romance section, you will think I'm beefing you, this is your area of specialization and you are doing well...!!

chatinent:
Na so dem go dey born dey change their wife body to old mama.

Useless men who cannot maintain a women!

Islandlady:
Thank for the compliments toh i just find the whole scenerio of giving birth like chicken without proper care very annoying!

Well I am doing well in the both section jare!?

SpecialAdviser:


I am a married man and except you get married you may not understand very well. A lot of kids come through accidental discharge.

In fact my second kid was not planned. I was using withdrawal method and even avoiding ovulation time but lol, didn't work. Even condom may not always be available. So also susctible to failure. Lol

Oyibo people would call that unwanted pregnancy and abort it but we Nigerians have conscience. Even family planning also fail these days. My brother nobody will intentionally space his kids for just 1 year. Impossible

Islandlady:
Hmm well we will just take that has a mistake but I am sure family planning can not fail them all the time toh! So the failed family planning is on rare occasions

Islandlady:
No I haven't...why you asked tho

Islandlady:
People like you are the problem of this country So I should not talk about some challenges we faced in our country! Every countries got their own problem

Stop this mentality of don't yeye our country until the problem pass our power!

chatinent:
Na so dem go dey born dey change their wife body to old mama.

Useless men who cannot maintain a women!

shantti:
I will like to have 4 kids.
A male twins and a female twins

fisayodayo:


Speak about issues facing us as a nation but not in a yeye manner. I’ve seen an Oyibo guy of 19 years with 4 children age difference is one.

meobizy:
Honestly, I don't care for child spacing because the quicker the children grow to make theirs, the quicker time comes to retirement. Three children every year at the age of forty plus twenty-one years of child care equals my retirement from raising them at the age of sixty-three.

Natbrowny:
Na so my female neighbor marry ooo. Smallie for that matter 4 yrs ago oo. We don enter 5th year. Belle baby number 5 don enter, If you see the remaining four kids. Dem be like quadruplets. Almost same size

And most annoying thing both she and d husband no dey tek care of d kids.

She looks old now sef. Too many kids in little time. Haba na. Make we dey fear God, to staff sef require sense.

Slynation:
I swear...some men no get joy Some men doesn't even pity for there wifes, I don't know if the requirements her people gave him before marriage was much, so they decided to transfer all the aggression and frustration to their preeq before unleashing it on that kpekus...!!

You need to see how a lady in my next building done bend finish, she couldn't even walk upright anywhere, she has given birth for 6 consecutive year now... Nothing like gapping, the man is just busy dishing out uninterrupted supply of tatatatatatatata to her every night...

Slynation:
I swear...some men no get joy Some men doesn't even pity for there wifes, I don't know if the requirements her people gave him before marriage was much, so they decided to transfer all the aggression and frustration to their preeq before unleashing it on that kpekus...!!

You need to see how a lady in my next building done bend finish, she couldn't even walk upright anywhere, she has given birth for 6 consecutive year now... Nothing like gapping, the man is just busy dishing out uninterrupted supply of tatatatatatatata to her every night...

Slynation:
I swear...some men no get joy Some men doesn't even pity for there wifes, I don't know if the requirements her people gave him before marriage was much, so they decided to transfer all the aggression and frustration to their preeq before unleashing it on that kpekus...!!

You need to see how a lady in my next building done bend finish, she couldn't even walk upright anywhere, she has given birth for 6 consecutive year now... Nothing like gapping, the man is just busy dishing out uninterrupted supply of tatatatatatatata to her every night...

Romanoff:
What about those that family planning failed them?

Slynation:
Doing well on both section while sitting on Tinubu's mandate abi... be like you want to start buying that Bole #2500 per one after 2023 elections...

Islandlady:
I hope it is save for me to tell you that you are just being selfish! U should think about these children and also put their needs and safety first that's why you are a mother!

lagosrd:


Let me burst your brain, there is this friend of mine after the first child, they waited for two years and had a twins and waited again for 3yrs maybe they can just have 4 kids and stop, behold it was a triplet. I joking told him if you continue this way, your next one go be 4

Stanleyq:
if u are married, u will know that one day, ur wife may be pregnant without the plan of both of u.

fisayodayo:


Speak about issues facing us as a nation but not in a yeye manner. I’ve seen an Oyibo guy of 19 years with 4 children age difference is one.

vickydevoka:

Most people who are jobless born enough. I have to block all my family members due to dis. You don't do anything you de born, we pay antinatal, pay hospital bill, pay house rent, pay school fees u still get belle. I just tell her take 200k start to de free akara abeg. Make your husband de assist you, make en no de were suit the go office way no de bring money

Idaytesj29:


If anyone died of excessive laughter, this guy slynation must be arrested

He is the king of UNINTERRUPTED SUPPLY OF TATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATATA