A man from New York is going viral online after his estranged son wrote a scathing obituary.

Lawrence H. Pfaff Sr., who born in Belmont, N.Y., on April 16, 1941, died on June 27, 2022, according to an obituary published in the Florida Times over the holiday weekend.

He was 81, but lived “much longer than he deserved,” son, Lawrence H. Pfaff Jr. wrote.

“He is survived by his three children, no four. Oops, five children. Well as of 2022 we believe there is one more that we know about, but there could be more. His love was abundant when it came to himself, but for his children it was limited,” the obituary said.

“From a young age, he was a ladies’ man and an abusive alcoholic, solidifying his commitment to both with the path of destruction he left behind, damaging his adult children, and leaving them broken.”

Pfaff Jr., who said he hadn’t talked to his father in 30 years, wrote that Pfaff Sr. abused his first wife and children.

His father also had his gun and badge taken away by the New York Police Department after 20 years in the NYPD due to alcohol addiction and “negligent at best” service.

“He possesses no redeeming qualities for his children, including the ones he knew, and the ‘ones he knew about,’” the obituary said.
“Lawrence, Sr.’s passing proves that evil does eventually die, and it marks a time of healing, which will allow his children to get the closure they deserve. Lawrence, Sr. can be remembered for being a father to many, and a dad to none.”

Pfaff Jr. said that he started writing the obituary before his father’s death as a form of liberation to help with his own healing process.
“Writing his obituary was a way for me to really cleanse myself and let that part of my life go. And so a year ago, I sat down and began to write it, not knowing I would have an opportunity in the near future to use it,” he said.

The obituary has been widely shared on social media, getting both praise and criticism. The Gannett Company, which owns the Jacksonville-based newspaper that published it, apologized and said the piece should have been flagged as inappropriate prior to publication.

“We regrettably published an obituary that did not adhere to our guidelines and we are looking into the matter further. We regret any distress this may have caused,” Gannett said in a statement.

Source: https://www.facebook.com/AfrotimesNewspaper/photos/a.119381757440035/136233575754853/

Sad. But some fathers are wicked. They just give birth and allow their Children to wander upandan.

What a bad life the man lived.

If only we could all begin telling ourselves the truth about even those dead.

Highlandgee? Why is the truth an insult abeg?

It is painful when a father refuses to love and care for his children, very painful.

That is the memory of him, he left behind. You can't force children to love a parent who relegated them during their formative years.

People are becoming bold enough not to show up for their parents' burial.

Highlandgee:
A man from New York is going viral online after his estranged son wrote a scathing obituary.

Lawrence H. Pfaff Sr., who born in Belmont, N.Y., on April 16, 1941, died on June 27, 2022, according to an obituary published in the Florida Times over the holiday weekend.

He was 81, but lived “much longer than he deserved,” son, Lawrence H. Pfaff Jr. wrote.

“He is survived by his three children, no four. Oops, five children. Well as of 2022 we believe there is one more that we know about, but there could be more. His love was abundant when it came to himself, but for his children it was limited,” the obituary said.

“From a young age, he was a ladies’ man and an abusive alcoholic, solidifying his commitment to both with the path of destruction he left behind, damaging his adult children, and leaving them broken.”

Pfaff Jr., who said he hadn’t talked to his father in 30 years, wrote that Pfaff Sr. abused his first wife and children.

His father also had his gun and badge taken away by the New York Police Department after 20 years in the NYPD due to alcohol addiction and “negligent at best” service.

“He possesses no redeeming qualities for his children, including the ones he knew, and the ‘ones he knew about,’” the obituary said.
“Lawrence, Sr.’s passing proves that evil does eventually die, and it marks a time of healing, which will allow his children to get the closure they deserve. Lawrence, Sr. can be remembered for being a father to many, and a dad to none.”

Pfaff Jr. said that he started writing the obituary before his father’s death as a form of liberation to help with his own healing process.
“Writing his obituary was a way for me to really cleanse myself and let that part of my life go. And so a year ago, I sat down and began to write it, not knowing I would have an opportunity in the near future to use it,” he said.

The obituary has been widely shared on social media, getting both praise and criticism. The Gannett Company, which owns the Jacksonville-based newspaper that published it, apologized and said the piece should have been flagged as inappropriate prior to publication.

“We regrettably published an obituary that did not adhere to our guidelines and we are looking into the matter further. We regret any distress this may have caused,” Gannett said in a statement.

Source: https://www.facebook.com/AfrotimesNewspaper/photos/a.119381757440035/136233575754853/

Lol... @The last three paragraphs.


To be honest, he should have let it slide instead of publishing the scathing obituary in the public
domain. Family issues for me must remain private, unless there's a consistent threat to life!

He no doubt needed to have dealt with resolving the emotional pain of not having a one-on-one relationship with his father before he passed on, but that should be done privately with the guidance of a certified psychologist. There are folks who never knew their fathers and mothers, and yet they evolved into great and successful personalities in life by being clearly intentional. Period.

Biglittlelois:
It is painful when a father refuses to love and care for
his children, very painful.

Yeah @Biglittlelois, you have a valid point... but then if the father is not able, what happens next?

A father-figure (an uncle or grandfather) should at least play a major role in the lives of the children if the father isn't able.

Ciao.

What a write up. Oyibo and their weird way of life. I'm sure that if the corpse is close by he can pull gun at it.

Please ooo African pikin don't follow them.

Allow dead things to be dead.

AlphaTaikun:

Yeah @Biglittlelois, you have a valid point... but then if the father is not able, what happens next?

A father-figure (an uncle or grandfather) should at least play a major role in the lives of the children if the father isn't able.

Ciao.

Those one's tell you say dem no get dem own issue wey dem carry for head abi?

Look, Before you go dey father children, make sure you are matured enough to bear the full responsibility to come with it. My hope is this becomes a truth to overtake the past falsehoods. Enough of the lies and pretense of the past abeg.

Kobojunkie:
Those one's tell you say dem no get dem own issue wey dem carry for head abi?

Look, Before you go dey father children, make sure you are matured enough to bear the full responsibility to come with it. My hope is this becomes a truth to overtake the past falsehoods. Enough of the lies and pretense of the past abeg.

Just to be clear...

What I wrote is absolutely correct. Single mothers are usually adviced to get father-figures for their kids who can always advice and mentor the kids in the absence of their real fathers. These are global standard!

Second, I haven't encouraged anyone to get married without getting the different aspects of their lives together. There have been many cases worldwide were men and women had their finances right, with some bank savings, but then things go south and divorce sets
in after a man loses his job and
becomes unable to care for his children's needs.