fman:
Ok na now u remember say you love ur wife to be.
No try tell her!!!
It will break her down emotionally.
After all the whole trust she gave u..
The girl wey carry belle for u,
Wetin make you no give her postinor 2?
You where supposed to be careful as your marriage is close.
But you let your illiterate dick to ruin your plans.
I wouldn't advice you to abort the baby
Cos it's illegal...
Devil don use u shine!!!!
So you no know say pre-cum fit pregnant a lady?
Baba the thing don enter...
U see wetin one nightstand don cause u...
My advice to u is to go and run a scan on the pregnant girl and read ur calendar well.
But before you read ur calendar, mind you sperm can thrive in the cervix of a woman up to 3days.
From the scan results, u will see the developmental stages of the foetus, how many weeks old it is...
Now u substrate it from the date u had sex wt the girl. If it tallies, Abobby na you get the belle.
If it does not Tally, just raise your hands and thank God, cos no be u get the belle.
Show her your findings, she will confess the truth.
Thank me later

bros you are not responsible for that pregnancy.

Ah.. Wahala.

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

Since you were sure that, the baby she is carrying is not your baby, you would have blatantly denied her since...

My brother as it is now, the girl and her mama don roll dice untop your head and she get double 6.

The girl dey lie. Tell her to come for both of u to go see adnother doctor

You say u no cum,she say she no cum,hw come belle cum

Beautyblogger:


You're very, very wicked and stupid.

How does this help him?

My guy,if truly she's pregnant, the pregnancy is not your own,no two ways about it, she's trying to blackmail you, be wise this situation may ruined your reputation,be wise

JudgeNotHi:

Telling her is a big problem I just have to say the truth, I'm thinking of going through her mother whom I have a very close relationship with or our counsellor? I can't take back what I have done but now I am cork sure I ain't responsible for the pregnancy.

Don't make any move o telling her, I repeat don't tell her until you confirm you're responsible for that pregnancy, if it comes out negative then close every chapter of that Lady.
Your only challenge now is the responsibility of that pregnancy. Telling your wife to be about your sex escapade and later not responsible for the pregnancy will create a very thick red line for a long time in your marriage and i tell you brother this is a journey you wouldn't dare to go.
Your first weapon now is to stay calm, this will help you take control of your fears then follow the advice of going for scanning or telling the lady and her Mom you will only accept after DNA test.
Secondly don't tell that Lady about your your wedding else they will restrategise to disrupt your day.

Even if it is you, tell her to keep the baby that you can't and will not marry her and that is after the ultrasound, but to me ooo, that foetus is not urs.

JudgeNotHi:

I have made it clear to her mum, I have no intentions of marrying her daughter & we never for once even discussed US. We were simply just friends. Yes i know, sound so stupid of me, but that's just the truth. It just happened and I told the mother just that without mincing words. But she just kept saying BUT DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER YES OR NO? I felt terrible...

As long as the lady is above 18 years, it's a consensual sex. Simply tell her and her mother that you are not interested in marrying her. If you have money, do unborn DNA test for the child. If you don't have, Tell her you will do the DNA test when the child is born and take your baby if it is yours

You can see that the lady is wiser than you.

She has the plan from onset buh you think is just a mere friend.
See how your uncontrollable prick lead you now.

Who knows self if another bro with big prick is given your so called love of your world wotowoto.
This Nigeria lover lover things tired me jare

I really like the woes that have befallen OP

And the woes that befall all nlers here that engage in premarital sex

Because I know people won't learn.

Flee premarital sex you won't, you will see the frogs in front falling inside the pit yet the frogs behind with their eyes open repeat same mistakes, in two days times another persons will come up with similar story.

If you abstain from sex will all these your heartbreaks occur.

He that sows to the wind will reap the whirlwind.

JudgeNotHi:

Telling her is a big problem I just have to say the truth, I'm thinking of going through her mother whom I have a very close relationship with or our counsellor? I can't take back what I have done but now I am cork sure I ain't responsible for the pregnancy.

You better not tell her yet o..go ahead with your wedding if you both love each other and you are sure she loves you. Secondly keep your wedding plans secret from the pregnant girl because she and her desperate mother can decide to come ruin your wedding,also keep her away from your fiance by all means,and NEVER ACCEPT THAT SHAM PREGNANCY..make she go meet who pregnant am,you self no sure of your self because anyone who is absolutely sure he didn't cum will definitely not entertain such allegations.

My advice for you is simple n straight, before you inform your fiancee.
Go to a reliable ultrasound office for scan n get the accurate weeks, then from their you know what to do

JudgeNotHi:

I do not blame the devil, I did this, I slept with her not the devil.

read your post again Oga, you blame devil, you said until devil struck. You asked for advice, I advised you to go and take care of your unborn baby.

You know you are not responsible for this pregnancy, the lady knows too.

My advice:
BE FIRM

Nobody can force you to marry a lady you don't want to. Inform the lady and her family that you are willing to take care of the pregnancy till birth until you do a DNA test. If the baby turns out to be yours, you will continue to take responsibility but you cannot marry the lady.
This will put any ideas the lady have of hooking you on hold.

To your fiancee, you have to tell her everything. Tell her you have no intentions of marrying this girl in question even if the baby turns out to be yours. It's her choice whether to continue with you or not. It's a hard decision but it has to be done.

Then, you have to prepare yourself for the battle ahead; mentally, physically and emotionally. You'd have to withstand all sorts of intimidation and emotional blackmail for the next couple of months. Believe me, this will still pass one way or the other.

