Pinkie2018:
Please I have a problem in my marriage. I need advice. Pls no insult.
I got married 2020 and did the court Marriage last month. My husband has been a wonderful husband and by God's grace I have been a wonderful wife and a mother. We have one child.
The issue I'm having in my marriage is anger management. When ever my husband gets angry, he says all sorts of things to me, like leave my house, you are a bad wife, different sorts of insults of which whenever we reconcile he apologizes sometimes.
He's the type that no matter the good things you do, once he gets annoyed, he abuse you verbally of which really hurts me. Last month we had an argument that resulted to a fight, her beat me like his fellow man and locked me out and ask me to leave his house. Neighbors intervened and we settled.
Something happened today. He came back home around 2.am this morning instead of the usual 11-12pm he usually arrive home. I wasn't happy, he tried to explain but I knew he was lying because my sister in-law already called one of his friends before he came back. So u wasn't happy with him but u didn't make trouble with him. So this one I drank aju mbaise and hot drink on empty stomach, so it was affecting me and making me want to faint. So it happened that he was giving me money for something this morning but I felt like fainting so I threw the money on the floor and quickly fell on the bed. After few minutes, I regained myself and got up, all the while my husband never cared to know what the problem was. I got up and asked him for the money, he started shouting and insulting me that why will I trow money on the floor for him. I tried to explain to him what Happened, he never cared to listen. He started insulting me, saying I will leave his house, that he can't continue with the marriage, that he will kill me. Note, it's not the first time he has threatened to kill me. I don't know what to do. His family members have talked to him about this his attitude about marriage but he gets worse. Pls I need advice because this his "leave my house" and threat all the time is too much. Little issue that couples have and settle, my husband always make it a big deal. If he annoys me and I get annoyed and refuse to talk to him, he will vex and start insulting me and threatening me. Pls I need your advice, what do you think u should do it how can I change him because I don't want my marriage to crash, we have a daughter and u wouldn't want her to grow in a divided home. Thanks

wittywriter:


This your post is actually what is termed HALF TRUTH....howbeit my candid advise is that you to get engaged with an income earning venture and also consult a marriage counselor....listen to Apata on radio Monday through Thursday on 102.3fm if you are in Lagos.
You might call it half truth because you haven't heard from him but it doesn't mean that what I wrote there is not true


Quote me:
Marriage is an institution so be ready for tests & examinations!.

BTW you can also reach out to me via WhatsApp...my number is in my profile.

Wittyness

JoviaIjune1:
OP please disregarded this my earlier comment.
I was drunk while typing this rubbish

Sankabson:
Do You guys have Kids yet ?

wittywriter:


This your post is actually what is termed HALF TRUTH....howbeit my candid advise is that you to get engaged with an income earning venture and also consult a marriage counselor....listen to Apata on radio Monday through Thursday on 102.3fm if you are in Lagos.

Quote me:
Marriage is an institution so be ready for tests & examinations!.

BTW you can also reach out to me via WhatsApp...my number is in my profile.

Wittyness

Ebubu3:
I am not justifying him asking you to leave every slight instance but you must be a troublesome woman, I've dated your type. Learn to prevent quarrels.

Pinkie2018:
You might call it half truth because you haven't heard from him but it doesn't mean that what I wrote there is not true

Pinkie2018:
You don't know me or seen me before. This your conclusion is drawn from personal experience with someone not with everyone

Ebubu3:
I am not justifying him asking you to leave every slight instance but you must be a troublesome woman, I've dated your type. Learn to prevent quarrels.

You display a bad attitude and get angry over how he manages it. Why will you be taking substance that makes you to misbehave Ma ? If at the point you woke up from your yeye sleep and re-asked him for the money, I'm sure he would have been more considerate if you were lenient in your approach, but no you must have said something annoying or tried to put up an attitude.

Please stop taking highness substance and stop being quarrelsome, your husband must have tired to put up with your attitude.

Ebubu3:

My two cents

Ebubu3:
I am not justifying him asking you to leave every slight instance but you must be a troublesome woman, I've dated your type. Learn to prevent quarrels.

