OlawaleBammie:
Lol, well, i give you the benefit of doubt, even Samson (in the bible) was eliminated

NaBanga:
Any man that enters America and believes he will beat on, cheat on, and snatch a woman's paycheck, has only fooled himself. I am sure one of these 3 things are happening. The woman is tired.

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, see u, even if u advise her to dump me she will cause u and rebook u like a cankerworm

cy4cent:



I know Bro, there are women like that.
They can stick around tightly, and pretend to enjoy what they are not because;

You either take care of her financial needs
She doesn't think she deserve better
Or she doesn't think she can get better.

But the truth is the day she meet someone who takes care of her emotionally, and financially (if she is dependent) that is the day she will realize what she has been missing.

You are not a bad person, I read some of your previous comments but gone are the days when you have to treat women badly just to show you're the man. A dog that you feed and treat well, is excited when he sees you from afar. A dog you give food without care is lukewarm about you, a dog you treat badly detest and barks at you from afar.

I see you don't trust anyone even your parents, but she shouldn't suffer for it. Hurt people hurt others even without intending to, and like someone said if you don't heal where you were hurt you will end up bleeding on those who didn't hurt you. Your trust issues are excess baggage that you shouldn't bring into a relationship.

Tell her you love her often, emulate those people you see 'doing romance' that you tell her are scams, hold her hand when you go out, give her peck's on her hand and forehead and see how she'll never again look at another guy because your kind will be rare to replace.
You can keep guard of your heart or monitor your partner all you want, if they want to hurt you they still will, but if the emotional and psychological support you give them is unique they can't hurt you even if a richer and better-looking partner comes along. 'The watchman watcheth a house in vain'

Sixfiguresmart:
"the benefit of the doubt".

Bro, I have seen tough men like you go down too easily. Do not get your head hyped over Samson. That story is extremely unique compared to yours. I worked with one alaye like you some years ago who was always screaming "ogun ma pa e, no woman can play me". Claiming to have a babaláwo father and an iyaláwo mother. He got played big league by a village girl, and all his smuggish brags ended up in "I swear for you".

Most times, the slim quiet men are unpredictable. I dread an always "it's all good" type of man who got his hands lock behind him. No brags, no "I have a strong babaláwo", or I bought it in my mother's name.

You have your hands on every vertex of a square and you have only two of them. How can you cover the sides when you dwell on the vertices. My message for you: avoid savages! Just go for a woman who loves you and not the other way round. Pretty faces are not for you.

If you are scared to lose your small coins, be with someone who has more than coins. Less worry for you.

And, let me warn you. You may trust your mother, but you are not the only one that she trusts too. My friend who invested his all in his mothers name returned to learn that his own brother had swindled his mother. Things happen.

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, ma'am u re not getting it, all these u list out are all i do, i dont believe in love but i believe in care, i take care of my woman the way i am capable of, call her wen necessary, stayed with her wen her family betrayed me, stayed with her wen she herself betrayed me, involved her in my present and future plans, on a mission to open a business for ourselves which will bring her financial breakthrough, so what more do u want me to do ma??

Lol, It seems it's s more of a financial relationship no wonder you don't care if she thinks you love her or not. When women look up to men for 'financial breakthrough' they should be ready to settle for anything. Have a good day.
Peace✌️

Sixfiguresmart:
Be aware that alimony goes both ways if you have a strong lawyer. My friend is on alimony spree now as we speak and he's a man. The law is not for women only. Know your right. I see many black men falling stupid cos' they have had their rights washed off their brains by some people. By the look of things, this man doesn't own that house. They are both renters. She will pay the rent herself or bring another squatter. As it stands, they have no kids and he seems to be a squatter judging by the number of suitcases to his name. I doubt that they are married. He is an overused toyboy who has probably been caught pants down multiple times with someone younger and more attractive than the woman. She sees that she stands no chances beside that younger girl.
He didn't sound like a man who was thrown out of HIS house. He didn't provide any history as regards to what led to this. His reaction is like someone who gave a policeman 1000 naira on the road. No enthusiasm in his expression.

In the US, I lived rent free, used a bank card at will, went on 2 all-expense paid trips and shopped for free. Stop spreading lies about the US. Know your game and have what the people want and you can live for free. So many women are willing to give you what you want. The women are majorly the ones paving the way for young Nigerian men. Know the game and play it if your are street smart. If I were in the game still, I would have shown you what women can do if you got the mojo.

