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Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by homealone00: 9:35am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olunmercy56: Since sex is the only thing the woman is good for she can go, we can always get sex around ![]() |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by bigiyaro(m): 9:36am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Leave the house for her. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by LadySarah: 9:36am On Jun 25, 2022 |
You are mad dear Op. I don't know what I'd wrong with we women Tufia |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Connected1: 9:39am On Jun 25, 2022 |
SerikiFulani:She can order for intimacy gadgets. He went to hustle to provide a better life for them. She's just needs freedom to continue hoeing. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Itzurboi(m): 9:40am On Jun 25, 2022 |
homealone00:I won't engage you because you won't have the mind to tell me what you typed one on one... Enjoy your weekend. 3 Likes |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Mozegee: 9:41am On Jun 25, 2022 |
She need freedom were she can go and mess up. Before u could know it she will be bringing different men inside because her husband is not around viceddy95: |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by miraculousGod(m): 9:45am On Jun 25, 2022 |
madam, your husband didn't fall from a tree someone gave birth to him and he has siblings. Accommodate them and see them as your friends. It's only a ghost that would not family members visiting him. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by SerikiFulani(m): 9:45am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Connected1: Hmmm......No wonder a lot of married women whose husbands are out of the country are fvcking around.... I have fvcked at least five of such women in my estate ![]() |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by AmazingELixir: 9:49am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh: Op better to start with "My husband and I" instead of " I and my husband".. Back to the issue raised, what in goodness sakes is chasing your husband's siblings from their family house, why can't people respect the boundaries of others. Madam I really do sympathize with what you're passing through, the blame squarely lies on your husband that has proven incapable of protecting your interest. Just try and find something doing that will keep you out of the house and also reduce opportunity of confrontation with your sister inlaw. Although it is known women hardly cohabit peacefully because their peculiar nature. 1 Like |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by bigpicture001: 9:52am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh: Y don't I believe u.. I 100% know it's not cuz of extra mouth to feed .. it just dat feeling of having your right to privacy and ur early dissatisfaction with thier presence.... See nobody wants to b a pest to another..but trust me sh is family,when u stat to see. Her as one,sh can even become ur best friend and gist mate...I also inconvenience my inlaw at their early stage of marriage... In our own.. my younger sis lives with them and I also came and joined in a two bedroom flat.. where the guy is a struggling lawyer..... Famiy house is even worse off sef..I felt discomfort being there myself,but at the time..I don't havve a. Choice...but the inlaw for once. Never even frowned... I incurred a big expense on them sef living there as I had a bike accident and broke my femur and he got a loan of 400k to pay for my surgery... I will always remember and. Love them cuz of the extra live they showed me...this happened about 10years ago Guess what just last week my inlaw had his own accident and broke his tibia... I sent in 200k in support of the surgery.. that is. What family is about... We look out for ourselves, nuclear or extended 3 Likes |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by chypotenti(m): 9:53am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh:Abeg try and tolerate her, na so Naija marriage they be, you marry your spouse with their family members... So what smart people do now is marry from a family with less population ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Connected1: 9:53am On Jun 25, 2022 |
SerikiFulani:The OP's husband is a smart ass. He understands how most women are wired especially the ones with body counts (above 1). If she complains about this to her husband, she may lose her marriage instantly, he may just forget about her and marry over there, not all men are Simpsons. The best is to complain about the bad attitudes of his sister so she can change, but I know she's lying. She should get intimacy gadgets(dildos), I have an Aunt who has them in her house, her husband has been overseas for 2 years now leaving her with 2 kids. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Nobody: 9:57am On Jun 25, 2022 |
viceddy95: The thing is nigerian inlaws are never satisfied. Lack contentment/very greedy and very entitled. It's only greediness (ojukokoro) that'll make you leave your parents house to stay with your married brother or sister for more than a week. What are you doing there, why must you be there? When my elder sister got married, she lived in a better house, had the basic appliances for doing house chores, food in abundance, better life.. if you know what I mean. The only time I went visiting was on her child's naming ceremony. And on one or two occasions and never slept over. But the rest of my siblings were always visiting. As a matter of fact, one moved in with her permanently the first week she got married. People should learn contentment. No matter how bad the situation is at your parent's house, always learn to cope as you've been coping from childhood. Never see your sibling's marriage as poverty alleviation. It's only people with poor mindset, people who lack ambition, people who like to benefit from what isn't theirs overstay their welcome at their married sibling's house. Have some dignity and self respect as a human being. You're valued more when you're absent than when you show up. Be wise. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by President2001(m): 10:03am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh:You want to do me and my husband you don't want to tolerate your husband family, the marriage will scatter this are the people that will defend you in the future |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by SerikiFulani(m): 10:09am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Connected1: You're right....You can see I stated earlier that the husband's sister is there to monitor her..If married women with kids can cheat on their husbands,how much more a newly married wife with no kids ![]() |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by TheMostComplex1: 10:10am On Jun 25, 2022 |
