Send her away

Offpointng:


A big red flag and I advice you do something very fast bout it. but what bout ur mum?

Our mum is late

Na u neva ready get sense, body go tell u later

Blackdeewhy:
1. Get a GOOD catholic boarding and enroll that girl in.
2. Come CLEAN to your sister about your finances.
3. Get a SINGLE lady you trust in your family to look after your child
4. Leave her with your aunt and STOP sending shi shi to her or your aunt.
Pick ONE

Op follow this advice, but not necessarily Catholic sch...

Pick a good school, pay directly to the sch account and they should give your children their pocket money. Open up to ur daughters so that they wont believe u hate them


Your sis wants to actually waste you

You have to talk thing's out with her. Like let it all out & allow her to let her own out. Many a times, all it takes is the two parties letting it all out. And trash it out in a civil manner, besides you're blood.

Badkago:
Tinubu single-handedly jeopardized the formation of amotekun in Lagos & reduced their influence in Osun bcs he didn’t want to offend the Fulani’s at our detriment. This is a man ready to sacrifice the entire Yoruba land for his ambition. Tinubu ti lule

When Fulani herdsmen killed Pa Fasoranti’s daughter in Ondo. Tinubu went there to defend the killers by asking “where are the cows”. Tinubu represents the worst of us as Yoruba’s.

Tinubu has never supported any Yoruba cause unless he stands to gain from it.

He is a Scam. He is only there to satisfy his unquenchable greed. He frustrated our security architecture (amotekun) in the SW bcs he wanted to be “presdent”. We will treat him like the omo ale he is come 2023.

We won't vote for Tinubu but don't post irrelevant messages in another program, get sense

what of their dad? single parenting have a big disadvantage and people will say otherwise


where is your mom?



is your married sister the only siblings you've?



don't ever keep your kids with your friends, the only worse thing your sister can do is not to feed them well but your friend might abuse them verbally, sexually and psychologically



and do you've direct communication with the management where your kids are schooling, if you don't, you goofed. you have make your jobless sister to taste your hard earned money and you don't want him to want more?

neoG:
I know such places.

Thank you.
I never know such places exist.
If she is interested,she should make enquiry so she can have peace of mind.

Dude, ask a reliable female friend or a married male friend who's got kids, to help take care of your daughter

Your child is a meal ticket for your sister.

Your sister is simply exploiting the situation.

You have no business paying for her kids school fees

I suspect your daughter is being exploited cinderella style. Maybe even some sexual abuse

You need to work out some alternative arrangement.

And you need to find a way to be in your child's life.

Chidiesta:


Our mum is late

Hugs. I know how you feel.
It will be OK.

Don't make any rash decision cos emotions are high.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

OP, blood isn’t special. If blood would be pleased enough to cause you pain and trouble, walk away and you’d be better for it!

Considering the going ons in our country these days, no matter how much you trust your friend, I wouldn't recommend handing your girl child to him, even if he's married. I mean, girl children aren't safe in their own homes living with mom and pop. Come to think of it, how safe and loved and properly cared for is your daughter in your sister's hands who clearly see you (in extension, her) as a cash cow? It's not just about the guardians, it can also be the environment. That's why my first question is, where is the girl's mother? A situation like this have a tendency to end in emotional or even physical injuries for the kids. Where is the child's mom?

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

where is your parents

I can't comprehend how siblings who grew up together begin to treat their nephew/niece like shit. God forbid if you no dey that your sister will never spend a dime on your kid. I can bet her family takes the lion share of whatever you send.... And there's the irresponsible husband who allows his sister train his kids.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

Blood that refuse to be considerate should be cut off. This is the problem we face in Africa. Sentimentality.

Someone has turned herself to a leech but because she is blood she should not be cut off.

Acidosis:


So what's good about OP's relationship with her sister?

@OP, it is a difficult situation. Your relationship will never be the same again with your sister if you go ahead to involve your friend. You also have to consider your friend's stability. Is she married? Is she opened to relocation? What happens if and when she decides to relocate? You'll take your kids back to your sister?

My advice is to hasten your kids' travel arrangement. What exactly is the issue? You have been sending home some money...so what's the issue?

My friend is a single mother of one, she is a tailor and living in the same town with my sister but a bit far away. I can't bring my daughter to germany now because I don't have papers and I am not eligible for work I am not financially buoyant.

Sniper101:
Dude, ask a reliable female friend or a married male friend who's got kids, to help take care of your daughter

They might turn her to a maid.

I think the best option for you now is to take your daughter to a good boarding school, then she can only go to your friend's house during holidays, Nobody can treat and take care of a child like the parents.

gaby:
Some family members are more dangerous than complete strangers that you'd begin to wonder and doubt your blood relationship with them.

Your sister has found a colony and a goldmine in you through your daughter. A very big office she has set up.

If she can use your money to sort her own kids school fees before yours, you can only begin to imagine how she gets treated with food in comparison to her own kids.

Why some women are this evil and demonic to other people's kids beats my imagination.

Find a way to ease your kid out from her care as fast as possible but be prepared for a battle between her and your friend over the loss of her evil enterprise exactly the same way the people holding Nigeria down will fight anyone trying to free it from their stranglehold.

I wish you the wisdom to tackle this without much fighting.

I'd advise you to arrange with your friend through your daughter's school management to pick her up and change her school before them poison or kill your innocent daughter.

thank you for this comment

Chidiesta:


She is a female and I am also a female, she is my childhood friend my sister knows her well and I trust her too and I strongly believe that she will take care of her better than my own sister.

, once you're very sure of the above passage, your sister want to turn you to ATM better now she shown it now than later, that you want to build your own house in Nigeria, that you will send money in which she will use it for herself and blocking to Germany with juju, that why some people use to behave. Better you take your child out of her house.she going to regret it later, because she will miss so many other benefits.

I'm a master in handling such situations.
Create artificial scarcity and watch her response. Then her response will help u take a favourable decision.

Op even if you give your child to your mum,I will advise you get "an eye service". Someone who can act as your eye. I am a teacher. I will tell you this truth,the way some people treat other people's children is inhumane.

My dear, come back home, pick your daughter and go back. Nobody will take care of your own blood more than you will ever do.

With all the news of molestation and rape children go through in Nigeria. Abeg no carry ya pikin go give friend o. Is your sister taking good care of your child as yours If yes follow her talk and explain the situation

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Blood is thicker than water ohhhhh. As long as your daughter is not being abused. Dont go and drop her where they will abuse her because you want to save money. If a girl child is abused, the damaged is almost forever. This should make you hustle quick to get your papers so that you can move her.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

You no get parents? Meanwhile handing over your daughter to a stranger is not wise, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.
Blood is thicker than zobo.
Keep managing your sister, just do the ones you can do and ignore the rest as long as your daughter is not complaining of any maltreatment.

07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

your advice is not good you mean if her blood want to kill her she should not cut the relationship?
Weldone