sorry am bringing this post to this forum cause I really need advice no insults please. Am currently in a long distance relationship with this girl who hails from edo state and we have dated for like a year and some months now and I really do love this girl and have made it know to her parents while am still trying to fix myself that I want to settle down with her. But about a months ago we both had a conversation and she told me she will be travelling to Italy to further her education, at some point I was in shock cause of the things have heard about edo girls who travel to Italy. I asked her who was going to sponsor her trip to Italy and she told me she has been saving money for it even before we met and this got me even more confused than I was and when I asked her who she was going to stay with when she gets to Italy, she told me she has a cousin who works in Italy as a midwife that she was gonna stay with her for just a month before getting her own apartment. The truth is am really confused cause I feel like there's more to this trip that she's not telling me about and lastly when I asked her when she will be returning she told me she doesn't know and that I shouldn't pause my life for her.. am really confused cause this is a girl have made up my mind to be with for life but all of a sudden it feels like everything is falling apart and I just don't know what to do..

Insecurity go make you lose better woman. See as you dey think. Cmon remove your head from toto so you fit think straight. Woman wey fit save money for travel no need prostitution. Na so una dey allow devil enter una mind ruin una relationships. After you go cum dey use ten decades dey find new girl cum dey cry say woman no dey, dem no dey loyal. Dude fix your thinking.

She said “you shouldn’t pause your life for her” which means you should move on with your life!

Just forget about her, you will find another good woman

Ogechi98:
sorry am bringing this post to this forum cause I really need advice no insults please. Am currently in a long distance relationship with this girl who hails from edo state and we have dated for like a year and some months now and I really do love this girl and have made it know to her parents while am still trying to fix myself that I want to settle down with her. But about a months ago we both had a conversation and she told me she will be travelling to Italy to further her education, at some point I was in shock cause of the things have heard about edo girls who travel to Italy. I asked her who was going to sponsor her trip to Italy and she told me she has been saving money for it even before we met and this got me even more confused than I was and when I asked her who she was going to stay with when she gets to Italy, she told me she has a cousin who works in Italy as a midwife that she was gonna stay with her for just a month before getting her own apartment. The truth is am really confused cause I feel like there's more to this trip that she's not telling me about and lastly when I asked her when she will be returning she told me she doesn't know and that I shouldn't pause my life for her.. am really confused cause this is a girl have made up my mind to be with for life but all of a sudden it feels like everything is falling apart and I just don't know what to do..

She is trying to cushion the blow. She is going to Italy to hustle, the hustling is prostitution. The parents are the ones sponsoring her. That was the shock of my I got when I first came to Benin. That is what they do there.

Baba that babe is prepared to move on with a white dude oo. I will suggest you move on

Ogechi98:
sorry am bringing this post to this forum cause I really need advice no insults please. Am currently in a long distance relationship with this girl who hails from edo state and we have dated for like a year and some months now and I really do love this girl and have made it know to her parents while am still trying to fix myself that I want to settle down with her. But about a months ago we both had a conversation and she told me she will be travelling to Italy to further her education, at some point I was in shock cause of the things have heard about edo girls who travel to Italy. I asked her who was going to sponsor her trip to Italy and she told me she has been saving money for it even before we met and this got me even more confused than I was and when I asked her who she was going to stay with when she gets to Italy, she told me she has a cousin who works in Italy as a midwife that she was gonna stay with her for just a month before getting her own apartment. The truth is am really confused cause I feel like there's more to this trip that she's not telling me about and lastly when I asked her when she will be returning she told me she doesn't know and that I shouldn't pause my life for her.. am really confused cause this is a girl have made up my mind to be with for life but all of a sudden it feels like everything is falling apart and I just don't know what to do..

some many RED FLAGS in your story:
1) ask her to open her phone and show you the convo she has with her cousin
2) ask her to show you how much she has to travel abroad
3) ask her to show you what exact further education (Uni/school) she is gonna go to
4) ask her to explain to you how she is going to study and get her own apt in Italy (or she thinks its that easy abi?)
5) sometimes in life, if you guys dont have the same aim, then you should part ways, rather than waste time/energy with the wrong person.
6) if that person had such a well laid plan to go study abroad, you would have known sooner....sounds more like a last minute yeye opportunity to go abroad for yeye slave type employment and/or some fancy dude enticed your woman.

I wish it was that easy

Thanks anyway

GardenGreen:
Insecurity go make you lose better woman. See as you dey think. Cmon remove your head from toto so you fit think straight. Woman wey fit save money for travel no need prostitution. Na so una dey allow devil enter una mind ruin una relationships. After you go cum dey use ten decades dey find new girl cum dey cry say woman no dey, dem no dey loyal. Dude fix your thinking.

Easily said than done

Tejumola856:
Forget about her

She's found a better way to put her puxxy to use and get paid in hard currency. She no see UK or Wales go school nah Italy. Oga move on. She has moved on already.

Na my last relationship be that, I just wan focus on my life

God1000:
Just forget about her, you will find another good woman

Holly Gram If u know, u know..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

She wan go learn how to trade Clitocurrency professionally.

I lived and school in Benin, bro that is the common way of life with the people over there. She is gone already. Please you need to move on. She has someone over there already. I have lots of Benin friends whose sisters left naija for Italy, the ones who eventually got married got married to whites over there.

Olosho is leaving your life, she's going to expand her olosho business in Italy you dey here dey mumu. Oga forget that olosho and move on. Stop being a pussy ass niggar!!

Ogechi98:
Easily said than done

Which one is easier said than done? You simps and pussy ass niggars will never learn.

Olosho is leaving your life traveling to Italy to expand her olosho business, instead of rejoicing you dey mumu. Or do you need a prophet to tell you that she's going there for prostitution?

Oga forget that olosho and move on, girls full everywhere! Stop being a weakling and a pussy ass niggar! Stop simping!

Had she shown you evidence of the admission onto a uni in italy? Have you confirm from her parents that she is really going to be with a cousin?? Bro infact all this nah long talk.. Just know two things one she is going to use kpekus to hustle if you can bear the hurt and still love her maybe you can use her as a stepping stone in your life. But if not then travel and go and knack her good bye knacking and move on.