DavidHarry:
So I've been thinking about this for a while now and I'd like the opinion of the females here or anyone that's keen on this topic.

As a general rule of thumb - women love opportunistically. That is hypergamy. Same reason why they usually keep alot of options when it comes to dating. However I know a woman can be confused on a better option to satisfy her selection but can she possibly be attracted to maybe two men at the same time. And not be perceived as being greedy or whoring?

Let's talk

Kobojunkie:
Women love opportunistically yet you will find women married to rich men, having for themselves side-dicks who are poor as shit? And you also find rich unmarried women "preying" on poor vulnerable men. This your so-called general rule of thumb no make sense at all when reality is considered.

As to your question, I believe women are indeed quite able to love more than one man at a time and you find this mostly in those women who have been able to overcome the stigma attached to such ideas mainly by society. Otherwise, many love and pine for more than one man in secret.

Bluezy13:
At the same time, Yes.
With equal degree, No.

DavidHarry:
1. A woman having side dicks is a LovePeddler woman. Not love. And 'preying' is not also love.

2. Anyways I think your point is that women have been stigmatized not to love more than one man. However I could I argue that it is biological, you can't call something that has been happening since more than a century ago stigmatized.

Kobojunkie:
Una too dey like to rewrite dictionary when attempting to sound reasonable, even small.

1. A prostitute/lovepeddler is either a businessman or woman who officially receives money as payment for sex. That has nothing to do with this here discussion.

Preying in this case involves taking advantage of those damaged. There is no such thing as love in those cases since love involves sacrifice while those who prey on the weak do the opposite.

2. You can argue all you pretend but the fact is society has always stigmatized women for choosing to have more than one lover at a time. Nothing biological about such stigma.

DavidHarry:
1. I wrote something banal and I was automatically corrected to lovepeddler. Maybe that's why it's misunderstood.

2. Well, Nobody stopped women from having multiple lovers both now and then. Especially now.

3. It just wasn't reasonable. Biologically? A woman would want protection and security from the man she conceives for. If you were that man, that provides this, would you feel comfortable if she shares you with another man?

Let's say it's stigmatization, isn't it designed to favor women nonetheless?

DavidHarry:


But another case, don't you think there is 'one person' a woman falls in love with... and even if the person dies she won't move on. What's that thing?

Bluezy13:


Because she has not met another person that she could fall in love with.
I have a friend, a colleague at work who lost his fiance. She was broken. A single mother. He was her first and only love. The father of her child.
She never believed she would fall in love again. She even said she will remain a single mother. But today, she found love again and they are planning wedding; though she still maintain she is still inlove with the demised husband and Peradventure he comes back to life, she will still go back to him.

As I am typing this, I am sitting beside her.

Sweetvie:
Lol... Interesting topic
Actually I am interested in knowing the answer
Lemme take myself as an example... There was a particular time, My senior he was just like a friend/ brother for me... That if I got confused or av any questions he will be the first person I will ask so as time go on if he didn't reply my msgs quickly i felt somehow. So later got a boyfriend i really like my bf then but i do feel keen to read my senior message than my bf own... Maybe they send message same time I will first check senior own b4 my bf... So I got this confused thinking i like my senior. Then later realize that it just admiration and respect i have for him.

Savedday:
9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

Mikester:
Do women ever love in the truest sense of it? I don't quite agree but I know a woman's heart becomes a dustbin suffering from unreciprocated love after she loses her virginity and has been sampled amongst a number of men.

It is not wise to think that Eros love is love in actuality.

Bluezy13:


Because she has not met another person that she could fall in love with.
I have a friend, a colleague at work who lost her fiance. She was broken. A single mother. He was her first and only love. The father of her child.
She never believed she would fall in love again. She even said she will remain a single mother. But today, she found love again and they are planning wedding; though she still maintain she is still inlove with the demised husband and Peradventure he comes back to life, she will still go back to him.

