OriOko88:
You too should stop cooking him moi moi if he says he doesn't like it. A Yoruba adage says, A soup which d husband doesnt like,the wife doesn't cook. You can prepare d moi moi for the kids and you,then prepares his own favorite too. That's d why i don't buy the idea of making time table for food. Why must I be eating a particular food for a specified day. Take for example,why must I eat rice on Saturdays because it's what on the time table..like wtf. A man must eat varieties of food when he so desires.

I think he's frustrated by the boring foods you giving him..spice up ur food and see him change. Ask him what he would like the family to eat before cooking..ditch the food time table for nw. How many men dey eat moi moi these days??
Change ur food time table and see u having ur man back

wis3:
It's not like he doesn't eat moi-moi, he buys it outside but dislikes it when it's prepared at in the house. It's just one of those times when people just get fed up with each other for no just reason but he will come around. What she needs is to be less available for his every needs and work on her esteem and and will be well.

OriOko88:

Its the method she uses in cooking the moimoi. She should spice it up by adding delicious ingredients.

wis3:
It's not like he doesn't eat moi-moi, he buys it outside but dislikes it when it is prepared in the house. It's just one of those times when people just get fed up with each other for no just reason but he will come around. What she needs is to be less available for his every needs and work on her esteem and and will be well.

libertyfather:


The bolded is what ur problem is , but i can tell you not same issue with that man, all i can tell you is stop cooking moi moi for him...shikena

Lalakas:
I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.
How it all started :
....He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. .... Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, ..., it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods,...He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning. I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

wis3:
For man to tell woman say she's only for cooking and se.x shows he has lost whatever regards he has for her.

libertyfather:
The bolded is what ur problem is , but i can tell you not same issue with that man, all i can tell you is stop cooking moi moi for him...shikena

OriOko88:
Its the method she uses in cooking the moimoi. She should spice it up by adding delicious ingredients.

Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

nifemi25:
Why not spice up the moi moi to see his reaction....since you guys enjoyed it together before the sudden change and you sure he still buys it outside. I will advise you add boiled egg, cray fish, Titus fish and some other ingredients In other to see his reaction.... try watch for his reaction after the meal to know if to continue cooking the moi moi or not

Phelixblaq:
You seems like a proud and arrogant woman. Remember your husband comes first before you meet those children.

Ladymaceral:
@Op, if moimoi and beans are the major problem here, then, you don't have an issue.
It's simple, prepare his food different any day you're going to make moimoi or beans for the children.

wis3:
For man to tell woman say she's only for cooking and se.x shows he has lost whatever regards he has for her.

Richy4:

Anyone who have married for more than 5 years... Who tells you on this forum that they have never had an argument where bad or hurting words were exchanged is most likely lying to you... What he said was bad...really really bad...( That statement reminds me of a friend here.. crackhaus of the old.. not this new and refined one that I'm seeing now )

Stevenbright:


And this might be because there are some other underlying issues they need to resolve. She should find these out and make sure they resolve them and stuffs like their present misunderstandings will be easily handled by them if there are no unresolved issues.