I've been in love with my friend's sister for a year now, the whole family are cool with me. I and the girl has been so close , we fight, settle, she apologizes immediately when she's wrong, I do too , when we're together there's no boring moments as she keeps creating funny jokes and discussions even if I'm out of words.

So many times I try to understand and dictate signs she loves me , even situations where there are guys with cars whenever we're walking and they stop to talk to her , the reactions from her shows to them she's my girlfriend. Even though we both know we're not dating.

Many times people tend to ask her the state of the relationship or who am I to her , sometimes she says her boyfriend, sometimes her manager because we're in a business together.

My question here is despite she being supportive and understanding, can a lady go into a biz with a guy who she doesn't see the future with? Like she does more of the commitment than I do sef, whenever I talk about the future she doesn't laugh she only says if it's God's plan no one can stop it but she always tells me "I'm not ready for a relationship now, you're not my boyfriend, I just need to focus on my growth"


This is one girl that understands my kinda person and I do understand her too
We fight and settle just immediately.. so many times I lockup and don't want to talk to her she does the checkups and communication. I'm not pushy, the stuff is just balanced .

Even encourages more and sacrifice for me like a wife even some girlfriend's wouldn't do for their boyfriend's...

Few days to my birthday she wrote on her status
"My love's birthday is loading"". Soon I viewed it she deleted it .

How long can I keep accepting this you're not my boyfriend words and I'm your girlfriend attitudes....

This one strong oo, but wait lemme consult the elders first.. Be right back

Oga you're so confused. What exactly do you want from the girl. Not all this and that here and there. Do you want her to be your gf?

Women Dey very manipulative, use your head bros..

If u have slept with her, she is ur girlfriend whether she likes it or not. If you have not slept with her, you're her brother whether you like it or not.

Don't create a relationship or love life in your head that doesn't exist in real life

You'll end up hurting yourself

Focus on your business and your life, that girl shouldn't be in your thoughts

She is nice in your opinion right now

But when she's done with you, you'll realize how evil she was, she is only using you

There's no love there

Stay until you have sense.

squash47:
If u have slept with her, she is ur girlfriend whether she likes it or not. If you have not slept with her, you're her brother whether you like it or not.

Straight up

una two still they do high school stuff and it seems both of you like the game ,if not. all this rubbish for no they happen

If she has Invested toto in the Imaginery relationship,its your turn.. But if she has not,its not yet your turn.

squash47:
If u have slept with her, she is ur girlfriend whether she likes it or not. If you have not slept with her, you're her brother whether you like it or not.

I do rather say he is deep in the friend zone or maybe brother zone,but really some people they try,

Tell her you want to date someone else and see her reaction, if she is pissed.
Give her an ultimatum if she want to date you or not.
The truth could be she likes you but not enough to date you as perhaps she didn't see a future with you or have the grandeur of who she wants to be with and you are not the type of person she wants.

I was in a situation like that some months ago, I fell for someone that isn't financially buoyant and I honestly really liked him but I just couldn't see a future with him, the place he is, it's going to take years to be financially stable and I am not ready for that, that doesn't mean I didn't get jealous when I see him with other girls.
But even tho I liked him I had to let him go because I know what I want.

Sometimes girls likes guys but don't want to date them

okoroemeka:
I do rather say he is deep in the friend zone or maybe brother zone,but really some people they try,

he will learn.

Rosaline5000:
Tell her you want to date someone else and see her reaction, if she is pissed.
Give her an ultimatum if she want to date you or not.
The truth could be she likes you but not enough to date you as perhaps she didn't see a future with you or have the grandeur of who she wants to be with and you are not the type of person she wants.

I was in a situation like that some months ago, I fell for someone that isn't financially buoyant and I honestly really liked him but I just couldn't see a future with him, the place he is, it's going to take years to be financially stable and I am not ready for that, that doesn't mean I didn't get jealous when I see him with other girls.
But even tho I liked him I had to let him go because I know what I want.

Sometimes girls likes guys but don't want to date them

This justifies the saying, Women marry men because of their money and not love. Later now, you will marry a rich guy and end up cheating with the broke one you loved

squash47:

This justifies the saying, Women marry men because of their money and not love. Later now, you will marry a rich guy and end up cheating with the broke one you loved

And if I ask you you ideal girl, I am sure you will tell me one of the characteristics is that she needs to be pretty.
See I know about "Pretty privileged" ok, growing up I was pretty then i lost my Mom and many circumstances made me to start adding weight.
I could count how many guys looked my way because I was "fat" even broke guys, and how many guys "fat shamed me" Now that I have lost tons of weight and looks so amazing with perfect shape and everything, I started having favours from men, now I am something special.
Do you think the guy I even liked months ago will look my side if I looked the way I did before, no way.

So yes women likes money while men likes pretty thing/beautiful women, and it's not a bad thing.

Rosaline5000:

And if I ask you you ideal girl, I am sure you will tell me one of the characteristics is that she needs to be pretty.
See I know about "Pretty privileged" ok, growing up I was pretty then i lost my Mom and many circumstances made me to start adding weight.
I could count how many guys looked my way because I was "fat" even broke guys, and how many guys "fat shamed me" Now that I have lost tons of weight and looks so amazing with perfect shape and everything, I started having favours from men, now I am something special.
Do you think the guy I even liked months ago will look my side if I looked the way I did before, no way.

So yes women likes money while men likes pretty thing/beautiful women, and it's not a bad thing.

