NOETHNICITY:
I love the line of ur comment so I'll give you somemore details.
My spendings monthly, if I factor in my own extended family and her own extended family, also if I include school fees for kids and house rent, cooking gas, car maintenance, me eating out, and other stuff I buy for the house, sometimes its around the threshold of 350k. But in festive months, like next month that we will have sallah, I'll spend a total of nothing less than 500k to 600k.
Do you know what scares me silly? It's my salary actually. My salary is just 180k. But I'm fortunate to be working in a place that is structured to bring in an extra 1m monthly. But she(wife) is not aware of this because I deliberately kept this information from her. I know the kind of person she is. She wouldn't mind us living like millionaires even my salary is only 180k. Infact we already living like that. So I'm seriously working on setting up a bakery for family expenses. And I hope it will be a successful venture. Thanks

satandeterrible:

Nice.
Oga please save and invest for rainy days.
That your wife will nag the living hell out of you if you ever lose your source of income and become broke.
She'll probably leave.

Please do well to keep your self in good shape, health wise and financially.
Save, save save.

It is sad that you have a burden, not a partner.

All the best.

emmanuelbrown26:

Most times, u don't hv to blame d women for d shit, u blame men most times. Bcs, some men are never men at all, they don't hv willpower to say NO to there woman's excess demand during courtship.
Just take a very look at what op wrote, u will definitely agree with me that op enticed d woman with money during courtship or op begged d woman to marry him and this is just d consequences of such act.
Another angle, d wife's sister is living with them,. Whereas if reverse was to be case d case, where d husband younger brother is staying with them, heaven would hv let loose.
Generation of women we have this day are terrible, know this and know peace.
One was even supporting d wife excesses all bcs things are expensive in d market.

Evolutionlove:


See let us not go far because I want to break this table. "90% Of Nigerian Married Men Begged Their Wives Before They Agreed To Get Married To Them. I am a man and I have at least Five Female Members In My Family. When It comes to "Romance" Nigerian Men are at the least bottom of the trenches In the World. I have carefully studied "Most Nigerian Men" for decades, Most of them are nothing without money, They are dirty, They have no Super Game, They have lowself esteem, They are Unromantic & Unattractive. It's the reason why they worship money like gods. It's the reason why they throw money at their Ladies Just to attract them. They are the ones who Inflated the sense of entitlements of their Vaginarians. It's a whole fvcked up system and mentality. Sometimes I can't hide my hatred for most Nigerian Men. Believe Me..

tensazangetsu20:
I really feel for married men in Nigeria. Food is very expensive now. I recall just 4 years ago a 25 litre keg of vegetable oil was 7000 now it's 35000. Cost of items increase everyday. I buy food at home and I know where it pinches. Beans that we used to use and do throwaway then is now 500 naira for a derica. I remember when beans was 100 naira for a derica and I would make moimoi or akara every morning. Gas is also something else at 1000 naira per kg and things will get worst.

You guys getting married and having kids here are trying o really trying.

NOETHNICITY:
She has been carrying face since yesterday she told me money has finished, I have refused to even look at the damn face. I don't give a fuckkkk

Evolutionlove:


See let us not go far because I want to break this table. "90% Of Nigerian Married Men Whether Poor Or Rich Begged Their Wives Before They Agreed To Get Married To Them. It Is an open secret, Know this and have peace of mind. I am a man and I have at least Five Female Members In My Family. When It comes to "Romance" Nigerian Men are at the least bottom of the trenches In the World. I have carefully studied "Most Nigerian Men" for decades, Most of them are nothing without money, They are dirty, They have no Super Game, They have lowself esteem, They are Unromantic & Unattractive. It's the reason why they worship money like gods. It's the reason why they throw money at their Ladies Just to attract them. They are the ones who Inflated the sense of entitlements of their Vaginarians. It's a whole fvcked up system and mentality. Sometimes I can't hide my hatred for most Nigerian Men. Believe Me..

Evolutionlove:


My Gee, I know you must also contribute to this thread. I'm glad you did though. Some Nigerian Men who had poor financial background and dragging themselves Into more hardship and gnashing of teeth are like bread and butter. [b]Personally for me, I don't see any reason why a sane and educated person who Isn't financially buoyant would opt In for marriage. To make matters worse, getting married to a liability..[/b]

emmanuelbrown26:

U just nailed at d bolded. Marriage should never be for struggling guy, I hv being hammering it both online and offline, but the idiotic ones would tell u that there's blessings in marriage and I ask why are we having too many poor families around since marriage has its own blessings?

emmanuelbrown26:

U just nailed at d bolded. Marriage should never be for struggling guy, I hv being hammering it both online and offline, but the idiotic ones would tell u that there's blessings in marriage and I ask why are we having too many poor families around since marriage has its own blessings?

