Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

;DAnother cooked story.

Haa... Red pillars are coming for u..... .. Dey will bash u sir... ..
My own advice.. If i can't have access to ur phone... Dat means something is fishy.... But wat do i know.... U guys can really work tinz out.... Talk to her. Not in a very too harsh manner.. And make sure she has access to ur phone as well.. Cheers....

You can't force a fully grown adult especially your wife to release her privacy or comply with your directives

But in your case I will let her know there are consiquences for such behaviour...

Wake her up dead in the middle of the night when her senses are fresh.... Bring out a Bible and and vow that whatever you are saying is nothing but the truth so help you God...

1:Tell her infidelity to you start from giving attention and comiunicating with other men while under your roof

2: Tell her in simple straightforward manner swearing with Your life, if you ever catch her cheating on you for whatever reason then you would divorce her and have your kids taken from her legally with her children living to blame her for having broken homes

3: Tell her if she is willing to sacrifice the trust and peace of mind you guys enjoy in the marriage over her crush for another guy that won't marry or take care of her kids in case of divorce




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If both of you are not using the same phone, leave her phone for her,.

No words for you

Sincerely, it will be difficult to Make her undo her actions. She is a grown-up and can decide for herself. Let her know how you feel about this and the consequences of her actions on the marriage. If she has a soft spot for the marriage, she will turn around. But if she doesn't, it means she values her relationship with that guy more than she values her marriage with you. Then make your decision the one you can defend.

The idea is that ...spouses should have free access to each others phone...
Most people know how to do wedding but know nothing about marriage.

Sometimes I want to say, this life na one (truly, you don't have another) so enjoy the freedom to love and interact with whoever.

Other times, I want to scold people who act like the way op's wife is behaving because it is likely a precursor to more marital deviant behavior.

Wait a minute! You complained about her chatting with a course mate and you probably found that out by going through her phone and she reacted by putting up a password as a form of keeping you out of that part of her life?

That's anti-marriage. That's infidelity. You should worry and watch out.

If either partner passwords their phone and the other cant access it,both of you are jokers.

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

You mean she was the guys girlfriend before you married her,if she is,then you must give her time to cut off with him totally,there's nothing wrong with it,it takes most women time to totally cut off communication with that ex,knock it off,face your hustle.what're you looking for in your wife phone. Any man that keep suspecting each and every move of his wife will soon develop high bp and when he dies or bed ridden,the wife will still move on with her life.Be wise.

There should always be transparency in marriage, if one partner password his or her phone from d other, it shows they are hiding something and it's basically cheating

That's not marriage yet. How can someone you call wife,be hiding secrets from you? Look for a way to hack the damn phone and her app,especially WhatsApp. She is hiding something..

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

You are not yet in control of ur marriage ooo.

You complain that ur wife chatting with male friend and has audacity to password her phone? Pls check DNA of ur kids o, most especially the next one you will born.

UptownVibes:
That's not marriage yet. How can someone you call wife,be hiding secrets from you? Look for a way to hack the damn phone and her app,especially WhatsApp. She is hiding something..

Hack? Haa! Infact I beginning to fear you husbands ooo


For me Sha, I will order her to open it.

My advice for u guys is that, make sure you are in charge of ur relationship from very beginning of boyfriend and girlfriend, that's only way u can have peace in marriage, being in charge not mean you enslaved ooo, but be in driving seat and not co-driver or motorboy.

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

You have no choice dude but to let her get into the trouble she is desperate to get into. All you have to do now is to insure yourself. Ensure you have absolute control over your finances and that you are not dependent on her. She will soon enter the trouble she is looking for. Sorry ehn. Next time choose right and involve God to escape stories that touch!

Fiscus105:



Hack? Haa! Infact I beginning to fear you husbands ooo


For me Sha, I will order her to open it.

My advice for u guys is that, make sure you are in charge of ur relationship from very beginning of boyfriend and girlfriend, that's only way u can have peace in marriage, being in charge not mean you enslaved ooo, but be in driving seat and not co-driver or motorboy.

Order her and she tell you no.. Fight go start. Then some idiot will call you wife beater. So,you use wisdom oga.. Most women will push you to hit or beat them,and when you do. So many useless NGOs are on standby to nail you.. If she is hiding her password, I will stop treating her like a wife first. Then set traps to get evidence of whatever secret she is hiding,then send her to where she belongs,if need be afterwards. No time for bulshit !

UptownVibes:
Order her and she tell you no.. Fight go start. Then some idiot will call you wife beater. So,you use wisdom oga.. Most women will push you to hit or beat them,and when you do. So many useless NGOs are on standby to nail you.. If she is hiding her password, I will stop treating her like a wife first. Then set traps to get evidence of whatever secret she is hiding,then send her to where she belongs,if need be afterwards. No time for bulshit !

Wisdom? Yes. But from very beginning of ur relationship, make sure you are in control, if you have been in control, she would not see it as big thing if you order (instruct) her.

She would have been part and parcel of her that wen u give her instructions she would obey, not even instructions that not too hard to obey.

Fiscus105:



Wisdom? Yes. But from very beginning of ur relationship, make sure you are in control, if you have been in control, she would not see it as big thing if you order (instruct) her.

She would have been part and parcel of her that wen u give her instructions she would obey, not even instructions that not too hard to obey.

I now understand it from the angle you are coming from. You're 100% correct. The beginning (Courtship phase) matters a lot. But some men/guys will be forming romance/ pampering ,leaving the most important things behind.. Another thing is that most women changes after marriage. They feel because of kids,you can't easily divorce them. So,they start misbehaving. May God not let us marry a demon as wife...

Trust your gut. This does not sound good.

I just want any married man here to know that anytime your wife start passwording her phone or hiding her phone, she is 98% cheating on you either sexually or emotionally and always know that most emotional affairs always end up sexually. OP exactly the same way my wife started passwording her phone until i read her chat unknowing to her and what i saw, have not recovered from it. she is already inlove with another man and exchanging romance gesture . I was devastated cos i never expected such from her, she is a church person and a worker aswell. so you can imagine that, at the end she was blaming me that i pushed her cos i wasnt given her enough attention and communication reason why she did what she did. Married women cheats alot and it takes a smart man to get them caught. I have 100% assurance that your wife is already cheating on you, if not sexually yet, but she is emotionally. so just take the decision you think its best for you.

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

Grow some balls as a man. That's the advise you need.