This OP had intentions abeg...you can't tell me she's your bestie and she doesn't know your wedding is around the corner.
Baba...you get plans chop clean mouth jare!

And that is how you will lose the love of your life.

Your intentions where pure and geniune, but u carry condom go, and no be one, but packet. You intentions was purely to nack

JudgeNotHi:


Lesson learnt the hardest of ways & I really pray for God's guidance in overcoming this trail.
I have been so reluctant towards moving on with wedding preparations & my fiancee on few occasions did ask what was wrong, I simply blamed it on the whole preparation thingy and the day fast approaching.

I do appreciate the advice. Thank you

You can still continue with your wedding preparations, but sort this out first.

This one na dead on arrival oo.... SAD

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

It was planned and I don't know why they are insisting on seeing your mum when you are both adults.


You were not dating her on the low so why the my daughter cannot have a child out of wedlock?


Beg your wife to be. Don't give in to bullying and blackmail to marry her out of coercion.


Is the said lady a learner that she doesn't know how to take care of herself?

Connoisseur:
You know you are not responsible for this pregnancy, the lady knows too.

My advice:
BE FIRM

Nobody can force you to marry a lady you don't want to. Inform the lady and her family that you are willing to take care of the pregnancy till birth until you do a DNA test. If the baby turns out to be yours, you will continue to take responsibility but you cannot marry the lady.
This will put any ideas the lady have of hooking you on hold.

To your fiancee, you have to tell her everything. Tell her you have no intentions of marrying this girl in question even if the baby turns out to be yours. It's her choice whether to continue with you or not. It's a hard decision but it has to be done.

Then, you have to prepare yourself for the battle ahead; mentally, physically and emotionally. You'd have to withstand all sorts of intimidation and emotional blackmail for the next couple of months. Believe me, this will still pass one way or the other.

Amen... Thanks.

You are wicked

Ishilove:

Congratulations bro

naijainstinct:
How does this help him?

So he can go jump in a Lagoon or turn to a eunuch.

DNA test is atleast 300,000.

No sex is worth N300,000, and the fact that you will probably lose the love of your life.

Take her to another hospital for the test.

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

Hope the girl in question is up to 18 years?.This once happened to me. Its a pure set up and her mother might be in on this.

SOLUTION: Go make a formal complaint to a loyal and drag the girl and the mother to a police station. Let you lawyer admit that since you slept with her(with protection), you will take care of the pregnancy and when she gives birth you will run a DNA test, if its yours, you will accept the baby, but if its not, you will sue her for damages in the amount of #30 million. If she is sure the pregnancy is yours, let her sign and her parents should also sign as witnesses.

You will be surprise how they will tell you forget about the whole issue. In my own case, they said they leave me for God.

It was later I found out that the girl and her mother have already trued pinning the pregnancy on two people before me .

Alaye, look the intimacy was btw two consensual adults, she was not raped, u both had an affair and she got pregnant in d process, u can decide not to be with her and the pregnancy, the mother calling u and forcing u to claim responsibility doesn't know the laws of the court on this, no man u I repeat no man is forced to claim responsibility for the birth that comes out from a consensual affair, the woman has the sole right to abort or keep the baby, the man is not obligated to take d child unless he willingly wants to cater 4 d baby's welfare, Abortion in Nigeria is still legal, the mother can't do anything and she won't force u to marry her daughter, even the police and the court can't force u to marry her, wat the court would do is to force u to pay monthly for the childs welfare, that's all and made to the highest co parenting, is left for u to decide if u re going to leave d woman of ur dreams and go for ur friend, but I want to advise u, is better u marry d girl u impregnated cos u both seem to love each other and know each other well than ur fiancée, go for d one u impregnated but tbh, we av seen this game of cuckolding where females give birth and dash d baby to a willing simp to take care of why d original criminal is out cruising, I would advice u wait for 9months, take a DNA test outside d country oo, never disclose the hospital to anybody after 1yr and if it comes out positive then go ahead with marriage

I will not advice you to reject the pregnancy because babies have a way of getting back at the parent who abandoned them, I've seen many cases of life ruined and at the end of the day it was discovered that it was because the the guy rejected a pregnancy and the baby's "head" is fighting against him, make sure you carry out a DNA test to confirm. If you are very sure your fiancee is the right person for you spiritually then go ahead with the wedding before telling her the truth because you might lose her forever if you tell her now especially since you have not confirmed if the pregnancy is yours but be careful that girl does not show up to stop the wedding.
If you confirmed the pregnancy is yours but you are also sure your fiancee is your God approved wife, then tell that girls mother you can only accept the baby but you can't marry the girl. After your wedding get elders to help you settle things between you and your wife, tell your wife you didn't tell her before the wedding because you love her and don't want to lose her.

RedpillAnalyst:
1) You can shift the marriage forward a bit. Your marriage is starting on a rough path if your wife is aware of it. Most likely won't go well, so be cautious.

2) There is pre-birth DNA Test, but expensive and has to be at a later trimester in the pregnancy.


3) You must be a good man. Women know guys who are good step daddies or good father who won't smell paternity fraud.


4) Fornication never results in anything positive.


Bonus: Where is her dad? Is her mum still married to her father? If she is a single mum. They are both scammers.

She has a step dad. This is her mom's 3rd marriage not that it means anything or relates to what's at hand.

We are both adults, she's 27yrs and I am 33yrs.