Raalsalghul:


Wow, I thought I was the only one who noticed this.

Truth is that there is a formula to why poor men shouldn't marry: this is how it goes.

Rich/comfortable man: can marry an equally rich woman or a poorer woman so long as he has the resources.

Rich/comfortable woman: would always get married to a richer man every day and twice on a Sunday due to hypergamy.

Poor woman: would always get married to a richer man or at least better than her due to hypergamy again.

However, poor man 99 times out of 100 would always breed with a poorer woman; this type of union in most cases results in generational poverty.

I have seen this happen time and time again especially since they both lack the exposure to come out of poverty or the women who want to wear the man out due to the mentality of "he must take care of me" not minding his scarce resources and because of this should be approached with a partnership mindset.

I will always advise poor men to think twice before going into marriage and should only be considered if there are benefits attached.

I had two uncles who went from average to poor because they got married to poorer ladies who were basically liabilities.

Evolutionlove:


Abi don't mind them, blessing Indeed. Their foolishness and stupidity Is the reason why Yahoo Boys, Agberos, Touts, Armrobbers, Oloshos et all keep on Increasing on a daily basis. The Poor People are easily brainwashed and manipulated by the Evil Politicians, Pastors, And Alfas..

NOETHNICITY:
Thank you bro. My very line of thinking actually.
However, I intend to inform her later today that beggining next month, I'll personally be buying everything we are going to be needing at home. I'll only ask her to prepare a weekly shopping list for me.

Raalsalghul:


Wow, I thought I was the only one who noticed this.

Truth is that there is a formula to why poor men shouldn't marry: this is how it goes.

Rich/comfortable man: can marry an equally rich woman or a poorer woman so long as he has the resources.

Rich/comfortable woman: would always get married to a richer man every day and twice on a Sunday due to hypergamy.

Poor woman: would always get married to a richer man or at least better than her due to hypergamy again.

However, poor man 99 times out of 100 would always breed with a poorer woman; this type of union in most cases results in generational poverty.

I have seen this happen time and time again especially since they both lack the exposure to come out of poverty or the women who want to wear the man out due to the mentality of "he must take care of me" not minding his scarce resources and because of this should be approached with a partnership mindset.

I will always advise poor men to think twice before going into marriage and should only be considered if there are benefits attached.

I [b]had two uncles who went from average to poor [/b]because they got married to poorer ladies who were basically liabilities.

Raalsalghul:
Wow, I thought I was the only one who noticed this.
Truth is that there is a formula to why poor men shouldn't marry: this is how it goes.
Rich/comfortable man: can marry an equally rich woman or a poorer woman so long as he has the resources.
Rich/comfortable woman: would always get married to a richer man every day and twice on a Sunday due to hypergamy.
Poor woman: would always get married to a richer man or at least better than her due to hypergamy again.

However, poor man 99 times out of 100 would always breed with a poorer woman; this type of union in most cases results in generational poverty.

tensazangetsu20:


This happened to my favorite uncle. 350k salary and he rushed to marry now they laid off and they have been suffering like mad. The thing makes me fear and dread that institution. If suffering wants to come I should face it alone abeg.

emmanuelbrown26:

As simple as ABC, is better one suffer alone than suffer with 2 or 3 people all in d name of marriage.

NOETHNICITY:
Please house, I use God almighty to beg una. I need urgent and sincere advice here please. Because I might make a terrible decision soon.

I've a family of 3kids, the eldest is 5 and the youngest will be 2 next month. My wife's younger sister lives with us.
One the first of this month, I gave my wife 80k for for food in the house. Please take note, that that money does not include provisions, like milk and milo and drinking water. At the end of every month, I spend about 30k stocking the house with all the provisions and things like all the soap we are gonna need for the month. In addition to this, I am responsible for making sure that a bag of rice is always available at all times. And also most days I don't eat breakfast before leaving the house. So I end up eating just dinner at home.
My wife just told my this morning that the feeding money is exhausted

Please I want advise, I use God beg una

Edited! Note that in addition to all this, I buy bread for the house every 2days because my kids take tea as breakfast every morning. I also give my wife's sister 10k every month for her recharge car. And some weekends I buy things like chicken, fish and turkey just to augment and make the family happy. Daily I spend on average 1k buying fruits for house. Yet 80k is not enough