OlawaleBammie:
bro, we re just contributing submissions here, just because i said wat i can do out does not mean that is how i go about the street with Kenwood woofer and shouting am this am that. U should be able to decipher that na.

U should understand that we re just discussing here and not bragging sir. Besides, i am not the tough type, i am too simple and nice and i hardly fightback but the moment i want to fight back, i am always happy to destroy things. I wil just want things to destroy beyond redemption (tho i may later regret it ooh, but things must spoil)

NaBanga:


In all your excitement to prove me wrong and shout that you are a gigolo who uses women, you did not watch the man's video. He clearly says they purchased the home together and have been paying on it for years. It indicates they likely have a mortgage. I do not know if everything the man said is accurate because we have not heard from the woman.

As for him being a boytoy I am not much on an indicator of looks but those 2 do not look much difference in age or appearance. I can't imagine the guy being a boy toy or useful to anyone by his facial features, but maybe he has good bedroom skills. However I am not much to judge a man on looks. At any rate, this goes back to what I said before. If you believe you will enter America and "cheat on" women you should reexamine your head. No woman in the US has to tolerate that. No working woman will who may be paying the lion's share of the bills will accept it.

In regards to your other statements, I don't need to use women to pave my way, so those other things would not apply to me. It's for those who don't have the ability to take care of themselves.

Sixfiguresmart:
You suffer from complex. A chronic mental instability. So, who should a man cheat on, the Nigerian woman? Huh? How stupid? Millions of American women are cheated on everyday and they continue to pay the bills. You can call me whatever. Who cares? That wouldn't change the fact. I am telling you that American women are simple women like your mama and your sisters too. Stop selling this imbecilic ideology that American women are not cheated on.

Stop saying No American woman will put up with a cheat. Stop sounding like a child under the influence of milk. They are cheated on every single day. From the ordinary to the famous ones.

Yes, I listened to him, and if your ears are free from fungal infection, you could have heard when he said that they BUILT the house and on the other hand referring to it as HIS and not OUR house. If the house were on mortgage, he will not assert that they BUILT it. If you depend on the woman's narrative, why draw a conclusion that he cheated on her? Or, why hint on cheating? Haven't you subtly arrived at a conclusion already? If he OWNS a part of the house, the law allows for a split of the asset. There is no divorce paper, no court order, no restriction order, nothing! Things do not work that way. I don't know the America that denies one an entitlement to legal proceedings to own his property. What sort of fairytale is it? And, you are building a fortress on this?

No one will mistake you for a judge cos It is obvious that you lack the ability to understand a simple case. And, no sane human should take an advice from a blind midget either. Shove it in your As. You are as ignorant as a misfire.

The world doesn't revolve around how you pay your bills and that doesn't make you any better than an unknown Poor slave. Being in a relationship with a rich and benevolent girl doesn't make a man a Gigolo. Get some education, dumbo. You know nothing about culture. On the reverse, it is okay for you to spend your mother's hospital bills on women while acting like you got some ace up your sleeve. No rich girl will condescend to your level of penury. Stop hating! You are extremely disrespectful and deserve to be checked to your nerves.

OlawaleBammie:
what are u sayin?? Did u read all what i typed??

What do u mean by financial relationship?? Like seriously i am disappointed in you. I thought u re, well sha, argument here amount to nothing.




In all i said, is it only financial problems u saw up there, what about where i said i stayed wit her tru tick and tin that even her family and friends never believed i could still stay with her, even her herself sees it as miracle.

Well. In all, everytin u said are right ma. Ekaaro

cy4cent:


I didn't plan to reply to that topic anymore, just as a note, the way you're sounding now seems like someone who loves (though not expressive) and truly cares, but the way you put it yesterday when other guys were showing their 'false hatred' for women it sounded like you were maltreating her emotionally. I wasn't the only one who quoted you about it. Probably it was your presentation.

Enjoy your relationship bro, glad you stood by her in trying times and hopefully she'll be there for you too whenever you need her to be.

Sixfiguresmart:
Bro, don't take it too serious. I'm only watching your back. I thought it was necessary to make you aware of other hacks women use to drop Mr. Samson. Felt like sharing what I have witnessed in life. Some tough guys die soft.

As for me, I have tried love, it didn't work. I tried the game, it just doesn't suit me. So, I decided to embark on a spiritual journey. It has been a thrill so far. I pray to hold on as far as I can get.

