The way some Nigerian men cherish this virginity of a thing usually reminds me how primitive and ignorant we still are in this part of the world.

Now is it a bad thing for a woman to be a virgin till marriage? Absolutely not. As a man there is still something special and cute about knowing your wife kept herself all for you, but does a woman being a virgin automatically mean she will be a good wife, partner and mother? Absolutely not as well. In this regard character and compatibility is ALL that matters. Many virgin couples end up getting divorced due to incompatibility and many non-virgin couples go on to have blissful and successful marriages because they focused on the right criteria’s when picking their partners. In todays society it’s a bit unreasonable to expect anybody above the age of 21 to still be a virgin anyway, so why not just focus on the important things instead?

As regards to churches, that’s a different story. Most regions believe sex outside of marriage is a sin so they are just doing what’s expected of them by preaching against it. Although I think Nigerian preachers for whatever reason focus too much on it and sometimes go about it the wrong way. It should never be done in a way that makes a woman feel irredeemable or unmarriageable just because she’s not a virgin. I don’t think God considers fornication to be the most egregious sin of mankind or that he spends all his time thinking about who is sleeping with who as you may be led to believe If you go to some Nigerian churches.

There is no evidence in the Bible of God condemning a woman for losing her virginity but there is plenty evidence of Jesus being kind and friendly to prostitutes. So fornication should absolutely be discouraged by churches but not condemned or dwelled upon the way many do in this country.

It should still be preached regardless....

Whatever. But I believe this shouldn't be much of a concern to us now...

Enny2013:

My dear, virginity is d easiest thing to keep wt determination. D fear of preeq is d beginning of wisdom.

I guess that makes you a virgin except you're married. There's a reason why God made it painful for most first timers yet this ladies do not mind the pain. I fear your gender

Ibkhaleel:
BIG BROTHER NIGERIA SEASON 7 OF
IMMORALITY.
Housemates are Christians. It's normal
for the female ones to expose their
breast to the world and also to have sex
live on TV while family members
watches at home. Regrettably Christian
Association of Nigeria (CAN) is not
worried about this trend of immorality,
but they're worried about bishops that
attended Sen. Bola Tinubu's event.

Please, find out who a Christian is and stop being ignorant.

Your ignorance stinks.

Adeling:
Truth be told it isn't easy to remain a virgin in your 20s let alone marriage. Nevertheless, it takes a principled mind and with the grace of God to be a virgin.

Still it's a good practice to preach abstinence till marriage as it will make the union within the confines of marriage more enjoyable and blissful as there won't be fear of exes and Yses . Personally I'd love to get married to a virgin, but their are alot of non virgins that are just so decent and lovely than most so-called virgins.

Most of the non-virgins became more decent afta series of breakfast and let-downs

If you were a virgin before marriage and got divorced after. When you remarry, will you still be a virgin for your next husband? Stop allowing archaic laws rule you.

Back then it was easy to see virgin women, because women were oppressed into being submissive by men. Now the world is giving them a slight privilege of being themselves just like men have always been themselves since time immemorial, so seeing a virgin in this current world is not as possible as it was in the past.

cutecommend:
We have many Christian sisters and Christian brothers who are not virgins, some are awesome people. You might even see a decent-looking and committed Christian sister, and when you confirm, she is not a virgin. Should virginity still be preached or should we just go by love and move on?

Again, does not being a virgin have side effect in marriage?

y not

Over flogged issue...imo

Kobojunkie:
If Man's is the standard by which you live your idea of what it means to be Christian, then don't explain those doctrines and traditions which are to the benefit of man and his ego(even Libido) to go away anytime soon. Your pastors and mogs are gong to continue filling your gullible heads with lied to keep you from ever discovering and honoring God through obedience to His Truth.

Jesus Christ already made clear over 2000 years ago to those who truly love Him that such things including virginity delusions are meaningless in the Kingdom of God and so of absolutely no worth to anyone.

Ekwensu. Tufia

Any church preaching on the maintenance of virginity b4 marriage will lose members and money. Most church leaders are even afraid of preaching against fornication, adultery and ritual money

Ibkhaleel:
BIG BROTHER NIGERIA SEASON 7 OF
IMMORALITY.
Housemates are Christians. It's normal
for the female ones to expose their
breast to the world and also to have sex
live on TV while family members
watches at home. Regrettably Christian
Association of Nigeria (CAN) is not
worried about this trend of immorality,
but they're worried about bishops that
attended Sen. Bola Tinubu's event.

still better than been a terrorist where the holy books commands its followers to kill infidels at will with the promise of 7 sharp virgins in the afterlife..there is also a part that encourages u to drink camel urine once u notice u have any STDs or HIV

if you like preach from now till the end of days people are still going to FûCK and have the time of their lives . It’s human nature everybody dey kpansh just teach people the truth about sex no lies that’s a better way .

osazsky:
still better than been a terrorist where the holy books commands its followers to kill infidels at will with the promise of 7 sharp virgins in the afterlife..there is also a part that encourages u to drink camel urine once u notice u have any STDs or HIV

You Christians really do make a joke of
yourselves, do Christians realy think that if they insult Islam that will go well with us? Are they so naive to believe that attacking Islam is not attacking a Muslim? So if someone insults your
father and mother, you wouldn't get insulted? Common stop being such arrogant liar, this is one of the worst things I find in a Christian, they come with smiles and compliments, yet they insult the something to which you hold so dear. Now I am not saying that you don't have a right to insult or critique Islam, no I do not say
that. But the Christians are in a problem here, they claim that it is their religion which teaches them to do that, therefore we have a big problem here, and this problem is that their own religion is a
cult and an evil liar! How can a God tell you to love someone yet insult everything he believes in? That does not make sense.