NOETHNICITY:
I love the line of ur comment so I'll give you somemore details.
My spendings monthly, if I factor in my own extended family and her own extended family, also if I include school fees for kids and house rent, cooking gas, car maintenance, me eating out, and other stuff I buy for the house, sometimes its around the threshold of 350k. But in festive months, like next month that we will have sallah, I'll spend a total of nothing less than 500k to 600k.
Do you know what scares me silly? It's my salary actually. My salary is just 180k. But I'm fortunate to be working in a place that is structured to bring in an extra 1m monthly. But she(wife) is not aware of this because I deliberately kept this information from her. I know the kind of person she is. She wouldn't mind us living like millionaires even my salary is only 180k. Infact we already living like that. So I'm seriously working on setting up a bakery for family expenses. And I hope it will be a successful venture. Thanks

lordally:


Then please why did you marry her in the first place since you know the kind of person she is I would like to learn too...

emmanuelbrown26:


Baba sponsored d wife education and other stuffs,iInfact d family was living perfectly fin, baba bought car for himself and d wife.
When baba was retrenched, they paid him heavily. By then, d wife dun dey work.
Some years later, things no cum rough for baba.
Then, madam dun become oga for office with better pay, baba cum dey do some little little jobs to survive.
D one wey cum vex baba, na when baba dey borrow money up and down madam go buy jeep for herself.
My brother plenty tori dey but mak I stop here. Never u look her face, if she like mak she stop to dey greet u, abeg that shouldn't be your problem now.
Like u said that ur pay na 180k, aside d extra 1m wey dey enter. Baba, ask urself say what if go work morrow and d just transfer u from where u dey get d extra (Jah forbid evil to come close to u) but u still hv to ask yourself such question.
See u just married d wrong woman and d earlier u realize it d better for u

NOETHNICITY:
I got to realize this aspect of her after marriage

lordally:


Nawa ooo God help me!! ... So didn't you guys date before Marriage Didn't you see the signs Please don't get me wrong , I hope to settle down in maybe some years from now so I'm preparing myself

NOETHNICITY:
Please house, I use God almighty to beg una. I need urgent and sincere advice here please. Because I might make a terrible decision soon.

I've a family of 3kids, the eldest is 5 and the youngest will be 2 next month. My wife's younger sister lives with us.
One the first of this month, I gave my wife 80k for for food in the house. Please take note, that that money does not include provisions, like milk and milo and drinking water. At the end of every month, I spend about 30k stocking the house with all the provisions and things like all the soap we are gonna need for the month. In addition to this, I am responsible for making sure that a bag of rice is always available at all times. And also most days I don't eat breakfast before leaving the house. So I end up eating just dinner at home.
My wife just told my this morning that the feeding money is exhausted

Please I want advise, I use God beg una

Edited! Note that in addition to all this, I buy bread for the house every 2days because my kids take tea as breakfast every morning. I also give my wife's sister 10k every month for her recharge car. And some weekends I buy things like chicken, fish and turkey just to augment and make the family happy. Daily I spend on average 1k buying fruits for house. Yet 80k is not enough

lordally:


And I'm very sure na the Baba even help the wife get the job self.... Kai nawa ooo

Last last wetin come happen??

tensazangetsu20:


The worst is when kids are involved. Kids won't be going to school or eating for no fault of theirs. You live in a country with no social contract and you are birthing like an slowpoke.

Avast:


Boss I am laughing here because of your questions. If you like date a girl for 10yrs, you would only know what she wants you to know. Women tend to show their true colour after marriage, it now depends on how you handle the situation. You need to be fully matured mentally and financially before you go into marriage bro.

lordally:


Nawa ooo God help me!! ... So didn't you guys date before Marriage Didn't you see the signs Please don't get me wrong , I hope to settle down in maybe some years from now so I'm preparing myself

emmanuelbrown26:

Now u are acting like true son of his African father.
Let me just narrate small tori for u, en get one baba wey I know back then. D baba bin dey work for Coca-Cola (when working in Coca-Cola na like working in oil and gas), baba was earning very well.
Time cum reach, Coca-Cola cum retrench some of their staff then, so baba was one of the staff dem retrenched.
Baba sponsored d wife education and other stuffs,iInfact d family was living perfectly fin, baba bought car for himself and d wife.
When baba was retrenched, they paid him heavily. By then, d wife dun dey work.
Some years later, things no cum rough for baba.
Then, madam dun become oga for office with better pay, baba cum dey do some little little jobs to survive.
D one wey cum vex baba, na when baba dey borrow money up and down madam go buy jeep for herself.
My brother plenty tori dey but mak I stop here. Never u look her face, if she like mak she stop to dey greet u, abeg that shouldn't be your problem now.
Like u said that ur pay na 180k, aside d extra 1m wey dey enter. Baba, ask urself say what if go work morrow and d just transfer u from where u dey get d extra (Jah forbid evil to come close to u) but u still hv to ask yourself such question.
See u just married d wrong woman and d earlier u realize it d better for u