Men are weak too. Do not apologise for your weakness. We all have it.

Regarding destruction of things, I will advise that you work on that. In the name of God, try to have some restraints because it is always a regrettably thing to destroy things. Never hit a woman and never destroy things. I have a punching bag in my house. That is where all my frustration goes. Try punching your pillow or do some workout whenever you get to that point. I hit my older sister when I was 14 and her lips were swollen for days. I watched her cry in pain and swore never to hit a woman ever in my life.

I wish you well in your future relationship and do hope that you find the perfect girl

1Sharon:


Only a foolish woman lives in her man's house.

Aren't men also throwing their wives out of the house?

OlawaleBammie:
Lol bro

What i am and what i can do

1)I am weak, too weak

2) I am sharp, to sharp to be seen as a dullard

3) I can hit women (my wife and mother excluded). Apart from my wife and my mother hmmm if u do anyhow,u go collect anyhow. Let me give u a scenario sir.

Wen i was in service in 2017/2018, we were many in the lodge watching a movie from a system. So it got to a moment one of our female colleagues joined and was sitting on a bunk beside me. After like ten minutes one of my girlfriends(honorary gf ooh) in the lodge called me to come take my food so i had to stand up and walked a little feet forward to collect it, note that i didn't leave the place, i just stood up to meet her while coming so that it wont look disrespectful in from of other corp member.

Bro before i could turn my back this lady beside me had jumped on my stud/stool and seated on itwhile looking away uncared.. ahaa for wetin na, chair wey i carry come. I talked to her gently but she refused claiming that since i have stood up den i should go find somewhere else to sit. Chaiiiiiiii my head spark kparah.
I changed it for her and it became an abusive scene.

Could u bliv this girl told me she would hit me at my scorotum..eeehhhh!! Oya na

I told her to hit me and she should make sure i die because if I did not die ahh. I told her to look at one 2by2 plank used to wedge the former bathroom, that is what i wil use to design her lower part of her stick-like legs. That day u was praying in my mind that she should just touch me lasan, i really prayed she touch me(i mean touch oh, I did not say hit) do u knw why i was praying in my mind that she should touch me? Because i was happy that i wanted to send someone to hospital again

There is not sin inn it if i break her radius and ulna with some phalanges.

Either u be man or woman, i dont like nonsense

Tho there are some who are more powerful than i am so physically i am no match for them, but the day i lay my hand on some fetish diabolical power is the day some may cross the bother.


But i am a gentle guy ooh

Sixfiguresmart:
Hahaha... Thank you for giving me laughs this morning. I mean, you are the average Nigerian guy. As I was reading, I was imagining the whole scenario in my head. I wish you were caught on camera that day so Nairalanders can decide the case haha.

But, please take it easy on some crazy girls. Many are frustrated and looking for a morgue for their bodies. Some things are avoidable.

I don't think that you are weak. Some of these girls can be rude and I know the only language that they understand is violence. When I encounter some mad girls I sometimes wonder what feeds their audacity. One told me that she would deflate all my muscles. That she eats dry ice. Haha. An athletic 6 ft man like me with all my muscles, if I land one hand on any, it surely could brake a facial bone.

I avoid them at all cost.

HRMK:
i hardly respond to stupid questions!

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, u re not serious bro

See, try to scold them, u dont need to beat dem, just hold their ears and twist it like u want to cut it, they will mellow. I dont condone someone else's excesses.

Pls wen next u encounter another good for nothing Jezebel abeg do well to twist her ear or jack her hand down, u don't need to trow blow dem, just hold the werey for wrist and jack her hand.

Sixfiguresmart:
hahaha my bro, you're a real African man. Love your spirit.

Man, I got a lot to lose from getting physical at this time. Life is large for me and I ain't ruining it because of a hag.

I don't let any woman come that close to me anymore, though. Girls here act like they can't hurt flies, but they kill Tigers. I keep it legal and professional.

I'm still laughing at your chair moment hahaha. So, because of a chair, someone could have got 2x2 treatment for free!

Ever been in love?
How dominant are you in a relationship?

LINSAR:


If tables were turned,can the man throw her out too if he claims he doesn't feel safe?

What if the matrimonial home was bought in the name of the man only,can he still sell it?