As I am typing this, I am sitting beside her.

imagrg:
You cannot satisfy a woman's desire all alone that's the reason why she seeks satisfaction elsewhere.
By so doing she gets entangled in that emotional twist called love with another partner. So her notion of love is cloned love. She could love one partner because of the financial cover she enjoys via him and love another because of his sexual attraction or his handsome and manly nature.
Yes, a woman has the capacity to love several men depending on what she finds attractive in them. And natural enough, she can fine tune her emotions to any specific wave length that presents itself at any given instance. That, a man is not capable of doing!

In reality though, no woman is really capable of true love. Their love for men is temporary. It comes with the spur of the moment. When that attraction wanes, they quickly adapt and find another option. They dump you and make you cry like a baby whose mother denied breast milk!

Kobojunkie:
1.

2. Is it that you don't understand what stigmatization is capable of doing to the human psyche or what?

3. Wasn't reasonable by whose assessment abeg?

So the only form in which a woman can obtain protection and security from a man she conceives for is that which denies her her freedom as an individual?

4. How in the world is stigmatization of this, or any, kind to the benefit of anyone, even women?,

DavidHarry:
So your point is a woman loving two or more men is possible and conceiving for different, good for the society. She's a free woman and can do whatever she likes. She's not lovepeddling

Point taken

DavidHarry:


Maybe your senior didn't push to date you for some reason. You may have imagined he asked you out. Anyways, he friend-zoned himself. If he had come correct with you, it would have been a different story. Probably romantic or no. I don't see any strong desire with your BF, maybe if he was more respectful or matured as your senior (with his sexual intentions), it would have been his msgs you'd be dying to read.

In any case you may fall for two guys but you probably can't be in love with them The same time.

DavidHarry:


I know where you're coming from. Men are the true romantics. Men are the ones that love Ideally not women. Women in my opinion rarely fall in love or they love opportunistically. For example when she's young and sexy, she needs a strong guy, with style and is good in bed. When she's aging and a little sexy she needs a dearing husband, a provider and protector. If you're both, then Bang! Men don't care so long as she's attractive and available.

In my opinion a woman should only open her leg to whomever she feels secure with or is capable of protecting her. Because if she opens to many or two, when it's war time the man would never consider 'saving' what doesn't belong to him.

Mikester:


Women are known to rarely take sound advice.

Sweetvie:
Lol... Interesting topic
Actually I am interested in knowing the answer
Lemme take myself as an example... There was a particular time, My senior he was just like a friend/ brother for me... That if I got confused or av any questions he will be the first person I will ask so as time go on if he didn't reply my msgs quickly i felt somehow. So later got a boyfriend i really like my bf then but i do feel keen to read my senior message than my bf own... Maybe they send message same time I will first check senior own b4 my bf... So I got this confused thinking i like my senior. Then later realize that it just admiration and respect i have for him.

Heathrow44:




I would prefer a girl had admiration and respect for me, Respect is the anchor of every successful relationship, but yh, there's the friend zone, let me tell u, when I talk to a girl within few minutes I already know if she's serious or not, and I rarely ever change my mind

Sweetvie:
smile... Yeah respect
But I alws feel if anyone need respect you av to earn it even in a relationship. I want respect of course coz if you respect me there are certain things u will do and things u won't. You know most girls alws feel guys ain't seriously about anything just want to have their go and dump dem... That's y most ain't serious unless u show them ur own seriousness.

Heathrow44:



Men do cheat but is just a flirt or one night stand for them, they still go back to d woman they like but women when they cheat they cheat with every emotion, respect they once had, once a woman cheats ur relationship is heading for breakup or divorce cos they would be emotionally attached to the person they just had intimacy with, Respect stops a man from becoming a monster to the woman but respect can never stop a woman from cheating and becoming into something else, When a girl says she respects u in Nigeria , u re friend zoned, a friend zone Is not good for the man and woman, its mutually assured destruction, most guys too re too scared to get emotionally attached to girls of nowadays,