sisisioge:The are trying with only mini flat people will be coming to live with me. I'll not even encourage my family to come |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Lexusgs430: 10:11am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh: Tell your landlord you are no longer renewing your contract (but you're not)...... Move out, go and squat with a friend (temporarily), when she finds her level, you return home ......... |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Emmanuelcann: 10:21am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Do you have children? Populate that mini flat with juniors who will take control and watch everyone give you a wide berth. Worst thing that could happen would be that they'll say you're dirty or that your children are uncontrolled. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by FireUpNow(m): 10:26am On Jun 25, 2022 |
As a woman and wife you must treat your husband's family as yours. Do you want to build a fence around your husband so that his family cannot come near you? Do you some secrets to hide that you think the sister of your husband is going to decide? Well discuss with your husband and not on social media. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by yusufmurry: 10:26am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Reading some comments here make me sad and angry. First, when you get married you should be able to tolerate all. This is the problem when a girl just want to marry because age and society is on her. She never minds but ready for whoever comes or whoever is ready, just to be titled married lady! Did you not date or court him to know his kind of family? Now you want privacy and have entitlement mentality. You will mesmerise your marriage. Once you start getting it wrong with his family, trust me that your husband will be at unrest and na you go collect am las las The family is nosy yet you accepted to marry their son. Let me also tell you that family is everything and people go through a lot in family; helping themselves etc and when marriage wants to get them messed up, that's when you will understand. Better change your attitude immediately. Now you haven't given birth and it's like this, how e go be when you get children with him. That means, you will remove the roof for the family. PS: Marriage is overrated with many issues because you're getting married to many things. I rest my case. Don't take any advice or comment here as useful. They will not be there with you when e go happen. There is no manual for marriage or life processes. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by omeira: 10:27am On Jun 25, 2022 |
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Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by Ken4ward: 10:33am On Jun 25, 2022 |
When your husband was around you tolerated it, now gone, you want to have your privacy. Isn’t it fishy to you? I guess you want to have your pie outside of your marriage and does not want anyone to watch your back to report you of your misbehaviors. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by DenreleDave(m): 10:33am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh: Sto exchanging insults with people... They wunt understand if they are not in your shoes. May God help u as u make a decision |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by ImaIma1(f): 10:50am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Nigerian marriages and inlaw wahala. People don't understand that a husband and wife need their space. Having family live with you, especially rude and nosy ones is not advisable. |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by franchasofficia: 10:56am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Life no balance sha. While we are looking for people and even crowd to come overcrowd our house, this lady is busy chasing out the ones coming to keep her house busy. I don't know why black women love to live alone with their hubby and kids alone. The joy of life is having people around. I wish to have crowd in my house so my boy can have playmates and not feel too lonely. Op talk to the girl, if she doesn't do chores scold her and teach her. You need company and help. I just wished I or my wife had younger siblings to flood our house ![]() |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by franchasofficia: 10:59am On Jun 25, 2022 |
ImaIma1:Yes but not having family members around doesn't feel cool either. We that don't have any around aren't enjoying it either and wished we had plenty ![]() I know that some humans can be annoying to live with, especially when they don't help in doing domestic works |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by mastermaestro(m): 11:00am On Jun 25, 2022 |
It appears majority of Nigerian in-laws lack respect for marital privacy. Why take your burdens to newlyweds who have just set out to build a new life? This is one of the reasons why new families are unable to overcome poverty early enough. Personally, I don’t know how the bedrooms or kitchens of the homes of my three married elder sisters look like. I barely visit them even though two of them and their families live in the same city with me. People should let their married siblings enjoy some private fresh air. Moving in with them especially when they didn’t ask you to can cause them troubles with their spouses. Financial and emotional troubles. My married siblings and I usually meet regularly at our parents’ house for celebrations or any crucial discussions. Na poverty dey cause all this nonsense so. ![]() Make everybody sit down for their house. Pikin stay for your papa house, make wife enjoy her husband house abeg! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by mastermaestro(m): 11:07am On Jun 25, 2022 |
franchasofficia: It’s easy to want crowd when you have the financial power to cater for them. But in her case, she is struggling to feed herself, baby, as well as offset debts left behind by her husband. She is broke and not getting any support because her husband has not found his footing where he is. Do you know how depressing it is to worry about basic things like food, light bills, school fees and baby expenses? The said in-law offers nothing! Nothing! Nobody gets excited feeding extra mouth when they cannot fully feed themselves yet. 2 Likes |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by yusufmurry: 11:09am On Jun 25, 2022 |
ImaIma1: Woman! I have a question for you. Why would you marry from a rude and nosy family? |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by laluski(m): 11:17am On Jun 25, 2022 |
viceddy95:You sef go and bring 2 other relatives... equation balance ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My In-laws Driving Me Nuts by FORWARDEVERLY: 11:25am On Jun 25, 2022 |
Olarhhh: Vseless idiot.. I pray that your husband's family would spur him on to divorce you fool.. If it was your own sisters or brothers now you won't complain.. Azzhole.. Don't blame you .. I blame the stupid SIMP you married.. |
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