You display a bad attitude and get angry over how he manages it. Why will you be taking substance that makes you to misbehave Ma ? If at the point you woke up from your yeye sleep and re-asked him for the money, I'm sure he would have been more considerate if you were lenient in your approach, but no you must have said something annoying or tried to put up an attitude.

Please stop taking highness substance and stop being quarrelsome, your husband must have tired to put up with your attitude.

Pinkie2018:
What I just wanted was advice but you are assuming and trying to put the faults on me and your tone is insultive. I don't like it

Pinkie2018:
Please I have a problem in my marriage. I need advice. Pls no insult.
I got married 2020 and did the court Marriage last month. My husband has been a wonderful husband and by God's grace I have been a wonderful wife and a mother. We have one child.
The issue I'm having in my marriage is anger management. When ever my husband gets angry, he says all sorts of things to me, like leave my house, you are a bad wife, different sorts of insults of which whenever we reconcile he apologizes sometimes.
He's the type that no matter the good things you do, once he gets annoyed, he abuse you verbally of which really hurts me. Last month we had an argument that resulted to a fight, her beat me like his fellow man and locked me out and ask me to leave his house. Neighbors intervened and we settled.
Something happened today. He came back home around 2.am this morning instead of the usual 11-12pm he usually arrive home. I wasn't happy, he tried to explain but I knew he was lying because my sister in-law already called one of his friends before he came back. So I wasn't happy with him but I didn't make trouble with him. So this morning I drank aju mbaise and hot drink on empty stomach, so it was affecting me and making me want to faint. So it happened that he was giving me money for something this morning but I felt like fainting so I threw the money on the floor and quickly fell on the bed. After few minutes, I regained myself and got up, all the while my husband never cared to know what the problem was. I got up and asked him for the money, he started shouting and insulting me that why will I trow money on the floor for him. I tried to explain to him what Happened, he never cared to listen. He started insulting me, saying I will leave his house, that he can't continue with the marriage, that he will kill me. Note, it's not the first time he has threatened to kill me. I don't know what to do. His family members have talked to him about this his attitude about marriage but he gets worse. Pls I need advice because this his "leave my house" and threat all the time is too much. Little issue that couples have and settle, my husband always make it a big deal. If he annoys me and I get annoyed and refuse to talk to him, he will vex and start insulting me and threatening me. Pls I need your advice, what do you think I should do? how can I change him because I don't want my marriage to crash?, we have a daughter and u wouldn't want her to grow in a divided home. Thanks

Pinkie2018:
continue assuming and if you must know, I took the aju mbaise and hot because I'm having irregular menstruation and homonial imbalance

thorpido:
Didn't you guys court?This kind of anger issue is enough to make any woman(or man as the case may be) to refuse a marriage proposal.

'Leave my house'........a lot of men don't understand that when you marry the house belongs to both of you.That's why i support the oyinbos sometimes(though dia own too much).You can't just open your mouth and be saying leave my house.

Madam,except your husband can agree he has anger issues and is ready to seek therapy,the abuse will continue and get worse.You have to use your tongue to count your teeth.

Ebubu3:
I am not justifying him asking you to leave every slight instance but you must be a troublesome woman, I've dated your type. Learn to prevent quarrels.

You display a bad attitude and get angry over how he manages it. Why will you be taking substance that makes you to misbehave Ma ? If at the point you woke up from your yeye sleep and re-asked him for the money, I'm sure he would have been more considerate if you were lenient in your approach, but no you must have said something annoying or tried to put up an attitude.

Please stop taking highness substance and stop being quarrelsome, your husband must have tired to put up with your attitude.

Ebubu3:
sorry about that but throwing a man's money on the floor is very very insultive. As much as you blame him for not controlling his temper and straight up asking you to leave, have you seen you didn't control yourself when highness took over you and you threw his money on the floor. You both are wrong.

Ebubu3:
I am not justifying him asking you to leave every slight instance but you must be a troublesome woman, I've dated your type. Learn to prevent quarrels.

You display a bad attitude and get angry over how he manages it. Why will you be taking substance that makes you to misbehave Ma ? If at the point you woke up from your yeye sleep and re-asked him for the money, I'm sure he would have been more considerate if you were lenient in your approach, but no you must have said something annoying or tried to put up an attitude.

Please stop taking highness substance and stop being quarrelsome, your husband must have tired to put up with your attitude.