killmods:

You are not being true to urself. U can't love the child because she's sick but u will be able to love urs? Who are u fooling? The worst is he didn't tell u or the biological mother dumped her? All these are excuses.. u are already one leg out of the union because u have decided on that. You don't know if u are her last hope of survival that God wants to use. U think events happen for no reason? Instead of looking for solutions together with ur husband u want to run off. What if ur only option in future is to run back into the marriage? Even if not what if u cross path with ur soon to be ex husband in future and the tables turn? This might be an opportunity for u to be a better person both financially and mentally but because of it closed mind u only see the wrong side of everything. Abandoning a helpless child is the purest of evils whether it's urs or not. The man was very foolish yes but u can be the wise one in the union. Don't leave do what u can to ease the burden but don't kill urself while at it. Just try and support him with the child even if it means bringing in someone from the village (his or urs) but i don't think abandoning everything will profit u in the long run.

EgunMogaji2:
This pregnancy could have been terminated. I’m not sure why people purposefully bring handicapped children into this already cruel world.

JONNYSPUTE:
..,.. Lol. What if after given birth she finds out that her own child has the same issue? Wetin she go do?

Atleast she will know that she's her child. I can't imagine her taking care of someone child like that. If u understand how those children that have such health challenge does, you will know that it's not easy.

Maybe drop her child with the husband and jepa her own

J0vialjune1:
you're a product of a broken home.
I'm not surprised with this rubbish you just typed

H0711:


Yes I have made up my mind because it has not been easy for me because i take care of her everyday from morning until hubby get home at 7-8pm . It's been a week only and my head want to explode and my body want to give up. I am tired and the level of stress is too much for me in this my condition I need rest not all of this burden . I can't do it anymore. I am not leaving him because of his poor condition it is because I can't take care of his special need child , his financial state hasn't been a problem to me because no condition is permanent I know one day everything will be fine but i can't take care of his special need child in this my condition.

Yeyeoldman:


Keep betraying Christ with your words and same time coming online to rant about the Muslim-Muslim ticket. I have never seen a land populated by more hypocrites than Nigeria.
Act like Christ, Never! Okay attack adherents of other religions, Yes, let the war begin already!

Femifasola:

The child has a mother who dumped her.
Hello! You can get your sister to go help the special need child, thank you

OlamideTosyn:
My take:

If he could hide something as huge as a child's case from you, I fear that he may have bigger, precarious things hidden from you.

My biggest fear is that he might hurt you. In fact, there's every tendency that he does. Watch your back from now on. Be very careful, even when you finally decide to go pack your things. Please, never be alone, at any time with him.

H0711:


I agreed with you. Can you imagine my mother in law has even refused to release her daughter who is the child aunty to come and help and why should I kill myself for her when her both parents are alive and healthy.

Nozino:



All this rubbish on top go and adopt the child? Get out for the last time.

komek:
@OP,I don't support you to stay because of the reasons given above. But I will be madt at you when this passes and everything normalizes and you suddenly want to return or bring additional problem to the man by dropping your own child because he is the father and he most equally pay the bill.

Please note you are leaving willingly o

Nozino:



Thank you very much for this advice. But as you read OP is 7months pregnant and can’t really take care of her rn. Can you please accommodate her?? Look for a maid and I will pay 25k/month while OP puts to bed and nurses her baby. Please, like the good Christian you are, do it Nna.

H0711:




Thank you . Right now he can't afford that 200k monthly , his younger sister has refused to come and help taking care of the child. Me too I can't kill myself in my condition and I will leave next month.

Nozino:




Orishirishi.


You want OP to basically pay child support and take care of the child?? Another woman’s child? Ogun will kee you. If there’s incarnation, Ogun will till kill you in the next life.

Jovialjune1:



H0711 I stand by my previous comment, a fool actually cloned this account I quoted today, just ignore the dead brain.

UjuJoan2:


How old is this girl? I find it difficult to believe that taking care of her is as tiresome as you’ve been describing.

I understand that you have been taken unawares and your husband tricked you into taking care of this young girl. But such is life, you married him and must have been prepared to take all of him, the good and the bad.

You can leave if you want to, nobody will blame you for that.

But there is a little girl involved!!!

I know she is not your problem, her own mother abandoned her, her own father cannot be there for her and somehow she is now in your care. But life is full of unexpected situations.

This is a test of character and posterity will judge you for whatever decision you make now.

If it were me, I will stay. Not for the lying husband or his irresponsible ex, but for the little girl who clearly needs you.

JONNYSPUTE:
..,.. Lol. What if after given birth she finds out that her own child has the same issue? Wetin she go do?

Maybe drop her child with the husband and jepa her own

Femifasola:

You're also a Christian so donate your sister or do it yourself, act like the Christian you so want in others. Simple. Stop running around

And who even told u I care about who becomes a president of this useless zoo country. Get lost

Duchessree:



Omo I'm not a product of a broken home o . My mom and dad are still together, up to 32 years of marriage Infact .
Na my opinion i drop. If e pain you well well go hug transformer no dey attack me because i drop my opinion. OP has already made up her mind to leave the marriage sef.

advanceDNA:


Stop what...which mother abandons her child?? Sayimg she tired..knowing fullywell shey wont get the best care from a man

Nozino:



I stand by what I said, your daughters will experience similar problems. That preserve, they must persevere it.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Ten06:


You will die before you be able to mature into a woman. From now on death will begin to follow you. I also stand by what I said

advanceDNA:


Stop what...which mother abandons her child?? Sayimg she tired..knowing fullywell shey wont get the best care from a man

eyinjuege:


You're not objective at all
Your solutions 1-3 have been that she should financially support a child who has both parents (father and mother) alive, when she is barely able to support her own child. It's a different thing if OP has a high earning job herself, but she doesn't.
It would have been more objective to ask her husband to get something better than a 15K job, so he can support his child (and the biological mother of that child too should do same). How can any man be comfortable earning 15K? I'm sure he could earn more even as a labourer.
Secondly, your last 2 solutions are trying to guilt trip her to stay and look after the child, using some religious hocus pocus.
Why would she be haunted for life because she refused to be the 24/7 carer of a child whose dad and mum are alive and well, able bodied for that matter?
Is your God that wicked that he will bestow OP a child with cerebral palsy?
Is he wicked enough to bestow YOU the same, for wishing an unborn child such evil?

onlinestaff2020:



Nozino, you are a mad dog...I repeat, you are a mad dog infested with wild rabies.

If she pays child support, is it not to help the man?So love soesn't exist anymore, right?

Is it everytime, a man should be paying the bills? Why can't the wife also pay or has she not been enjoying her husband's salary all these while?

You are indeed a FOOL of the highest order.

Gerrout of here, MUMU!!!