God1000:
Keeping your virginity is very important, you will have eternal respect of your partner.

Christians should desist from sexual immorality.

A true believer in Christ will follow God's commandments

It is a lie. I have an anty who was a virgin when she got married. Her husband disvirgined her. But can you believe that within one year of marriage, the guy got another lady pregnant ?
My aunt was heart broken and she told my parents. (My parents are like her parents too). The man has left her to pay all the bills herself even though they both earn. The only bill he takes care of is the house rent. She takes care of everything else including school fees of the kids. Her experience in marriage for 7 years now has just been God’s grace sustaining them.

Being a virgin doesn’t guarantee that your husband will respect you eternally. We can only pray and hope for the best. For information, I’m a virgin but I’m doing it for myself and God not because I want any man to respect me eternally.

cutecommend:
We have many Christian sisters and Christian brothers who are not virgins, some are awesome people. You might even see a decent-looking and committed Christian sister, and when you confirm, she is not a virgin. Should virginity still be preached or should we just go by love and move on?

Again, does not being a virgin have side effect in marriage?

Have God's standard concerning chastity changed? No it has not.
1st Thessalonians 4:3 " For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye abstain from fornication

Let’s wait for Pastor Iginla or that Warri boy called Suleiman.

MuslimIgbo:
Absolutely

A girl who isn't a virgin does not deserve FULL BRIDE PRICE!

Most parents these days are very careless and irresponsible, especially mothers.

They ALWAYS know what the girls are up to but just decide to look away.

> A girl that's not working will be using expensive phones, clothes and jewelry and parents won't bother to query her...

> Children will be bringing expensive and strange things home and SENSELESS parents won't query them.
Sometimes, you can't even blame the wayward children because their parents are even worse.
Fathers have "girlfriends"
Mothers have "manfriends"....


Anyway,
BRIDE PRICE SHOULD BE PAID BASED ON BODYCOUNT.

ACTUAL BRIDE PRICE SHOULD BE DIVIDED BE THE NUMBER OF BODY.

E.G,
If your pride price is 100,000 and your bodycount is 10,
YOUR PARENTS SHOULD BE PAID 100,000/10 = 10,000.


Waiting for oloshos to disagree.

You might be typing all this as a joke or comic relief, but biblically, you are right.
YES! You are correct.
According to the scriptures, bride price is not a marriage fee. It is the price you pay for a girl's virginity.

Adeling:

I guess that makes you a virgin except you're married. There's a reason why God made it painful for most first timers yet this ladies do not mind the pain. I fear your gender

My dear, once there is circumcision,u will detest men naturally too. The sight of preeq wl b something else.

osazsky:
still better than been a terrorist where the holy books commands its followers to kill infidels at will with the promise of 7 sharp virgins in the afterlife..there is also a part that encourages u to drink camel urine once u notice u have any STDs or HIV

Islam preaches tolerance and peace thats the reason why we allow you minorities to ooen ur gutter mouth here nd insult Muslims....your people prefer to stay with Muslims than with your evil, cultist xtians...


Paradise is a place for maximum enjoyment if you did well here on earth....but because of dumbness you take d pleasures of paradise as a joke....i can quote you references in your own fabricated bible to disgrace you on that...


Camel urine (CU) is the prototype of urotherapy and possesses more beneficial effects than other animal urine It consists of various chemical constituents that contribute to its anticancer, antiplatelet, gastroprotective and hepatoprotective effects.

You are a shameless xtian

.

MeghaneMorgane:


It is a lie. I have an anty who was a virgin when she got married. Her husband disvirgined her. But can you believe that within one year of marriage, the guy got another lady pregnant ?
My aunt was heart broken and she told my parents. (My parents are like her parents too). The man has left her to pay all the bills herself even though they both earn. The only bill he takes care of is the house rent. She takes care of everything else including school fees of the kids. Her experience in marriage for 7 years now has just been God’s grace sustaining them.

Being a virgin doesn’t guarantee that your husband will respect you eternally. We can only pray and hope for the best. For information, I’m a virgin but I’m doing it for myself and God not because I want any man to respect me eternally.

some men are naturally bad, it's not every man that deserves to be called dad, good ladies should avoid such men.


I'm glad you are still a virgin, it's about doing the right thing and respecting your body

yusluvad:
Whatever. But I believe this shouldn't be much of a concern to us now...

Exactly. Fornication is a sin yes but the way Nigerian churches focus on it you will wonder if it’s an irredeemable sin or it’s the cause of this country’s problems.

Timekeeper452:
If you were a virgin before marriage and got divorced after. When you remarry, will you still be a virgin for your next husband? Stop allowing archaic laws rule you.

Back then it was easy to see virgin women, because women were oppressed into being submissive by men. Now the world is giving them a slight privilege of being themselves just like men have always been themselves since time immemorial, so seeing a virgin in this current world is not as possible as it was in the past.

Seeing a virgin is possible. Just say your eyes can only see boreholes.

JourneytoEL:
The Word of God is for eternal, the Word of God frowns at sexual immorality both in the old and even more in the New Testament.

The Bible didn’t condemn “sexual immorality” in the OT, not even rape. Men were free to rape, and as long as they end up paying her father for the “product”, there was no offense still.

God's standard has not changed