BloomingDale:


Oga, she can give you the man’s address so you can go look after the child. This one that you are so passionate about the issue, maybe God is telling you to go look for the child and take care of her.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Nozino:



Ogun will kee you for trying to shame this innocent woman, who is the victim in all of this for wanting to leave her marriage.

If the revise was the case, would the man accept a special needs child into his home? Would he bath and clean another man’s child when she messes her self up?

This lady has absolutely no duty to the child. Let the child’s parents and grandparents take care of the child. Nonsense

jimter44:
I guess you are a Christian. The bible says if the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do? Ps 11:3. You built your marriage on a faulty foundation. You married two months ago, but with 7 months pregnancy. It's abomination to the christiandom. Go back to Jesus, he will show you a way out.

Davidoff2000:
hmmmm...this your pregnancy so..how are you sure it will not be a deformed child too? Another case of cerebral palsy? Do you know if it runs in his genes? thats what you should be more concerned about. before you divorce, give birth and get stuck with a child with medical conditions you cant take care of alone, because you left and he wont have you back

JONNYSPUTE:
..... I love your reply. Well the truth is that it's not going to be easy for you and if you feel you can't,then leave. Nobody will blame you for doing such. Let him carry his cross.

delishpot:


Yes. Asking her to leave a union built on lies is better than asking her to live a life of burden fuelled by your cursing an unborn baby bacause you dont like the mother's choice. Only a very dark hearted person will indirectly curse an unborn baby tufiakwa. The church is evil no wonder Jesus said judgement will start from there. My life is what your ancestors dreamed about but have not achieved even in your generation. I NEVER said you should share my opinion that is how you evil people always grab at straws to justify your wickedness. You have killed and done worse evil in your lifetime compared to her choice of leaving a marriage due to lies. Yet no one has threatened your unborn children.
Solution is simple, since you are so godly take the child and reap the reward you so want her to reap. Or did your bible tell you not to do good to those you aren't related by blood with? Teach this woman going astary by your judgement a lesson by example. I am sure she wouldn't mind.
OP, YOU WILL DELIVER A HEALTHY BABY AND DO IT SAFELY.

folks4luv:

Just shut up. Intially you sounded judgemental, like you are perfect, but now you are sounding stupid. A person was lied to but it was her fault for not asking if the man has a child. Like, that is just plain dumb and cruel.
You were not with her in the relationship, you don't even know her but you are playing the omnisincent who knows all things.
Just shup up and be humane for 1 min.

Ginaz:


My guy. Pls hide your head in shame! See the manipulative bullshiit you wrote for a woman who is heavily pregnant, whose world is turned upside down with a heavy responsibility placed on her shoulders with no assistance to help her cope. No mental treatment , no monetary assistance, no nothing provided.

Even God doesn’t place burdens on his creatures! Every assignments God will always provide assistance.

You are a wicked being . It’s people like you I run away from cos the way you think it’s so bad.

CSTRR:

Connect to this program today.

You are a Christian, I believe.

If nothing change, you are absolutely entitled to leave.

But try God first.

Today is the last day.

Ten06:
Marriage is for better for worse, stay. If you persevere you will reap the benefits of that marriage. The children you will give birth to in the marriage will be very great people in the society

HoneySwag:
You're married for just 2 months, and pregnant for 7 months, looks like you trapped him with pregnancy.

Blessedmercy8:
This is what happens when you put the cart before the horse. When you ought to do your findings about who you're getting married to, you were busy consumating sex, getting yourself pregnant and rushing into marriage without proper background checks. Now you want to opt out just like that.

you think marriage is child's play? Or something you can just throw in the trash when the odds are against you? Think again cos this right here is the real marriage. So you have to accept and deal with it.

Oh... You want the man but you don't want his child?
What if it was you who gave birth to the child? Forget about how the mother is not willing to take her therefore you can't keep her excuse you're giving. The father didn't marry her but you. Maybe if he did, she won't abandon the child, so you who won the man should accept his totality.

Do you know what the one you're carrying will turn out to be?

Majority of you marry these days for the benefits. If nothing is in it for you, then you leave. You can't sacrifice and if they ask you now, you'll say you love the man. Mtcheeeeeewwwww..

Akalia:
You are overreacting. I am entitled to my opinion.

Teymanhenry:
You' said you are sticking to your decision, it means you've made up your mind. I won't advise you to either stay or leave but one thing is certain. If you leave for the village another woman will come and takeover and probably take care of the disable child

Nozino:
In fact, I’m starting the page from page one and giving all this lunatics a piece of my mind. Una dy mad.

H0711:


Yes I have made up my mind because it has not been easy for me because i take care of her everyday from morning until hubby get home at 7-8pm . It's been a week only and my head want to explode and my body want to give up. I am tired and the level of stress is too much for me in this my condition I need rest not all of this burden . I can't do it anymore. I am not leaving him because of his poor condition it is because I can't take care of his special need child , his financial state hasn't been a problem to me because no condition is permanent I know one day everything will be fine but i can't take care of his special need child in this my condition.

H0711:




Thank you . Right now he can't afford that 200k monthly , his younger sister has refused to come and help taking care of the child. Me too I can't kill myself in my condition and I will leave next month.

pointblank247:
You should leave that marriage because the man was too economical with the truth, but if he eventually finds a solution like a maid that can handle the matter, then you should consider staying

HRHQueenPhil:


I can't imagine what u are going through
This is very wicked of the man
I wld advise u don't leave ur marriage
Every marriage has test and this is one of it
Two solutions
-get a good maid that can assist with looking after the child
- u can start a business that helps u support ur man and leave d house so u won't constantly be in pain
Remember to lift the child up in prayers and fasting so it shall be well with u as well

portplus:
work with him to get help for the child.
You need your space...besides he did not tell you before now.

Richy4:

Where is the real mother of the baby OP.. do you have an idea?

If u do, maybe u can pay her a visit to guilt-trip her for abandoning her kid.. I didn't say it's the right thing to do,But it's like your last hail Mary pass..

The husband should have told you from the beginning though... not just surprise you with a big responsibility...

Finally do U know if Nigerian government takes care of people/ individuals with such problems?

cococandy:
Was just thinking the same thing.
When she leaves and it’s just him and the girl in the house. She may not wake up one day.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Reference:


One thing I have noticed so far is that as a person you seem not to have support structures of your own to help during this phase even without this 'incident'.
At 7 months most women, mothers to be will have their relations in, out and about.
Why are you by yourself.
Surely that village you go to will have someone to assist at home for a while, except by choice.

Nozino:



Why? Is she the mother? Is she the father? Are the parents handicapped? The parents should sort out their child.

killmods:

I pray u see beyond ur nose