07kjb:
Talk to her that it is not all rosy as she thinks

Never cut a good relationship with your blood

Cutehector:
My dear, come back home, pick your daughter and go back. Nobody will take care of your own blood more than you will ever do.

Heathrow44:



if ur own sister is behaving like this, do u think someone dat u claim t be ur "friend is better? someone that is not related to u, omo let me tell u, the best attitude u can ever get is from ur own family, Both u and ur sis, need to trash this out, the economy is hard and is also hard for u, besides where's the husband of ur sis in all this, abi is she a single mother, if she is then both of u should reach a compromise, No body would ever take care of ur child like ur own sister, even if she maltreats them, is nothing compared to wat ur so called friend would do, if u think ur own sis is a cash cow go ahead and give ur child to ur friend, abi u want the husband of ur fiend 2 rape d child continously, if it happens do u think ur friend would av d conscience to tell u, when ur friend and ur daughter is walking in d Road, she might easily forget ur daughter in d bus and go down cos she no get value 4 ur girl, she only realizes when she gets t work that she left ur girl in d bus, u would hear eweeeo! Leave ur daughter with ur sis and let both of u talk and reach a compromise, she should be willing to take her own children to lesser schools, ration food, cut down on luxuries, basic necessity are Food, clothing, Home and water, education for a child another is luxury

Saidu22:
Some relatives sha, just using opportunity, is her husband dead ni? If not because u did not forsen this coming. U should have rented apartment for them keep them with nanny who will be taking care of them . Is better than this one that your own sister want to run u down.

Chidiesta:


She is a female and I am also a female, she is my childhood friend my sister knows her well and I trust her too and I strongly believe that she will take care of her better than my own sister.

shege45:
like e easy

shege45:
some friends are even better than ur family member

Fantazy:
Bro, take your daughter away from your sister! There's a 95% probability that she is not taking care of your daughter.
I have such as an aunt! My mum died in 2016 I had to bring my sister to live with our aunt till I get my own place cos I was sqauting with my friend (after relating) it with her and she accepted
She maltreated the hell out of my sister (her niece) for that matter. I had to take her to live with me in my friend's place, thanks to a tolerating and understanding friend I have.
Most family members are not reliable in this present generation. Its so unfortunate!

dplordx:


I was in a similar relationship with my two sisters until May this year. After realizing that the two were building their houses in Ikorodu, using money they are constantly demanding from me; I realized I was dealing with two horrible people; they are not even considerate given my fragile health condition and my own pregnant wife.
One even scammed me after lying about health conditions to and another used a rubbish story about her husband been in police trouble which I almost fell for. My own blood sisters; same mother and father oh! Even my younger brother who is only 20 years old and in school is now acting like them and recently asked me for 200k which he needs to fix his result. I had to a mad man and cut off every single financial commitment to them. And I’m never ever going to give cash to them ever again only whenever I feel like and it will be rarely.
Don’t mind people telling you to talk to your sister, I realized that most of those who advised me to be patient were also parasites and totally useless people sucking their respective families dry and who see nothing wrong in younger ones living on their elders.
So far you keep giving her, she will continue milking you and when you eventually run down, she will laugh at for been a loser. Get your child to a decent boarding school, and have someone you trust other than her to take care of the child. Cut off the relationship for a year, let her see how important the small you are doing really is. I’ve been where you are and since I cut off that useless relationship I’ve been doing better things and developing my own projects too. Shey na me to build houses for two sisters married to lazy and useless men. Too many ungrateful souls in this world.

Blackdeewhy:
1. Get a GOOD catholic boarding and enroll that girl in.
2. Come CLEAN to your sister about your finances.
3. Get a SINGLE lady you trust in your family to look after your child
4. Leave her with your aunt and STOP sending shi shi to her or your aunt.
Pick ONE

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:


Me too I have a feeling she is not taking good care of her because most of the time she doesn't want me to speak with her on video call

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:


She is aware that I don't have papers and i am not financial buoyant, I don't have anyone in the family who I can trust with my daughter my friend is the only person I have in mind

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

benebaby77:


Please, don't waste your to remove your daughter from her care. The fact that she doesn't want to talk to your own daughter is the sign that your daughter is being maltreated.

Please, don't waste time at all.

realtalk19:



Chai! Devil in human form. If I have such a child in custody,I will take care of the child same as my other kids knowing so well my sis cares for us all. She just ruined her sister's trust.

NA1RALANDER:


What about your daughter's father ??
I guess you maligned him and refused him access..??
Well.. do you..

Chidiesta:


Great idea thanks for the suggestion

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

Chidiesta:

And u think she will talk much if ur friend is also maltreating her, I will also go with d advice of people saying u shud take her to a boarding school, DNT stop sending what u can afford to ur sister..
Pls, try and work on ur papers soonest so u can come pick ur daughter to be with u...She needs dat motherly care....May u not labour in vain
I spoke with her on the 19th of August she was okey even tough she didn't talk much, sometime I feel like she has a lot to say but she is scared of my sister. I know when she will be with my friend she will tell me everything she passed through with my sister.

Newborn27:
Op...if your blood Sis can be doing that to your daughter... what expectations have you from your friend.... kindly follow the advice of the poster above ...... enroll her in a standard catholic boarding school....even during holidays... she'd be covered with much care and godly training.


There are some pupils in my school whom are in your shoes....it aches my heart seeing the way those kids are treated...they dare not tell anyone including you the diaspora parents...but as a Teacher...we get to know each of them and sometimes comfort them.

I'd recommend Louis ville girls high school...they have both primary and secondary.
You won't regret enrolling your child in a Catholic school and she'd be treated equally like other pupils...unlike your sister's house where she'd be harshly treated while she suffers in silence.


In all that you decide to do...do not fight with your sister....give her positive reasons why you think she should in the boarding.....no one knows tomorrow.

Cheers

Chidiesta:
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Offpointng:
I've even got a feeling she's maltreating ur daughter at the moment. I doubt she has been treating her well