Kzinne:
Rubbish that's not how it works

Sixfiguresmart:
Be aware that alimony goes both ways if you have a strong lawyer. My friend is on alimony spree now as we speak and he's a man. The law is not for women only. Know your right. I see many black men falling stupid cos' they have had their rights washed off their brains by some people. By the look of things, this man doesn't own that house. They are both renters. She will pay the rent herself or bring another squatter. As it stands, they have no kids and he seems to be a squatter judging by the number of suitcases to his name. I doubt that they are married. He is an overused toyboy who has probably been caught pants down multiple times with someone younger and more attractive than the woman. She sees that she stands no chances beside that younger girl.
He didn't sound like a man who was thrown out of HIS house. He didn't provide any history as regards to what led to this. His reaction is like someone who gave a policeman 1000 naira on the road. No enthusiasm in his expression.

In the US, I lived rent free, used a bank card at will, went on 2 all-expense paid trips and shopped for free. Stop spreading lies about the US. Know your game and have what the people want and you can live for free. So many women are willing to give you what you want. The women are majorly the ones paving the way for young Nigerian men. Know the game and play it if your are street smart. If I were in the game still, I would have shown you what women can do if you got the mojo.

PaulOtl:

Wurrd...
You know the game at your fingertips, Oga. Indepth analysis, you gave.

Who won't want to relocate to The US and be cherished and spoiled by a nice American woman, either a ' White ' or African American beautiful woman.
So looking forward to that exoerience...Of cos, i'll marry her...if she's peaceful.

OlawaleBammie:
for the chair matter eehn, hmm, well, i was ready for the damage. Who knows, she might even have the upper hand, i might tink i have the edge and reverse could be the case but i didn't care, all i wanted was damages to her or me.

But a no dey behave like that again ooh, i am now a new person. Tho i am not the violent type but i have built my spirit beyond throwing myself into physical combat. Never wil i do that. Thank goodness a no kuku get body sef, so nothing would motivate me to go physical again.

For the love matter, yeah, my very first love separated from me in 2019, i never maltreated her and she neither did same to me, just that tings didn't work out the way we wanted and she opted out.
We dated for five years after being in friendship for three years. I still usually mourn her departure but what is gone is gone, she even confided in me that she kind of regretted leaving me but as i said, what is gone is gone. My mind is still with her till this present moment, so also hers is with me, what we shared den was nothing but love.
Even since she left me i have never metted out the kind of love i had for her to another woman, cus i bliv no one could replace her(i might be wrong sha)


In a relationship i dont believe in dominance, i bliv in doing ur portion and lemme do my portion.

As a woman u know ur duties, as a man i know mine, Lobatan, wahala no go dey.

And wen it comes to sex, i dont usually enjoy it, as my gf we might be in the same room for a week and i wont even remember anything sex, so far my fon is with me i am done (i am not saying i do not request for sex wen i need it ooh, but i have never seen it as priority)

Sixfiguresmart:
You are one of the realest dudes on here. What is sapping your sex drive, though? I am concerned. Is it because of the past relationship?

It is 3 years now. You must be healing or moving on from that girl. I guess, it is better to quit the communication if you're not going back or letting her back in. Cos' it is psychologically demanding especially in your current relationship. This will enable you to get over the fantasy. It was good but then, it ended. What do you think? Time to move on, yeah? Getting back together, you will keep dwelling on those moments that you guys were apart.

OlawaleBammie:
I dont even know what i am doing sef. I have already moved on just that women does not make me go gaga again. I might find her attractive today and tomorrow...mtcheew!!! Tho i wont say it out. And love and sex are not my priorities now.


What kills my zeal for any intimacy or love tin is my desire to leave this country(tho not by all means oo, but by genuine route)

Anytym i feel like having s£x, the moment i think that i am hustle to move abroad like this and i need money, lol, the desire will quench (one tin will just whisper into my ears...is intimacy what u need at this moment or how u should man up and move abroad).
Tho i am not desperate to move abroad ooh but its one of my life long interests.


As per the lady, i have moved on tho i still occasionally have her in my dreams,but we re not communicating any longer. Bro there is so much more about the lady sef jare, so much more to talk.

Sixfiguresmart:
Hmmm. I can imagine the juicy details already. That girl surely made you a genie in her bottle. If you don't completely break lose now, you'll find it harder as you advance in age and experience.

Where do you want go? And, why?

LINSAR:
Yemi4luv

I have sent it to you.

Yemi4luv:


Thanks so much sir i should have reply your msg the day you send the money but i was banned that's why I'm sorry for the late reply I really appreciate the money u send to me God will bless you more