A man who loves you because of your intelligence, resourcefulness and loyalty Wil not leave u even if u get terribly fat.
I'm sure the only thing you have to offer is ur physical appearance that's why they left u. Someone like Teni the musician, do u think anybody dating her before Wil ever consider leaving her because she looks fat ?
Men have sense. We look beyond physical appearance most times. If a woman gives u idea that always put a lot of money in ur account, even if she gets very huge like trailer, most men will not leave her. They can cheat, but won't leave.

Man up and tell her straight up what you feel for her and how that you want to make it serious. If she can't reciporcate, you have no option than to friend zone her back. Relationships with the opposite gender should not necessarily be romantic.

Rosaline5000:

And if I ask you you ideal girl, I am sure you will tell me one of the characteristics is that she needs to be pretty.
See I know about "Pretty privileged" ok, growing up I was pretty then i lost my Mom and many circumstances made me to start adding weight.
I could count how many guys looked my way because I was "fat" even broke guys, and how many guys "fat shamed me" Now that I have lost tons of weight and looks so amazing with perfect shape and everything, I started having favours from men, now I am something special.
Do you think the guy I even liked months ago will look my side if I looked the way I did before, no way.

So yes women likes money while men likes pretty thing/beautiful women, and it's not a bad thing.

Very objective.

squash47:


A man who loves you because of your intelligence, resourcefulness and loyalty Wil not leave u even if u get terribly fat.
I'm sure the only thing you have to offer is ur physical appearance that's why they left u. Someone like Teni the musician, do u think anybody dating her before Wil ever consider leaving her because she looks fat ?
Men have sense. We look beyond physical appearance most times. If a woman gives u idea that always put a lot of money in ur account, even if she gets very huge like trailer, most men will not leave her. They can cheat, but won't leave.

Nobody left me because I was fat lol, i am building myself, I only used me as an example to say what men want, when I was fat, I was body shamed by men (not that I dated them) but in my place of work when the slim girls want something it's easier for them.

Men are move by physical attributes and do you think Men will want to get to know a fat lady long enough to know her amazing character, it's only family friends that have been with you or neighbours.
Nobody you just meet will take their time to get to you know when you are not their spec.
Most guys when they meet a lady for the first time, all they ask is your pics, do you think the conversation will go anywhere if the lady is ugly, absolutely NO

Look at Kelly baddie and how she blew because she was pretty, do men care to know whether she is rude or have a nasty character NO, all they know is she is pretty and they all fell for it.

Men rather takes risks with pretty ladies with bad characters hoping to change them then Ugly women with good character because at the end of the day Men are move with sights.

So you can be angry but it's the world we live in, men want pretty things so let's women want money.
Life isn't fair

Rosaline5000:


Nobody left me because I was fat lol, i am building myself, I only used me as an example to say what men want, when I was fat, I was body shamed by men (not that I dated them) but in my place of work when the slim girls want something it's easier for them.

Men are move by physical attributes and do you think Men will want to get to know a fat lady long enough to know her amazing character, it's only family friends that have been with you or neighbours.
Nobody you just meet will take their time to get to you know when you are not their spec.
Most guys when they meet a lady for the first time, all they ask is your pics, do you think the conversation will go anywhere if the lady is ugly, absolutely NO

Look at Kelly baddie and how she blew because she was pretty, do men care to know whether she is rude or have a nasty character NO, all they know is she is pretty and they all fell for it.

Men rather takes risks with pretty ladies with bad characters hoping to change them then Ugly women with good character because at the end of the day Men are move with sights.

So you can be angry but it's the world we live in, men want pretty things so let's women want money.
Life isn't fair

� fact tho

Tell her u need a girlfriend seriously now, ask if she is ready to be your girl or not, if she says no, then shake her and say no problem, that u will look for someone else.

Rosaline5000:


Nobody left me because I was fat lol, i am building myself, I only used me as an example to say what men want, when I was fat, I was body shamed by men (not that I dated them) but in my place of work when the slim girls want something it's easier for them.

Men are move by physical attributes and do you think Men will want to get to know a fat lady long enough to know her amazing character, it's only family friends that have been with you or neighbours.
Nobody you just meet will take their time to get to you know when you are not their spec.
Most guys when they meet a lady for the first time, all they ask is your pics, do you think the conversation will go anywhere if the lady is ugly, absolutely NO

Look at Kelly baddie and how she blew because she was pretty, do men care to know whether she is rude or have a nasty character NO, all they know is she is pretty and they all fell for it.

Men rather takes risks with pretty ladies with bad characters hoping to change them then Ugly women with good character because at the end of the day Men are move with sights.

So you can be angry but it's the world we live in, men want pretty things so let's women want money.
Life isn't fair

anyway I see u are referring to simps and children in male body. I give up

guy from experience so u wnt fall victim as i am.
just let her know that u are in love with her and ready to be her man if she says no or nt ready my brother keep ur feelings away and be just mutual friends with nothing attached.if not if u say u will give her time my bro dissapointment and breakfast await u when see finally meet her ‘’boyfriend‘’

Gerrout

There are more pressing matter

Just become OBI-dient and YUS-ful to your life by getting your PVC, vote on election day & also protect your vote from BATS or else A ti Ku o!

Just sit down and have a decisive talk with her on this.

It's either she says yes or no

This will prevent unnecessary time wastage and heart breakage

I no dey give relationship advice anymore

Fix Nigeria first, everything else will fall in place!

As long as you can.